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  1. Bisexuality will tend to be confusing when we assume it means equal attraction towards each gender. The reality is otherwise, in two ways. (1) bisexuals often prefer one gender over the other; (2) lust and love toward a given gender are often are unequal. Meaning, one of the genders you may lust after, but only lust after, never have crushes on. Somebody coined the terms “heteroromantic” and “homoromantic” to refer to which gender you fall in love with. I guess there must be a partner term: biromantic? I notice that when heteroromantic people describe homosexual desires, the desires are often narrow. Such as: wanting only to be the top, or only the bottom.

  2. Came out about 5 years ago or so ago, she knows that I’m Bi, that I play with toys, play with cum and used to self fellatio etc and that I’ve fantasies about men etc. we are pretty open with that stuff Never been with another man tho

  3. Its time to go. Hes not a bf, hes a fuck buddy. He is essentially ok with or without you. And to save it for his wife?! Who says that to their gf? Find you a better fitted partner

  4. Who got those results? The condom company? Just reading through the posts here, there is a pretty measurable difference or this wouldn't even be an issue.

  5. I think it's really weird that you assume somebody who does porn or stripping has to drop their standards This post is gross and if you're feeling upset that nobody picks you, you need to look internally as to why.

  6. Focus on the omission, not the job. She clearly knew it would be an issue, or at minimum warranted a conversation— and she chose not to face the conversation. Has she done sex work before? Or does she think it will be easy money? Sounds like she will have weird hours because she’s chatting with soldiers overseas, so it would likely impact your life and relationship pretty significantly.

  7. As always, reddit has jumped onto the assumption bandwagon like a bunch of pricks. You shouldn't be humiliating him just cause he has a few odd ideas. If you don't like it, then just move on.

  8. We do normally have sex every couple weeks. Back when we were still dating, he always initiates and we had sex everyday and i was fine with it. But as time go by, he let me know that he would like me to initiate too and thats when it starts to go down hill. I've made a post a while back in deadbedrooms and people told me i need to get over my insecurities and fear. My husband told me the same thing. He told me he needs to feel wanted too because if he does it all the time, it feels like im only doing it because its wjat je wants and not what i want. That isnt the case, its just who i am. I just feel like its not fair to him. He communicates clearly what he likes and want from me and i cant deliver it. It's definitely incompatability. Your first paragraph hits me hard. I am vanilla, and he has learned to accept it. But he's still who he is, whatever i cant give him. He turns to porn. I mean its his needs and i cant fullfill it, what am i supposed to do? I cant really blame him.

  9. You may want to slow down several notches when it comes to your reading because it seems like you're having some comprehension issues.

  10. Thanks, I understand that fantasies are by no means a reflection on me. I guess it just concerns me that she might one day actually bring up a MFM situation and I’d hate to shoot it down impulsively without a dialog.

  11. What is she’s a few days from turning 20 and he turned 25 just a few days ago; would that be permissible?

  12. This is a good point and makes me wonder what OP does while this goes on. Does she just lay there quietly? Does she praise him and stroke his ego a little bit? Give him feedback on what he’s doing (and how constructive that comes across?)… I feel like if she was to engage in some kind of feedback/dirty talk combo that he enjoyed it might hype him up a bit and make it less of a chore.

  13. Yes it would be— it will hit your g spot (the spot on the front of your vaginal wall) and you may get some clit stimulation too!

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  15. Your bf's masturvation habits are not your business, nor are they your problem or in any way a reflection on you.

  16. I think if my wife wanted me and another dude to do her, I would. Not a fantasy of mine but if she really wanted it, I would make it happen for her.

  17. Not your fault, nothing to apologize for, he's just being a stupid big baby and needs to get over himself. If he has things you could do that will upset him then he has to try and explain that in a grown up sensible way before it happens. Tell him you care about him but tell him you're a partner and deserve his respect, hopefully he'll realize what a cock he's been and get over his insecurities and just talk to you

  18. He’s not obligated at all, but your description isn’t considering the fact that she’s clearly been in distress about her relationship for a long time and he’s communicated he thinks it’s unrealistic for him to attempt change for their shared relationship benefit.

  19. No, you will crave sex most of your life. It’s healthy. There’s nothing bad about that or masturbating- regardless if you look at porn, read erotica, or just imagining fantasies. Don’t watch it hours and hours every day, but 15 year olds have been wanking like crazy for millions of years.

  20. Lots of people don't get married. My parents have been happily unmarried for 30 years. Not that OP is happy, but marriage has nothing to do with it.

  21. You don't think men see tits as only sexual for the majority of their lives. When they have kids, they can become instantly non-sexual. So much so that women will whip them out in public to feed their children. If you do that without a child in your arms you would go to jail.

  22. Sex on every continent. I’m kind of behind. So far, I’ve only done North America, Asia, Europe. Most other things I’d like to do, I’ve done.

  23. Are you getting anything from this relationship? It sounds like you're dating a man-child. He's just using you for his own pleasure. You set boundaries, stick to them and stop wasting time with this person.

  24. Read the book Intimacy and Desire by David Schnarch. He covers mismatched sex drive in long term relationships. This isn’t going to get better without you dealing with it. Imagine what it’s going to be like once children are in the mix! Do you really want it to be like this for the next 50 years? Fix it or get out. Open relationship, compromise, changing your dynamic, something. It must be different.

  25. A medical doctor will not prescribe birth control after unprotected sex without a pregnancy test. I am very sorry this happened to you. I hope you can find counseling – your mom’s reaction surely did not feel like it was supportive of you.

  26. Huh, so you're close to asexual but it's the reactions of your partner that you respond to. That's an interesting perspective. We've tried a bit of what I think would count as BDSM, but not regularly. She has preferences but easily gets into whatever we're doing as long as I'm into it. I get the feeling I could ask for more or less anything that I want to try, but I'm careful with introducing new things. I know she has a thing for me losing control. Because of what she's doing to me like with the blowjob and also when I get very dominant.

  27. Me too. It really hurts to know this happened to someone. He must be a wreck. Like a nightmare sequence after 4 years.

  28. Yups went out of my way to communicate that I'd be uncomfortable with him cheating just as I would myself so if he wanted to sleep with other people while I recovered I'd need to leave the relationship. He understood that I gave him a couple outs and opportunities to get out

  29. You could suggest having a FFM threesome with him, but I don’t know if that would help much. Might just give it time, both of y’all just forgot about it, move on with the relationship. It’ll take time, but hopefully the wound will heal.

  30. For me it’s the building up and anticipation that makes a better orgasm. You doing necessarily have to go full kink but just sprinkle a bit here and there

  31. I'm sorry but we are both a part of the community. My boyfriend is a a trans pansexual male and I am also pansexual. I just wanted to get some opinions on how to cater to him better. I'm sorry to have offended you or anyone else in the community. If you'd like me to delete my post I most definitely can.

  32. Tell him to stop holding his breath. Get a lice comb and give your pubes a combing. It's small enough to dislodge any loose hairs. Trim as much as you're comfortable doing. That's about as much as is doable without waxing or shaving. Talk to him gently, but directly. “Do you have issues with pussy? It seems like maybe you're a bit afraid of it or simply don't like it. And I'd like to talk about that with you.” I suspect there's more going on with him, like it squicks him out or he's afraid of failing or he he's clueless what to do….

  33. Then where you live must have a really high abortion rate and needs better sex education if your Fwb doesn't understand that he could get your pregnant .From your description you dont have a partner , you have a casual sexual relationship, and you don't have the right to expect them to emotionally support you through anything. It's just sex , nothing more . Nor , as you are not monogamous , do you have any protection from STDs . Get to a proper sexual health specialist and discuss options to protect yourself.

  34. Buy a suction cup dildo, stick it to a chair/wall and fuck it in front of him. Tell him that is as close to this fantasy as you are willing to go.

  35. This is the way ?? OP ? Take control of the situation and handle it exactly like mentioned above, verbatim.

  36. I can perform PIV, but unreliably and certainly not spontaneously. Sometimes I can get hard enough for an initial penetration, but often go flaccid midway. Cock-rings help. I'm happy to use toys on her in general, but I've been wary of strap-ons — that feels a bit too emasculating for me at the moment. And yeah, this the first partner I've had who doesn't love receiving oral, which is why I'm a bit confused and surprised.

  37. My lady just sits on my face but leans forward (when facing my legs) cause she is afraid to hurt me, but i always want her closer. So from my point of view she sees a problem where there isn't one

  38. Okay, I'm going to offer a bit of a different perspective, since you are so determined to stay with him. Make a new rule: You cum first. Tell him he's not allowed to penerate you until he makes you cum–with his mouth, toys, or whatever standard you want to set. Also, if he makes you cum first, it will make you wetter, which might help the sex not to hurt. If you're not into having sex and you're dreading it, you're not going to be as wet, and your muscles are also going to tighten up, making sex hurt more. So you need to inform him that you're now going to tell him “no” until he makes you cum first. You're not denying him sex. You're leaving whether or not you two have sex up to him.

  39. Have you thought about bringing it up in person next time? You can likely take far more pleasing looking ones than he can himself. But also keep in mind he may be shy and not want things getting out. Like no faces or identifiable backgrounds.

  40. Bro you're gonna meet many girls in life and have sex and not take their virginity or even think about it. I have a friend with benefits now and i could care less what she has done, we both exchanged STD tests and we're safe all that matters. Have fun!

  41. Have her look into r/pompoir aka vagina acrobats. Could help her feel more vaginally, and a plus it'll feel damn good for you.

  42. Thanks for all the advices, were very helpfull. If you are horny you cannot think very well. ( 4 months without sex, we are gonna add another month)

  43. What is appealing to you about porn? I did it for a while a good few years ago – cam stuff – but had to stop because the attention / demands from people was just too much for me to handle psychologically. Decent money but not worth it imo.

  44. How do you tell if someone is a “hoe” or has been anyway? It's not like they're gonna tell you, right

  45. I have done that too when I am too tried as much as I want to I don’t want to be rude and fall asleep while having sex. We do very small foreplay because just having him touch me gets me in the mood. I just feel like the couple of times we have done it his mind is somewhere else. I might just be over thinking it…

  46. Ah ok. Well in general avoid painful things without a discussion You could try whispering in his ear that you need his dick RIGHT NOW or walking in with nothing but heeled boots and thigh highs. Or climbing under his desk and servicing him while he’s on the computer…. Hopefully these are pretty tame

  47. 4-5 inches is fine… She needs to teach you what she likes. A lot of women don't cum from penetration regardless of size

  48. Talk to him about your insecurities. I did with mine and our sex life and foreplay is much better because of that.

  49. Cross-dressing is a much bigger deal to men than to women. To other men, it’s some weird disturbing thing. Women, they wear dresses all the time; if you want to too, OK. (Some women will worry that you might actually be gay, which obviously would be a huge problem for the relationship, but I think the majority would be compassionate and accepting.)

  50. How can you not blame him? He didn’t hear her out or even try to understand why she had scars to begin with. Didn’t even try to ask if she was in the same mental space as when she gave herself those scars. You’ve been dating someone for over a year and live with them and can’t even have an adult conversation? That’s his issue

  51. Wtf to the other comment…. I would suggest maybe communicate that you have some sexual identity stuff to figure out and that you need a break from sex for a bit. Take some pressure off yourself to perform. Just try and enjoy other parts of the relationship and try and process how you are feeling. If he actually cares about you, he should totally understand as long as you are clear that it's something personal and not against him.

  52. Intending to go back to the same piercer who did them 7 years ago (she's still around haha) so I think I will be fine! 🙂

  53. Ohhh, flaying. I don't think OP said anything about flaying? She mentioned cutting and burning, which are both fairly common play forms in the BDSM community, especially cutting. Sounds like she primarily gets off on pain and humiliation, which is not unusual in kink.

  54. There's nothing wrong with this being a deal breaker. The pornstar bounce is my favorite, so if a guy ever told me I couldn't do it, I'd totally refuse to sleep with him and would find someone else. I've had guys specifically tell me to ride as hard as I can…

  55. 3 days is optimal, after that time your body starts to absorb the seminal fluid back into the body, and you can start having wet dreams

  56. Honestly I can edge for hours and the orgasm is extremely intense and I definitely blow way more and for almost a minute. Love edging.

  57. Personally, I don't think it's an issue, just a thought. Thoughts don't mean you want it in reality. Just fun to think about sometimes

  58. Depends on pants stretch ones and hardness of the erection. But as others pointed out, you are not obligated to make it go down if you don’t want to touch his penis

  59. I have to special order condoms from MyOne because of my girth (over 6.5”).. My length is 6.3”.. anything over the counter won’t fit

  60. I am in a WlW relationship, but can enjoy some time with guys occasionally. I don't use the bi label because I couldn't ever be with a guy, but it can be fun. Don't know if you are the mirror opposite but just wanted to pitch in

  61. I think that it is indeed a common phenomenon, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. I would suggest getting into a serious relationship with soneone you can be emotionally attached, in this case it would be best to keep it serious with obly men as you could break some hearts otherwise. These things can also change over time, the best you can do when unsure is explore, you'll have a clearer view on what you like, want and need. Ultimately the sex of your life partner doesnt really matter unless you want biological kids together. Tl;dr it's normal, nothing wrong with it, go with your heart

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  63. If your new partner eventually opens up more and finds a desire to experiment with you and other men, please do your research. Communicate with your bf to a nauseating degree about every possible thing both about the lifestyle and everything other than the lifestyle. Don't start with your ex either. Keep that in fantasy land until the kink has been better explored and you two are more experienced in dealing with the ups and downs of the lifestyle. Visit the subreddits for hotwifing and cuckold discussion. Stay away from the overtly porny sub reddits as it may unnecessarily scare you off. Those subs represent the furthest reaches of the kink and don't represent normal hotwifing or cuckolding all that well.

