Very practical question! There seems be a safer, better way than crushing. That exposes a person to the danger of getting even a speck of chemical on the tongue that's going to cause damage, or at least create a ghastly taste that lasts for hours. What if you absent mindedly rub your eyes before rinsing off the hands? You could before swallowing the capsule rinse it under running water. I would break the tablet just into halves, and drop the halves into the blank capsule.
Here's a few pro tips. Get a clear understanding of the rules regarding being able to touch the dancers upfront. Don't make eye contact with any dancers that you don't want to come over to you. Be polite. You'd be amazed how far treating the dancers like ladies as opposed to cheap whores will get you. It sounds counter intuitive but if you treat the dancers like they're fully dressed they tend to be more comfortable around you. Strip club drinks are expensive for no reason, and there's no guarantee they'll even carry your drink of choice. So I pregame in the parking lot before I walk in. I keep your singles and larger bills in different pockets. Because I've seen a guy toss $100 when he meant to throw her $5 If there's a particular dancer you want to see tipping a waitress to get her for you is probably the fastest way to get her to your table. These are a few that came to mind immediately but I could probably go on.
Yeah but seriously, they are more common in third world countries then in western ones. And in Germany for example, you would always go use a condom on first dates or stuff, but mostly to avoid pregnancy and not because you always think about possible STDs… they are not common at all here. As i said, i am astonished, how often this topic gets posted here.
Being completely honest and transparent about our sex life, desires, fantasies, etc., was the BEST decision we even made. It took about 30 years. Highly recommend. Your wife may surprise you and have some kinks and sexual fantasies herself. Hiding your true self or your desires is never the way. Talk outside of the bedroom, one on one. This conversation is WAY overdue, my man. Good luck!!
That's fair, and it would also depend on what you were fighting about. I probably have had sex after a fight in that case. I guess my impression, which I'm now realising comes from TV, is that you have sex instead of resolving the fight, which seems super unhealthy to me. I'm not into toxic stuff, happy and stable makes me horny
I'm 40F (and typing that out is hard…lol) but at 39 I felt like I was still in my 20s sexually. I feel like the only difference between the decades is now I really care whether or not there is foreplay and whether or not I get off. Lol…have fun
Use them to tie her down and tease her. Once you have her “helpless” start kissing her thighs and working your way inwards but do not touch her clit. Make her beg.
If the problem is visual porn, i highly suggest you try audios (as cringy as they may feel to use) or to read erotica. Tho this is only if your issue is that you are starting to have trouble getting off without involving porn (like say, with a partner).
In that case I can only concur with peanutmanak47. Take it very slowly, just relax and get everything negative out of our head. Take your time with foreplay. You have nothing to prove. Just have a good time 🙂
This I highly agree with. I’ve had it before too. The antibiotics are awful! My ex had it, it was completely dormant for her, and I never received it from her. But she got treated for it once she found out.
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When i mixed it i had troubles with climax by myself. Masturbation also help with kegel muscle and it was too much. So i think it prevents when overextended.
Just break up You are not compatible He clearly likes sex You are not that sexual It just means you are not right with one another Now here you are asking of you were taped…
Makes me so mad. Same men will tell us breasts are sexualized for biological reasons not societal, but as soon as these same breasts serve their biological purpose they are disgusting? Us women are expected to swallow down jizz from guys that tastes like battery acid but milk is disgusting? Women have to put their body/lives at risk for pregancy and then get up every couple hours to feed a screaming baby. As someone not pregnant the idea of having milk in my tits freaks me tf out but we just adjust, but this man can't adjuts to becoming a decent fkn husband that doesn't change his wife's body that changed to birth and feed his children???
Is it so hard for you to open ur mind. Obviously we aren't going to change anyones minds. I'm asking a question. Is it better to have mindless sex on the side of a sexless marriage and keep the marriage and household, or is it better to break it up and destroy the other partners life and make them start all over again?
Teasing/build up . Work your way kissing down his body and gently running your fingers across the public area. Gently licking – base to tip – around the head etc switch it up – get it wet before you put it fully in your mouth Mix up between gentle sucking/running your tongue around simultaneously and moving up and down Throw a bit of deep throat in Simultaneously sucking and jerking off Add the occasional wanking break and give your jaw a rest ?? Just mix it up don't stick to one thing for too long, build up helps and start off slow and gentle. It's hard to explain it all really but all that always works for me , some men just don't cum from that alone, I think I've only made my fiance cum twice from oral alone, it's always the wanking that does it but very quickly coupled with the oral
No, it absolutely is 100% selfish. OP is talking about wanting to (essentially) keep their partner around for emotional intimacy, but go outside the relationship to obtain physical intimacy and satisfaction. Without it being discussed ahead of time – such as opening s relationship or whatever – it is absolutely out of bounds to go somewhere else to get that physical connection. Especially since this is ultimately going to lead to OP probably just not desiring Sex with their SO.
I wonder if he's on the asexual spectrum and is deflecting? Or is unhappy and trying to make you be the one to end things. Outside of the bedroom does he use the same random babble techniques when talking about other uncomfortable subjects? I had a GF that was like that once. As soon as I hit something hot button she would change the subject and talk complete nonsense. I'm also personally offended by his treatment of the belly. I'm a chonky guy, my type is chubby to bbw. I'm attracted to a nice tummy and think it's utterly disrespectful. All I can say is there are other men out there who will be attracted to you and give you the things you need sexually. You don't have to settle for this.
Nothing is perfect and every relationship has compromises but not in a way that is seriously lopsided. You will find a guy who has enough of the traits in and outside the bedroom to be compatible. It’s also a matter of learning how to be a good partner too and realizing what you want. You may have been focusing too much on the sexual connection in previous relationships but now I think you should be able to strike a better balance and understand what you want and need. I’m sorry if that means your current relationship ends, but I really think you will both be unhappy in the long run if you stay, and you DEFINITELY don’t want to be constantly fantasizing about cheating, but it does show how incompatible you are.
Paddling? You could use the back of a hairbrush to see if he'd like it. Wax is another one. Just be careful at first. Use candles with a lower melting temperature and avoid the genitals & nipples (the back is a good place to start with wax unless he's got a lot of hair there). I mean this for practice and being safer at the start. Once you know what you're doing, it's easier to do. I also don't mean waxing here but waxing is another possibility when it comes to pain. When you know what kind of pain he's into I'll probably have better suggestions. People who like thuddy pain (for example paddles) like different things than people who like stinging pain (whips/crops).
I’m the same as her. I have had +10 uti’s and the only thing that prevents this, is peeing after sex. Which I can’t if I just went. My solution is to drink 1-2 glasses of water before sex, if my bladder is empty.
When I met my husband, I was rebounding from one of those. Really didn't think it would go anywhere because I was fixated on this other person. I immediately knew the husband was a really great guy and I was super into him, but I worried about that piece maybe being missing. It was like a year in when I discovered his real sexual appetite that he'd been kind of suppressing so as not to scare me off. Once we'd communicated about that, all bets were off. I was all in, ride or die, nothing could separate us in this world or any other. My advice is to be extremely clear and up front and specific about what you're looking for going forward. Save yourself a lot of time, and find someone who wants what you want.
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I'll be honest – This feels more like a trolling question, but I'll give the benefit of the doubt and answer in case it helps someone else. Sexual thoughts when you aren't in a relationship is very normal. If they start to become obsessive or interfering with your daily life, that's when you should consider seeing a therapist. I for one, constantly think about sex, this is normal and I'm ok with it, I just make sure not to let it control my life. As for “bring ugly and not in a relationship” Many people look in the mirror and think they are ugly, but that's not usually how others see them – there's always going to be someone that finds you attractive, it's learning to recognize it that's the hard part. Only you can decide when it's right for sex and if you need to be in a relationship. There are plenty of men and women who have sex today without being in a relationship. My biggest advice for being more attractive – take care of yourself (hygiene, dress nice, brush your hair, etc) and try to do things that build your confidence – confidence increases other people's desire for you. I hope this addresses your concerns and good luck!
Sure, if the submission is part of the kink and the pain is just uncomfortable but not causing injury. But only if you’re genuinely ok with it emotionally.
That's a nice take, thanks. It's interesting bc they often tell me how relaxed/present I am, and how it makes them be able to relax and slow down and not think about anything else too. So I wonder if they're trying to reciprocate for me or something. Hm…
It's legal so you can do it, but you are in absolutely no position to tell people they aren't allowed to dislike you for doing it. That's like saying just because you are legally allowed to shout the N word we shouldn't be allowed dislike people who do.
First of all, did you read any of the post? I never answered no. I said I'd never considered this question and don't wish to. Also, I'm a lesbian. We don't know how to have bad sex. Try again.
He deserved every word you said. He’s been treating you like a human fleshlight for 3 years. You seriously deserve better than and ignorant, unempathetic, selfish man.
Guys growing up don't get a chance to “Learn” things to do to a girl until we end up with one willing to teach us. For most of us, they never learn anything at all and go on thinking that's how sex is. We pride ourselves on thinking, I don't need help, I'm fine. When we do. It's the same with women as well. I've had my fair share of women from the past who I've had to show, don't do thus but do this instead. Take it as constructive criticism not bashing. He seems to not want to learn and change. That's on him. Should he feel open to learning from you then by all means, best of luck to you both.
Read “The Sex God Method” by Daniel Rose. That's all I'm going to say. Good luck buddy, and hang in there. It gets better. Also, I would look at the frames you are setting up with these people. Most women will give you at least 2 chances at “proving” you are good at sex if they have more than a sexual interest in you. Not saying you are a bad or unlikable person but maybe your lack of confidence shines through. You may be shocked to find out that the reason they don't want to see you again has nothing to do with sex. Just to give you an exaggerated example – take the most arrogant, selfish, full-of-himself asshole but who is incredible in bed. Most women won't see that guy again either.
That made me giggle. As though you had a choice? Man going to a urologist saying I want a strong downward bend in my dick. The urologist pushes glasses up and says, “you want what?” With a look that says, Why the fuck would you want that?
Seriously, a ‘few’ other comments? Almost every comment on this post is trying to get you to see how insanely irresponsible you are. As someone else said, your defensiveness is really speaking volumes. If I am adding nothing to the post or your life, why are you still here putting your energy into it? I do pray for that man that y’all don’t get pregnant because you do not seem fun to deal with at all. Ps.. I love how you got upset at others for making so many assumptions yet here you are making assumptions about me that I’m American when I’m not.
Thank you for the response and advice! Wow that is awesome that you and your man enjoyed it. I think my wife would really love it also, she loves sex and having two men I think would get her off like never before, She told me she has had threesomes before but didn’t give more info and I didn’t press her for anymore info, But I think she would totally be into it if she knew it wouldn’t wreck our relationship. That is awesome you enjoyed it, Did your hubby enjoy it? Do you think he will want to do it again?
I'm assuming this guy is probably around 20 years old. Yea I don't think it would be very enjoyable these days, I would want to wait a few minutes, but not all that long, especially if I spooged right out the gate like that.
No shot you Ms. I am sure whatever you are saying is coming from a good place and I am grateful to you for being on the right side. Honestly things are not that complicated but its hard to give benefit of doubt in such scenarios. The guy here is young and his gf is messing up his mental wiring (maybe not intentionally but things like these can have deep scars on that person’s psychology ) Tomorrow they might break up but such comments will stay with him interfering in his other relationships. Hence its better to be cautious than sorry.
If she likes it, and you like it, I wouldn't worry about it. Unhealthy would be if you pressured her to do it/did it without her consent. I doubt it would turn into that though if you're already concerned enough to ask things like this. Just keep communication open! I personally find it hot as hell if I'm blowing a guy and he pulls up my lip to see himself in my mouth.
Very open communication is best. At your ages it is probably best for both of you to realize you don't know exactly how to please the other and ask what feels good as your experimenting. Good on you all for staying safe with a condom. I've never tried giving a blowjob to a guy with on but I do strongly suspect it would make you feel less as well as taste weird for her. Guys say sex feels way different with a condom vs without, and I expect a blowjob wouldn't be much different from your perspective.
Did you know that only 3% of the adult US population identifies as bisexual? But a lot of women identify as straight even tho they are sexually attracted to women and find thier bodies more of a turn on. They call themselfs straight because they can only ever see themselfs being in relationships with men
I think they're sexy on a woman (man here). However, if you think you looked sexy with them, and your then bf and now husband has changed his tone and wants you to have them, then what we all think doesn't matter. Worst case, you can always remove them if you change your mind. Much easier to undo than getting a tattoo done, for example.
Nothing wrong with it. The stuff I would think about are logistical stuff. If you go raw you want tests and informed consent if they go raw with someone else. Figuring out what kinks you want to explore with them (if any). Just be upfront and set out your boundaries and preferences.
If you love him, you could compromise and do it once or twice a year for him. I would only break up with a spouse if she refused to compromise. Like I'm not into anal ( I find it a bit disgusting tbh but not judging) However, if my gf loves it I'm going to do my best to give her what she likes sometimes. I won't do it everytime, but refusing to compromise for stuff like this is a redflag to me. What if he doesn't like giving oral ? Or kissing etc. Relationships are always about compromising.
Well I'll ask her cause here in HK it's a controlled substance and a prescription is a must. But my ED stems from my illness, and unless it goes away I'll forever be a limp dick loser??Starting at 20, I'm getting beta access to middle age problems, might start getting back pains or arthritis later
Well I'll ask her cause here in HK it's a controlled substance and a prescription is a must. But my ED stems from my illness, and unless it goes away I'll forever be a limp dick loser??Starting at 20, I'm getting beta access to middle age problems, might start getting back pains or arthritis later
He told me he was virgin and that he did not know anything about sex. Idk if anal really has anything to deal with your issue honestly. That is more the symptom not the disease situation.
That makes sense. I’ve got a long refractory period, so I wouldn’t get hard again unless she’s going to keep sucking it for at least a couple of hours lol.
DO NOT DO IT. I REPEAT. DO NOOOOOTTTT DO IT. YOU WILL REGRET THI AND NOTHING WILL EVER BE THE SAME. YOUR SO CALLED BEST FRIEND DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU OR HER FEELINGS. TELL HER TO FIND SOMEONE ON TINDER AND LEAVE YOUR BF ALONE.
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You said you saw his phone, did you not see what he was watching or searching for? If he were watching a lot of hardcore BDSM and then claimed that he wasn’t personally interested in it, I’d say yes that is unusual. But lots of porn is kind of vanilla in the sense it just goes blowjob > missionary > cowgirl > doggy > facial. Once you get passed all the wild female vocalization, giant dicks, and jackhammer thrusting it’s pretty vanilla (except maybe for the facial ?).
Should I completely block him out of my life? Yes definitely, that is a creepy dude. Before you cut him out of your life I suggest you let him know that you have saved a copy of your conversation and if you ever see this video anywhere or as much as here from anyone that they have seen it or heard about it then you are going straight to the police.
Just be naked most of the day! Doesn't have to be sex the whole time. Intimacy, touching cuddling etc. Make sure you have plenty of food and tasty treats and drinks. Plan a nice meal together, have some soft blankets clean and washed to use around the house
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Find someone that she deserves? Someone else who storms out of casual gatherings with friends and gives their partner the silent treatment for two days?! lol. Also, saying he “wags his tongue” is a big leap and judgemental as fuck.
No, but people have different preferences. There was a thread recently where a woman said her partner doesn't want to kiss her for days after she gives him a blowjob.
You are thoroughly incorrect. Look up “image based sexual abuse” and copyright laws as they relate to personal imagery. And “wire tap” laws apply to audio only, you dumb dumb.
If there is a god, why in the world would he give you al these sexual urges and then make you go to hell if you fulfill them? Sex is one of the most amazing and wonderful things about life and the notion that you can't masturbate or have sodomy or have sex with someone who's not your wife or whatever stupid rules different religions have is just ridiculous and are just dumb rules made up by some grumpy old men who wanted to control people. This is definitely not rules made by a loving god. These sounds more like rules made by some cult. If you personally don't want to watch porn or fornicate or whatever then great, don't. But I say live your life as you want and not as other people tell you to. If you want to jerk off every day, then go for it and enjoy. 🙂
If a woman is looking for a hookup then looks may matter (as in dating apps) but when it comes to choosing a life partner their internal radar flicks on and other things start to matter way more So while women are having hookups with other men thier 20s I have to wait and then once I am stable in my 30s these same women will look for me to setttle down once they had thier sexual fun? What type of women do you find attractive? Im into most types although I prefer women who are more natural or dont wear much makeup, im not into overweight women tho as I prefer slim/petite or average. Im not overweight myself so I want someone who is the same.
How about your guy using a fleshlight every time you have sex? If he needs a sex toy every time you have sex, you have no right to refuse that just because you feel insecure. He knows what he needs and wants and has no patience for people who would refuse his enjoyment. He's not going to praise your vagina every time he gets off with a fleshlight.
I have the best orgasms when I squirt also. My vaginal walls are contracting so tightly it's crazy. It's intensity ot off the planet. Clit orgasms are not as powerful for me.
She sounds like shes a great friend to him, and a shitty friend to you. Say no. If you've already said no, and hell, even if you haven't, as her, since she feels so bad for this guy, why hasn't she just done him the favor herself. You need a better friend.
The hole you are trying to penetrate is toward the bottom of the vaginal opening, try feeling around with your fingers first to figure it out. Honestly, using your fingers is the advice here more generally as well; lots of women are very anxious about their first time (which makes muscles tight!), and some women have never really tried putting anything inside themselves either. Lots of ladies masturbate just by stimulating their clit and don't finger themselves while doing so. If this is the case, then your GF has muscles she is flat out unused to using, or even being aware of! Go slow. Try putting in one finger, then have her clench down firmly. It can be hard to deliberately 'not' use a muscle, clenching down makes you more aware of the muscle, which then makes it easier to relax. Do this a few times. Clench, then relax, clench, then relax. Slowly move your finger in and out or roll it in little circles. Once she gets used to it, try a second finger, and then maybe a third. Same process each time. Go slow, make sure she is as relaxed as she can get. Once you get your dick inside, same deal. Go really slow. Wait for her to get used to the feeling. Clench and relax. If you're concerned about your own stamina, you can try getting her off with your fingers (and some tongue!) before putting your dick in. Don't forget that she needs to get hers!
I would suggest couples therapy. I know the assault was against you, but obviously, it deeply affected him as well. If he has not figured out how to deal with this, he needs some help as well. If he doesn't do anything, nothing will change more than likely
15 is not a high number. Having said that, who even cares? Also, you are under no obligation to share that number with anyone. If you feel someone will judge you based on that number, or any number, run away from them.
OP said she doesn’t want to do it anymore bc it tastes bad. So the point of his post is figuring out a way to not make it taste bad BECAUSE he doesn’t want her to stop giving him head… So she’s still going to have to taste test his cum on his behalf? That sounds sort of unfair don’t you think? He’s worried it really does taste bad but doesn’t want to see for himself?
On Amazon you can put waterproof blanket pads, it’s very thin and the top side is soft like a blanket but it’s super easy to wash. I think they are like $30, I have one for my senior dog, haven’t used it for the bed but don’t see why it would work
I orgasm from masturbation. I can’t from oral unless I’m really comfortable with a person which could take years. I’m bi but I’ve only been with guys I use lube sometimes but that doesn’t help me feel anything just helps it not hurt
What would you consider a porn addiction? Does it consume one to the point where it interferes with daily activity? Or more a dependency on watching porn to get off? No need to answer if that’s an uncomfortable question, just curious
You have no idea how happy I am to read this. Female bodies melt my brain sometimes despite all of my best intentions. I generally succeed in not ogling or otherwise causing discomfort but I'd be lying if I said I'd never ended up accidentally talking to a nice pair of boobs ?. It's just difficult sometimes!
Do you not just play with your penis when you’re bored? It’s something to do and it’ll react, it’s just not because of arousal. Exploring and playing with your body doesn’t have to be exclusive to arousal
Do you not just play with your penis when you’re bored? It’s something to do and it’ll react, it’s just not because of arousal. Exploring and playing with your body doesn’t have to be exclusive to arousal
That sounds a little rude of him. Something you could suggest or try is finishing with a condom. Go raw til he gets close then put the condom on and keep fucking til he cums.
Im happy for you too! But i think mine was more of me being nervous or thinking too much? Because I do masturbate a lot and have tried different methods, did it w porn, without porn, with audio porn, with a toy, on videocall but when it came to actual sex no matter how much a guy ate me out or rubbed on my clit while fucking I just couldn't? I was lucky enough to find a guy who put my comfort and pleasure first that took the time to actually focus all on me hehe.
This, also death grip isn't a real thing. At least too strong of masturbation isn't a very common cause of urological issues. It's probably just your brain having been conditioned by too much porn. Other common causes are anxiety, low testosterone, and diabetes or pre diabetic conditions.
Lift his testicles up, your thumb and forefinger tightly around the base of his penis like your trying to make a circle. Or make one if his anatomy allows it. Be absolutely sure you are not pinching his scrotum. This will bring stimulation to an area that tends to not get as much attention but definitely needs attention. Have your palm down on his perineum. While doing what I described above. If you can manage it- use your middle finger and reach to the bottom of his perineum where it feels soft and flesh ( just before the anus) Put soft and constant pressure on this soft for a few seconds then release, then repeat. This is helping to externally stimulate his prostate. While doing this. You can make a slow and gentle jerking motion at the base of his penis. With the other hand- cover it in lube and start stroking him gently. Then put the head of his penis in your mouth and twirl your tongue around his head gently for a few seconds. Then take as much as your comfortable with into your mouth for 20 seconds. Then pull your head up to where only about 1/3 is actually in your mouth. Use both hands in the positions I explained above to stroke him while your mouth does the rest of what the hands aren’t doing. Also be sure to ask your partner along the way if they like how these things feel before proceeding to heavy stimulation
I have talked about this with her (although not exactly in the setting I would like to have had that talk) and she made it clear multiple times that being a Bisexual is a Dealbreaker to her. My issue is that, no matter what my sexuality turns out to be, I can say with certainty that I am romantically attracted to her. Having a romantic affection for someone but appearently not a sexual one seems like a cruel joke to me, that being said you could very well be right.
There is almost certainly more to it than this, but giving head almost daily is above and beyond what 99% of men receive. That alone should show the willingness you have to fulfill his desires. My question for you is does he reciprocate what he receives on the daily? If not, he’s taking advantage of your willingness and there may not be anything you could do to make him truly happy with the amount of sex he’s receiving.
There are non hormonal BC options (diaphragm, copper IUD etc) that I recommend because Plan B is not to be taken lightly. It’s great for EMERGENCIES but it’s a boatload of hormones that you don’t want to be taking unless it’s absolutely necessary. Also I’d say she’s likely to have a negative reaction if she cant tolerate BC. I’d take proper precautions before hand if I were you
Maybe wrap it up on a first time encounter because people who wanna go raw with strangers are unhinged in my experience. So her lying about her age doesn’t seem surprising to me. I would never trust a stranger to be truthful about STI status. She could’ve easily doctored the results she showed you.
She allows no porn in our relationship Dude you’re in a prison not a relationship. She’s asexual AND somehow you agreed not to watch porn? Respect yourself.
And you get that conclusion by the fact that he counts porn as cheating? The same line of though can be done about anything anyone consider cheating you know. “They control you by making you feel bad if you bang other people”
It's just cum bruh stop beating yourself up over it. If she doesn't like anything about your cum and you can't do much to change it then maybe you guys are not sexually compatible
10 partners is above average so it's not like you were out there in a sexual desert or anything. This comes down to you conflating quantity with quality. Do you think your partner had 5x as much fun as you just because he slept with more people? I think the bigger issue here is that you see settling down as the end to sexual adventures and new experiences. But have the two of you ever discussed, for example, role play or even ethical non-monogamy? There's plenty of ways for a committed couple to still find opportunities to inject new experiences into their sex life. It just takes good communication and trust — and if you do open things up — a healthy handle on jealousy issues (esp. for you since you're already prone to irrational, albeit not unusual, envy).
Sounds like you've put a bunch of work into the problem on your end, and talked to her about it. She has to decide if she's willing to work on it. You have to decide if it is a deal-breaker for you if she doesn't work on it. It's probably worth asking her, straight-up, if she's willing to work on getting past her unjustified and irrational disgust for giving you pleasure. If she isn't, you have your decision to make.
Lol @ the joke! I’m such the people pleaser sometimes and it really comes out during sex. So you’re right I just need to talk with him and get a clear understanding of how to please him.
The rough pounding seems to be his thing as well. I’ve noticed after he gets me off a few times and I’m more so asking him to cum for me, he switches up the temp and gets to ramming. Which I don’t mind but sometimes it seems like he’s missed his “cum moment” so to speak
No but telling my partner verbatim what I wrote in my original comment would be hurtful and counter productive. This sub constantly going “just tell them exactly this” is annoying and not helpful. Like, no duh, conversation is important. Answers should be actual advice on how to have that conversation or actions to take to improve the situation, not just “talk about it”
Fingering is easy access to a woman’s g spot. A slight curve of two fingers and stroking motion of the vagina walls closer to outside of a woman’s vagina can cause intense arousal. Clearly you don’t know your own body.
Nope, sending the wrong signals- fwb?? Wtf. Is this guy a friend with benefits? Stop it now. Stop with the signals – he is just a guy that you said let’s be friends with benefits. You are in the wrong here. “I feel like my FWB forced himself?” Give me a fuckin break. Go cry randomly somewhere else.
Yea, my favorite blow jobs all go like this: 1) she goes down on me for a few minutes 2) she dirty talks and strokes a little 3) kinda alternative between dirty talk and going down 4) I'm so horny and ready to fuck that blowjob time is over and I need to wreck some pussy lol. Win win for everybody
He did force himself on you, you said no and he did it anyway that's rape. He is clearly a sh*tty FWB and a friend in general. You need to get away from him and report him, who knows who else he has done this to without repercussions on his end. If you carry on seeing him at all this will get worse
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Ok. You don't have to be so negative. I have never begged for anything. If I want something I will go get it. Simple. I shared an experience, get over it.
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Some basics: – Run your hand through your hair and squeeze your hair in a fist at the root. Feels kinda good right? That’s the best way to pull hair without it hurting or pulling it out. Can also do this when making out to put her head where you want it or make her look up at you. – If/when you decide to try choking, do not press down on the throat, that’s her windpipe. You will want to squeeze from the sides, where the blood flows. There are a bunch of good diagrams on Google for this – little bites can be a sexy and casual way to administer a little pain! My personal favorite spot to receive and give a bite is on the meaty part of the trap above the collarbone. It’s nice during a makeout sesh. My least favorite spot to be bitten is the ear but that’s preference. – sometimes it’s less about the action/pain and more about your overall presence. Throw her around a little. Push her head into the bed during doggie. Sit on the edge of the bed and pull her to you. Assert an essence of dominance. Most importantly, enjoy yourself! There’s no rush and you don’t have to try and explore everything at once!
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This sounds like you found the CAT. Withyour chin at her forehead it suggests you were higher up her hips. That drags the shaft over her clit more solidly. It's like a bow drawing over a Cello.
I'm finding some listings for women's shelters and victims of child abuse in Argentina, but I'm going to post them as a direct reply to OP instead of this reply.
You have never done something for someone else, just because they like to do it? Do you have to get something out of it for you to enjoy it? I say you are looking at this in a selfish light. Most of us do things for our partners we may not totally enjoy ourselves, but, it makes our partners happy, or feel good, or pleasures them.
This is something I’d want to see a therapist about, yeah. Generally it’s okay to have any kink as long as it’s only ever acted out in a way that’s consensual and safe, but this is a case where the dynamics could get abusive and exploitative very easily so I’d suggest talking to a professional to hopefully work through it.
If you're okay with waiting indefinitely then there's no need to say anything. Whereas if you know it will get more frustrating for you, you could say something like: “I'm ready for sex but we can totally wait for a while and I want to respect your needs. At the same time, sex is important to me in a relationship and I cannot wait forever. If it takes too long that probably won't work for me. We can wait and I'll do my best to communicate when I'm getting too frustrated so we can reassess if we need too.” That way he understands there is some limitation, but also some room for his needs. It is important that he knows your preferences and deal-breakers. This isn't about pressure. This is about compatibility. If he can't or won't accommodate one of your deal-breakers then you are incompatible. He shouldn't feel pressure to change. You just shouldn't be together. But he needs to know what they are too. So how long can you truly wait for sex?
Read the Japanese study Enhanced visualization of female squirting by Miyabi Inoue et al in the International Journal of Urology 2022. It's overwhelmingly urine. But, the lay person wants to deny what science has been saying for many, many years.
there's many. lazada. aliexpress. soft silicone dildos maybe even better than vibrator. FAAK is a great brand from aliexpress. vibrators, clit suckers, i mean.. i'm sure you also have local s stores that have them if you're in any mid size city.
Could you contact the clinic in advance (phone or drop in) and explain the situation? You could ask that when you're in the waiting area with your mom that the nurse ask for you to come alone as you're 18. It's worth asking. You poor thing, this is an awful worry to carry.
I understand that, it's a self-deorecating thing that a lot of people do. But still, calling them that in public you shouldn't do. If I said “I'm such an idiot.” That doesn't make it right for you to call me an idiot to other people.
What? How is that the same thing? No. You shouldn't put a finger in someone's ass unless you've asked them if it's ok for you to do so. Eeew. Do you not understand how consent works?
It’s acceptable for someone with the financial capacity to afford frequent dates with escorts to take advantage of the service if relationships is not something they’re searching for at the moment and they want to have sexual gratification. It helps sex workers and as long as you treat then with respect, you’re not a scumbag. Just know that if you’re not making any effort to connect with women outside of this, you’re going to make it harder to find a relationship in the future. Looks can change and you can find ways to make yourself attractive. Just make sure you’re still socializing outside of hooking up with escorts to help keep your confidence in talking to people strong. Escorts can even help you with some advice for flirting or just having a fun non-sexual time with women. You’re not a pervert. Just don’t rely on this too strongly in case you want to be in a relationship in the future.
I'm 5'5 and my partner is 6'. He's incredibly strong. He could absolutely destroy me if he wanted to. Always done physical labor. Just touching his arm muscles makes me wet. And this is exactly why. Pick a safe word and take her. It's amazing. Just know your own strength going into it. And when you choke you squeeze the sides NOT the middle. It's about the blood restriction not about crushing her larynx. Just recently I had a similar conversation with him. Now we've already done this whole thing before but it was something we planned the whole CNC thing. It's fucking amazing. My recent request is that I want it to happen unexpectedly. When I least expect it. A lot of us love this stuff. And hey it takes a lot of trust for someone to request this and know they will be ok. It's a healthy relationship in a very kinky way. Congrats I think you'll both be very happy with the outcome. And again just have a safe word.
Hope you can change doctors. I wonder if there's a good reason to perform a test that doesn't discriminate between HSV-1 and HSV-2. The only thing I can imagine is that it may be cheaper. If a nondiscriminative test is positive, then further tests are needed to determine which one the patient has.
The neat thing about evolved humans is that we are capable of separating innate evolutionary desires and real life. It might come as a huge surprise for you, but women can enjoy getting dominated sexually in a safe, controlled environment and also demand equal rights in their real, important life and they are not mutually exclusive, nor contradictory.
Ext time you and your girl are fooling around and getting hit and bothered…just grab her by the hair, whip out your dick. And tell her…to put it in her mouth or you're going to shove it down her throat….thank me later.
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If it's clean there really isn't a taste. The scent can vary quite a bit though, depending on how clean she is. If she just gives it a quick swipe there may still be a slight smell of poo, and in this case I personally won't eat it. If she gives it a good wash with soap and water, there may still be a slight scent from the apocrine sweat glands back there, which I find super sexy. It's hard to describe, slightly spicy, maybe a touch of cinnamon, very faint but very attractive to me. And then if she washes three or four times with soap and water, there won't be any scent at all and it's just like any other skin. Good on you for exploring this, as long as she's down with it. I (65m) have only done it with my wife (67f) and she's only done it with me, after each of us having many other lovers before, so it's a nice intimacy that only we've shared with one another. It took me 10 years to work up the courage to ask her, but it's become just about my favorite thing to do in bed with her.
saying as someone who was in similar shoes as your gf, everyone will tell you to either break it off or try to invent ways to “incite” her into it…what you should do it completely ease off and give her space to regain trust and confidence and let her come to you by herself. make yourself look desirable (physically and mentally) BUT dont initiate anything. you dont want her to just comply, you want her to want you and make first step. Also, I hate how everyone here talks like she's the one in the wrong, she isnt. Her behaviour is a consequence of your actions.
Pussy tastes like pussy just like how dick tastes like dick. Some pussy tastes more like pussy, sometimes all anyone can taste is their own spit. But people get turned off by anything, just like they’re turned on by anything. Shower regularly and you’re fine, just like everyone else. if man’s ain’t eating you then kick man’s to the curb.