  64. I'm screaming how do I fucking take embeds off, I didn't expect it to toss the image up there like That. I'm just worrying a TON about this ??

  65. I was born with a hypospadias that i had to have repaired. My wife absolutely loves mine, in spite of its deformity. You will be fine. It's all about making a connection with the right lady

  66. Let me tell you a story about one of the times my exhusband punched me in the face. Before we were married (and yes, I know I shouldn't have married him, but we'll get to all of this later) he found out he had chlamydia and of course blamed it on me. His reasoning was that he suspected me of cheating with our roommate. He also accused me of cheating with a good friend of mine who was kind of the town ho for a summer. He accused me of cheating with an old high school friend who visited. If he had accused me of cheating with my own family at this point, I wouldn't be surprised. When I suggested that maybe he, who was traveling for work constantly and never home for longer than 2 weeks at a time may have stepped out on ME or for all I knew picked it up from a public toilet or on his job site which was full of a bunch of dirty roughnecks and included a dude that would shit in a 5 gallon bucket rather than walk out into the snow to go to the outhouse, he called me a lying slut and punched me in the face. I also did have chlamydia upon testing. I asked my friend the town ho to test with me, and our roommate just for shits and giggles. Both of them were negative, since you know I didn't cheat with them. After we were treated and I finally got over being sick, he asked me to marry him in front of my parents and then staged an intervention for me because he imagined I was an alcoholic and drug addict and lied to a bunch of my friends, basically in an effort to put the blame of chlamydia on me. 3 years later, I'm sitting in a hotel room on a family vacation with my now ex-husband and a friend of mine started texting me screen shots of my ex-husbands giant lie of a dating profile (and I found out there were more) that he had way before we got married. When confronted with this, he lied to me saying our ex roommate must have made it up, but there were new photos on it that were post us getting married. What I'm saying here is your girlfriend is probably not lying. She probably didn't know she had it and probably didn't know whomever she was with before you had it either. If you can still look at her the same, let her get treatment for it and move on.

  67. Depends what you've got in there, I've experienced 0 smell and I've experienced smell, I prefer pussy anyway

  68. I’m going to chime in here (36/f) and give an obviously unpopular point of view. I have had toys, and I have not. Yes, a vibrator makes climaxing MUCH easier and quicker. But speaking from experience, they do tend to desensitize the lady bits and make it harder to achieve climax without them. I actually threw my vibe away a few years ago and didn’t masturbate for a little while. And oh boy.. my first time hitting the DJ booth after that was earth-rattling. Just me, myself and I… no toys. I have written them off since realizing how hard they made it for me to come. And made it damn near impossible to come without one. I don’t like that sense of dependency. But I understand this is not everyone’s perspective.

  69. Whenever this question is posed on here but with genders reversed, the comment section always says men are not entitled to head and refusing to eat someone out because of it is petty. Oh the double standards

  70. /r/asexual /r/asexuality Also maybe you are not completely heterosexual? Have you heard of the kinsey scale? 0 is 100% heterosexual, 6 is 100% homosexual. Def give the ace subreddits ('asexual' shortened to 'ace') a try. Good luck, OP, hope that helps. And if you don't want sex… stop having it for now. It's ok to not want sex.

  71. so like is this something that happened after y’all got married?? cause i’m js if it was like this before u got married (while dating) i’m not sure why u would continue to see him

  72. I have the same issue ? feels great but not great enough to blow my load although I love when she sucks my balls ?

  73. Well my eyeball measurement was a bit off lol. I actually measured and I’m 1 7/8” diameter. So she’s probably going to get closer to 2.5” if I get a sleeve made ?

  74. Unless she is too young to be giving handjobs (which would change my answer), I would say she’s been taught a lot of purity/chastity stuff that’s at odds with women being sexual people. I disagree with all that, but she’s the one who needs to make the choice. She needs to figure out what her own values are in terms of sexuality— not her parents’ or her friends’, but her own. I would avoid any sexual behavior with her until she is clear about her own values. And if she breaks up with you over this, it really isn’t about you, but about herself and her own confusion about sexual choices. The best way to support her is to give her space to decide what is right for her. You seem like a nice person, and I hope this works out.

  75. But plan B primarily works by delaying ovulation… you don’t ovulate on hormonal bc unless you don’t take it correctly/on time. The only time it would make sense to take a plan B would be if you missed s few doses of bc and you’re worried about ovulating that month but it would be MUCH easier to just use condoms until you’re back on a consistent bc schedule rather than messing up your whole cycle for the month and feeling sick from taking a plan B. And having plenty on hand doesn’t really make sense… if you are skipping multiple doses of hormonal bc every year and having scares, you should probably pick a long term hormonal bc that doesn’t require daily remembering like the pill(the implant, IUD, etc.)

  76. HPV vaccine is a series. You’ll be getting 3 shots over several months. If possible, please wait until you’ve finished all the shots before having sex. There is some literature that suggests it’s more effective in people who haven’t been exposed to HPV at all, which is why it’s usually given to kids around age 11. So glad you are protecting yourself!

  77. Over time you will be more comfortable. Just relax a lot of sex is about mentally relaxing snd enjoying the moment not thinking of anything. Me and my FWB do whatever we dirty talk we are very direct so we know what each other wants and my tongue knows how to give her an orgasm lol. Just try to relax yourself he clearly finds you attractive to be banging you so relax your mind and just communicate it eventually won't be awkward i promise. Before you know it you will say “come eat my pussy like i know you can”

  78. That depends. Are you okay with him being celibate while he recovers? If so you're fine staying, but if not then yes you should leave.

  79. This is my signature move lol. Bonus: gives him something else to hold onto when coming from behind ?

  80. Its not just the words you used it’s the intent behind them. The fact that you passionately hate something that doesn’t affect or involve you is 100000% a you problem I highly recommend seeing a therapist about. By all means, hate cheating, Hate things like pedophilia, rape, etc, but when you have two or more adult humans who are giving explicit informed consent about a sexual act it doesn’t matter if you have no interest in it or dislike the idea of you participating in it, it doesn’t change the fact that there’s nothing wrong with the people who do. You have assigned morality and a label that says something is wrong with them for having the interest they do, which is bad. I don’t care if you say it or think it, it’s still wrong to do so for something that doesn’t affect you. There’s a difference between a preference or a personal dislike and assigning negatives, shame, stigma, to it for everyone who is into it.

  81. I was nervous and it was mostly all foreplay. Making out and grinding and oral. I was crazy worked up and after a few hours I had to move a certain way in rhythm to cum and she practically drowned I came so much and so hard. If we'd been fucking earlier on, particularly in doggy, I'd have cum instantly. Funny enough we started sex after and my brain was fully engaged but my body was not. I could not get fully hard no matter what they or I did. It was a great experience but I have a feeling if it were people I truly loved it've been different. I think that nervousness wouldn't have been there and I'd have been able to cum multiple times. No ex has ever pushed my limits and what a missed opportunity because I'd fuck until the sun came up. Still wanna try that someday.

  82. What we did. Met at shops, had a coffee, walked around chatting, looked for supermarket to get drinks, got lost laughed, found it. Check in room. Bags down. Looked at each other. He went for the kiss and it went from there XD

  83. My wife cheated in our 20's and at first I tried to stay, but she kept doing it. I eventually left. 48 year old me probably wouldn't let her finish the phrase 'I cheated' before I'd be moving on from the relationship. Kids are better off if you can go find a healthy relationship.

  84. I was in a LTR with a woman like that. In her case she was afraid of squirting so she shut herself down when she got close. She had zero interest in talking with a counselor or anyone else to try to solve it. As time went by she got less and less interested in sex. Very understandable, I’m sure it was frustrating for her. After 2 years we split over this. I have a high libido so her drastic drop created a sexual incompatibility that was intolerable and getting worse. Best of luck working this out.

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  86. Are you comfortable that’s all that matters. If you don’t like choking you don’t have to let him, if you don’t like mommy tell him no. Your wants are just as important

  87. Thanks 🙂 and you will. I felt like this then I bumped into an ex from years ago after one thing lead to another n I’m like yea there’s deffo chemistry and attraction elsewhere.. heal in the meantime

  88. Roleplay. Ask if she has any fantasies, and role that into your sex life. Communication is huge when it comes to intercourse and the relationship as a whole

  89. I first learned how to choke while doing martial arts, it's something I really enjoy both giving and receiving. I love it most right as I am orgasming, it makes the experience that much more intense. I personally get off on the control aspect of choking someone, and equally love the submission aspect and “fuzzy feeling” of having the blood to my brain restricted. That being said, I would say that I'm very cautious about how hard I go, and certainly am not restricting blood for longer than a few breaths. It has always felt very intuitive to me.

  90. I’m 44 and have a high sex drive, my wife doesn’t.. once a week it is. I’d help you out if you’re in my area

  91. First things first – It’s not a joke when people say you will definitely know when you have a full blown orgasm. That being said, it sounds like you haven’t had one unfortunately. You can have tons of small orgasms or have different areas of your vagina stimulated like your g spot which feels great but doesn’t always cause an orgasm. When you have a full clitoral orgasm- your soul will leave your body and you’ll feel like you just did a bar of Xanax and you’re just floating on a cloud in outer space. Many vagina owners do not have orgasms until their late 20’s and 30’s because most of society is largely clueless about the clitoris. So don’t be too tough on yourself. Stressing over trying to orgasm can actually destroy your chance to have an orgasm. Which means you just need to make sure you’re focusing on being relaxed and having fun. Secondly – go buy toys that look appealing to you. You will definitely want to find a toy that focuses on hitting your g spot. Toys marketed towards “prostate stimulation” can be really awesome for g spot stim. Both the G spot and the P spot are inside of us at a similar angle and the toys can easily be used interchangeably. Also- do not forget to buy lube to use with your toys. Not feeling pressured to get wet enough to use a toy comfortably will help a lot. Make sure your lube is “toy safe” as well. Some lubes slowly break down the silicone on toys after some time and leave them porous and prone to holding on to bacteria. Also be sure to properly clean your toys after each use. You will need to experiment with your own body to know what you even like. Otherwise you can’t expect a partner to give you an orgasm when you can’t communicate what you want. Lastly – squirting is a bit more difficult and it is more linked to your orgasm than anything else. Focusing on teaching yourself how to bring yourself to an orgasm is the most important part of all of this. The G spot is mainly where you will want to focus if you want to make yourself squirt. In my personal experience- focusing on dual stimulation can really send me over the edge and bring me to that point. I tend to use a toy marketed for P spot stim while also using a vibrator on my clitoris. I usually edge myself through clitoral stimulation a few times. This is because I will contract during edging which will cause the toy to put pressure on my g spot and help build the pressure to climax. Then I start to primarily focus on using the g spot toy to stimulate my g spot. Usually a rocking motion is works best for myself. However everyone is different so you will need to experiment. Just remember to relax before hand. Take a warm bath with some bath salts. Burn some candles, put soothing music on and get in a nice calm state of mind.

  92. I’m exactly the same. I have a huge sex drive. I find that if I have sex a lot I will want more. If I don’t have sex for a few days I get restless and need to masturbate. Double edged sword lol. If I’m home alone and have time to myself I masturbate. I just enjoy it for many reasons, and don’t think there is anything wrong with it. OP- hopefully you will see from these posts that there is nothing wrong with you at all. Just enjoy yourself, experiment and find yourself. X

  93. I don't know how to do it subtly because the way my gay friends talk to their partners is like, “You're bottoming tonight, eat more fiber or I'm buying an enema on the way home!” I've always heard them plan it ahead of time very casually.

  94. Fact: some guys NEVER get off from oral. If it's because they are remarkably difficult to please, or because they have a mental blockage against it, hard to say. Also fact: with most guys, you'd probably be able to get him off within two minutes if you REALLY want to. Ten minutes sounds pretty normal expectance-wise. (i.e, I'm probably a lot like that as well.) would guys ask for another bj if it was bad? No. I cannot imagine anyone asking for that unless they sincerely enjoyed it. You are totally overthinking this. You did it. He wants it again. That says without a doubt that you got a thing or two figured out there. Can you get better? That is a whole different matter. You probably can. But do you need to get better? No. It's already definitely good enough.

  95. Abstaining from masturbation will absolutely make you cum quicker. In my experience it will also make your orgasm with her stronger and more pleasurable. But don't take my word for it, try it out for a week or two. You could also edge yourself for a while some time before you two mess around. That could make you more ready to pop for her.

  96. Naturally. My woman always comes before me during PIV and I don't do anything to delay. Actually after she comes, I really concentrate on finishing – if I don't, it keeps going way too long to the point of being tired

  97. You aren't alone. I can't cum without clitoral stimulation either. I believe it's actually really common. I do sometimes have sex and prefer just focusing on getting him off but yeah, if I want to cum, it takes more than his dick inside of me.

  98. I get what you’re saying. I’m not disgusted I just am weird about cleanliness. I didn’t and still don’t think there’s anything wrong with it or him. I’m totally fine if he wants to have it when we have sex I’m just not really wanting to deal with the toy itself after it has been in it if that makes sense…

  99. True, and honestly, the best solution would be for OPs gf to practice good hygiene and have a healthy diet with more fruits as that can and will improve the overall taste of the vaginal secretions. It does take longer and requires commitment, but it has more benefits and is far less likely to cause any problems.

  100. this is crazy. You two are fundamentally incompatible. Break up, stay friends (or not), and find someone who enjoys sex as much as you do. They’re definitely out there.

  101. If she is sweet I doubt she'll be ok with fucking others while being married to you. You sure you want to be married? This doesn't sound like a strong foundation for a marriage.

  102. I’ll be honest with you. Oral feels odd at first, just because of the newness of it. It’ll feel warm and wet and incredibly vulnerable because of your mouth on her private parts. With time she will get used to it, it can be incredibly pleasurable. You can ask her if stuff feels good or have her direct you during by saying things like “Softer” “A little to the right, actually go down a little” “Just like that” that’ll give you feedback on how to give her the most pleasure. Honestly odds are, the reasons she wouldn’t enjoy it would be more related to anxieties/insecurities about how she looks down there, tastes or smells would be a reason she wouldn’t like it more than anything else, it can be hard not to worry about it during being eaten out and fully relax into it so I would make sure she’s relaxed about that.

  103. You need to communicate and get full consent before you try anything…. But, some beginner things: blindfold, light bondage, like using a silk tie or something similar, anal fingering, let him pick the positions/your body placement, light spanking. Again though, you need to discuss this and get full, enthusiastic consent before you actually try anything.

  104. Just grab something from Horny.sg , trusted source . I had my womanizer there , it broke after 1 year but I still manage to get it replaced with them !

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  106. I dated a trans woman for a few months about 8 years ago. Whenever she was horny she would say she is wet (she had a penis) So your question is valid, just ask her exactly what she means. Or when you are having sex just ask: would you like me to suck your dick?

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  108. I think bars would be my best bet, but even that's tough. A lot of cold approaching and low success rates. It's based around looks and I'm not the best looking. I am tall, but other than that I'd say I would need to drop 20-30 pounds before I start seeing some success.

  109. Yep. I hurt my man’s penis one time. And it still makes me feel sick. My iud string got stuck hanging “straight” and as he dove VERY deep, it went right down his pee hole. He was severely traumatized mentally for a bit. He slowly was able to move past his fear of getting stabbed again after I had my IUD switched out. (PSA – always make sure when they trim your IUD strings they FOLD up the length of your cervix, and not too short so you don’t stab a penis.)

  110. I did this to hubs a few weeks ago. We were finally able to have sex after 7 weeks of pelvic rest (yay pregnancy) and while I was wet, I was super tight and the combo didn’t work out well. Took him almost a week to recover. Now we still use lube bc i’m tighter than normal and it’s uncomfortable. But at least we get to have sex!

  111. Hi. I spit can increase your risk of STIs, yeast infections, and other infections. Not related to OPs question, but just had to chip it in.

  112. This definitely sucks and kills the mood. Talk to him about it, but it seems a bigger problem for him than you think. Did he have any bad cleanliness experiences with you in the past? Once is usually enough. Anyhow, talk to him that's your best bet

  113. 4 hrs is a bit long but I’d probably do it as long an a) it’s at least an overnight thing and b) we’d do it more than once

  114. Ok, this is not an appropriate response to this. Hell, you judging whether people you don't know are “wife material” or not, is NEVER an appropriate response to ANYTHING.

  115. If he went 9 years without doing it, I would say he'd be pretty content with continuing to not do it if he didn't really like it. I didn't like giving blowjobs all that much when I was younger. Our preferences can change. I especially noticed the better I got and more confident in my skills, the more I enjoyed giving. He may have just been opposed years ago because he wasn't confident he was doing a good job.

  116. Before during and a little after. Ask him to describe the sensation himself you might like to hear it from him.

  117. All you can do is work your way up slowly over days and weeks. That’s my experience with my asshole at least, and I’ve never had a fist all the way in, it gets to painful at the big part of the hand. But we all have our limits. Pain is your bodies way of saying no, so definitely listen to that. Ideally pain for us masochists should be of a type that does no real harm. If you happen to use drugs that can numb sensation or loosen inhibitions, even alcohol, be very careful as that can lead to injuries that you only notice later. Otherwise maybe fisting just isn’t possible with you, or you need to find someone (probably a woman) with tiny hands and wrists.

  118. I can make her orgasm with a blowjob but I feel pressure for my dick to make her happy, I thought that was it's job. The main thing I'm fixating on is if my dick is doing a good enough job to make her happy, and even when she was faking the orgasms I didn't think I was doing a good enough job. She was surprised that I was so harsh on myself after she faked the orgasms because she thought that would satisfy my need to please her … But it didn't 🙁

  119. good job, i’m 99% sure my ex with kids was trapped because she was “on birth control” if birth control randomly stops working either you are a very unlucky human or the girls lying to you and forgot her pills.

  120. So one thing he needs to do is seek out a sex positive therapist who also deals with porn addiction issues. Reason is, the therapist will help them identify the core issues around the insecurities with sex, porn, and so much more. It definitely helps move them into a secure and safe space to have healthy sexual interactions where he can then go take care of things himself while not feeling guilty. Because trying to help him is saying you are taking on this burden and unless you are willing to be there 24/7 for this, heavily suggest a professional to take over as an unbias view and voice of reason.

  121. Does it taste like pee: Mostly yes… I sit corrected. Is it created like pee: By Volume over 99% yes. That's fair. I meant to convey that a fluid that is released during orgasm with urine and prostatic fluid isn't just pee. But it seems I'm uninformed on this. If a person comes into my office and gives me a Urine Sample and it has some blood I am not like “This isn't Urine do it again.” That's fair. I'm like “I'm a medical examiner, how is the Cadaver moving.” lol

  122. I mean swinger and rough sex aren't really the same thing so it doesn't matter what she is into. It's hard to get turned on when you aren't into something. Also kinks that turn you on aren't always what you want to try in real life.

  123. IDK judging from HER reaction here she sounds like the sort of partner that DOES make it feel like a chore

  124. You might be his girlfriend, but I want to make it very clear; You owe him nothing. You do not owe this man sex. You do not have to be the provider of sex to him just because he has decided he wants it. You are not obligated to allow him access to your body simply because you are his girlfriend. I'm deadly serious. You have said to this man that you do not want to stay up late, that you are uncomfortable and that you feel used. And his responses have been entirely selfish, not to 'ruin' this for him, and that he wants a good night. He has no consideration for you at all. I would be staying somewhere else that evening. I would be reconsidering the relationship. Just because you are his girlfriend, and because he apparently now respects 'no' (which he doesn't, he obviously just pretends and you know he gets mad about it), does not mean you are obligated or owe this man anything. I would consider the fact that his last relationship probably had him learn a few things, even if he was the victim in it. He probably thinks this is normal, being selfish and abusive a little bit is okay. He also probably thinks he can use his ex as an excuse for his poor behaviour and so you will feel sympathy for him and do what he wants you to. This man does not sound like a good boyfriend.

  125. You might be his girlfriend, but I want to make it very clear; You owe him nothing. You do not owe this man sex. You do not have to be the provider of sex to him just because he has decided he wants it. You are not obligated to allow him access to your body simply because you are his girlfriend. I'm deadly serious. You have said to this man that you do not want to stay up late, that you are uncomfortable and that you feel used. And his responses have been entirely selfish, not to 'ruin' this for him, and that he wants a good night. He has no consideration for you at all. I would be staying somewhere else that evening. I would be reconsidering the relationship. Just because you are his girlfriend, and because he apparently now respects 'no' (which he doesn't, he obviously just pretends and you know he gets mad about it), does not mean you are obligated or owe this man anything. I would consider the fact that his last relationship probably had him learn a few things, even if he was the victim in it. He probably thinks this is normal, being selfish and abusive a little bit is okay. He also probably thinks he can use his ex as an excuse for his poor behaviour and so you will feel sympathy for him and do what he wants you to. This man does not sound like a good boyfriend.

  126. Only thing I could think of to set the tone. Good climatic sex sounds like running in flipflops to me ?

  127. AIDS doesn't work that fast! You are sorely in need of information about HIV/AIDS. There are mountains of this information for the ordinary public online. Every public health agency, every major Website for medical information (Mayo Clinic, WebMD, Cleveland Clinic).

  128. Lose the performance anxiety. It's mostly on the man to build towards his orgasm. Be sexually assertive. Tell him right out, you're deprived, you need the other thing more often, and for longer, 15 minutes or more, or whatever. If he cared enough, he could show gratitude at least every other week, more like every week. Hmm, some women widen so much upon arousal. Maybe you're loose inside and he's embarrassed to say it. I've had gf's who I had to give them head to make them orgasm so that their pussy would tighten. This was fine with me, because there may not be anything I like better than giving women head. However, orgasm coming before penetration would probably be a disappointment in this case. Even if you were loose, you're not too loose for you, penetration from him works for you, so he should give it for you. Maybe he has trouble lasting, he's hiding that deficiency by finishing in 5 minutes and calling it a day. Better than half a minute. There seems to be a lack of discussion between you of the sex you're having. Interesting that there's no mention that he gives head.

  129. You did good. Umm from the responses here I've gathereed that it is normal for people to not want to be compared to someone's ex during sexy time and though I've never had sex the thought of that happening to me would make me kinda irate too. Good on you for standing up for yourself.

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  131. As a married man, I am a breat and ass man. I have become proficient at unceasing my wife's bra and she digs it. I can undo her bra while she still has her top on. I like undressing her as a form of foreplay. While in the act I love watching her tits bounce and sway. I also like watching her cup and play with her own tits while we fuck and fool around.

  132. Would love to add to your list of older men who are experienced and know how to please a woman. Your fantasy is normal.

  133. My story is similar to this. For me it got to a point where waiting for the “right” girl started to hurt me, sexually, mentally, and socially. There is no such thing as the “right” person, I think that's the first thing in your mentality that you'd want to chance to move on in life and to keep growing as a person. There are amazing people out there with which you can build a beautiful life, but it takes work and it takes time to get there. With this I'm not saying that sex isn't important. For me sex is just as important as you described up there. But it's just the beginning of the journey, and not the end of it. I recommend reading a book called “how not to die alone” sounds a bit sensationalist, but it's quite good, and by a great author. Other than that, my recommendation would be that you shouldn't rush it either. You're only 19, you have a life full of sex ahead of you. Focus on growing as a person, make a lot of friends, and have meaningful relationships with them as well. You'll find someone you can trust and love, and have amazing sex :). TLDR: Don't pop your cherry just for the sake of it, but also don't spent your life waiting for the perfect person, he doesn't exist

  134. 1) It's not impossible that a woman has bacterial vaginosis or some other gyonological issue. But assuming everything is healthy and in good order, she smells how she smells and she needs to find guys who like it and find it hot.

  135. Can porn addiction even be resolved? He told me the other day he hadn’t watched it for two weeks that’s probably why he initiated sex with me. But like wtf… how do you prefer porn over the real thing I don’t understand

  136. Yeah I’m 5ft 120 lbs my hubby is 6’6 and about 290. I remember when I asked for rough. He was terrified to hurt me. But we found a good balance ?

  137. Interesting, I heard someone mention a tilted uterus recently… no clue if that’s relevant but maybe look into that?

  138. Sounds like you might have some feelings in the game too. You obviously care for him because you're here asking how not to hurt his feelings. Maybe you two just need to go chill somewhere and reframe your arrangement. It's always best to be open and honest.

  139. My advice is to use condoms 100% of the time regardless of whether she is on birth control or not. The “extra” feeling is not worth a lifetime decision..be it disease or a child.

  140. He’s been divorced 2 years and hasn’t dated much since. I understand that he’s probably gotten very used to masturbation, so how do I ask him to do it less for the benefit of our sex life?

  141. Some guys might ask simply because it’s less weird and embarrassing for them than saying “I don’t know how you like to be touched, can you tell me”. So think of it as doing something that’s going to pay off for you in the future. As far as having anxiety about it, most women in my experience do have some anxiety. It’s a vulnerability thing. But getting over it would be a plus because pretty much every guy, whether he asks for it or not, would love to watch. So this will come up again in your life. And like it’s been said already, tell him to masturbate with you so you’re nothing watching each other.