Vaginismus is what you're thinking of, where the vagina doesn't properly expand to allow for penetration. My ex fiancee has that, and as a guy with girth, it wasn't easy to deal with. The dilation dildos/vibrators were an essential for us, and even then it wasn't always enough. Also I couldn't help but laugh at the snowflake comment. Those are the toughest snowflakes I've ever experienced lol. Look up Trevor Noah's take on pussy as an insult and you'll understand why I found it funny, it's a great bit lol.
I get issues that NEED to be off limits for some reason or the other such as being a recovering alcoholic, but it seems like you have too many rules. People are sexual. If porn impacts your sex life, it could matter, if it doesn’t, then having a hard line about sexuality seems more damaging than constructive.
I really appreciate this response! Its good to remember that everyone is different, and what my partners may prefer is out of my control. I guess I just have a weird need to control situations and the idea of not tasting good for someone I like is tough. Regardless, the right guy will make me feel amazing despite all of that. It’s definitely a very intimate thing for me. It’s wild bc I LOVE giving head, and do give it often. It’s my favorite thing. But receiving any oral is so much more difficult. I hope I can get to the point of prioritizing my pleasure.
Your brain needs some time to adjust to sleeping with girls if you have watched porn before. Quit porn, keep trying. You can get cialis it is a medium viagra but works a whole weekend. If this helps you out the first couple of times, go for it.
Dude gave you PTSD 5 years ago, when you had just met? This is absolutely awful and I mean this in a way that absolutely does not minimize what's happening to you, but you are in serious danger in this marriage. Get out fast or you're playing with fire every day.
Well, first of all, anal penetration has nothing whatsoever to do with sexuality. Everyone has a butt, and almost everyone has the capacity to feel sexual pleasure from anal stimulation if that’s something they’re interested in. Gender and sexuality aren’t factors in that, except insofar as the cultural narratives we build around these things. That being said, if you don’t want to do it, you can say, “That’s not something I’m interested in doing. I will let you know if that ever changes, but unless I do, please don’t bring it up again because my answer is no.” If she doesn’t respect that clearly stated boundary, then you know you’re with someone who’s not safe to be with, and you should end the relationship.
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It's just a joke mostly. I suppose if a guy lasts a long time you might want to switch hands. A good handjob is super underrated though. Most women are shit at them but I think they could be a valuable tool for women in relationships just like in the southpark episode. Not in the mood ladies? Give your boyfriend a 3 minute hand job and he'll be off to sleep rather than bugging you about it for the next 45 minutes.
I had someone (an acquaintance) whom had already shown red flags for a while follow me to the library just staring at me, and I ignored him and left without interacting. That was the first (known) time he actually straight up followed me like that. Fast-forward to ongoing stalking. This honestly sounds like a sexual predator; stopping when you stop, no. It’s one thing for a person to just try to be in the vicinity (where they’re expected to be seen) of their crush or person of interest, and that’s another thing entirely. Red flag!
you mean we're all different…and process love and loss different :::gasp::: here i thought we're all programmed to do and be and feel exactly the same as everyone else
No no no. Do not involve any kind of mind altering drug because the next thing you know you will be sitting in a court room trying to convince a judge that you didn't rape her.
It isn’t healthy but the impression I get based on all other comments form OP is her husband has NO idea how she feels, and thinks this is their shared kink, she is not communicated that this is actually not a good experience for her and that she suffers through it. That is a really different context than someone knowing their wife finds it painful and not enjoyable. I think this husband is clueless.
level 4StepmomanddadOp · 5 mo. ago · edited 4 mo. agoI'm gonna say using the metric system. I'm 177cm tall anf my gf is around 180cm give or take. I weight around 80kg and i guess the outweights me by at least 20kg but i am not exactly sure.
Fair point too. It’s just such a primal thing but I’m sure there are guys out there who will be happy and feel complete either way. Also 20 is too young to compromise
You’re right. His body – his choice, her body – her choice. BUT he can’t decide it’s his body so it’s his choice to cum inside of her. That takes the choice from her. She already offered him compromises and he rejected all of them. Celibacy is his choice apparently.
Yep. You can have a stubborn, elastic hymen (or a guy that doesn't penetrate much) and have had intercourse with an intact hymen. The whole “sex makes you worth less as a human” attitude pisses me off and shows me how little quality as a human being someone has. Isn't it also funny how men don't seem to be held to that same standard?
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That's her problem, not yours… She should loose some weight… If she was on the edge of overweight and then she gained another 100lbs there's some problem with her health… Try to say her she should go to the doctor, if it's not too late…
I don't know if it's just me, but I discovered that I have 2 distinct sex drives. I need to get off but I also developed a second drive where I really need to get my wife off. They often show up together, but not always. I sometimes have no desire for sex at all, but I can't resist the urge to get my wife off. My wife actually had a tough time adjusting to this because she felt selfish but eventually accepted that I actually get everything I need out of sometimes making it all about her.
Expand your social circles, get to know men as acquaintances in new communities that you join. Take your time and be choosey about who you invest your time and energy into, observe that they care about you and your wellbeing first which will hopefully result better sex later.
Some subtle flexing there OP?! haha. My last partner was around 6 inches and it didn't stop us doing any position. As a curvy girl It's more the size of my ass and thighs that limited things like doggy for example. It's all about angles and spreading those cheeks lol
OP, I have never heard of a healthy relationship with this age gap this young. Would you have any interest in dating a 14 year old? That’s only a five year gap, but I bet you can see from that perspective how what would be motivating an older person in that scenario isn’t a genuine relationship connection. You get to make your own decisions, but folks here are concerned about you for good reason.
Pretty difficult to describe it to someone who doesn't have testicles. For me, it feels great. I like the wet, the warmth… all of it. Some guys are very sensitive and can't stand it. It will 100% vary by guy.
Yes, she does go down on me but it took years in our marriage before she would go down on me. Now, she uses strawberry lube and goes down on me before we have PIV.
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physical? technique? anxiety? I'm not a medical professional – I took a peek at the vaginismus causes (people who have pain upon insertion) and anxiety is one of the causes, apparently. the reason I bring it up is some people bring that up with the same concerns here. food for thought? embarrassed Embarrassment will only slow the process. advice If I could give advice I would say don't give up, treat it like an experiment, somethings just have a learning curve, so keep trying!
Same thing happened with me 15 days back.I went to her house and her eldest child was there. I simply could not focus on act.FInished fast and went away. I don't feel comfortable and told her so.So stopped going to her house now.
Same thing happened with me 15 days back.I went to her house and her eldest child was there. I simply could not focus on act.FInished fast and went away. I don't feel comfortable and told her so.So stopped going to her house now.
Holy shit, this didn't happen to me and yet I feel so fucking bad lol tbf if he's still having sex with you that's good, cuz I would personally not be able to. So I guess you just have to talk to him, preferably outside of a sexual context
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He doesn't have to lie, and if he does and she finds out I don't feel bad if he loses everything. And not every state is a no fault state, in a no fault state he can ask for divorce without reason. Not every state automatically awards 50/50 and if a man is worried about not having sex and thinks he'll cheat but is worried about losing anything in a divorce, he was a dumbass to enter a legal contract
Oh goodness ? I’m so glad you posted this! Don’t listen to him, especially about that. It’s not a thing. He’s young still, so even if he doesn’t want to admit it he’s not that experienced. When I was younger I had dudes telling me that I’m too tight ALL the time. They had a lot of opinions about my body and how it should be and those words eventually got to me and made me insecure. Cut to my 20’s when I started dating older guys, and even right now in my life, I have NEVER had any guy complain how tight I am. They freaking love it! There is nothing wrong with you!! There is something off about his mindset ? Pls don’t let his words get to you, ever?
It’s not about me being turned on really, it’s just pleasurable. I watch porn for the first time and then turn it off directly after because I’m no longer into it
It’s not about me being turned on really, it’s just pleasurable. I watch porn for the first time and then turn it off directly after because I’m no longer into it
Above all else, communicate well. Everything else is just touch and go for who it works on. Some will love it, others will want something different, but communication always helps.
No you aren't a jerk at all. It's a need, you'e not asking for a lot comparatively…but on her end you're asking for the moon. What sucks is that a therapist will eventually tell you to be in an open marriage. As much fun as that sounds ultimately, it doesn't give you the connection you want with your partner. Men need to feel needed, and wanted, even in sex. It's a pretty difficult thing, but you might want to think about opening things up at the very least so you can stay with your partner and continue to be there for them.
Please do not go back to him with the above information. It’s happen to me before with maybe my 10th sexual partner and I’d had a ton of sexual encounters with 2 of those 10. She was older and I was terrified, 19/30. One pump it was over. So call it 3 seconds. Other than that it hasn’t really happened.
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It is all about being comfortable, if you have sex with someone for the sake of it, it will put you off if it doesn't go well, or give false expectations if it is amazing. I'd recommend putting yourself out there for dating, if you are comfortable with them and feel like you can, go slow. Show them how you like it when you touch yourself during foreplay, ask how they like it but don't over step boundaries. Then you will find it easier from there.
You might enjoy a porn performer named Will Tile. In one video, he did all the work with a huge BBW. She must be BMI obese, but in a good way: figure is still hourglass, not saggy all over, but really inflated looking. This man stood and held her up by her ass and bounced her. Talk about strong. The cock being totally straight, or being shorter, reduce the risk. I guess also the thicker, the safer.
This has v bad vibes. I feel like he’s v pro consent now to groom you into trusting him. Also it’s pretty intense to bring this up after only having sex once and use language like “not worry about you.” Maybe I’m paranoid but it feels weird and like he’s pretending to know what he’s talking about so you’ll trust him.
No. I'd say it's just as frustrating as it is for a girl. Getting aroused but not being able to climax so if that ever happened to you, you'll know how it feels. It COULD be physically uncomfortable if you are doing something heavily estimulating and are really really horny but don't orgasm, but it isn't painful or unbearable. A lot of guys exaggerate this feeling to manipulate their partners into “taking care of it”. Don't do anything you don't wanna do. Personally, whenever this happens to me I just go and fap it out.
I'm a little shocked that guys are still saying “I can't help myself”. If a guy says he can't control himself, don't date him, don't have sex with him, don't sleep in a bed with him. He already said he cannot control himself. Believe him. Tell him the reason why you are leaving is because he “can't help himself”.
You said in one comment that you attend a university. I’m your classes, are there any learning groups you could attend? Just start with hanging out with them and if you know them for a few weeks, they will eventually talk about the weekends and stuff and you can drop something like “I never went to a club/bar/whatever, is this fun?” and you’ll have a conversation about it. Maybe you can join them. It’s all about getting into a group. Once you’re in you kinda just flow with them
I kinda learned to “listen to what people are not saying”. But I mean it's not fair for your wife. If you discuss the issue and reach a conclusion with your wife, there are many options Plus you should consider your work schedules. Too much work for long time is unhealthy
Yeah my boyfriend often wants to do a spit swapping sort of make out when I’m excessively salivating from choking on his ?, never understood that before until I read this
This totally hot like she bringing, her own toys to mix or using my collection of sex toys in general would be amazing. I think the person I'm hocking up with is more on vinilla side then exploring.
So it sounds like he doesn't know how. Be patient, and maybe practice outside of sex. Talk him through what you like, and let him touch you when you're not in the middle of sex. It will be less pressure on him, and you're not going to be as frustrated. My wife and I have had similar talks about each other, and we find that talking and touching outside of sex is a great way to openly communicate in a way that doesn't frustrated either partner.
I just asked my husband about this and he shyly admitted that it happens a lot. We’ve been together for 16 years and I never knew this. We just had the best shy giggles. I love this man.
Idk if everyone does but i know I do, it's less of a feeling I can describe so much as different stimulation results in different orgasms. Of the top of my head the stimulation that jave thier seemingly own orgasm. Regular masterbation, ending masterbation, anal masterbation, regular sex, edging during sex, and regular/edging sex while having something in the butt. Idk how to describe the differences but each once has thier own feel that the others don't replicate.
In any relationship, there are things that aren’t 100% what you’d prefer them to be. If you don’t want someone to settle for your micro penis because they love you…. Then that’s fine. I can Alan it guarantee that they will be settling for something that isn’t ideal for them regardless of your penis size.
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No; we haven't done PIV or fingering, but every time he's asked to finger me I decline just because I'm not wet enough. I want to move on to penetration, but again I'm not really sure how to get myself wet enough outside of sucking his dick lol. The times he's asked it's been like 30 minutes after and at that point I'm not in the mood for it anymore. I've preferred the idea of him initiating (rather than me asking) because then I know he really wants to, but obviously he's not capable of reading my mind and knowing when I want it. Thinking about it while writing this, I imagine it'd just be better to invite him to touch me while I'm in the mood for it?
Wtf is this comment. She moaned slightly louder than he would like. He tried to violently cut off her ability to breathe. Those are not morally equivalent things and it's fucked up that you think so. This isn't her fault. He's a fucked up violent person and he assaulted her. Stop victim blaming.
While I make my gf come, right when there is the first pleasure explosion, I switch from stimulating to firmly pressing my whole hand on her clit area (with the palm of my hand or my fingers kept together). This gave her an even higher and longer orgasms. Not sure if it works for other girls, I started doing this with my current gf and didn't meet anyone else meanwhile.
fun fact: almost everyone has herpes! worldwide, literally 90% of sexually active adults have some strain of herpes. so you’re going to be fine, really 🙂 this clip from Adam Ruins Everything has some good info on it
If you want a partner to get tested, you do that up front, at the start, not wait three years into the relationship. Just because you’ve been using condoms doesn’t mean you couldn’t have managed to give something to each other, and I wouldn’t be the least bit surprised if that’s the way he’s looking at it. If I’d been with someone for three years and they suddenly, adamantly insisted on us getting tested I doubt you could convince me they hadn’t either cheated on me or thought I had cheated on them. Why else wait THREE YEARS to ask for the test. All of you people calling him names aren’t even remotely thinking like a human in a long relationship. You’re thinking like someone who’s just getting into one. If he’s really that pissed off (which I can see many reasons why he might be), I could see him saying fine, getting tested, showing the negative results and then breaking things off. With this coming out of nowhere, he has every right to feel like something else is going on.
I got them from my first sexual partner and literally had one breakout ever, ironically during wedding planning about 11 years and 6 relationships later lmao. It’s rly not that serious. Just be honest w your partners.
You did it because you were turned on by him. For whatever reason penetration wasn't working, so you found another way. You didn't use him. You were having sex with him, he was clearly into it, and you improvised. If I were him, I'd still be thinking about how hot that was! If you're really worried about it, just ask him if it was OK with him. But I'll bet you dollars to donuts, he was just fine with it. Most men would be 🙂
Yeah, thank fuck the subreddit killed itself by migrating to its own website + discord, was such a femcel cesspool. I understood about that post because there was a poor guy in r/sex who was suffering something similar to what this FDS post was describing, so someone linked it as a possibility to explain his partner's behavior 🙁
Start at a time when the kids aren't around and you two can talk normally – a time when you don't expect to have sex right then. Tell him how much you appreciated his kindness on your birthday, how much you loved the cards and the dinner and the relaxing bath and massage. Then tell him how it would have been better if the man you love came to you after the massage and shared that love with you physically. Smile and touch his arm (or whatever body part is nearby) and tell him that you love him, and that it would make you happy to share your love and your bodies with each other more often. The conversation will go wherever it will go from there. It depends on his reactions and his feelings. But assuming it goes well, you have now had “the talk”. From then on, whenever the time seems right, you can initiate in easier ways. Touch his thigh and let your hand move upward to other parts. Put his hands on your body. Practice telling him that you want him (it will feel REALLY weird at first, but it gets easier with practice!). In time, initiating sex with your husband will start to feel normal and natural and wonderful. And also, stop listening to those friends of yours. They're flat-out wrong. Men are not horny 24/7, and women are allowed to ask for sex whenever they want. You and your husband make the rules in your relationship, not those other women.
So apparently you dropped him off at his parents house? What about you don't pick him up again. That way he can edge for even longer and you don't have to deal with this anymore. Win-win!
I Donno about these people but you sound like a great partner. You seen she was in discomfort and wanted to stop but didn’t know how to do it without being rude. She was hoping you would by sending the signals to you. This is a great relationship and not your fault if the other gets butt hurt about it. Both partners always retain the right to end it at any point even if the other doesn’t want to. If not then your asking for a very bad relationship in the future.