  142. Interesting… I heard rumors that especially bodybuilders hate sex, have small dicks and cry if you ask them to slap you… It seems that there are different kinds of rumors about bodybuilders… The world is a fascinating place to live, isn't it?

  143. You sound like you are poly to me. The importance of consent and honesty are paramount to what you want to do. I think that you should talk to her if you feel she wouldn't misunderstand but you have to plan it out to be very clear about what you mean. Does she seem to have similar desires or seem like she is looking around? My wife and I have had similar feelings for years and we never talked about them. Now we have and we've explored fantasies and the sex has never been better. Even if you never decide to act on the desire just sharing and exploring the fantasy can be amazing.

  144. I don’t see any shaming here, but rather trying to educate you that this is risky behavior. A physician’s job is not only to treat but also advise and educate. Preventive care really should be a large portion of what a primary care doctor does and part of that is education. Bringing up being tested so many times is just saying that he is concerned… there are highly resistant strains of gonorrhea and syphilis that are starting to go around and we will start running out of drugs to treat them. When people continue to partake in risky behavior, the feeling I get is one of “how do I help my patient understand that, statistically, continuing down this road could have long term negative consequences on their health and quality of life?” Saying all that, he should have commended you on making the right choice in getting tested. We typically recommend people get tested every 6 months anyway.

  145. You’re too young to know these. I hope this is a fake post. Kink life is like a rabbit hole. I wish you didn’t know these at this age. It’s not bad but at that age education, traveling, seeing different cultures are important.

  146. Did you swab an active outbreak site for the test? If not, and it was a blood test, there is no difference between HSV1 and HSV2 so the test says positive for both. Most people have HSV1 which is just cold sores. We get it from various aunties and cousins loving on us as babies and some time around the end of puberty we stop even developing cold sores unless under extreme stress. Don't worry about it.

  147. I was raised in the purity culture, so hygienic practices and sex weren’t discussed. At 19, a guy told me that I needed to wash better, evaluate my diet. I was mortified of course, but he did me a favor and did so in the most loving manner. Sometimes those conversations are terrifying, but as a woman, I am so glad he told me. It’s forever changed my hygiene practices, and frankly, it opened the door for understanding that one can have totally safe discussions about sex. I echo everyone else. Tell her in a gentle way. Her response is on her, not you. Just another consideration too, she may have a medical issue. Perhaps celiac, or another GI problem. She may be unaware, particularly if she’s been struggling for some time. You could lead the conversation with that as opposed to going out the gate with the smell issue.

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  149. Plenty of guys are bad at sex even if they've had it before. It's impossible to know even if the list had 100 bullet points.

  150. sigh The red flag is that he seems to only look at girls that don't share her body type. You watch all kinds of girls so that is fine. That combined with telling her that the hatred she has for her body is justified. A lot of you men are completely brain dead.

  151. Then it looks like the issue is that you need to get out of your head. I used to have bad performance anxiety also. A potential solution is to masturbate to orgasm with him in the room so that you can get used to cumming with him present even though he isn’t touching you, then graduate to him touching. Weed can really help as it increases arousal but don’t use too much as that’s anxiety inducing. Edit to add that the book Come As You Are is really useful for this

  152. you're being abused, aso he's a sadist. that is classified as a mental illness in the DSM. get out of there and get help

  153. “He beats the shit out of me and ignores my requests to get him to stop, but I don't want to paint him as a bad husband” wtf am I reading here?

  154. “my wife's boundaries were different than yours so just change your boundaries. ignore the larger relationship issues and give in to his tantrum. “

  155. Following Forum Rule #2, take a look through the FAQ section on Penis Size/Body Type. There’s lots of great information in there. Post removed.

  156. When you're at the point of penetration from your partner, do you feel aroused in body and mind? And I don't mean wetness, take that away, more about do you feel ready to be penetrated by your partner?

  157. Do you peg your boyfriend? Has he expressed any interest in this? Only he can tell you his interest.

  158. Really depends what you plan on doing and the size of the car. For bj and just some messing around car is pretty good. Just be aware of what and who is around you. If you're planning on going to town with them you might wanna reconsider because it will be noticeable.

  159. You can start off with a vibrator and take it away mid session when you masturbate. And just keep repeating process and decreasing the vibrator time each time.

  160. Could be that he wants you to maybe jerk him off a little or play with his balls but i honestly have no clue what he meant by that even tho im pretty experienced by now. Every guy has such diffrent preferences and thats why he needs to say them outloud.

  161. Does she use vibrators ? For me , if I’m using toys too much it makes it really hard to cum with my partner . Gotta take a break from them every so often .

  162. Just take a night to make it about teaching him your body. You don’t have to masturbate, just guide his hands and be very vocal, this one isn’t about the destination but just learning the road. Tell him what feels good and what is too much and he’ll get it??

  163. I have a good friend that’s in a similar situation. Basically a sexless marriage, lucky to get it 3 to 5 times a year, yet loves his wife to death and considers her his best friend. Both of you men deserve a gold medal for love and patience. What’s crazy is, if his wife would just place a little bit more initiative into making him feel like she wants him at least once a month he would be much happier man.

  164. It can come with pain but I think the lessons are worth it. It’s what makes us human and it’s a constant reminder of such.

  165. The single hottest thing to me is a woman being enthusiastic, turned on and into it, however that is shown.

  166. I think laughter during sex is really important – I cracked up last night with belly laughs after a sex incident (sexident) – and it made it 100% better.

  167. That’s exactly what he told me, my ass didn’t look good when I was on top.. i honestly think the same thing, his head is full of porn scenes he wants to recreate

  168. I think you gotta start small. This is all overwhelming for him and he is covering up his anxiety. Friend of mine had a threesome in college and (not even drinking) ended up throwing up before anything even happened because he was so nervous. (Think Stan every time Wendy talked to him in the South Park movie) He's trying to laugh it off, but I think you're overwhelming him like a dog who pees becuase you're over exciting him. Start small. Work up.

  169. not a relationship for just two Every fwb situation is different. I personally am exclusive with any fwb I have. That’s why it’s important to communicate.

  170. It’s not about me being turned on really, it’s just pleasurable. I watch porn for the first time and then turn it off directly after because I’m no longer into it

  171. Anxiety is probably the biggest contributor to this. I’ve been going through it with my wife, and the biggest thing that’s been making a difference is talking straight out with her about not being concerned about her image or overthinking about what I might think of her. It’s still a battle but it seems to be improving slowly. Part of what helps too is helping her out more around the house… as for #3 it could be a reaction to lube or even soap that she uses.

  172. I think women do get judged for sleeping with younger men too and I think if I had posted in r/dating I would have had a different reaction. Noone in my real life knows about my sexlife for fear of judgement, even just being a woman and having casual sex is enough for people to criticize. I am pretty new to Reddit so I am interested to look for this bias now though.

  173. Starting antidepressant for (mis)use their side effects shouldn't be right choice. For example, beside the misprescriptions of drug, there are others side effect (like increased weight and high decrease libido) that shoud be assessed. Take time to increase your body's knowledge and learn to breath during sex, imo this could be a simple better advice

  174. It sounds more of a comment meant to mean: “you're pussy is so good, that's why I'm not lasting longer”, which obviously is not a bad thing, now.. to be perfectly clear: no pussy is tight, they're just not made that way

  175. I don't know any dudes that successfully cured it but I knew a girl who could only orgasm from masturbating and eventually cured it after stopping for 3 months. So it's possible.

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  177. Slapping and choking is not “how sex is”, unless you've specifically said you want to do that. He learned that from porn and porn is not real.

  178. Do you have a big coat you can wear with just the lingerie on under? Have him sit on the bed and then drop the coat?

  179. Honestly, fairly similar. I think this is why an orgasm while you also need to pee feels much more intense than one with an empty bladder.

  180. Yeah that’s valid, I’m already trying to find someone that matches my sex drive. I was interested in someone and lost interest because she had no sex drive and I didn’t wanna force anything on her, yk?

  181. I definitely like keeping something in between my legs and kind of just slowly rock against it. It’s definitely comforting. I ask my husband to “just hold it” sometimes but he says his hands are too big and it’s not comfortable. I catch myself rolling my hips a lot without paying attention. Usually when I’m cuddled up with him.

  182. You know those wall frames they make on etsy for hiding guns? Get a tasteful one for hiding toys and bottles. Touch lamps you can have nice lighting with that's adjustable. Some tasteful nudes from the Renaissance maybe.

  183. yeah that’s a whole other story, he gets suicidal, starts drinking and creating tons of fake numbers to contact me every time i try to end it, he’s joining the air force soon, i won’t have to deal with him much longer so i was just looking for ways to make it more enjoyable until then

  184. yeah that’s a whole other story, he gets suicidal, starts drinking and creating tons of fake numbers to contact me every time i try to end it, he’s joining the air force soon, i won’t have to deal with him much longer so i was just looking for ways to make it more enjoyable until then

  185. End of the day as long as we’re both a hot sweaty satisfied mess afterwards why would it matter ?

  186. this is how I feel when I have sex with someone I don't have good chemistry with… it took a handful of partners before I met someone I had crazy chemistry with and the sex was instantly much much more enjoyable whereas with past partners it was barely even worth the effort for me personally, even if it wasn't outright terrible. I really need strong chemistry or I feel pretty meh/indifferent. I'd also rather have no orgasm with my current partner than an orgasm with a meh partner

  187. One – don't wear 2 condoms. Not more than one at a time. The old “if one is good then two has to be better” thinking is very wrong in this case. It's counterproductive safety wise, as they eat at each other, and it's going to reduce the sensation and stimulation you both feel. As for penetration–I found out early on that I really prefer and like it when SHE guides and outs me in. Dude, I feel you. It's no quick in and out like the movies usually. Quite the opposite. First of all, usually, you can't see what you're doing. You're not even looking. It's a small hole that's basically closed and covered and hidden inside a tight space thats warm and wet and squishy and feels weird…albejt great. And you're trying to hit this target with one hand on your dick while you're between her legs holding yourself up with your other arm or Whatever position all while she's moving and you're trying to look and keep your cool AND your erection as she's looking at you and all in her head, if she doesn't just say it, going come on! What's taking so long? And in your case – you've never even done it before! Not to mention the fact that there's another hole! Shit! I've had chicks miss putting it in AND ITS THEIR OWN HOLE! lol Now, I'm nit exactly sure what you meant about it not feeling good but I can think of a possible reason — did you just ram it in all the way real fast like the do in the scenes?! That can be a big no-no. I've never had one girl tell me she didn't like it or complain about it when I worked it in wnice and slow. It's my favorite way to go. My point is this – the first few strokes_go slow. Pay attention, feel it, and feel things out. It'll also help you against, ahem, being caught off guard, surprised and overcome, if you know what i mean. And most importantly, you'll be less likely to find out how much a friction burn down there hurts. To you and/or to her. You can legit tear the skin on your shit and rip hers too. Trust me, it's not something you want to do.

  188. This is awesome and it should be on a T-shirt and a bumper sticker “I couldn’t date someone unwilling to help me cum.” A plastic battery operated vibrating device made him hurt his feelings or freaked him out. Something happened to make him LEAVR. That’s insane. Yeah, that’s a standard not to bend to. The next day his friend calls asking him how his night went. He says it was horrific! He couldn’t believe what she did. It made him get dressed and get out the door as fast as he could. What was it? Tell me! Said his friend. Ok, hold on to your seat. She pulled out a frigging vibratory man, right in front of me as if she wanted me to be involved in her weird shit. She what? That’s so hot. Please tell me you didn’t leave when she was just getting started. You have issues. Gotta go. Yeah. Issues. So many people with hang ups and issues.

  189. If she’s not asking, don’t send-period. Women have different desires and they usually don’t include your dick. Start sending pics that include your hands/legs but without them being the focal point and you’ll probably get better feedback…eventually…maybe. Or send absolutely nothing and wait to be asked if she should ever actually desire anything. Who knows, nobody understands women to include women.

  190. Little black dress that looks dressy and classy. Subtle jewellery. Underneath – quarter cup bra and open crotch panties.

  191. True but of 90% maybe only half know they have it and will continue to discriminate against someone who does disclose their status even though they themselves are Carriers

  192. Ask for what you want instead of saying what you don't want. So like “Can we try and kiss slower/more closed mouth? I think that would feel really nice and I would like to try it out with you.”

  193. It really strike ME as weird that so many people today feel like unless you are willing to date every body size, every skin color, or whatever else you are a body shaming racist. We like what we like. In order to sustain it usually has to be more involved than physical attraction, but that isn't a horrible start – to actually be able to look at her/him from across a room and want to know more about them just because they have “that thing”.

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  195. Me personally, I’d never have sex with a woman with herpes, once you get it, you can’t get rid of it.

  196. Could you suggest a first date you are more comfortable and build the anticipation for this at a later time (second date even) once you are comfortable?

  197. Same problem here too. Try Durex… better yet try Lola. Look up the Lola brand, they’re doing great things for both men & women. They’re not a major corporation and you’ll be supporting a small business. For me, Lola’s fit and feel the best. Before I was introduced to Lola, I used Durex.

  198. I think you're right. First of all we both just want to be better versions of ourselves and he's helped me a lot since he got a better job and buys me groceries all the time cause I live in a trap house basically. Longer story but I just need to take a step back maybe Thank you

  199. I’ve been pretty happy with my combo pill that has r The placebo week. The idea three to four months were a difficult adjustment but after that the annoying side effects went away. They stay away as long as I take it consistently enough. I’m actually single and not relying on it for pregnancy prevention. I would be worried about remembering to take it at the same time each day if I was.

  200. No, just someone risk adverse. The risk/reward here is very much in the HUGE risk for modest reward.

  201. If you are skinny and kinda feminine, that sounds way attractive to me. Look at rock stars of the past and present. What are they? Skinny and feminine. I would develop a cool look, get a great haircut, develop your wardrobe, copy what actors and musicians wear if you need a guideline. I promise you, thin and with a feminine vibe is much more attractive to women than some big hulk of a guy with a belly and tree trunk legs.

  202. Your friends gave you dumb advice. Men like feeling desired as well and if you want sex you should just ask him. As a straight married male always having to be initiator gets exhausting and makes you feel undesired at times

  203. You really need to have more than just a total blood testosterone level checked. Fsh, lh, dht, shbg, free testosterone, and estrogen will give you a more complete hpg axis through aromatization picture.

  204. And theres your problem. This is what you need to get over. Not asking for “creative ways” to ask. In fact the “creative ways” are trivial to come up with. Your real problem is your fundamental view of sex. Fix that and the “creative ways” won't be a problem at all.

  205. It depends. Smaller orgasms can probably go undetected. During earth shaking orgasms various muscles contract, I get much wetter, and sometimes I literally push my partner out of me. I imagine it’s hard not to notice those.

  206. Your creepy-ass boyfriend probably scared them all away. You’ll be surprised how many of them will be happy to reconnect with you once you free yourself from this loser.

  207. He only continues to say mean stuff and overreact to what you say because you’re still with him. If he wanted to change he would have already.

  208. It might be a sexual attraction thing which is the worst discussion in both sides.(I have gone thru this and it was never resolved and we split ways as in my case partner did not take fitness seriously and I am super fit and have a high libido, but partner let themselves go) otherwise it is desire and more and more people are suffering from low testosterone at an early age(super weird in some cases but most is diet and exercise) I wish you the best be prepared for a long and potentially hurtful talk. I think for a lot of men/woman monogamous relationships can be tough especially if you do not share the same interests. The high of something new is exactly that temporary but very strong and tricks us into thinking it is something real. So with similar interests at least you have something to fall back on if monogamous. Best of luck ???

  209. Would you point to the sexual texts? She stated emotional affair happened? Did you misread that or is my reading comprehension not on point?

  210. Yep, usually. The fact they usually want to come back for more soon after is also a good indication they weren't faking it.

  211. “I found out he was seeing another woman”… Yeah, his wife. Wait, you mean another other woman. Tell them all, plus a few extra people, because there's no telling how far this has spread.

  212. BJ's can be thought of as having three types: throating, full mouth, and licking the head. Throating is just complicated. The birthday boy should be able to teach her licking the head. When giving full mouth (or throat), work the muscles from the cheekbones down as when drinking through a straw, not as when smiling. She needs to move her face as if trying to drink through a straw although the mouth is wide open. For other training tips, there's the last paragraphs of my reply here.

  213. Don’t have hyperspermia but I have purposely edged for a few days knowing I’ll be getting a HJ or BJ in those coming days and I’ll be able to shoot a bigger load. My wife got so grossed out from ejaculate on her hand that she gagged and had to run to the bathroom to wash it off. When I mentioned it the following day she started gagging again just at the thought. She is a texture person, especially with food so all I can really do is shrug and accept it. It’s just not her thing

  214. That doesnt mean they dont like penetration and will be only okey with oral.Getting them off is not the only thing that matters.Otherwise sex would be about getting each other off via handjobs

  215. Definitely go for it. Since you are trying something new, try other stuff that might have been on your minds. Giving a guy loads of ways to get you off is going to take a lot of the pressure off of him.

  216. Read that too quickly as ‘someone else going down on him’ – still likely accurate unfortunately.

  217. I would have loved that, you GF can't be wrong for wanting to cheer you up. You need to apologise for screaming at her and being dick, a simple Im not in the mood right now would have sufficed.

  218. Thank you for your response. I believe it might stem from self-esteem issues and some sexual trauma (but that happened years ago). I have been in therapy for the self esteem but it didn't do much. I know he would be supportive but I don't like feeling so vulnerable. I don't want him to think I'm fucked up or worse, dramatic. I've been called both for opening up with a previous partner and that ended in the abuse.

  219. Sorry to hear that. It’s understandable to not want to share that if your previous relationships acted so toxic. I don’t think reddit can give you a complete solution and the self esteem issue is one that will take time to heal. Could be years. The important thing is to keep working on it, with or without therapy and slowly getting to understand that you can be deserving of pleasure and that your trauma doesn’t define you. Whether your partner is truly trustworthy and mature enough to take this information without acting as if you’re “dramatic”, you will only find out when you take that plunge and tell him. Hopefully he eventually gives you enough comfort to do it one day and shows you that you aren’f fucked up.

  220. Because men lack value in society unless we provide for others. So banging a hot chick gives us a sense of self worth, even status if you will.

  221. It is always surprising to hear stories about my girlfriends having sexual encounters with strangers and not using protection. Ive noticed it is usually not intentional, it just happens. my first time having sex ever was unprotected sex with some guy i hadnt seen in 3 years and it was due to literally being in the moment and forgetting to put a condom on i felt so guilty afterward

  222. Yes. COVID is over. No, we never used it as an excuse. And yes, we as a couple, have been eating better and exercising to increase not only our self image, but on a path to being healthier. We have both struggled with weight before COVID, during COVID, and after. It hasn’t changed how it’s impacted our sex life, it was just especially prevalent during COVID. We are both ready to make changes that are needed. But we also want hear from people like us, that have struggled through this, and what helped/hurt their outcomes. While life does get in the way, it doesn’t mean we should ignore or use it as an excuse, and it’s something we both acknowledge we do. And no, afternoon sex is not the answer, hence why it’s not working and why I’m here. We again, both acknowledge that it’s a bandaid.

  223. He's an adult… that can get a hotel room, buy alcohol, or rent a car. You're what I (affectionately to people I know your age- my nephew just turned 22) call a “mini-human”. Your brain won't even stop developing until you're around 25. You are still a teenager, still growing, and that man is grown. You are still a teenager. With an almost 30 year old. You are still a kid- albeit one on the cusp of adulthood. And when you're in your late 20's with your own kid, you aren't going to want them to end up 19 years old themself with an almost-30 groomer with a “breeding kink” who sounds like he called it that to trap you because most of us that have life experience know better. There's reasons why a 30 year old woman isn't dating him. It's because she can see past his bullshit. You think it's “love”” it isn't. You think it's “honesty” it's manipulation. You think you're special and so mature? You aren't. We have all been fed the same lines. You're arguing with everyone here who has more experience than you do. Do not walk, RUN away from this creepy, predatory, man. I'd rather see someone your age having a college fling or talking about a gorgeous guy you met on campus- not talking about how he is blatantly talking about knocking you up. What would you be then? The “housewife”? Is there a ring on your finger? Can he afford one? Can you have a wedding if you get knocked up? Is he willing to be a full partner to you if you do get pregnant? Do you have stable health insurance? Are you going to abandon every dream you ever had, like so many young moms do? This isn't hypothetical shit you're playing around with. This is your real life. And real life has so goddamned many consequences. For what it's worth I hope I'm wrong, because I was in your position at your age and it took me four fucking years of people who I've always loved and cared about telling me about my ex's manipulative ways for me to finally wake up and smell the coffee. Maybe it's just sex. Maybe it's just a kink. I guess if you think you could handle filing taxes, paying property taxes, car payment, car insurance (because how else are you going to get to places like the grocery store), household budgeting, holding down a job while being pregnant/ postpartum so you aren't trapped if he does get you pregnant, buying your own maternity wardrobe because your sromach grows, or when he leaves you for the next one because you're carrying his child and he's lost interest and goes for the next model 19 year old he sees he can manipulate, paying for all of those appointments required for having a healthy child on your own, paying $10,000 for labor and delivery, and another $10,000; in just diapers alone in the first YEAR of a baby's life- go for it. Maybe you're a trust fund baby yourself and can afford to get pregnant. My boyfriend is your boyfriend's age and I'm 12 years older than you. I am closer to your boyfriend's age than you are. If your boyfriend brought you around my friend group, he'd be having his ass kicked in public or in private or both. We would have ostracized him the first time he brought you around. Does he keep you a secret from his friends or family? Has he lied about your age in social settings? Do you have a fake ID to get into places like bars without him or with him? This isn't an “age gap relationship.” This is predatory as fuck. Ghost this asshole and get into some therapy. If he's that serious he can wait until you're 21 and show that he's actually serious about you without seeing anyone else… and even then you still won't be old enough to rent a car if it is dangerous and you need to leave. I come from a place of honest concern. If you were my sister I would be absolutely livid. You're out here playing with your life and your future for some creepy ass dude that can't get a woman in his own age group for a reason. If he starts poking holes in condoms, stealthing, sabotaging your birth control, can you even afford the $700+ that it would cost to have an abortion if you did get pregnant and he “traps” you??? And that's if you're in a state that allows for abortion. If not, can you afford the travel multiple states away, the consult fee, the abortion fee, and the hotel to stay in? (If you're even allowed to check in because once again- some don't allow people under 21 without a parental sign in.) Run. Gtfo of this “relationship” before it kills your entire future. And if this man is serious enough about you, he can wait the two years it takes you to legally order a glass of wine at dinner… 100% if you “test” him with that he's going to run straight to the next malleable female he sees and I doubt it will even take a month. In those two years he may even end up a father. Are you seriously trying to risk the rest of your life for this man?

  224. Bellessa is porn for women. You can watch full videos with a subscription, which I recommend for couples viewing. Short clips are for when you only need a couple of minutes, lol.

  225. Sounds like she doesn't like any other label than “straight”. Some people are sensitive to stigma. It could also be, as one commenter pointed out, that she sees herself only in a straight relationship, but sexually it doesn't matter. For example I'm [M] bisexual, leaning heavily towards women. But I can appreciate a good dick every now and then. Still I don't see myself romantically involved with a man, because when it comes to intimacy, the signals are somehow wrong and I feel myself clamping up. So by principle I am more straight than I am bi, since I'm far more open to women. Now I've had roughly 15 years to figure this out ever since I became sexually active, so I have the experience, I've read some stuff, I've had time to reflect, and I've since completely stopped giving a shit about other people's judgements about my sexuality. You guys still sound relatively young, and she especially might be sensitive to what other people think of her. Hence the strong self-identification with the straight label.

  226. Female here. We love doggy, prone bone, pile driver, missionary, cowgirl, and heck just about anything that involves him being inside me.

  227. You should go to a student medical ball etc. where it’s appropriate to hit on them. I still also recommend hitting on the people your attracted to by handing your number out. I wouldn’t say your exact dr, maybe another one on a coffee break.

  228. This isn't a good answer, because it doesn't address the unhealthy upbringing the wife has in regards to porn. This absolutely calls for couples therapy with a sex positive therapist.

  229. An experience is different than having an ignorant opinion on someone you disagree with. But sure, nice try ig.

  230. Let him know your concerns and feelings. And see if during conversation you two can meet halfway on it?

  231. It could have been a million different reasons, just communicate and tell her how much you still love and care about her!

  232. Words have meanings Yeah – but do you know what terms like “heterosexual” mean? It doesn't mean “person who hooks up with people of the opposite sex”, despite wikipedia sneakily adding this in recent times. Consult any major dictionary or health service and it means you're attracted to people of the opposite sex. So in the spirit of using words by the meanings they actually have, it's entirely unproblematic to be straight and still have sex with someone of the same sex. People have sex without attraction all the time – in marriages, in cases of sex work, and so on. A female sex worker who in her line of work has sex with a female isn't lesbian or bi just because she had a same-sex encounter – and the same applies to other sexual situations. You guys need to calm down with policing labels and language. If someone tells you they're straight, then they probably are. You don't know what's going on inside their mind, you don't know how they feel, etc. You're free to speculate and doubt and whatever you want, but coming out here all matter-of-factly, as if you're the arbiter of whether that person is straight or not, is just straight nonsense – and you should stop it.

  233. I prefer naked. Second to that is sexy cotton underwear. Lace and lingerie just don’t do it for me. Perhaps it’s because lingerie and lace isn’t smooth to cuddle with is never worn long enough to make it worthwhile,

  234. The post mentions “kink” without saying what it is. All you said was you were triggered, you took a shower and cried. Somehow, your tragedy and/or him causing you twinges of pain triggered him. For that reason alone, or maybe in combination with others, he has withdrawn from you. A genuine switch or dom wouldn't be so lacking in self confidence and wouldn't reject his sub's reassurances.