You’re right that putting in all that effort just to have sex once doesn’t make sense. But you and the other commenters don’t seem interested in understanding any nuance. There’s this kinda trope that scummy guys will do anything to have sex. While that is sometimes true, if that was what he wanted he could keep leading you on to use you again. I hate to put negativity out there, but could something have happened that night that turned him off of you, but he’s not saying it to spare your feelings? He could have decided there wasn’t enough chemistry to make long distance work. He could have had negative experiences with an ex who had trouble orgasming and you triggered the memory. He could hav me just realized that he didn’t really like being with you in person. I’ve been in a similar situation before, and acted like him. Maybe not quite so affectionate, but the other option, that is to just tell her to her face that I wasn’t feeling it, felt cruel. So I did what he did and had a nice time but let her down easy later.
Have you told him what YOU want to do? This post is all about what he wants and not what you want. If you tell him what you want and he isn't into it then you have yourself a big problem.
I’m assuming he’ll be the dominant role? The dominant role is usually the easier to play because they have their “want” and that’s what drives a scene. One character wants something whether it’s obvious or not. In acting that’s what gives the simplest and basic scenes a life of their own. As the submissive role, try not to think too much but focus on being present and simply react. If this is a forceful scene he’ll probably speak to you a certain way that’ll be different than normal. If your instinct is to laugh or not take him serious, this can actually be a valid response. Then he has the opportunity to respond to that. He may get more forceful either in tone or physically, let yourself react to that. Also, remember to move with the scene. If he puts you in a certain position and it feels right and part of the scene to “fight back”, do it (not like it’s actually life and death and could truly harm him). When you physically move certain ways emotions and thoughts will naturally come out.
My favorite Anal practitioner told me to never do it without gloves. A sharp nail can be brutal on the tender tissue and can lead to an infection. Find a nice tight pair of gloves, and a nice silicone lube, and go slow. Your target is his prostate gland, google a chart, and once you get in there and find it treat it like your g-spot. Have him on his hands and knees, when you are doing it right his precum will flow like a river. If you want to peg him, look for a feeldoe. One end goes up in your vagina and you will get a lot more out of it than a harness. They also make one that inflates inside of you to help keep it snug. My wife came three times when we first used one. When in doubt, more lube.
My gf is 22 years my senior, it comes with its own set of challenges as far as a relationship goes, however, aside from lack of sex, every other factor in our relationship is amazing, women my age tend to be more focused on themselves or their kids (not all, but typically the ones ive personally come across), I am 32, she is 54. We communicate effectively and it is plainly obvious she loves me, and I her. Dont let the stereotypes change your perspective, its not like a 40 year old dating an 18 year old, we are much more mature and well beyond the creepy age range
Fortunately most people doesnt discover how their partner react to the lost of a loved one immediatly in a relationship. And most young adults don't even know how themself would react at this. That's not something you can guess.
I doubt this is serious (in which case: you really don't have anything better to do?) If it is then no. That's blackmail and a crime. Record the conversation, then he has no hold over you. Second find someone else to fuck. This one is not nice.
See the massage is a good start, yes oil can be messy but warm oil on your body while your partner is kissing / rubbing your back is so hot. *FACEPALM* so he only kisses your boobs and your vulva? OK the blowjob I get it, that is a good thing to start with after the massage or some dirty talk and feeling around on each other. Once that blowjob is done or you move on to the main thing, that is when the foreplay should start. You don't just jump right into 69 or PIV. He should be kissing you on the lips and whispering things to you, building that connection between both of you. Girls are mental creatures they get more stimulation from words and bonding then men do. It sounds to me that you both need to learn more about yourselves. That is why you feel like you don't know what to do. The more you have sex, the more you're going to learn what you want and like. Both of you are inexperienced and that is fine! learn together! Explore every inch of each others bodies, it will become more automatic and more clear on what to do! Just gotta practice 🙂
Thank you for your advice! I’m def going on a pavlovian de-conditioning approach and cutting out vibrators for at least a while. I’ll try get out of my head too. My partner is pretty good in terms of foreplay and all that so no issues there! I suppose best thing to do really is enjoy the moment and not be too focused on climaxing
Yes….the depression and other meets greatly effect your dick stiffness and overall desire…..one thing to check in the early stages is diabetes….it's easy to control…. and helps the the wood….depending on what depression med you take also makes a diff….trust me when I say diabetes is a bitch!!!!.. list all your meds a dosage….find you a very trusting doctor that you can open up to and one that will actually listen…..your meds can be taylored so you won't suffer or show any ED problem.
I'm sorry people have been so cruel to your face. But it's good that you know some of these women are cruel and not worth your time – it's one thing to have a preference it's quite another to state it without tact or compassion. Ok, so you weren't born with the best deck. To be honest the only people born with good decks are the rich, who can afford to fix their flaws and have legions of sycophants to fuck. But the rest of us make the best of what we have, and try to form fulfilling relationships. Let's presume that your obese woman analogy is correct, though I'm not saying it is or isn't with any certainty. Obese women are able to establish loving, sexually charged relationships with men. Sure, they're never going to be Leo's latest trophy, but does that matter? Likewise, and much like my brother, you can also have good relationships and good sex even though you don't find all of the male beauty standards. If you're trying to climb to the top of the pile then you're just going to be unhappy because there is always someone taller, richer and more handsome than you or me. I know you've been telling yourself for years that you're short and unloveable and that's a hell of a programming to break. So you need to get out into the world and participate in communities that value you for more than just your height. That's where you will find the women who actually want to get to know you and be intimate with you. But I know that one guy on the internet telling you this probably won't change anything. So I just hope you remember some of what I said when you hit rock bottom and decide the only way is up :).
Idk what you wanna hear, if he walked around with a boner, as a roommate you should probably assume it's not for you, so he probably assumes the same about your boobies. Maybe put a disclaimer out there about brushing your teeth naked but also don't want to be walked in on, unless you do, then I guess make that clear too.
Lol no. You do not have to wear a bra. You are simply existing. Maybe throw on pants or whatever if you think that’s more comfortable for him or you, like basic roommate courtesy? But I don’t think that extends to wearing a bra around them.
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He's probably already forgotten about it… or just doesn't care. It's not a big deal, as he's already told you. Most guys don't really worry too much about farts to be honest.
It happens it’s not common but possible – twice accidentally to me. Slippery when wet… luckily for me I don’t mind and quite enjoy anal so wasn’t a deal breaker or a problem for me
You gotta resist the urge to give in and let him know that there is a proper time and place. Maybe you could tell him that you also want to have sex, but not right now. If he's feeling super horny, then encourage him to masturbate. Don't shame him for having needs, but be firm with only having sex when YOU want to.
So peeing inside your girlfriend falls into the category of risk aware play. Does it come with some risk. Yes. Is the risk reasonably low. Also yes. People definitely do pee in each other. You do run the risk of infection, causing some local irritation, and some discomfort. But the risks are generally low, and if you pee in her once every couple weeks to a month, chances are she won't have any issues. Probably not a great thing to do daily or multiple times a week. But for the odd thrill, one could consider it Ultimately you have to be comfortable with it as. You have a say in what you do, and don't get to do with your partner. But there are lots of sexual acts (pain, bondage, watersports) that carry some inherent risk, but people think are okay to do with consent, and being risk aware. Ultimately though that choice is up to you.
Health issues play a part in older men and to me it seems the sperm is not much at all anymore, plus the penis doesn’t get hard hard like a healthier older man can or younger man.
I like when my guy says “You’re being such a good girl” “do you like when I play with your tits like that” “do you want to feel my tongue on your clit (inside your pussy, all over you)” “I’m going to make you cum over and over again” “You play with my cock so good baby” “You’re so fucking sexy baby” “I love hearing you make all that noise and enjoy your self” “Cum for me you dirty slut”
I would definitely stop being friends with her and absolutely never sleep with her again. I’m sorry that happened to you. Go out and do something for YOU and make yourself feel confident in who you are, then go take what you want! (In a consenting and respectful way)
Having mismatched libidos is still common even for a couple that have sex before marriage because no one's libido is 100 constant as they go through life. I'm not arguing for abstinence. It's still unwise. But I think every couple has to try and negotiate these issues and hopefully come to a compromise where both partners feel loved and appreciated and not neglected, nor feeling like a sex robot.
All the people shitting on you for waiting until marriage out of choice can go fuck themselves. Just because your morals/choices let you fuck everything that walks doesn’t mean everyone’s the same. This is a solvable issue and not just a you’re fucked issue. All of you who are shaming her probably are the same ones that preach “tolerance”. I’m not a religious person but I’ll be damned if I let others berate another for their personal religious choices. OP go into counseling or something either individual or couples and get this solved. These people will do nothing but try to berate you for following your beliefs which have ZERO to do with them.
If it has been an issue more than this one time (and I’m assuming it has if you’re resorting to Reddit for advice), then perhaps instead of saying you’re a virgin you simply say you don’t have a lot of experience. That gets the point across that you may not know what all to do without bringing the V-card into it. If they press and ask if you’re a virgin, then what you say next is up to you. On a side note, just because you haven’t had PIV sex with a guy is no reason to not know what you’re doing. I was a bit of a late bloomer myself, but I had read a lot about what to do and how to do it, so I understood the mechanics of foreplay, oral sex, how to use my hands, fingers, etc., before ever getting the chance to do more than kiss a girl. If you haven’t explored that already, then I really suggest you do so (or anyone do so). Porn is a lousy way to learn, but there are hundreds (if not thousands) of videos designed to show people how to do just about anything you can think of sexually, from foreplay to BDSM. They’re made by sex therapists (among others), and can make it so your first partner has no real idea he’s your first. I realize you may have already done all of this, but it seems like if you had, you wouldn’t be having as much of an issue. On a final note, I have avoided virgins as well, but it’s always been because I felt I was the wrong person to be someone’s first. Maybe a lot of other guys feel the same way?
Penis size is an essential part of sex. One of the most important, if not the most important, things a man brings to the table. If a man is unable to satisfy a woman because he is too small, using a cock sleeve is the least offensive option. TBH, if it were me, that would be an immediate deal breaker as a wife that my husband has a pee pee and not a penis that can satisfy a woman. Other choices include using toys (cutting the husband out of the act of penetration entirely, probably even more offensive to you), finding a partner outside of the marriage who is large enough to sexually satisfy, or breaking things off/annulment.
I would and have. I expect it's a lot more common for men to want FMF threesomes but no, you're not in the minority either way. The types of people who frequent online sex spaces (like this sub) are just going to tend to be people who are more adventurous than the general population, so don't think that responses here are indicative of most people.
Don’t hide it. I feel like you think there aren’t many because you aren’t being open and honest. Just ask. Talk about it. Have the conversation. Why do you think most women are turned off by bisexual men? I think the opposite is true. But it honestly doesn’t matter cos you’re not going to be dating “most women”, you’re going to find the right person for you no matter if she’s the only one of her kind or if there are millions like her. I think MMF is an experienced that most women would at least like to try. So wherever you go, whatever you’ve been doing, keep doing it, just include space for the conversation.
it's amazing! Best sex ever… time kinda slows, senses are more sharpen sort of, very sensitive, orgasms are super intensive. But it has to be the right amount of high.
Yes super common kink!! Check out femdom gentlefemdom I think it’s one of the most common kinks out there (along with breeding) – and both make perfect sense considering we all came from a woman’s body and our first god and the center of our universe was an older woman. I think the rise of people coming to realize/accept the mommy kink is positive sign that things are righting in the world. Another form of it is goddess worship. I believe that every man deep down has a mommy kink, and a woman the desire to be a mommy – and the ones who claim not too (or to have the opposite) I find to be very disconnected sexually and not worth taking as lovers because of it. It’s a very fun kink to explore!! I also think the best relationships I’ve seen in general are older woman younger man and believe it’s an extension of this
Give it up … you had your post and comment above removed by them … with a sarcastic comment about you contributing to the problem. What you don’t seem to get is this … this is an ADVICE sub and people come here seeking advice. All these other posts (the 95% as you say) do take time and effort from them (I used to do this and know for a fact) and distracts users from commenting on posts that are actually seeking advice.
Can’t speak from personal experience, sadly, but I’ve read and have been told that when about to experience an orgasm from g-spot stimulation a lot of women say they feel like they’re going to pee. It’s likely going to be a very intense orgasm and you might squirt. And squirting is not urine, in case you were worried. It can be just as messy though, so maybe lay down a towel.
Have you ever considered that it's because these people actually deserve to be dumped??? Jesus christ, don't advise people to stay with people who do such messed up stuff. I have never heard of a situation like this before and it's fucked up. This isn't some chill disagreement, this is an 18 year old who is so bigoted that they feel entitled to demand their partner get surgery to become infertile…..get some fucking perspective.
I understand how you feel. But you are seriously willing to let someone force you into getting surgery done that you dont need. What if he gives you an ultimatum again? You just gonna keep saying yes because you dont want to wast the years you were together? Dont forget you are still young. You lost 6 years so what. You still have 60+ more years to live and find someone else who wont have you posting stuff like this on reddit. I am 21 so i get how you feel but you have a lot of time in your life. Dont waste it.
Firstly yeah you're in an amazing position. You won't realise until you're 50 how truly magical and full of opportunity your life is now. Secondly I'd suggest not to aim for numbers or just to sleep around for the sake of it. Imo it's better to aim for highly erotic situations. Like just staring into someone's eyes across a table with your hearts thumping can be such a powerful and magical experience. When you put the focus on eroticism things open up so much, there's kink, bondage, dressing up, fun dates, random rendezvous, little encounters, taking risks on people you just met, touching, feeling, caressing, stroking etc. Eroticism is what makes things hot and magical. Body count is just another number in a life stuffed with them.
That's the rub. In fact, I don't even know if its a mirror come to think of it… It might be the exact if you simplify it to “My partner wants something to penetrate them in ways I can't.” ime most people are just brimming with anxiety about everything that has anything to do with their worthiness as an object of affection.
This isn’t a sex question. It’s more for r/relationship_advice. The sex part is this: You’ve got a girlfriend who at least has some experience and maybe knows what she is doing.
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I tried but then they lose interest. There was period in my life where I was really lonely at work. One guy was really nice and friendly, and asked me to hang out with him after some weeks. I went on the meeting with him. What happened next? He flat out asked me to be his girlfriend and CONSTANTLY touched me (it made me feel vomit). I stopped talking with him, he then texted and asked why I don't interact with him anymore. I asked who in their right mint would want to do it with someone they barely know, he then become angry and said he thoughts we were friends. Then asked to lick my feet. I blocked him after that of course but it's not the first time. It happened 4 times at least. At this point I feel abnormal for just wanting to know person somewhat before having sex, all men who were interested in me just jump straight into sex. Like is that me or just being unfortunate enough to attract weirdos?
A few of my friends and I hooked up with the same dude and when she told me she had to leave at 3am I was quite shocked because both times I was with him I spent the night. The first time he asked, the second time it was just known I would spend the night with him.
Backing you up again OP. There is a technique to showering. If he misses a spot, it'll stink. If he doesn't exfoliate, eventually it'll stink. If he doesn't thoroughly wash his ass and junk, it'll really stink. If his skin feels greasy, he isn't washing it thoroughly enough.
Genuinely surprised there. And honestly a blessing in disguise given those people were not worth dating. I think the best route is still be open and honest when meeting new people. If you find you continue to get judge, maybe change up where you’re looking for dates
Bro, set her on her side, have her pull her knees up as far as she can. Some women I been with can bring em up to they’re chin basically. You lay on your side (honestly it don’t matter what way. One like your behind her or bending her over or one like yins are facing each other) but you have so much more room to flex around and position yourself plus yins are laying down it’s weightless and easy. I been told my dick is pretty big but with this position I literally feel like I’m fucking deep in her guts lol. And once your in, you both can position better to get locked in. And then boom. You will have an amazing grip and can basically just hold or hug her and fuck the life out of her.
You're part of a generation of 20 year old guys who have had the least sexual experience out of any generation of 20 year old guys that we know about. So, yes, there are a lot of guys who feel embarrassed or awkward about being virgins in their 20s that are your current peers or just a bit ahead of you within your cohort. Up until your generation started to hit their teen years, the generation before you had previously held the title of the least sexually experienced generation at your age that we knew about. So you have a lot of guys in their 30s and early 40s who have been in your shoes, or at least the version of them that was around at the time.
It might be that you don't feel ready for sex just yet and that these feelings will change over time. That's perfectly valid and fine. These feelings may always stay the same in which case you might choose to identify as asexual. You might choose to seek therapy. You may do both or nether. Your feelings are perfectly valid. Don't ever feel pressurised into doing something you don't want to do.
Please don’t buy into all the misogynistic you tube channels that have recently started up! Whenever men try to analyze woman or woman men, be dubious! Porn will also add to objectifying and desensitize you to making a real connection. I agree that a high body count for a man or woman is not ideal but why preclude the possibility of happiness in the name of an antiquated ethical standard. Happy children which you seem to want, need a loving nurturing home with two parents that set an example of love and commitment to each other.
You're going to find outliers here fucking like bunnies. The reality is, yes it does decrease if you don't work at it. A lot more couples in their 40s/50s/60s/older not having sex than fooling around like horny teens. Decreasing hormones play a role, boredom plays a role, each being overweight, not feeling particularly sex and being tired plays a role.
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Also, not necessary to depe throat to give bj's, most of the sensitivity is at the tip, your hands can work the shaft. Not like you won't be giving great bj even while you figure it out, if you can/want to 🙂
“Any insight on how to fix this or do you think should I just except this is how he is?” Fixing him was very much the notion you gave when you wrote the above
Okay, lets break this down. Sex does not equal attraction. Especially as relationships develop lust turns to love, and sex frequency on average decreases. So is your partner still into you, Probably still 100% Sounds like sex, and physical touch are your love languages. Explain that sex creates a connection between you and your partner, and you would like more physical intimacy. Tell him WHY it matters to you, and HOW it makes you feel. Chances are he will be more motivated to engage My partner and I schedule sex. It's great. Sunday's are Sunday Funday, and we have some great kinky sex (almost) every sunday. Feel free to schedule sex, to initiate sex, or even initiate just more physical affection To me this is super normal relationship stuff. You're past the honeymoon phase, and into the real phase of a relationship that requires communication and hardwork. Does it take some effort yes. But the connection, and love, and commitment, that come out of that is amazing. TLDR: Your boyfriend still loves you. This is normal. You just need to talk and communicate your needs and find compromise.
Eh? So you’d add to her body count and disrespect her as you did? So you’d use her for you own pleasure? So you’re a pig? Women like sex just as much as men do, you don’t see people raising their pitchforks when a man has a high body count. Women are allowed to enjoy sex, just as men can.
> Why do I feel like this if I don’t like him? Because you are having sex with him, it's normal you are getting emotionally attached to him, humans are evolved bond with sexual partners. It's usually the other relationship stuff you are not doing that makes you *less* emotionally attached. It's normal for women to hold opposing emotions at the same time. Don't tell you don't like him if you kind of do as it will just hurt him and thinks harder if you actually start liking him a lot.
Ok so… why'd you flatten out? That changes position and angle, which will always affect rhythm. Look, I totally get losing some self-control in the moment lol, but blaming him for a sudden change that you actively made is kinda shitty.
Are you engaged? Has talks of marriage been brought up? Do you think she's saying to this force your hand on marriage? If she wants to wait, and you're planning on getting married soon, I don't see what the big deal would be to abstain for a bit … If that's what she needs. Esp if she's completing a doctorate. Maybe she's exhausted?!?! Also, because I think it always needs to be said – make sure you're doing 50% of the mental and physical load without her having to ask. Maybe even 60%. Women, generally speaking, get burnt out on the mental and physical load of being the home/relationship caretaker and it effects our sex drive massively
All I can say to this is, if you love her you'll do it regardless and it ain't all that bad. And if you don't, at a certain point in time someone else will. Head up eyes open.
I can't speak for how statistically common or uncommon it is, but I do feel that the people who do like it are more outspoken about it. Especially on reddit. Note the reactions saying you need to dump him, even though you already said that it's not a big deal and you are not going to dump him over this. Personally, I don't like giving head. Not my thing at all. Nothing wrong but enjoying oral, but it's not my personal preference. I do feel like people fixate it too much on it as the be-all end-all of satisfying women, when there's an entire world of sex acts out there and not all women even like receiving oral.
If your partner doesn't agree with you having an open relationship you don't have any “right” to have sex outside the marriage, that's just unethical & cheating, what you should do is come up with a solution that your partner is ok with, because you're married
I had an affair in my dead bedroom, never got caught; and still regret it. I finally left but I wish I had left before I cheated. Now I’m a cheater. Even if I never cheat again, I will always be a cheater.
Hey, it’s somewhat common to have different erections in different sexual acts. Besides the good tips here, I’d like to add: are you wearing a condom for PIV? If so, please measure yourself here: https://calcsd.info and take the condom recommendations to heart. It could be you’re bigger than average (it’s super common for big guys to not know they are big). If so, the condom will be too tight around the base of your penis, and very often kills erections. Then you get nervous bc u think u have ED, and then it becomes a vicious cycle.
This is why menstrual discs are awesome. They sit against the cervix and catch the blood so none comes down into the vagina. She can put in the disc, rinse out, and you have basically period free sex
If you check out virtual events on FetLife, you can probably find a Zoom class on some of the basics of domination, kink, CNC, discussing boundaries, etc. You might find it helpful in exploring this part of yourself— or you might find that something like D/s isn’t for you, but something like a pleasure Dom (which sounds more like what you’re describing your interests to be) might fit you. And remember that indulging in kink like this doesn’t reflect anything about who you “really are” or anything like that. My Dom is an absolute wonderful sadist who leaves me with marks and bruises that take a week to fade. He’s also a kind, gentle life partner to me.
Also would like to say that I'm a 46M and have been with my wife for over 17 years, we only recently (in the last 2 years or so) started sending each other sexy stuff by messenger/text. It's been fun. Some adults like trains or video games or animated shows, do they deserve to be called childish by some dipstick that can't understand humans individually have many different ideas/tastes/hobbies/etc…
With all due respect, this seems like needless pedantry. It's pretty clear that she's talking about being roughed up and feeling used. If you want to encourage OP to get his needs met then let him know he can also tell her that he wants to focus on sensual things at different times. What good does it do to first iron out that Free-use is technically a misnomer and she really wants her version of free use not his. Of course she wants her version, that's why she asked in the first place. This just ads an extra segment to the discussion they are going to have that comes across as condescending. You know what she meant. Why are you going over this? Are you really that annoyed with the name “free-use”? Is now the time to bring that up?
See, I've always been curious about men who have curved penis's – upwards, downwards, sides – because I am personally straight with an upward curve that is nothing special. But, given that the G-Spot is like 1.5 inches inside and on top… i'd assume a more upward curving penis is better? I work with what I have but, my main and only goal is to please her, not me.
I wouldn't even say porn has too much to do with it – it does to an extent – but when you literally see women mocking and making fun of a guys size in movies, shows, magazines, etc… cmon. That's the funny thing. People on this subreddit always default to porn as the reason. But the way women in real life talk about dicks has a way bigger effect. Hearing guys talk about getting rejected once a woman realizes she has a micro penis, is way more scary than a porno where the woman is paid to put on a show. Hearing women say “small dick energy” is way more impactful. And yes that phrase literally refers to the behaviour and technically doesn't mean that having a small dick is the problem, but being insecure is the problem. But in practice, does anyone really believe the people saying a guy has small dick energy would defend a guy that had a small dick? Because usually it sounds like they are saying “Don't act insecure or people will think you have a small dick”. So, going off the average vaginal depth, it seems pointless to have an 8″+ dick but can only put like 5-6″ in before it become painful for her. But that's the thing, I don't want a 10in dick because it will make me a better lover. I want a 10 inch dick because it will make me happy. It's past the point of rationale and understanding. I know my current size is enough. I just want it. “who gaf, it is what it is, i cant change it so whatever” I'd go a step further. It's fine to want a partner that likes your body as is. And it's fine to want a woman that will like your dick. The good news is there do exist women who will love a guy's 4in dick and want it to stay the exact same size. Although to the more restrictions you want the harder it is to find a woman that meets all the criteria. Finding a woman that is satisfied with the sex you're having? Very doable. Finding a woman that will love your dick no matter the size as long as you can get her off in other ways? Still doable, depending on how much she values penetration. If she just likes fullness, then a buttplug during piv can help. Timing can help. There are many ways to make sex maximally enjoyable. Finding woman that specifically thinks your dick is maximally enjoyable for PiV? Not impossible, but there is a compatibility required.
Why are you back with him? He doesn’t respect you and unironically (as if ironically makes a difference, which it doesn’t) used the term ‘man hating.’ This is not about you smelling even if you did which in context I sincerely doubt. The only thing that stinks here — and it absolutely reeks — is his worldview.
This guy is an absolute douche. Stay clear, he’s only ever going to mess you about and make you feel like shit. That’s coming from another attractive male btw. There’s no excuse for behaving the way has/does. You can do better ?
It's possible but that doesn't make it OK. I'm so sorry, OP. This has happened to me too: you're doing amazingly to have identified it and be able to to talk about it.
You lost a baby just around that time? I'm so very sorry for your loss. Maybe your husband is giving you time to physically recover? Or is still processing and grieving your tragedy? Talk to him about it and see what he is thinking and feeling.
You know assuming an attractive person automatically has a bad personality is just as shallow? Some of the most attractive people I've met were also the nicest people ever. On the flip side I've met a lot of unattractive people that were assholes. You really don't know unless you get to know them.
Say she offer to suck yo dick if u let her throat fuck u wit a dildo? Sucking a dick != thtoatfucking a dick. I'll suck a dildo if she sucks my dick for sure.
As other ppl have said asexuality is a spectrum, but for me it's mostly that I just never get turned on on my own. Like I might interact with a person and think that they're attractive, but I don't ever think about them afterwards or think it would be nice to have sex with them or like… whatever people who get turned on by other people do? Lol. It's hard for me to compare because I don't understand what it's like to have that desire towards someone else. If I ever get aroused, it's only if I'm bored and start actively thinking about a kink or watching porn just to fill time. And even then I never imagine myself in sexual situations, it's usually a character or just a vague situation with no person in specific. I don't fantasize about myself or real people. I'm not sex-repulsed (some people are), so the idea of sex doesn't repulse me, it's just an entirely neutral concept to me and doesn't interest me at all. Have you ever had a project or a hobby that you keep thinking you should get back to and never do? Maybe once every few months you'll have some free time and think “oh, maybe I should get into that hobby again”. But you don't feel the urge to follow through, because even if the hobby was fun, you're just not invested enough in it and you have other things you like doing better. And even if you do get back into it for a week or two, eventually you forget about it because it wasn't that important to you anyway? That's sex for me.
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baby you feel incredible I love how tight you are around me oh God, when you move like that it feels amazing fuck baby, you're going to make me cum if you keep doing that tell me what you want me to do to you tell me how good I make you feel (after she cums) mmmm good job baby, but I'm not through with you yet whisper in my ear what you want next Annnnnnnd there's just a few examples to get you going love ❤️. I love talking dirty!
That did sound harsh, you're right. “Are we just accepting blowjobs for the sake of feeling it rather than actually enjoying it” is a better alternative. To be fair to myself, I wasn't scrolling the porn subs. It was just the discussion based ones. I'm done with porn, trying to normalise and equalise my true sexual desire and drive without the influence of external stimuli like porn.
Definitely should separate but you seem to be under the false impression the clit is always this huge throbbing button that says push. My fiance has trouble finding her own clit sometimes, every body is very different. Also kinda sounds like they're very transactional, never a good sign in an actually healthy relationship.
He could be eating the right foods that keep it tasting good. If a person has a bad/fat diet it can taste bitter and bad. It’s super hot that you say and do this, he is lucky to have such a woman.
Gay and straight butt holes have the same nerves. “Gay” has to do with what gender you want to fuck. Gay has nothing to do with him enjoying you licking his ass. You’re not a lesbian because you like when a guy goes down on you.
I agree with you that most don’t get reported at all. Can a person withdraw consent after the fact? That doesn’t seem very fair, unless I’m misunderstanding what you mean
It’s a lie they tell themselves to excuse misogyny. Notice how in his comment he referred to women as ‘females.’ Weird and dehumanising. Women don’t regularly lie about rape and rapists don’t regularly get jail time, but random redditor’s would love for you to think otherwise.
I am a guy and I really would like know how to approach a girlfriend seen randomly in a bar or somewhere too. As you said, I think is a bit boring approach somebody in dating apps.
I'm sorry, I had to laugh. Maybe find a less awkward and weird FWB? ? She needs to find herself and until she does, she's going to continue to yell in your ear, “Who dat?!” ?
Just his face. The facial expressions of pure pleasure as I ride him, and how he closes his eyes because it feels so damn good ?? But i agree, the hip squeezing is just ??
You’re right I don’t want to mess up a good thing, I do go to the gym and I have a fairly neat physique so I’m not sure that it’d make much difference. I’d sacrifice almost everything for her but when we don’t have sex the same grim feeling comes back. I just literally hate that my relationship would end because of sex, I never wanted to believe it meant so much.
You've clearly had this conversation multiple times, and I don't think she's going to change her mind. It's just not something she wants to do. Which nobody owes anymore oral. However, if this is a compatibility issue, and it's something you want in your life, you should rethink the relationship. You want to have your needs met, which is valid. She should be with a partner who is okay with the fact she doesn't give it.
Yes/no. If it's too wet and we're not in missionary I sort of lose feeling of her grip. So it's harder for me to get off. That said, if she's that wet or getting that wet, chances are I'm not going to be the first to finish that night. Good problems to have.
For the long term? Every time? Yes, this would be a dealbreaker for me. If you can’t stop jerking it long enough to reset and won’t figure this out, we are not going to work
So she did more to initiate… and you’re breaking up? Just seems unfair, ngl. Hey man, sex 2 times a year would be unbearable for me. If y’all are way off on libido, then chalk it up to sexual incompatibility and talk about seeing new ppl (but, uhm, not right now, just seems you’re going to discourage her from initiating w anyone). Or you can talk w her, and live w being initiator in chief. Im the one that starts things up, 99.9% of the time. It’s a tough job, not all men can live w that burden 🙂 mostly serious here. But, think of it this way: maybe you’re what she needs. Like having a socially shy SO when you’re outgoing, kind of my strengths help your weaknesses n vice versa thing. Try Nagoski’s book come as you are, helps to understand responsive desire in women. A word about bjs Try it on yourself. Get a cucumber or banana or something that reflects on your erect size. Hold it still/move it randomly while you bob your head forcing it in your mouth. See how easy it is to almost puke/gag. Now imagine you learning this skill while nervous, OJT style. She did fine, as far as I can tell. I almost can’t cum from a BJ, it can’t approximate the amount of stimulation I get being in my partners pussy. That’s ok/normal. Oral is a very one sided/unselfish act. They get points for just trying, extra credit for any enthusiasm.
Seriously? Once a week? WOW! The nerve! Basically it falls down to consent. Even in marriage. If your partner says they only want sex once a week, (which is pretty phenomenal) you need to respect that.
Oooof. I feel like that’s the same situation as OP but in reverse. Bringing toys into the bedroom is not a problem, but when you’re ONLY getting enjoyment from toys, it starts to make your partner feel some kind of way—or to your point, it’s tedious after a while
My insurance will pay for a biopsy or “pain management therapy” of my broke foot but keeps denying my pcp's request for an mri. Aetna, if you are reading this, fuck you.
“They”? Are we talking about more that one person? Because if not, it becomes vitally import whether this person is a male or a female. If a male, yeah, get on Post-Exposure Protocol, right now. If a female, well, probably don’t worry about it but raise your standards in the future.
and watch him masturbate? how would porn be useful between the two of us? genuine questions btw… i’m trying to be open minded and change my mindset even when i should respect my boundaries but there has been nothing yet that convinces me porn is okay in a committed monogamous relationship.
This is a valid point, I’ve had some that made me nut super quick to my surprise and then I’ve also had some that I needed to stimulate myself to completion
Did you tell him the hygiene is important and he should brush his teeth twice a day and shower daily or Did you take the more direct approach and tell him his breath and his body odor disgust you and make you not attracted to him and he needs to take care of his hygiene daily Maybe you should consider exiting this relationship because basic hygiene isn’t difficult so imagine how he tackles other daily tasks, basic chores and obstacles in the future.
When someone shows you who they really are, believe them. His personal hygiene standards will always be subpar to your basic requirements. If you give him an ultimatum he will resent you for it…. expect nothing to change and decide what you want.
Why ist it not cool? He made it clear he does not want her to have an of on her own. How is asking for 50% weird, if you are running the account together?
“Mental gymnastics” happen when our brains spiral into destructive thought patterns—making up excuses or arguments for unjustifiable decisions or situations. In other words, they're “all the thoughts that are within play to keep you from doing that exact thing you need to do,” psychotherapist Shemena Johnson, Psy. Let him eat you out. I doubt he will care.
Ehhh it could be but the comment that women need more upkeep while men can let it go points to something deeper than depression. It may be compounding the issue but that comment is a glaring warning sign.