  235. I like it. 1 it takes pressure off both parties performing. 2 it’s a dominance thing like “you will do whatever I want when I want”

  236. Wtf is this comment?? So you're assuming that the guy is lusting after her every day and has no control and will eventually rape her? Stop watching porn or whatever weird shit you're into.

  237. As a Dom, I'd suggest looking into the bdsm lifestyle and finding someone who's experienced with rough play. A lot of inexperienced men may not know when to stop or tone it down and may hurt you (in a bad way). Clear, concise communication is key. You need to be as vocal as possible about your wants and desires, as well as your limits. A safe word is never a bad idea when experimenting with someone who doesn't know you/your body. It's going to be a learning experience, both for yourself as well as your play partner. You may not know what your boundaries are yet, so make sure you have someone who will listen to you and safely explore them.

  238. on the plus side i learned the funny way he watches a significantly higher amount of porn that i do, and j told him last time we were together he can look up tutorials or stuff for next time

  239. I should probably comment that neither of us are experienced in anal stuff other than what i mentioned

  240. It totally explains it! If I could go back to school again, I would love to be a sex educator and sex therapist, and teach using a biological perspective. The reason so many of us grew up not knowing what might feel good and why is because we never really learned about those parts of our bodies, right? For example, if you scroll down to Figure 87-2 Nerves of perineum and external female genitalia, you can see how involved the perineal and pudendal nerves are in innervating the vulva, the clitoris, the perineum, and the anus. And they aren't each assigned separate organs to innervate. They're almost tangled with each other, increasing the chances of contact and, thus, orgasm, and explaining that feeling of all-over “magic,” for lack of a better term, right before you orgasm. When I found this model, I was really excited that something like it exists. Please share it so that more people know about it. It's a really unique resource, for sure! Best of luck in med school! Maybe share this with your fellow students? You'll today become that student. ??‍♀️

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  243. Not a troll. I really like this guy. I am sad that I made that mess. Never happend before. I am overthinking.

  244. Everyone has their moments, I'd suspect he was embarrassed, I find it kind of odd that he would react so dramatically. This is coming from a guy whose wife routinely calls dramatic. I've been tired or in pain enough that I can't preform, and I've manually manipulated my wife, I view it as about the same as a foot rub, only more entertaining.

  245. It’s not as great as you think. My first time was boring bc I thought it be better. Secret, get a woman who doesn’t require a lot of work bc once you finished everything beyond that feels like a chore.

  246. It’s simultaneously sad and comforted to see and hear from so many with religious trauma. It’s rather special isn’t it?

  247. Lol. So you personally are asexual. That’s fine. But not everyone is, and that’s also fine. Sex is not dirty, sinful, or gross. You simply don’t care for it yourself. But many do. And that’s none of your business. Stop focusing on judging others and try to find inner peace

  248. Went bad suggests that things turned toxic more than it suggests things just ended. From context it's pretty clear the relationship didn't end on amicable terms.

  249. Totally normal, I've done it, you've done it, everyone has done it Just keep that information to yourself and don't be a creep to people and you're fine

  250. Unless you have hyperspermia, you'll ejaculate less than a tablespoon of fluid. Usually not with much explosive power. If you do have hyperspermia, I bet you could fill a condom so much it would leak, but it still wouldn't just fly away like some bottle rocket.

  251. For every (1) size queen proclaiming their tool requirements, there are hundreds of people not saying anything, who do not have any preference towards above-average phalluses. What's curious, though, is among the women not saying anything are those who actively prefer average/smaller dicks. We get a lot of: “bigger ones can hurt” “there's more to sex than dick size” “most women don't orgasm from PIV alone” ​ but never once have I ever seen: “I miss my small dick ex” “only small guys satisfy me now” “his small size made the sex unreal” Conversely though, I have seen women say the above^ about big dicks. Countless times. Multiple in this very thread. ​ I think it's more likely that these women don't exist, or are an infinitesimally tiny minority, as opposed to there being tons of them who just conveniently are keeping it to themselves.

  252. Just put “don’t talk to me unless you’re 8+ (or however many inches it is you prefer) inches” and you won’t have to waste your time talking to disappointing, inadequate “men” ☺️

  253. Chastity cage him for a bit and keep him completely under your domination for however long , if of course desired by both parties 🙂 my man likes that

  254. Enjoy it when you can, both my wife and I are in our 50's and there is no way we can manage it without me being outside the car and her inside facing her girly bits out.

  255. Simple do what feels good for you, there’s no such thing as perfect sex, so when you are on top just listen to yourself as well as your partner and do what feels good

  256. Has your pain lessened since you posted this? Even though hyperspermia is a normal (but uncommon) condition, and overall nothing at all to worry about, it shouldn't really be hurting when you cum. If the pain hasn't/doesn't go away soon I'd think about seeing a doctor, even if its uncomfortable. And I know 7 times is already a ton, but maybe more would lessen them? Or maybe more powerful orgasms?

  257. I totally agree with you, so thank you for sharing. I’d be down to see a sex therapist but I don’t think he would ever even consider it. He doesn’t think he has a problem. I’m worried for my own mental health. I feel completely paralysed.

  258. This happens to me. New partner always new smell. In most cases, I thought I was allergic even. Honestly, I have never been with many men as I was always in long-term relationships. But previous men I had, I would almost always end up with infections. Was like instant ichy or burning sensation when they went inside me. Threw my levels way way off. Would happen for months before my vagina would accept/conform to them. Why I always hated new relationship sex when it would get to the point of no condoms/ trying for children. I always perfered condoms due to this. My current boyfriend I never had this issue at all. I question why… but then giggle and just say, 'He was made for me' like some romance line. Some are more sensitive than others. Some take a bit more time to adjust, and others never will. Some don't like like certain new people, others only like one person's. Vaginas can be flexible at times and other times a real c*nt.

  259. He isn’t sweet. He wants to control your sexuality and make you feel bad about your body. You are young – you deserve to enjoy your youth. Ditch the loser.

  260. Agreed.. maybe I've read it wrong but I didn't get the impression that OP has this ort if intimacy with her partner if it's always a surprise when he gets home.

  261. If you feel like you can’t enjoy your own body because of this, then maybe breaking up with him is the right thing to do. He cannot make you feel/think/say anything. You think and feel for yourself. I think he should be less comparative, though.

  262. I had the same issue, and I went to my Dr, got a script for Sildenafil (viagara) and it has changed everything. We’ve had sex with it twice so far and they’ve been two of the best sex sessions we’ve ever had in 15 years. Do it.

  263. Doesn't want to disappoint you, but then shows you the sex doll version of you that he got? This seems a very odd tactic in trying to avoid disappointment! As a favor to all the weird insecure nerds out there, which probably includes me, I kind of want to say, “sure, give him another chance!” But really, this isn't just weird, it is creepy. This isn't the sort of thing that comes up from someone that is usually very secure. If you give him another chance, best case is that things progress, and his insecurities jump up a notch or two. I cannot see anything positive coming out of trying to move forward with him in any way, but would expect some less than positive things. Move on.

  264. It’s different for many people, there’s already so much stuff going in in a house hold, we have 2 dogs, the house needs to stay clean and hair free, we need to keep the garden in shape, clothes need to be washed. Seems like a lot of extra slog to change those sheets every week even if they still smell fresh

  265. just clean them every week or two and deal with the crunchyness for a while or wash them every few days

  266. Yeah the friction was a bit too much, he thought it was just a different feeling raw rather than with a condom

  267. How do you plan to find this person? Not many people hold their hand up to having a small penis. You can grope them when making out

  268. You can. And should. I have asked 14 different men to be vocal. I was very clear that I need that to enjoy sex. I told them I wanted to hear moans and groans. And every single one of them assured me they could and would do that. And every single one of them was silent. Even while cumming I only ever found one noisy man, and he was just that way naturally

  269. Contacting a doctor is essential if you're bleeding this much and better safe than sorry when it comes to your health. A few important things you may want to remember for a healthy sex life: If it hurts during sex you need to stop. Assess the pain, slowing down or stopping entirely can be necessary and that's okay. Safety and comfort come first. Your vagina is not disposable and your physical well-being and health need to be a primary concern. The vagina is a muscle that can stretch wide enough to birth babies but during sex it can take 30 minutes to warm up in some instances. No two people are identical but pain past the rupture of the hymen isn't normal, it's a sign that something can be wrong. Little to no foreplay, no stretching, no lube, putting it in too fast or moving too fast without giving the vagina time to adjust to the size of the penis after insertion can cause pain and possibly tearing. Don't rush in and don't push through the pain. If your vagina feels tight: foreplay, lube, patience and stretching using fingers or toys are all essential steps. Take it slow. Get to know your own body and pay attention to it. If you're worried slowing down will be an issue for your partner please remember you can get a new lover but you can't replace your vagina. Just hope this helps. Good luck.

  270. If you used a dental dam do you think it would be enough “protection” that he would consider it? I feel for you tho… oral is amazing.

  271. YOU haven't given a single argument. I'll humor you. It's okay specifically because the adults actively and clearly consented to the activity. If adults agree to do something together and that activity does not affect any other people, there is no reason why they should be prevented from engaging in their activity. It doesn't have a negative effect on those participating. It doesn't have a negative effect on anyone not participating. It doesn't violate any aspects of ethical consent. There is no reason to stop them from doing what they enjoy together. You keep saying that they should be prevented. Why? If you want to use examples, then they need to be equivalent examples. Adults who clearly and actively consent to an activity that does not affect any other people.

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  273. This is a few things they do to make it look bigger (from another post) ​ 1) Use a wide angle lens on your camera, the wider the better (or more obvious distortion of reality) 2) Put your dick near the edges of the frame, especially the longer sides (if in portrait mode, near the top or bottom…landscape: put it on the left or right pointing towards center to maximize length gain) 3a) Get the camera close to it, and either put something of a known size in the distance, partially obscured by the massive amount of dick **OR** 3b) Get the camera close to it, and put something in the background that most people would assume is larger than what your actual item is. Want to compare to an apple? Find a smaller than average apple. People will not think about how big the actual apple is but instead just note it is an apple and wow, how massive your dick is comparatively. 4) If you have a partner, make sure they are small (see 3b) in stature. Keep them further away from the camera than your dick. If your partner is laying down, have them lay down so their torso is stretching away from the camera, not across the whole frame of the pict. That will make their body appear larger by comparison. 5) Rarely should you ever get your hands or other body parts near your dick, they will ruin the illusion.

  274. A Web search on “ssris genital numbness” turned up several articles. Just to cite 2, 2018, 2019. Grim reading.

  275. I wasn't trying to imply that you are shallow – I don't know where this idea of having a size preference makes a person shallow came from? And I'm speaking as a man which means I could potentially BE shamed for my size. I was just asking because of a couple of the comments you made in your post where you say his smaller size caused you apprehension. If he knows how to please you in bed then that is great! I'm not sure where your apprehension comes from in that case, which is why I speculated what I did. What you are going through is simply the natural transition of having been with one partner for a LONG time ( you say further down that you were married) and now having to get used to someone new. Relax and continue to learn this new man's body, that way you'll learn how to make him give you the “oh fuck” and the “oh my god” that you are looking for – it just might not be in the ways you are perhaps “used” to – he might have different things he enjoys. I apologise though, if you felt I was insulting you as that was not my intention – as I said, I don't think having a size preference makes a person shallow at all; they would only be shallow if that then made them act out in ways to deliberately shame their partner for it.

  276. nobody takes “a couple of minutes to completely finish ejaculating”.. that's lol… and that's how i know this post is not real. also, “he cums in my pussy multiple times a day”… i don't really believe this either. 99% of women aren't about to allow themselves to be some dude's personal cum dumpster multiple times a day, on-call, like they don't have a choice or body autonomy. sheesh. you must be bored man.

  277. Is there anything medically going on with him that could contribute to it? Asking from personal experience

  278. be there, be engaged. take the lead. be active. so many pillow princesses out there who just lie there. men want to be desired also. show how you desire him. so many women say they are embarassed or shy about it. if you cant open up with your partner and be engaged and take the lead sometimes, then who can you ever do it with? its super hot when my lady throws me down on bed and proctically rips my clothes off me so she can get what she wants.

  279. Frankly, the idea to masturbate always came about at times I didn't want sex, like at times I actively preferred masturbating to having sex, and the idea of having sex wasn't even appealing in those moments. Is that weird?

  280. He said he got his boner because I was turned on, not because of me specifically. I mean I could have been any girl and if that girl said she was turned on then he would have had a boner.

  281. This didn't age well. I'd wager you're having difficulty orgasming because he keeps calling you a whore. Hard to be vulnerable with someone who punishes you for it. Just one more reason to dump him, honey.

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  284. Well…coming from another woman, this means a lot to me. Ty! Also, I'm almost always available to answer questions if you have more!

  285. Congrats to you both! Sex is supposed to be fun and help you both feel closer to one another. Go slow… like slow down all the movements. Talk to each other about what turns you on before you even take your clothes off! Keep checking in with one another as you go. Skyn condoms for the win.

  286. Are you trying to tell me you wouldn't like being able to lay there while your partner ravages you? ?

  287. You’re placing a moral judgement to women who have a lot of sex. I know you don’t mean to, but it’s clear that you do. “Girls who were into all that” “She’s the last person you’d expect” “She’s very innocent. She doesn’t even swear” “Just two random guys she barely knew” All of these statements show that you have a pretty negative view of women who have sex.. or that there are certainly conditions by which you think it’s okay to have sex. Your girlfriend is the same person you know whether she has slept with a hundred men or none at all.. so why does it matter? I think you need to do some serious self reflection about your ideas around sexuality and in particular female sexuality because I think you’ll find that you’re harbouring some really negative stuff, whether you mean to or not. Either you live your girlfriend for who is IS or you don’t.

  288. You’re placing a moral judgement to women who have a lot of sex. I know you don’t mean to, but it’s clear that you do. “Girls who were into all that” “She’s the last person you’d expect” “She’s very innocent. She doesn’t even swear” “Just two random guys she barely knew” All of these statements show that you have a pretty negative view of women who have sex.. or that there are certainly conditions by which you think it’s okay to have sex. Your girlfriend is the same person you know whether she has slept with a hundred men or none at all.. so why does it matter? I think you need to do some serious self reflection about your ideas around sexuality and in particular female sexuality because I think you’ll find that you’re harbouring some really negative stuff, whether you mean to or not. Either you live your girlfriend for who is IS or you don’t.

  289. For a second I was like “Uh, I need to try that!”. And then I read your comment and…. I really don't want stains on everything! Is it that bad?

  290. A lot of things influence pelvic floor health. People bring up kegels a lot, and reverse-kegels to balance them out. r/pompoir is worth a look as well. I strongly recommend seeing a pelvic floor physiotherapist rather than a gynaecologist as they’re more likely to have insight on sexual pleasure rather than just health.

  291. You tell man, you are the one feeling “shitty” and “insecure”. Any person who has empathy for his/her SO in a relationship wouldn’t be so unabashed while communicating. That speaks volumes that she doesn’t give a damn about your feelings in the heat of the moment and is more bothered as to what she needs. Its a two way street mate, it doesn’t work one way

  292. To be fair I never said anything about hotels in my original comment. If I wanna deal with blood in my own laundry for a good time and a good story. All day and night long

  293. I think you should completely stop. I don’t think that’s going to make you a one min unless you’re planning to stop for a rlly long time (like over 6 months). From her pov, her bf needing a rlly tight grip is prob gonna freak her out more than him coming fast ever would. If anything, she might be flattered and take coming fast as a sign you like her a lot. Just make sure you finish her if that happens. From your pov, not enjoying your first time w your gf sounds a lot worse than coming fast. Plus there’s ways to prevent that from happening. Think of sad things or take breaks.

  294. I have weirdly specific insight into this! So I lost my virginity on my period, it was fucking awful. I'm not sure of the science of it but my guess is the hormones or maybe the physicality of it, but something about it, caused my period to stay. My cycle was supposed to have ended the next day, it lasted for 2 more weeks. It was so frustrating! I also felt really nauseous during the actual sex part, like I had to take breaks bc I felt like I was going to throw up. I've had sex on my period since then and it's been fine. I really think it was just the impact of it being my first time. Whatever reaction my body had to it was my own so I'm not saying the same will happen to you, I'm just saying maybe save period sex for when you're more comfortable with sex in general?

  295. Easier said than done but it could be nerves. I struggled to cum too in the beginning, but one time I was able to think 'fuck it, I'm just gonna enjoy the intimacy and I'll see what happens' and then it went better!

  296. Depends on how messy it gets. I usually intend to do that, but on heavy days I might end up in the shower anyway to avoid staining the sheets.

  297. Why is this a post? What’s the issue? You’ve explained your side and then even gave yourself a solution.

  298. This is exactly what I needed to hear. Very accurate and relatable! This is appreciated beyond words but we’ll definitely have to fix ALOT of things or just end certain things . Again thank you !!!

  299. Are you able to get turned on and hard by yourself? It’s normal for your sex drive to decrease a little bit once you’ve gotten past the honeymoon phase but from my experience and knowledge the desire and excitement are usually still very much there. If it’s a major problem I’d suggest seeing a doctor, certain medications like antidepressants etc can massively lower sex drive, same with stress and mental/ physical health problems, it also could just be a phase you’re going through right now which is completely normal but if it’s been a long term problem it could be an indication of another issue, there are also things you can do to increase your drive at home

  300. Wtf, if a guy showed all his buddies a sex tape with gf its disgusting and abusive. SAME GOES FOR VICE VERSA. Dump her disrespectful ass.

  301. They’ve been dating for 4 years. He can’t still be clueless. This sounds like a relationship circling the drain. For what reason, I don’t know.

  302. My partners have always sucked me for a while and I’m always rock hard. I’ve never had it go fast. Oral sex should be a marathon.

  303. It’s only been a month and you’re already thinking about cheating on him because he doesn’t satisfy your needs. Better rip the bandaid off and look for someone you’re compatible with.

  304. Ok nvm I think iv mostly figured out what they like and what to do. Any advice is still appreciated tho.

  305. Well, you two could start by picking out a few names for the baby. Seriously though, unless you are medically 100% impossible to get pregnant (for example you are a trans girl, or you had your uterus or both ovaries removed) you need to be using birth control. This is assuming you are both monogamous and getting tested together for STIs regularly.

  306. It doesn’t matter. There is no universal preference. Maintain it in a way that makes you feel confident.

  307. Not only is this wrong, but you need to ask yourself this; are you ever going to be comfortable having sex with her again?

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  309. Have you ever had a relationship? Fwb may be hard for you since you may not be able to separate the line or fwb vs relationship

  310. Thanks. When I play with my nipples myself (for example during masturbation) I don’t feel that much.

  311. One of the first paragraphs in that article says it burns less than going for a run or going to the gym lol I agree it's exercise, but I would not classify it as a good way to burn calories. You're much better off just exercising normally to burn calories. Source: I went through personal trainer certification, studied kinesiology in college, have exercised regularly for over 20 years, create workout/diet plans for others and worked in a physical therapy clinic as a PT assistant.

  312. I can guarantee yours looks like everyone else does. Hair grows there for a reason, it protects the skin. Do not put chemicals around your vulva or butthole. You don't want to have to go to the hospital and explain that chemical burn. Don't change your body, especially your intimate and private areas, to please someone else. If you're having sex with someone who would be upset that you grow hair where everyone grows hair or that your butthole is a certain color… maybe don't have sex with them. Sex is about connection, care, and pleasure. It doesn't sound pleasurable to bleach your asshole and it doesn't sound caring to want your partner to change their body like that. Also, you are deserving of true genuine care. I'm sorry you were made to feel like you have to look perfect or like a porn star for your partner to want to have sex with you.

  313. Sounds like a mental block and you want it sober. Do it sober. He will want it then too. You will also enjoy it.

  314. A true friend, you do exactly what she needs, so why would this happen? I wonder what your friend's real thoughts are.

  315. No, less than 20% of women never come from PVI. There is definitely a gap though, 65% chance for women in relationships compared to about 95% of men.

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  317. if you are a believer, i would talk to other christians about this issue, not this sub…… she has a valid reason to want to stop until youre married, but the decision should come from both of you. You should consider posting this in r/TrueChristianity

  318. He cares about you deeply, but doesn’t give a shit about your health? Constant yeast infections are terrible, why would you subject yourself to that constantly? There are latex-free condoms, that’s just a lame excuse. Sounds like he just doesn’t wanna use condoms. Sperm can mess up your PH balance for sure, but I wouldn’t think every single time. He’s most likely not cleaning himself properly. I wouldn’t want to have sex with my husband either if I got a yeast infection every single time. Respect yourself, and tell him to get to a doctor, or use latex-free condoms.

  319. Okay that's alot of rambling and you seem to be missing the whole point entirely. Your too fixated on what he's doing “wrong” and her body her choice. To see the underlying problem here. So im going try one more time to explain what everyone else in this post has clearly understood. Let's change Sex to something else say become a vegan or vegetarian. If your partner suddenly came up to you one day and said I've thrown away all the meat/animal products. And WE will no longer be eating any meat or animal products. Without asking you for your opinion or discussing it with you. Wouldn't you be pissed or upset. You can apply the situation to anything. Any major changes in the relationship should be discussed and talked through properly. At the end of the day they've made a pretty major decision about the relationship without the partners Input. Which is the issue here, it's not about the sex. It's about her not respecting him enough to sit down and say look I'm thinking about abstaining from sex before marriage. Is this something you will be okay with. Because yes whilst it is her body her choice. And she's welcome to do whatever she wants, she can't expect him to just suddenly change and go along with it on a whim. What she's done is taken away his choice and forced him into abstaining with her. At no point has she considered his thoughts/needs or feelings. She's decided that's what she wants so that's what's going to happen. Which is a horrible mindset to have for anyone in a relationship. You're partners and you shouldn't be making any decisions that impact the relationship without the Input of the other.

  320. I don’t want to stress you out!!! She didn’t know it was in her still, said she didn’t feel anything just some discomfort ??‍♀️ I’m sure your fine but I would get checked to be safe.

  321. I think it's crazy sexy watching a woman's face expressions when you have her on her back with her knees pushed to her chest an you just give her the tip for a min or so an then when she's not expecting it you go right past the tip an go deep

  322. He's either 1) comfortable enough with you that the anxiety has passed. 2) something was different where he was very turned on and his 75% erection became 100% 3) you've just described what viagra does to a penis in regards to getting and maintaining blood flow.

  323. Totally. I never see people note the difference between the two. It’s night and day. Cialis is a life changer!

  324. I'm gonna be honest it's quite a turn on for me, and it makes it easier to give your partner pleasure.

  325. If she isn't putting in the work and you need more it sounds like you're not sexually compatible at all. You have talked to her a few times and she has really gave you a half ass answer to it. So if you're putting in the work on your part and she isn't on her part, yeah you could be just straight up and ask why isn't she doing these things but at that point you might as will realize you might just have to move on.

  326. He raped you, he is absolutely sickening and he is so gross. Just please leave him and reach out to people close to you for safety.

  327. As a curvy thicc fat bottom short girl, thank you. Your friends suck though and are jealous you are happy and get more everything than they do. Keep doin' what you're doing king and get new/better friends.

  328. Well it is because you are not that attracted to her. I had it once in my life that I did sex with a girl who I found out did not attract me so much, it was harder to orgasm than normally for me then too.

  329. I’m 26 and have been with around 30 people (but have been monogamous since I was 21) which is probably above average but it doesn’t feel like it. I don’t think I set out to have a lot of sex I was just open to opportunities that came my way and had a lot of fun. I’m such a serial monogamist that when I was between relationships I experimented a lot with friends etc and my only regret is not doing it more

  330. There really isn't a normal when it comes to the vulva or aspects of the human body in general 🙂 They are all unique in their own ways and though sure maybe general shapes and colours may be more common, but that doesn't make the shape you have any less normal and perfect for your body. Please don't be self conscious!

  331. I was always scared to talk to girls even if they approached me because I feared getting judged. IMO those guys are voicing their own insecurities. You do you. Let them be insecure.

  332. We do this quite often. It’s wonderful. We also discover our kinks by being open about them and being willing to try things.

  333. FOR REAL like damn, I def got so turned off when guys would just be like “damn, so hot” like ??? can you attempt to be interested? My bf thankfully is not that way

  334. Before my mom passed away I was a very positive person but then after I just lost myself in grief. My mom passed away from cancer and only had 4 months from the time of her diagnosis til the day she passed. It was already in stage 4 by the time the doctors found it. For roughly 2 I was angry ALL the time. I finally went to see a therapist and got some help so I'm starting to get better slowly but hey progress is progress. I'm sorry about your wife.

  335. With my breeding kink that I share with my fuckbuddy, usually it can be with or without a Plan B, or the pull-out method (risky). Or even condomed, and just playing along as if he's not wearing anything. But yknow, sexy stuff like whispering into his ears about how physically hot I find him in excessive detail, how his masculinity, fit body, his strength and gorgeous eyes and lips would make him a 'perfect candidate' for strong and healthy offspring, how my body craves him carnally and subconsciously wants him to breed me like a rabid animal so bad, moaning into his ears that I love/am obsessed with him, want his kids, want them to look like him, etc And on his end, usually just telling me how 'fertile' and fit my body is, ('you've got nice child bearing hips, look at these', 'so nice and slim, so perfect for breeding',) and saying how he wants to get me pregnant so bad. Or sometimes, even pretending he doesn't want to nut inside me, as I pretend to be obsessive and craving his cum, begging for him to nut in me since 'you subconsciously want it, you know i'm the best mate/match, it's why you're going raw just for me'. Then a lot of hot, raw passionate romantic and animalistic sex with next to no verbal limitations! It's nice, and usually ends with a huge mutual orgasm and their load spilling inside of me, OR them pulling out at the last second and exploding all over me or them. It's GREAT. A little too good. He likes it a lot, despite also getting a tad paranoid after. (hence, aftercare is cuddles with a lot of “Don't worry, I'd get an abortion. I'm not ovulating. We're fine. Shhh.”)