There are simple exercises for strenghtening pelvic floor muscles that you need to control your ejaculation. They involve edging, that you should practice on your own first. Exercises will also helpo you differentiate your orgasms from ejaculation.
i promise a man that truly like you for you will not judge you. he will love how you look all over. i know it can be very scary, but once it’s happening, all that stress just releases. i used to be super scared as well w a similar experience. i finally just went for it. i promise it will be okay❤️
You are 100% wrong! I would give you a link but if you search yourself, type most dominant sex position for a male. Doggy style is #1 always. You forget we are still basically animals and this harkens back to our origins as such. Not having to look someone in the eye and putting them in the most vulnerable position possible by exposing them this way is as dominant as you can get without going into B&D.
I understand the views completely. My husband says when he watches porn, it’s just for visual and sounds for that moment to get him to peak and that’s it. For me, when I watch it, I think of my husband and when I do peak, sorry if tmi…I even call his name but I completely understand your wife’s point of view. And congrats on your anniversary! Yes, I’ve mentioned that to him, that he’s made it a habit or a morning ritual and it takes away from me in the afternoon, he explains that he’s just too tired when he gets home. I won’t press him as I wouldn’t want to be pushed to do something if I’m not in the mood. But I guess it’s not good either, as I’ve started to make it a habit to take it when I can get it because if I deny it, I know I won’t get it for a while. Thank you for your advice about retraining, I definitely will bring it up in our conversations.
Not everyone suits a shaved head, right? Well same goes for your down below. It really depends on what your pubic region looks like ergo what will suit you. I don’t look very good completely shaved and I don’t have thick enough pubic hair to make any shapes or landing strips, so I just keep it trimmed short and tidy around the edges. If you’ve got more hair you probably have options. Try a few things while you’re single! Or just try a few things. 🙂 have some fun with it. Ask a waxed what they recommend.
Thank you! I was assuming I should contact my health provider anyways and see if there are any other test(s) I should get done. So in this case, is it more likely I came into contact with someone with it and may or may not have contracted it myself? Until further proven with another type of test? My boyfriend and I were discussing this more last night, and he does further believe it might be a false positive since I haven't had an outbreak in the past 4 years (obviously could have had this for much less than 4 years as the partner I could think I might have gotten it from I was first with two years ago… Also someone who would be impossible to convince to test).
That's a fuckbuddy If they want that type of relationship, nothing wrong with it. I've had fwbs and fuckbuddies and we were on the same page so we both wanted to fuck and then disappear from eachother lol. Fwb, bit different, they're a friend first.. which doesn't sound like what you're describing. Either have a talk about what you're both looking for from eachother and see if this is mutually agreeable orrrrr find a new fwb/fuckbuddy because this can really hurt if you thought you were FRIENDS with benefits and not “just a fuck”
Girl-on-top is a great position to boost your confidence. When you are confident in bed, you are more confident in life as well. And the best part is, a lot of the tips inside the bedroom work outside of the bedroom. Close your eyes when you are performing girl-on-top and notice your self-talk. What do you say to yourself? Are you being self-compassionate? Or are you judging yourself? Chance is that if you’re judging yourself, your partner will sense it. So bring awareness to your self-talk .
Im with everyone who says something along the lines of communication is key. You need more sex so tell him and ask him what he thinks you should do about it as a couple. So many options these days like being open or if you’re worried about stds maybe have a third person in your relationship maybe he likes to watch and that gets him going. In turn maybe bring a second girl in for him as pretty as you can find and try to help him find his libido if that’s an option. Long story short talk to him and even give him time to think. Tell him he doesn’t have to answer now and give him a date like if it’s Monday say I want to discuss this Friday or the next Monday again to see where he is at with it. Maybe he’s willing to use toys on you if you like that. Too
I mean.. if you want. I would have told my partner the moment I decided to get tested cause I try to have completely open communication, however I don’t see the point in telling him now.
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This, 100% My ex was studying abroad for half a year and let me tell you…those two times we visited each other in that time was the best bloody sex I've had
This. This all day. Also, a lot of guys treat their own cum like it's toxic acid but expect their partners to gobble it like they're in one of those Got Milk commercials. Tasting your own cum is a wonderful bit of sexual health self awareness as well as a great way to gain some perspective on a part of a partner's experience, OP.
some asexual people can and want to have sex. it's just that we don't experience sexual attraction. not every asexual is sex repulsed, some need to be in love, be really comfortable with someone etc to have sex. also, some asexual people make extremely sexual jokes, idk why, for some reason we do lol you may want to ask her about actually having sex. and if you're disappointed by her answer just let her know. I think I'd rather hear “sorry, it's a deal breaker for me” than be led on.
Unless you have negotiated CNC or TPE, then safe word means full stop, always. Even in CNC or TPE I'd still stop and see what was going on with my sub if they safeworded
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99% of men would explode if a lesbian couple asked them to have a threesome, but in a good way. Feeld is a good, open minded app for finding a guy for this.
It could be either that he has a kink but in general we guys like when we make you cum. So it could be that his ego is being stroked while you get off his dick in such a way that he had not yet put it in you and made you cum. Only one way to find out
I think it depends a little. I personally i only use face clothes for my face and probably wouldn't be too happy with sombody using it to clean their parts even when not bleeding. If he's anal (if you exuse the pun) like me and only uses it for his face then he's right and i would too probably throw it away. If he uses it to clean everything then your right and he's a child.
Girl get the fuck out of here, you posted twice. Leave your pedo boyfriend. He’ll probably find an actual woman who didnt just become an adult. Isn’t anyone else curious why a 25 year old is interested in a 19 year old girl? Someone who was just in high school to someone who is out of university???
21M, been in a happy relationship for 3 years and it is kinda embarassing because it is much smaller flaccid than erect, but at this point it doesn’t stop me if I have to change clothes in front of her. She knows it’s not small anyways.
Jesus your BF is a manipulative emotionally abusive Ahole. This isn't ok. None of this is normal or ok. Dump his ass and find someone who treats you better. There are a million men out there that would treat you better than this. And you DESERVE better than this.
If you're very fat, it could be metabolic syndrome. If you've been taking any folk herbal remedies (including cannabis) to relieve stress or improve performance, they might be responsible.
It's a menstrual disc. They claim that men can't feel them and market them to women who want to have sex during their periods. So she was probably embarrassed thinking she did something wrong.. Just make her feel comfortable and let her know that she can talk to you about it.
I have a post I made today and it’s similar. Seriously what is going on right now? Men, act right ? (just kidding). I want anal but he keeps pressuring me to just stick it in with no fore play or attempts at turning me on!
Take some time and train him to give you an orgasm. Delay intercourse for days, weeks, even months if necessary. The more “new stuff” a person has to wrestle with at once, the more insecure and nervous they get. So break the new stuff up. =)
Change it’s all about her, to it’s all about YOU! If it’s all about her, when she said no, then the conversation ends. This whole post is filled with what YOU want? Do you know not every woman is Bi? Do you know not all women have a fantasy of being with another woman? Jeez your poor wife.
That and even the ones that are transitioning sometimes choose varying degrees of surgery. Many will keep their penis and still fully identify as a woman. I know one and she has a very healthy relationship with a woman. So many think that sexual preference and gender identity should align, with many they are not tied together at all. I am learning daily to be tolerant and to learn how these people wish to be acknowledged. People are coming around on this topic though which is great! Good on for you for educating yourself!
Guys who worry about penis size don’t understand women well enough. If you want to help him grow as a lover, sure, educate him a bit and have a talk. Basically humans don’t like complexity and try to simplify everything with some caveman thought like ‘bigger is better.’ The fact that women are complex and sex is mostly mental is too challenging, because that would mean a guy can’t just kick back and be lazy, thinking ‘my Dick is big so she should be happy…not her work, attention, creativity, skills required.’ Truth. Each man and woman is different and what makes them happy sexually may or may not involve being big sucked, small dicked or even no dicked.
The obvious solution here would seem to be to discuss the issue when OP is emotionally present. She can explain to him that it's cathartic for her, Oxytocin is a hell of a drug.
You sound like your trying to convince yourself here dude by saying things like “she wants me to do it” she says that now but afterwards I can see you losing the relationship,the only “safe” way to bring someone new in as a once off is with a prostitute,someone that you and your girlfriend will never see again BUT if you want to lose your relationship with your girlfriend then go for it
It’s called stress. You did not lose your virginity. This is all in your head and your stomach hurts because you are stressing yourself out over this. Why would this guy lie about what you two did? You were blacked out not unconscious. He would have no idea you weren’t making memories at the moment. If you asked if you had sex he would have thought you were fully coherent and would have said yes if you did.
Depends on the partner. For some, any discomfort that comes from how they are tied up can add to the eroticism. And the level of discomfort will be different depending on how the person is tied.
When I turned 40 something switched in me and I wanted to fuck every woman of every size. Larger women look and feel amazing to me now, as long as they have or can fake confidence. Trying to hide their tummy or wanting lights off is a turnoff, I'm a visual creature. Sorry to say that wasn't the case when I was younger, I idolised skinny girls with big fake boobs. Hopefully you find one of the many men of all ages that see your value and appreciate you.
The only real thing you can do is talk. Explain that you want more reciprocation, more sex, or whatever. Probably talk about it at a time when neither of you are planning on doing anything sexual, so that doesn't get in the way. It sounds like he's just using you, but without knowing everything about both of you I couldn't tell you for sure. I can understand if he didn't want vaginal sex because of the risk of pregnancy for some people that can add more stress than having sex decreases. There are many other things that the two of you could do though.
You ate your way into feeling self conscious and embarrassed by your size. It’s ruining your confidence and your ability to feel sexy. That’s not good. If you feel that way about your size, limiting calories and regular difficult exercise have to be your go-to solution. You need to lose some weight. I am NOT being fat phobic. I am focusing on your words. The resulting improved confidence will help you filter out the vile men and leave dead relationships.
Weaponizing sex is a sure way to divorce. Try counseling – so each of you can have your needs met without either BTA. As of now, seems like YTA. But he is no price either. Learn to communicate better so your kids can have two loving parents.
Communication is key to every relationship. You can get all the answers you desire by sitting down with your wife and simply asking her why the two of you aren't being sexual. It's fine to be submissive. However you still need to do 50% of the communication. You still need to initiate (you can initiate as an act of submissive pleasure giving). You still need to carry a part of the relationship Sounds like you have a dead bedroom not because of a submissive nature, but because your relationship lacks communication. You should be asking why your bedroom is dead. You should be asking how you can fix it. You should be talking to your partner as an equal. I am a submissive male, and have zero issues with a dead bedroom. There is no reason yours needs to be dead.
This is completely true. Even though as a bi guy I totally fantasize about MMF, it would be awful if my gf would make the suggestion. I guess in most cases it would be ok for a girl to suggest ffm, and for a guy to suggest mmf. But suggesting that someone of the same gender as your SO joins in is likely to end up with trouble.
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That may just not be something he wants or who he is.
Very practical question! There seems be a safer, better way than crushing. That exposes a person to the danger of getting even a speck of chemical on the tongue that's going to cause damage, or at least create a ghastly taste that lasts for hours. What if you absent mindedly rub your eyes before rinsing off the hands? You could before swallowing the capsule rinse it under running water. I would break the tablet just into halves, and drop the halves into the blank capsule.
Even fuck buddies have let me spend the night
Two fucking years with this asshole? Girl…
Here's a few pro tips. Get a clear understanding of the rules regarding being able to touch the dancers upfront. Don't make eye contact with any dancers that you don't want to come over to you. Be polite. You'd be amazed how far treating the dancers like ladies as opposed to cheap whores will get you. It sounds counter intuitive but if you treat the dancers like they're fully dressed they tend to be more comfortable around you. Strip club drinks are expensive for no reason, and there's no guarantee they'll even carry your drink of choice. So I pregame in the parking lot before I walk in. I keep your singles and larger bills in different pockets. Because I've seen a guy toss $100 when he meant to throw her $5 If there's a particular dancer you want to see tipping a waitress to get her for you is probably the fastest way to get her to your table. These are a few that came to mind immediately but I could probably go on.
Yeah but seriously, they are more common in third world countries then in western ones. And in Germany for example, you would always go use a condom on first dates or stuff, but mostly to avoid pregnancy and not because you always think about possible STDs… they are not common at all here. As i said, i am astonished, how often this topic gets posted here.
I can almost guarantee he's got some of the girl he's bringing over after that or something so he better check that out lol
Being completely honest and transparent about our sex life, desires, fantasies, etc., was the BEST decision we even made. It took about 30 years. Highly recommend. Your wife may surprise you and have some kinks and sexual fantasies herself. Hiding your true self or your desires is never the way. Talk outside of the bedroom, one on one. This conversation is WAY overdue, my man. Good luck!!
Or push you off the bed…..?
Makes you… horny.
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U r not taking too long wtf ? that's pretty quick imo actually
… wow you guys are seriously bitter
That's fair, and it would also depend on what you were fighting about. I probably have had sex after a fight in that case. I guess my impression, which I'm now realising comes from TV, is that you have sex instead of resolving the fight, which seems super unhealthy to me. I'm not into toxic stuff, happy and stable makes me horny
I'm 40F (and typing that out is hard…lol) but at 39 I felt like I was still in my 20s sexually. I feel like the only difference between the decades is now I really care whether or not there is foreplay and whether or not I get off. Lol…have fun
Use them to tie her down and tease her. Once you have her “helpless” start kissing her thighs and working your way inwards but do not touch her clit. Make her beg.
what he is doing is not normal. it is not normal to be glued to a phone during sex ever. he needs help that you cannot give.
Can't skip leg day bro you got this
If the problem is visual porn, i highly suggest you try audios (as cringy as they may feel to use) or to read erotica. Tho this is only if your issue is that you are starting to have trouble getting off without involving porn (like say, with a partner).
Since the squeezing your legs together feels nice, maybe its about the pressure? Have you tried humping a pillow/your partner(s legs/thighs)?
Omg thank you so much for this???
Can confirm
In that case I can only concur with peanutmanak47. Take it very slowly, just relax and get everything negative out of our head. Take your time with foreplay. You have nothing to prove. Just have a good time 🙂
sorry I can't help with vagina-smells but my lab has two chemicals that smell like sperm!
This I highly agree with. I’ve had it before too. The antibiotics are awful! My ex had it, it was completely dormant for her, and I never received it from her. But she got treated for it once she found out.
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When i mixed it i had troubles with climax by myself. Masturbation also help with kegel muscle and it was too much. So i think it prevents when overextended.
Just break up You are not compatible He clearly likes sex You are not that sexual It just means you are not right with one another Now here you are asking of you were taped…
Makes me so mad. Same men will tell us breasts are sexualized for biological reasons not societal, but as soon as these same breasts serve their biological purpose they are disgusting? Us women are expected to swallow down jizz from guys that tastes like battery acid but milk is disgusting? Women have to put their body/lives at risk for pregancy and then get up every couple hours to feed a screaming baby. As someone not pregnant the idea of having milk in my tits freaks me tf out but we just adjust, but this man can't adjuts to becoming a decent fkn husband that doesn't change his wife's body that changed to birth and feed his children???
Is it so hard for you to open ur mind. Obviously we aren't going to change anyones minds. I'm asking a question. Is it better to have mindless sex on the side of a sexless marriage and keep the marriage and household, or is it better to break it up and destroy the other partners life and make them start all over again?
Teasing/build up . Work your way kissing down his body and gently running your fingers across the public area. Gently licking – base to tip – around the head etc switch it up – get it wet before you put it fully in your mouth Mix up between gentle sucking/running your tongue around simultaneously and moving up and down Throw a bit of deep throat in Simultaneously sucking and jerking off Add the occasional wanking break and give your jaw a rest ?? Just mix it up don't stick to one thing for too long, build up helps and start off slow and gentle. It's hard to explain it all really but all that always works for me , some men just don't cum from that alone, I think I've only made my fiance cum twice from oral alone, it's always the wanking that does it but very quickly coupled with the oral
No, it absolutely is 100% selfish. OP is talking about wanting to (essentially) keep their partner around for emotional intimacy, but go outside the relationship to obtain physical intimacy and satisfaction. Without it being discussed ahead of time – such as opening s relationship or whatever – it is absolutely out of bounds to go somewhere else to get that physical connection. Especially since this is ultimately going to lead to OP probably just not desiring Sex with their SO.
I wonder if he's on the asexual spectrum and is deflecting? Or is unhappy and trying to make you be the one to end things. Outside of the bedroom does he use the same random babble techniques when talking about other uncomfortable subjects? I had a GF that was like that once. As soon as I hit something hot button she would change the subject and talk complete nonsense. I'm also personally offended by his treatment of the belly. I'm a chonky guy, my type is chubby to bbw. I'm attracted to a nice tummy and think it's utterly disrespectful. All I can say is there are other men out there who will be attracted to you and give you the things you need sexually. You don't have to settle for this.
Nothing is perfect and every relationship has compromises but not in a way that is seriously lopsided. You will find a guy who has enough of the traits in and outside the bedroom to be compatible. It’s also a matter of learning how to be a good partner too and realizing what you want. You may have been focusing too much on the sexual connection in previous relationships but now I think you should be able to strike a better balance and understand what you want and need. I’m sorry if that means your current relationship ends, but I really think you will both be unhappy in the long run if you stay, and you DEFINITELY don’t want to be constantly fantasizing about cheating, but it does show how incompatible you are.
I always remember my best 2 I've slept with and no can't get past the sex part but the rest of them im over
Paddling? You could use the back of a hairbrush to see if he'd like it. Wax is another one. Just be careful at first. Use candles with a lower melting temperature and avoid the genitals & nipples (the back is a good place to start with wax unless he's got a lot of hair there). I mean this for practice and being safer at the start. Once you know what you're doing, it's easier to do. I also don't mean waxing here but waxing is another possibility when it comes to pain. When you know what kind of pain he's into I'll probably have better suggestions. People who like thuddy pain (for example paddles) like different things than people who like stinging pain (whips/crops).
I much prefer baby oil as its not sticky like some lubes and just overall better cleanup and better for the skin haha
I’m the same as her. I have had +10 uti’s and the only thing that prevents this, is peeing after sex. Which I can’t if I just went. My solution is to drink 1-2 glasses of water before sex, if my bladder is empty.
I'm gonna guess there are multiple subs for this… And this isn't one of them
When I met my husband, I was rebounding from one of those. Really didn't think it would go anywhere because I was fixated on this other person. I immediately knew the husband was a really great guy and I was super into him, but I worried about that piece maybe being missing. It was like a year in when I discovered his real sexual appetite that he'd been kind of suppressing so as not to scare me off. Once we'd communicated about that, all bets were off. I was all in, ride or die, nothing could separate us in this world or any other. My advice is to be extremely clear and up front and specific about what you're looking for going forward. Save yourself a lot of time, and find someone who wants what you want.
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I’m just trying to process what happened. I feel like I should this time. I usually just sweep these things under the rug
Ohhh noooo two consenting adults going outtt
Don't tell everyone. They'll all want to try.
You’ve been with him 3 years too long…..
Note that Plan B will likely affect your period for the next month or two so don’t be alarmed.
I'll be honest – This feels more like a trolling question, but I'll give the benefit of the doubt and answer in case it helps someone else. Sexual thoughts when you aren't in a relationship is very normal. If they start to become obsessive or interfering with your daily life, that's when you should consider seeing a therapist. I for one, constantly think about sex, this is normal and I'm ok with it, I just make sure not to let it control my life. As for “bring ugly and not in a relationship” Many people look in the mirror and think they are ugly, but that's not usually how others see them – there's always going to be someone that finds you attractive, it's learning to recognize it that's the hard part. Only you can decide when it's right for sex and if you need to be in a relationship. There are plenty of men and women who have sex today without being in a relationship. My biggest advice for being more attractive – take care of yourself (hygiene, dress nice, brush your hair, etc) and try to do things that build your confidence – confidence increases other people's desire for you. I hope this addresses your concerns and good luck!
Sure, if the submission is part of the kink and the pain is just uncomfortable but not causing injury. But only if you’re genuinely ok with it emotionally.
Yes pubic hair retains moisture
That's a nice take, thanks. It's interesting bc they often tell me how relaxed/present I am, and how it makes them be able to relax and slow down and not think about anything else too. So I wonder if they're trying to reciprocate for me or something. Hm…
It's legal so you can do it, but you are in absolutely no position to tell people they aren't allowed to dislike you for doing it. That's like saying just because you are legally allowed to shout the N word we shouldn't be allowed dislike people who do.
Uh, yes, absolutely!
Get a new girlfriend
And your response is staying for 3 more years and posting on reddit? I'm sure you could think of a more effective solution, OP.
First of all, did you read any of the post? I never answered no. I said I'd never considered this question and don't wish to. Also, I'm a lesbian. We don't know how to have bad sex. Try again.
He deserved every word you said. He’s been treating you like a human fleshlight for 3 years. You seriously deserve better than and ignorant, unempathetic, selfish man.
Guys growing up don't get a chance to “Learn” things to do to a girl until we end up with one willing to teach us. For most of us, they never learn anything at all and go on thinking that's how sex is. We pride ourselves on thinking, I don't need help, I'm fine. When we do. It's the same with women as well. I've had my fair share of women from the past who I've had to show, don't do thus but do this instead. Take it as constructive criticism not bashing. He seems to not want to learn and change. That's on him. Should he feel open to learning from you then by all means, best of luck to you both.
Read “The Sex God Method” by Daniel Rose. That's all I'm going to say. Good luck buddy, and hang in there. It gets better. Also, I would look at the frames you are setting up with these people. Most women will give you at least 2 chances at “proving” you are good at sex if they have more than a sexual interest in you. Not saying you are a bad or unlikable person but maybe your lack of confidence shines through. You may be shocked to find out that the reason they don't want to see you again has nothing to do with sex. Just to give you an exaggerated example – take the most arrogant, selfish, full-of-himself asshole but who is incredible in bed. Most women won't see that guy again either.
That made me giggle. As though you had a choice? Man going to a urologist saying I want a strong downward bend in my dick. The urologist pushes glasses up and says, “you want what?” With a look that says, Why the fuck would you want that?
Seriously, a ‘few’ other comments? Almost every comment on this post is trying to get you to see how insanely irresponsible you are. As someone else said, your defensiveness is really speaking volumes. If I am adding nothing to the post or your life, why are you still here putting your energy into it? I do pray for that man that y’all don’t get pregnant because you do not seem fun to deal with at all. Ps.. I love how you got upset at others for making so many assumptions yet here you are making assumptions about me that I’m American when I’m not.
Thank you for the response and advice! Wow that is awesome that you and your man enjoyed it. I think my wife would really love it also, she loves sex and having two men I think would get her off like never before, She told me she has had threesomes before but didn’t give more info and I didn’t press her for anymore info, But I think she would totally be into it if she knew it wouldn’t wreck our relationship. That is awesome you enjoyed it, Did your hubby enjoy it? Do you think he will want to do it again?
What is the obsession with squirting?
You'll probably be fine. Keep it up.
it's the beard
Thank you I will tell her this!
Just didn't wanna have regrets, thought people who have done it would be able to give insight on whether I would or not
Well, if you're about to do it next time, just tell him that you'd like him to perform it on you too
I'm assuming this guy is probably around 20 years old. Yea I don't think it would be very enjoyable these days, I would want to wait a few minutes, but not all that long, especially if I spooged right out the gate like that.
No shot you Ms. I am sure whatever you are saying is coming from a good place and I am grateful to you for being on the right side. Honestly things are not that complicated but its hard to give benefit of doubt in such scenarios. The guy here is young and his gf is messing up his mental wiring (maybe not intentionally but things like these can have deep scars on that person’s psychology ) Tomorrow they might break up but such comments will stay with him interfering in his other relationships. Hence its better to be cautious than sorry.
If she likes it, and you like it, I wouldn't worry about it. Unhealthy would be if you pressured her to do it/did it without her consent. I doubt it would turn into that though if you're already concerned enough to ask things like this. Just keep communication open! I personally find it hot as hell if I'm blowing a guy and he pulls up my lip to see himself in my mouth.
Very open communication is best. At your ages it is probably best for both of you to realize you don't know exactly how to please the other and ask what feels good as your experimenting. Good on you all for staying safe with a condom. I've never tried giving a blowjob to a guy with on but I do strongly suspect it would make you feel less as well as taste weird for her. Guys say sex feels way different with a condom vs without, and I expect a blowjob wouldn't be much different from your perspective.
Did you know that only 3% of the adult US population identifies as bisexual? But a lot of women identify as straight even tho they are sexually attracted to women and find thier bodies more of a turn on. They call themselfs straight because they can only ever see themselfs being in relationships with men
I think they're sexy on a woman (man here). However, if you think you looked sexy with them, and your then bf and now husband has changed his tone and wants you to have them, then what we all think doesn't matter. Worst case, you can always remove them if you change your mind. Much easier to undo than getting a tattoo done, for example.
Estrogen yes, anti-androgens no.
Nothing wrong with it. The stuff I would think about are logistical stuff. If you go raw you want tests and informed consent if they go raw with someone else. Figuring out what kinks you want to explore with them (if any). Just be upfront and set out your boundaries and preferences.
If you love him, you could compromise and do it once or twice a year for him. I would only break up with a spouse if she refused to compromise. Like I'm not into anal ( I find it a bit disgusting tbh but not judging) However, if my gf loves it I'm going to do my best to give her what she likes sometimes. I won't do it everytime, but refusing to compromise for stuff like this is a redflag to me. What if he doesn't like giving oral ? Or kissing etc. Relationships are always about compromising.
Well I'll ask her cause here in HK it's a controlled substance and a prescription is a must. But my ED stems from my illness, and unless it goes away I'll forever be a limp dick loser??Starting at 20, I'm getting beta access to middle age problems, might start getting back pains or arthritis later
Well I'll ask her cause here in HK it's a controlled substance and a prescription is a must. But my ED stems from my illness, and unless it goes away I'll forever be a limp dick loser??Starting at 20, I'm getting beta access to middle age problems, might start getting back pains or arthritis later
He told me he was virgin and that he did not know anything about sex. Idk if anal really has anything to deal with your issue honestly. That is more the symptom not the disease situation.
That makes sense. I’ve got a long refractory period, so I wouldn’t get hard again unless she’s going to keep sucking it for at least a couple of hours lol.
Maybe run it by him and see if you interpreted that correct and share your insecurity. May be a chance to come closer!
If you have to think about it, say no. I’ve had several threesomes, and anytime the other two had a single doubt, it went bad fast.
The smell. It’s a very specific smell that you are simultaneously not a huge fan of and a massive fan of.
DO NOT DO IT. I REPEAT. DO NOOOOOTTTT DO IT. YOU WILL REGRET THI AND NOTHING WILL EVER BE THE SAME. YOUR SO CALLED BEST FRIEND DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU OR HER FEELINGS. TELL HER TO FIND SOMEONE ON TINDER AND LEAVE YOUR BF ALONE.
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That is an extremely toxic thing to do.
You said you saw his phone, did you not see what he was watching or searching for? If he were watching a lot of hardcore BDSM and then claimed that he wasn’t personally interested in it, I’d say yes that is unusual. But lots of porn is kind of vanilla in the sense it just goes blowjob > missionary > cowgirl > doggy > facial. Once you get passed all the wild female vocalization, giant dicks, and jackhammer thrusting it’s pretty vanilla (except maybe for the facial ?).
Should I completely block him out of my life? Yes definitely, that is a creepy dude. Before you cut him out of your life I suggest you let him know that you have saved a copy of your conversation and if you ever see this video anywhere or as much as here from anyone that they have seen it or heard about it then you are going straight to the police.
Just be naked most of the day! Doesn't have to be sex the whole time. Intimacy, touching cuddling etc. Make sure you have plenty of food and tasty treats and drinks. Plan a nice meal together, have some soft blankets clean and washed to use around the house
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Not true, its a different stimulation. Went through this with my husband before.
Find someone that she deserves? Someone else who storms out of casual gatherings with friends and gives their partner the silent treatment for two days?! lol. Also, saying he “wags his tongue” is a big leap and judgemental as fuck.
Thank you I most probably will talk to her when she gets home from work !
You should talk about that with him beforehand and confirm he's ok with that too. To avoid any misunderstandings.
I didn't that, but it was already too late.
I’m actually not at all. When I was younger I would have been. I just like to see her get off. So if this is another way, I’ll have fun.
So married guys don't watch lesbian porn?
No, but people have different preferences. There was a thread recently where a woman said her partner doesn't want to kiss her for days after she gives him a blowjob.
You are thoroughly incorrect. Look up “image based sexual abuse” and copyright laws as they relate to personal imagery. And “wire tap” laws apply to audio only, you dumb dumb.
If there is a god, why in the world would he give you al these sexual urges and then make you go to hell if you fulfill them? Sex is one of the most amazing and wonderful things about life and the notion that you can't masturbate or have sodomy or have sex with someone who's not your wife or whatever stupid rules different religions have is just ridiculous and are just dumb rules made up by some grumpy old men who wanted to control people. This is definitely not rules made by a loving god. These sounds more like rules made by some cult. If you personally don't want to watch porn or fornicate or whatever then great, don't. But I say live your life as you want and not as other people tell you to. If you want to jerk off every day, then go for it and enjoy. 🙂
“Crime scene sex” is a thing for some.
I’ve heard 6 months to a year :/ maybe try looking into foods or supplements to help your hormones & body get back on track.
If a woman is looking for a hookup then looks may matter (as in dating apps) but when it comes to choosing a life partner their internal radar flicks on and other things start to matter way more So while women are having hookups with other men thier 20s I have to wait and then once I am stable in my 30s these same women will look for me to setttle down once they had thier sexual fun? What type of women do you find attractive? Im into most types although I prefer women who are more natural or dont wear much makeup, im not into overweight women tho as I prefer slim/petite or average. Im not overweight myself so I want someone who is the same.
Heh, we'll see, not going to be a popular sentiment round here.
True. I just don't like unexpected blood. But no harm done.
How about your guy using a fleshlight every time you have sex? If he needs a sex toy every time you have sex, you have no right to refuse that just because you feel insecure. He knows what he needs and wants and has no patience for people who would refuse his enjoyment. He's not going to praise your vagina every time he gets off with a fleshlight.
With pee*
I have the best orgasms when I squirt also. My vaginal walls are contracting so tightly it's crazy. It's intensity ot off the planet. Clit orgasms are not as powerful for me.
She sounds like shes a great friend to him, and a shitty friend to you. Say no. If you've already said no, and hell, even if you haven't, as her, since she feels so bad for this guy, why hasn't she just done him the favor herself. You need a better friend.
The hole you are trying to penetrate is toward the bottom of the vaginal opening, try feeling around with your fingers first to figure it out. Honestly, using your fingers is the advice here more generally as well; lots of women are very anxious about their first time (which makes muscles tight!), and some women have never really tried putting anything inside themselves either. Lots of ladies masturbate just by stimulating their clit and don't finger themselves while doing so. If this is the case, then your GF has muscles she is flat out unused to using, or even being aware of! Go slow. Try putting in one finger, then have her clench down firmly. It can be hard to deliberately 'not' use a muscle, clenching down makes you more aware of the muscle, which then makes it easier to relax. Do this a few times. Clench, then relax, clench, then relax. Slowly move your finger in and out or roll it in little circles. Once she gets used to it, try a second finger, and then maybe a third. Same process each time. Go slow, make sure she is as relaxed as she can get. Once you get your dick inside, same deal. Go really slow. Wait for her to get used to the feeling. Clench and relax. If you're concerned about your own stamina, you can try getting her off with your fingers (and some tongue!) before putting your dick in. Don't forget that she needs to get hers!
I would suggest couples therapy. I know the assault was against you, but obviously, it deeply affected him as well. If he has not figured out how to deal with this, he needs some help as well. If he doesn't do anything, nothing will change more than likely
CNC can be pretty extreme, the only limit is that you’re not actually being raped because you agree to whatever is happening
Thats why I prefer to date non-western women because they are more submissive, feminine and dont have a mouth on them like western women.
Next time he tells you that crap…. Tell him maybe his next GF will have what he wants.. And your next BF will be a real man.
15 is not a high number. Having said that, who even cares? Also, you are under no obligation to share that number with anyone. If you feel someone will judge you based on that number, or any number, run away from them.
?i love this mentality!
OP said she doesn’t want to do it anymore bc it tastes bad. So the point of his post is figuring out a way to not make it taste bad BECAUSE he doesn’t want her to stop giving him head… So she’s still going to have to taste test his cum on his behalf? That sounds sort of unfair don’t you think? He’s worried it really does taste bad but doesn’t want to see for himself?
Listen to him and you'll have a baby with an idiot.
Nope’ always fucked those ones’
Sounds like as good a way as any of cancelling a good thing for yourself.
On Amazon you can put waterproof blanket pads, it’s very thin and the top side is soft like a blanket but it’s super easy to wash. I think they are like $30, I have one for my senior dog, haven’t used it for the bed but don’t see why it would work
Soooo… destructive and selfish
I orgasm from masturbation. I can’t from oral unless I’m really comfortable with a person which could take years. I’m bi but I’ve only been with guys I use lube sometimes but that doesn’t help me feel anything just helps it not hurt
What would you consider a porn addiction? Does it consume one to the point where it interferes with daily activity? Or more a dependency on watching porn to get off? No need to answer if that’s an uncomfortable question, just curious
Will do, thank you
/r/survivinginfidelity is the sub you want, my friend
Please seek therapy
What he said
We should
You have no idea how happy I am to read this. Female bodies melt my brain sometimes despite all of my best intentions. I generally succeed in not ogling or otherwise causing discomfort but I'd be lying if I said I'd never ended up accidentally talking to a nice pair of boobs ?. It's just difficult sometimes!