  336. definitely consult with a doctor – it could be vasovagal like a lot of other people have suggested, but you won't know for sure until she gets checked out. i have dysautonomia which puts me in pre-syncope often & severe heart rate fluctuations where it'll spike and drop, and i have passed out during sex multiple times. her experience sounds similar to mine, but if it doesn't affect her day-to-day then it may be something completely different. either way, passing out consistently is something that HAS to be checked out, because it usually winds up being low oxygen and other nutrients in the brain and can damage it over time.

  337. Blood can rush to your aroused area leaving lack of blood supply in the brain and cause light headedness or in more extreme cases, passing out. This happened to me after having my daughter, which I had a stage 4 tare with. It's gotten better over time but she should see the Dr. Get her iron levels checked. Even now sometimes after a more exhausting sex session or after orgasm I get super light headed and just have to lay there and wait for it to pass, I'll even get nausea sometimes. It's also worse in the shower cause the steam. My fiance has had to catch me a couple times.

  338. I agree with you, but that's not really what I mean when I say worse. I’m talking about worse for the sake of the relationship, even if it can be not as damaging, if the relationship ends then that’s a worse scenario than just finding one red flag

  339. We have no way of knowing why he does this. He is the only one who knows, so you’ll have to ask him.

  340. Maybe it’s nerves. I suggest going on a casual date and depending on how that goes, go from there!

  341. The comments on this post are not it. First of all, it doesn’t have to be “he’s ungrateful” or “your sex drive is too high”. By your own comments, the issue is only oral and it’s only sometimes that he declines. So it sounds like he just isn’t in the mood to get a blowjob sometimes and there’s nothing wrong with that. That out the way, anyone saying something’s mentally wrong with him or that he’s ungrateful is being gross. Men are within their rights to not want blowjobs (or sex) every day (or any other interval), period. And if this whole discussion had the gender roles reversed those comments would not be here. Finally, men aren’t robots. They don’t always have to have sex and they definitely aren’t obligated to say yes to sex whenever it’s offered to them. And this needs to be normalized.

  342. I've been around since before the Internet existed, and people have always said stupid stuff like this. So have I. And it stems from misogyny.

  343. There are many different body types and people who like them, check out r/normalnudes to see the positivity towards different types

  344. I have always preferred outies. They just make me feel like the woman is more mature for some reason. Same as having a trimmed bush. Give me a woman with a triangle patch and outie labia, I'm a happy camper. Don't be self-conscious about your labia, it's what you were given to work with. Just be clean down there and let him feast.

  345. My partner specifically requests super sloppy BJs, I for sure have to be in the right mood for them because all that saliva — even though it’s mine is a bit much ???

  346. While doing her doggie style she reaches under and starts massaging my balls. I pretty much tap out immediately

  347. Some women will say they don't want sex but still put out when it comes down to it. Guys are not as satisfied with the go to someone's place BUT NO SEX plan as women are, so they push for more. If it upsets 10 women who weren't going to put out anyway, who cares, and if one gives in, great. Short term douchebag thinking in action. In bigger cities you may well never see these people again so the incentive to do it and ability to get away with it is much higher.

  348. Because this sub has a very strong bias towards female sexuality and often dismisses the male side of things.

  349. I guess you could get some toys and masturbate more if you otherwise value your relationship. However these differences tend to grow over time and might cause resentment if you feel “neglected”

  350. neither of us want children so it’s the last thing we want to happen. i’ll definitely talk to my doctor when i’m back from the city.

  351. Thanks for asking about this…it’s always seemed weird to me. I don’t buy the “power-play” thing…if it was, the term “boss” or “master” seems more fitting. But I suspect the people claiming that are also the one that keep the “Step sister/mother/brother” videos at the top of the offerings on PornHub.

  352. Oh no. Yeah that's what I feared. I can't have kids though due to some of the health issues but goddammit I was hoping 30 would be the final “ok back to 1 and done” step and I'd be in the clear.

  353. You’re probably reading too much into this It could be alcohol, especially if this was the first time you had alcohol with him, maybe this is a common problem with alcohol for him I’m not usually an ask him guy, but ask him, and be gentle since he’s probably a bit self conscious about it

  354. While there could be multiple reasons for painful sex , lack of foreplay and him rushing to PIV is common. Make sure you are well lubricated and he takes it slow , doesn't penetrate to deep if he is bigger. Then if pain persists see your doctor.

  355. Your safe word is the STOP button. It's there for your safety. If you were working at a factory and the boss decided that he wanted to override all of the STOP buttons on the factory floor, what would you do?

  356. How can a person be asexual and have a high libido? Libido is sexual desire and asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction (a synonym of desire). I realize that there are a lot of different kinds of asexuality, but libido seems antithetical to the entire experience. I’m genuinely curious

  357. The Lord of his 8th is in the house of Scorpio in 5th, together with his Scorpio Stellium make a exact Square to his Venus in 8th. Domicile strong Scorpio Mars, Scorpio Saturn, Scorpio Pluto all in 5th house of sex and romance, make a Square to his Aquarius Venus in 8th. Fixed sign Mars, fixed sign Venus. Anyways, can we cast astrology aside and let just use BDSM to solve this here because he clearly has a kink. https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMAdvice/comments/12z3woh/husband_likes_unexpected_rough_sex_some_kind_of/ I posted in BDSMAdvice, can you help give me your input in there. I know my post is long but I need to give examples, and it alot to unpack. Thank you Miss.

  358. Also to sum it up a little better after my long-ass paragraph. As you’re adjusting to her change in body shape, she may be doing the same thing too. For me there was weight loss that wasn’t sustainable so honestly it took a year or two for my body to shift into what I consider a “natural state”. Where I wasn’t restricting food and eating well over 2,000 cals a day and also being active and weight lifting. So hang with her thru this. Fully understand the attraction thing, that is valid, but bodies can change, especially women’s bodies, hers may shift again, so just keep being an awesome husband thru this, which is sounds like you are!

  359. Do you ever read things to gain an unbiased understanding from text or do you just always attach preconceived ideologies that align in no form or fashion with what the writer expressed? The statement you give here bastardizes everything OP wrote. It’s very easy to find the maladjusted sjw’s in the comments. They’re the ones taking what was clearly written with genuine intent and twisting it into something fouled by their slanted ideas.

  360. HOW IS THIS SUCH A RECURRENT TOPIC ON REDDIT? WHO ARE THESE MEN WHO WALK AROIND ALL DAY COVERED IN SHIT? wtaf. I don’t want to live on this planet anymore.

  361. Enough? Cowgirl is one of the positions where you can hit depth all the way, so a lot of potential to hit her cervix which doesn’t feel great. Every woman has a different vagina but with 5 inches you really shouldn’t worry about not pleasing her.

  362. There's no telling what could've caused it. Most likely nerves because it probably is his first outside his ex. No way to tell that without asking, though. Best thing you can do is remain supportive and encouraging and maintain clear communication. Extra stress will only make it worse.

  363. Girl, minimal foreplay, max 1 minute of oral, pushing your toys away, and always wanted fast and hard jackhammering instead of the grinding that would get you off IS being bad at sex. There are very few women this would work for. You're giving him a pass to continue to not bother learning the needs of his partners and fulfilling them.

  364. I am here for this level of petty and more of us women should do this to selfish lovers. Maybe then they’ll know how we feel.

  365. My boyfriend always starts it, every morning after we get to spend the night together. I wake up to him inside me and it is amazing. I love the thought of him taking advantage of me sleeping lol and he already has my consent he knows that. It is a feeling like no other waking up to it

  366. That's not what I said. They all have to take some ownership of the fault for not having the discussion about boundaries beforehand. That's when you discuss things like STD testing history, birth control status, and where the jizz will eventually end up. In the end this particular situation was a disaster waiting to happen

  367. First thought. He wasn't feeling horny at that exact time or was for some reason overthinking in the moment. All other reasons are less common and only he can truly answer this question.

  368. Motorcycle won’t start. Stock market is down. Boss is an asshole. Mother is sick. Best friend hasn’t called back. Lost a game of pool. Favorite sports team lost a game. Doesn’t know where Wally is. Can’t pay next months rent. Leaves in the gutters. Dog is old. Hasn’t been to the gym this week. Been to the gym this week. Drunk. Not drunk. Confrontation in traffic. Global warming. … Could be anything.

  369. Go and see a doctor! If there are no obvious causes then you want this looking into as soon as possible, because a droopy cock can be a symptom of a serious underlying condition.

  370. He sounds lame, this should be an exciting challenge for him to find what works for you. Orgasmic sex has many layers that you get to explore throughout your lifetime. Don’t let him give you a complex. If he doesn’t become more supportive and less lazy than drop his ass.

  371. Obviously your thoughts on porn are yours to have, but in the grand scheme of things you should ask yourself why this is a problem for you as long as you're getting the amount and quality of sex that meets your needs and desires. If they answer is no then that is indeed a problem that needs to be addressed. But if they answer is yes then why have a problem with it? Masturbation is a completely normal and healthy thing in or out of a relationship. It does not often mean the masturbator is unhappy with their partner or unattracted to them or anything else. It means that they like cumming to fantasies. Is masturbating to thoughts the same thing? If not, then why not? It's still using outside visual stimuli to arouse oneself to orgasm. Why is it different to fantasize about a thought instead of a video or photo? Humans fantasize. Every human. You, me, Queen Elizabeth on her deathbed (probably some weird furry shit about a corgi-man). Fantasizing is not a problem, it's what we do with the fantasies that can be a problem. You should talk to your partner about this and understand what he thinks about it all and also interrogate your own thoughts about fantasy and reality and how that plays into relationship fidelity.

  372. Porn shop Boner pills work great You don’t need a prescription. In fact, you can send a way for them.

  373. It isn't so much as just sucking and bobbing. More like make out with it. The shaft isn't as sensitive as the head or frenulum; but, don't neglect it. Another good rule is to treat it how you want a guy to treat you clit. This incudes not doing what you wouldn't want done.

  374. Then they're just having shitty sex where he gets off by PiV and she is still unhappy. How is that progress?

  375. Reminds me of my last relationship. One bit of advice: bounce. Get out of that relationship now. There are women who don’t require a rock concert’s worth of stimulation to orgasm. Sex is so much more enjoyable when you can relax and be yourself.

  376. Certainly, but many people, especially men, can't open up about stuff like that and everything starts with good communication. That is why I added it.

  377. I am okay making the first move but after I initiate I want to feel excitement from my partner to feel desired, such as him getting handsy, giving me that look and then keeping up that energy. Unfortunately most of the time it doesn't happen this way. The last time I got him to really “initiate” where he looked at me like that and led me to the bedroom was when after our son went to sleep I asked him to trim me down there and had my leg up on the bathtub then got on all fours so he could do the back more easily.

  378. honestly it could just be about comfortability with the person. before i started dating my bf i’d get sm anxiety w sex, that i couldn’t even stay turned on, but once i got w my bf, i felt very relaxed. you don’t have to be dating someone to feel comfortable enough to have sex, but maybe someone you can be friends or comfortable around. one night stands are not always ideal for everyone

  379. Getting you through crisis is very important but it's doesn't sound like they are especially if you have stopped taking the meds because they weren't helping. Something needs to change in how your care is being managed.

  380. Be straight up with him. Tell him a day a time that you are going to fuck his brains out. If he declines or cancels, move on and find someone you're more compatible with.

  381. This sounds like something a couples therapist could help you both with. I was just listening to an episode of a podcast, entitled Permission for Pleasure, about this: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/permission-for-pleasure/id1555169719?i=1000569753319 The interviewee is a marriage and family therapist. He comes from a religious background with a bit of an anti-porn slant, but he seemed pretty fair. He characterizes the issue of unhealthy porn use as people rely on porn for a quick dopamine boost when they are feeling low or stressed. He focuses a lot of the feelings of betrayal that a person may experience when discovering that their partner/spouse has secretly been watching porn and lying about it for many years. When the therapist works with couples facing this as a problem in their relationship, he focuses on how to restore trust.

  382. Ooohhh this too! I forgot to mention it, it’s such a turn off when they are dead silence, I’m super noisy so it really makes me uncomfortable AF when they are silent lol.

  383. I'm sorry, but that behaviour is just rude and disrespectful. Your partner isn't following very nice sex etiquette

  384. Sounds like you definitely still have your own issues to work through and he has his. I think I can somewhat get where you're coming from though as while being tall and kind of hung, I'm definitely not very attractive and can't do what women expect me to.. and I feel sorry for whatever woman ends up with me and my huge hands that are going to make her feel very small when I grab her… it'd take like a 1500cc+ implant to actually feel big in my huge hands. (the size Heather Harmon has if you want to see what I mean) I'm curious as to how you're built and what he's drooling over (among other things) but I think that's prying a bit too much, especially in the open here. I hope you can find a way to feel better about yourself. I know how much it sucks to not feel attractive or wanted.

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