I don't care about the shade of my bum hole. I do care to make sure that it gets waxed.
Adhd/ autism… my mind wanders. Plus I'm not super sensitive, so I sometimes don't even finish
Do you not just play with your penis when you’re bored? It’s something to do and it’ll react, it’s just not because of arousal. Exploring and playing with your body doesn’t have to be exclusive to arousal
Do you not just play with your penis when you’re bored? It’s something to do and it’ll react, it’s just not because of arousal. Exploring and playing with your body doesn’t have to be exclusive to arousal
I had gastric sleeve in 2016 & I'd say the biggest sexual benefit is that I am so much more flexible.
Not really a 'lol' situation, is it.
That sounds a little rude of him. Something you could suggest or try is finishing with a condom. Go raw til he gets close then put the condom on and keep fucking til he cums.
Just ask. If it is an issue for him, exit stage left or right. Just get away. This should not be an issue for him.
Im happy for you too! But i think mine was more of me being nervous or thinking too much? Because I do masturbate a lot and have tried different methods, did it w porn, without porn, with audio porn, with a toy, on videocall but when it came to actual sex no matter how much a guy ate me out or rubbed on my clit while fucking I just couldn't? I was lucky enough to find a guy who put my comfort and pleasure first that took the time to actually focus all on me hehe.
This, also death grip isn't a real thing. At least too strong of masturbation isn't a very common cause of urological issues. It's probably just your brain having been conditioned by too much porn. Other common causes are anxiety, low testosterone, and diabetes or pre diabetic conditions.
Lift his testicles up, your thumb and forefinger tightly around the base of his penis like your trying to make a circle. Or make one if his anatomy allows it. Be absolutely sure you are not pinching his scrotum. This will bring stimulation to an area that tends to not get as much attention but definitely needs attention. Have your palm down on his perineum. While doing what I described above. If you can manage it- use your middle finger and reach to the bottom of his perineum where it feels soft and flesh ( just before the anus) Put soft and constant pressure on this soft for a few seconds then release, then repeat. This is helping to externally stimulate his prostate. While doing this. You can make a slow and gentle jerking motion at the base of his penis. With the other hand- cover it in lube and start stroking him gently. Then put the head of his penis in your mouth and twirl your tongue around his head gently for a few seconds. Then take as much as your comfortable with into your mouth for 20 seconds. Then pull your head up to where only about 1/3 is actually in your mouth. Use both hands in the positions I explained above to stroke him while your mouth does the rest of what the hands aren’t doing. Also be sure to ask your partner along the way if they like how these things feel before proceeding to heavy stimulation
I have talked about this with her (although not exactly in the setting I would like to have had that talk) and she made it clear multiple times that being a Bisexual is a Dealbreaker to her. My issue is that, no matter what my sexuality turns out to be, I can say with certainty that I am romantically attracted to her. Having a romantic affection for someone but appearently not a sexual one seems like a cruel joke to me, that being said you could very well be right.
It is relevant due to the person in question thinking there a virigin before having a man this was literally in the question ?
There is almost certainly more to it than this, but giving head almost daily is above and beyond what 99% of men receive. That alone should show the willingness you have to fulfill his desires. My question for you is does he reciprocate what he receives on the daily? If not, he’s taking advantage of your willingness and there may not be anything you could do to make him truly happy with the amount of sex he’s receiving.
There are non hormonal BC options (diaphragm, copper IUD etc) that I recommend because Plan B is not to be taken lightly. It’s great for EMERGENCIES but it’s a boatload of hormones that you don’t want to be taking unless it’s absolutely necessary. Also I’d say she’s likely to have a negative reaction if she cant tolerate BC. I’d take proper precautions before hand if I were you
Maybe wrap it up on a first time encounter because people who wanna go raw with strangers are unhinged in my experience. So her lying about her age doesn’t seem surprising to me. I would never trust a stranger to be truthful about STI status. She could’ve easily doctored the results she showed you.
Communicate with her.
If she had vaginismus, it would hurt. Probably would be a good idea to consult a therapist about it. It can be a ton of things. https://www.healthline.com/health/numb-vagina
She allows no porn in our relationship Dude you’re in a prison not a relationship. She’s asexual AND somehow you agreed not to watch porn? Respect yourself.
Waiting to tell them when they’re ready isn’t lying.
And you get that conclusion by the fact that he counts porn as cheating? The same line of though can be done about anything anyone consider cheating you know. “They control you by making you feel bad if you bang other people”
As a woman, yeah I’d probably find that a bit iffy. I get your sentiment, but still, I think most women would find it weird.
It's just cum bruh stop beating yourself up over it. If she doesn't like anything about your cum and you can't do much to change it then maybe you guys are not sexually compatible
Exactly my thoughts. Also, that describes basically all popular female pornstars. It is the no1 thing that gets men going.
Agreed
Just enjoy yourself, it is all fine.
10 partners is above average so it's not like you were out there in a sexual desert or anything. This comes down to you conflating quantity with quality. Do you think your partner had 5x as much fun as you just because he slept with more people? I think the bigger issue here is that you see settling down as the end to sexual adventures and new experiences. But have the two of you ever discussed, for example, role play or even ethical non-monogamy? There's plenty of ways for a committed couple to still find opportunities to inject new experiences into their sex life. It just takes good communication and trust — and if you do open things up — a healthy handle on jealousy issues (esp. for you since you're already prone to irrational, albeit not unusual, envy).
Yeah no he would be an ex after that. That is assault. He didn’t have your consent. That is a deal breaker. No questions asked. I would be done.
Sounds like you've put a bunch of work into the problem on your end, and talked to her about it. She has to decide if she's willing to work on it. You have to decide if it is a deal-breaker for you if she doesn't work on it. It's probably worth asking her, straight-up, if she's willing to work on getting past her unjustified and irrational disgust for giving you pleasure. If she isn't, you have your decision to make.
Sorry but that was without any doubt a blatant case of rape. He is dangerous.
Lol @ the joke! I’m such the people pleaser sometimes and it really comes out during sex. So you’re right I just need to talk with him and get a clear understanding of how to please him.
Literally the first thing I said was they should talk to figure out if somethings up
The rough pounding seems to be his thing as well. I’ve noticed after he gets me off a few times and I’m more so asking him to cum for me, he switches up the temp and gets to ramming. Which I don’t mind but sometimes it seems like he’s missed his “cum moment” so to speak
No but telling my partner verbatim what I wrote in my original comment would be hurtful and counter productive. This sub constantly going “just tell them exactly this” is annoying and not helpful. Like, no duh, conversation is important. Answers should be actual advice on how to have that conversation or actions to take to improve the situation, not just “talk about it”
Fingering is easy access to a woman’s g spot. A slight curve of two fingers and stroking motion of the vagina walls closer to outside of a woman’s vagina can cause intense arousal. Clearly you don’t know your own body.
Nope, sending the wrong signals- fwb?? Wtf. Is this guy a friend with benefits? Stop it now. Stop with the signals – he is just a guy that you said let’s be friends with benefits. You are in the wrong here. “I feel like my FWB forced himself?” Give me a fuckin break. Go cry randomly somewhere else.
Ever since I got one, I can't use any other ones. They just don't compare. It's definitely worth it! I ?
Yea, my favorite blow jobs all go like this: 1) she goes down on me for a few minutes 2) she dirty talks and strokes a little 3) kinda alternative between dirty talk and going down 4) I'm so horny and ready to fuck that blowjob time is over and I need to wreck some pussy lol. Win win for everybody
It can because of friction and friction is reason #158764 on the list of reasons why surprise anal is a bad idea.
Leave find someone who wants you and isn’t just using you there is nothing more frustrating then a dead bed and a partner who only takes never gives
It can because of friction and friction is reason #158764 on the list of reasons why surprise anal is a bad idea.
Ask her not us! She’s ur girl right?
He did force himself on you, you said no and he did it anyway that's rape. He is clearly a sh*tty FWB and a friend in general. You need to get away from him and report him, who knows who else he has done this to without repercussions on his end. If you carry on seeing him at all this will get worse
Apparently not even talking is expected in a relationship. Sad.
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Ok. You don't have to be so negative. I have never begged for anything. If I want something I will go get it. Simple. I shared an experience, get over it.
Hahahaha gold
? I am so sorry you're dealing with this. Know that she was a bit insane and not rational. You're not broken, and don't deserve the emotional abuse.
Definitely try and jerk off with it first go around so you know what to expect
Alcohol or white powder
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Pay yes sorry.
Some basics: – Run your hand through your hair and squeeze your hair in a fist at the root. Feels kinda good right? That’s the best way to pull hair without it hurting or pulling it out. Can also do this when making out to put her head where you want it or make her look up at you. – If/when you decide to try choking, do not press down on the throat, that’s her windpipe. You will want to squeeze from the sides, where the blood flows. There are a bunch of good diagrams on Google for this – little bites can be a sexy and casual way to administer a little pain! My personal favorite spot to receive and give a bite is on the meaty part of the trap above the collarbone. It’s nice during a makeout sesh. My least favorite spot to be bitten is the ear but that’s preference. – sometimes it’s less about the action/pain and more about your overall presence. Throw her around a little. Push her head into the bed during doggie. Sit on the edge of the bed and pull her to you. Assert an essence of dominance. Most importantly, enjoy yourself! There’s no rush and you don’t have to try and explore everything at once!
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I would dump him or confront him. Tell him it's basically the same as rape
This sounds like you found the CAT. Withyour chin at her forehead it suggests you were higher up her hips. That drags the shaft over her clit more solidly. It's like a bow drawing over a Cello.
I'm finding some listings for women's shelters and victims of child abuse in Argentina, but I'm going to post them as a direct reply to OP instead of this reply.
Honestly probably just being flirty/teasing because she knows it gets a rise out of you. Don't read into it.
You have never done something for someone else, just because they like to do it? Do you have to get something out of it for you to enjoy it? I say you are looking at this in a selfish light. Most of us do things for our partners we may not totally enjoy ourselves, but, it makes our partners happy, or feel good, or pleasures them.
This is something I’d want to see a therapist about, yeah. Generally it’s okay to have any kink as long as it’s only ever acted out in a way that’s consensual and safe, but this is a case where the dynamics could get abusive and exploitative very easily so I’d suggest talking to a professional to hopefully work through it.
If you're okay with waiting indefinitely then there's no need to say anything. Whereas if you know it will get more frustrating for you, you could say something like: “I'm ready for sex but we can totally wait for a while and I want to respect your needs. At the same time, sex is important to me in a relationship and I cannot wait forever. If it takes too long that probably won't work for me. We can wait and I'll do my best to communicate when I'm getting too frustrated so we can reassess if we need too.” That way he understands there is some limitation, but also some room for his needs. It is important that he knows your preferences and deal-breakers. This isn't about pressure. This is about compatibility. If he can't or won't accommodate one of your deal-breakers then you are incompatible. He shouldn't feel pressure to change. You just shouldn't be together. But he needs to know what they are too. So how long can you truly wait for sex?
Read the Japanese study Enhanced visualization of female squirting by Miyabi Inoue et al in the International Journal of Urology 2022. It's overwhelmingly urine. But, the lay person wants to deny what science has been saying for many, many years.
Why would you want to?
WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO STOP IT ?!!!!!
You are dating a 30 yr old man child that pouts like a three year old when he doesn't get his way. You can do better.
there's many. lazada. aliexpress. soft silicone dildos maybe even better than vibrator. FAAK is a great brand from aliexpress. vibrators, clit suckers, i mean.. i'm sure you also have local s stores that have them if you're in any mid size city.
Could you contact the clinic in advance (phone or drop in) and explain the situation? You could ask that when you're in the waiting area with your mom that the nurse ask for you to come alone as you're 18. It's worth asking. You poor thing, this is an awful worry to carry.
That was the plan lol
I understand that, it's a self-deorecating thing that a lot of people do. But still, calling them that in public you shouldn't do. If I said “I'm such an idiot.” That doesn't make it right for you to call me an idiot to other people.
What? How is that the same thing? No. You shouldn't put a finger in someone's ass unless you've asked them if it's ok for you to do so. Eeew. Do you not understand how consent works?
Nothing you said, sounds anything resembling a no to me.
It’s acceptable for someone with the financial capacity to afford frequent dates with escorts to take advantage of the service if relationships is not something they’re searching for at the moment and they want to have sexual gratification. It helps sex workers and as long as you treat then with respect, you’re not a scumbag. Just know that if you’re not making any effort to connect with women outside of this, you’re going to make it harder to find a relationship in the future. Looks can change and you can find ways to make yourself attractive. Just make sure you’re still socializing outside of hooking up with escorts to help keep your confidence in talking to people strong. Escorts can even help you with some advice for flirting or just having a fun non-sexual time with women. You’re not a pervert. Just don’t rely on this too strongly in case you want to be in a relationship in the future.
You’re good. I’m just correcting you because I want OP to know she’s not in a minority.
That’s called exhibitionism. It’s just a kink
Ain't buyin' it.
If you can’t cum then what’s the point? Might be time to drop him.
I'm 5'5 and my partner is 6'. He's incredibly strong. He could absolutely destroy me if he wanted to. Always done physical labor. Just touching his arm muscles makes me wet. And this is exactly why. Pick a safe word and take her. It's amazing. Just know your own strength going into it. And when you choke you squeeze the sides NOT the middle. It's about the blood restriction not about crushing her larynx. Just recently I had a similar conversation with him. Now we've already done this whole thing before but it was something we planned the whole CNC thing. It's fucking amazing. My recent request is that I want it to happen unexpectedly. When I least expect it. A lot of us love this stuff. And hey it takes a lot of trust for someone to request this and know they will be ok. It's a healthy relationship in a very kinky way. Congrats I think you'll both be very happy with the outcome. And again just have a safe word.
Hope you can change doctors. I wonder if there's a good reason to perform a test that doesn't discriminate between HSV-1 and HSV-2. The only thing I can imagine is that it may be cheaper. If a nondiscriminative test is positive, then further tests are needed to determine which one the patient has.
The neat thing about evolved humans is that we are capable of separating innate evolutionary desires and real life. It might come as a huge surprise for you, but women can enjoy getting dominated sexually in a safe, controlled environment and also demand equal rights in their real, important life and they are not mutually exclusive, nor contradictory.
Ext time you and your girl are fooling around and getting hit and bothered…just grab her by the hair, whip out your dick. And tell her…to put it in her mouth or you're going to shove it down her throat….thank me later.
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If it's clean there really isn't a taste. The scent can vary quite a bit though, depending on how clean she is. If she just gives it a quick swipe there may still be a slight smell of poo, and in this case I personally won't eat it. If she gives it a good wash with soap and water, there may still be a slight scent from the apocrine sweat glands back there, which I find super sexy. It's hard to describe, slightly spicy, maybe a touch of cinnamon, very faint but very attractive to me. And then if she washes three or four times with soap and water, there won't be any scent at all and it's just like any other skin. Good on you for exploring this, as long as she's down with it. I (65m) have only done it with my wife (67f) and she's only done it with me, after each of us having many other lovers before, so it's a nice intimacy that only we've shared with one another. It took me 10 years to work up the courage to ask her, but it's become just about my favorite thing to do in bed with her.
Hell no. I know my body. The clit is the most sensitive part of my body I ain’t nipping it. I can barely stand touch in it
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or just take the testosterone ???
saying as someone who was in similar shoes as your gf, everyone will tell you to either break it off or try to invent ways to “incite” her into it…what you should do it completely ease off and give her space to regain trust and confidence and let her come to you by herself. make yourself look desirable (physically and mentally) BUT dont initiate anything. you dont want her to just comply, you want her to want you and make first step. Also, I hate how everyone here talks like she's the one in the wrong, she isnt. Her behaviour is a consequence of your actions.
Hmmm. That's a great question. How wide can you open your mouth? ?
For the most part unless she's unclean then there shouldn't be much taste or smell at all.
Pussy tastes like pussy just like how dick tastes like dick. Some pussy tastes more like pussy, sometimes all anyone can taste is their own spit. But people get turned off by anything, just like they’re turned on by anything. Shower regularly and you’re fine, just like everyone else. if man’s ain’t eating you then kick man’s to the curb.
I hope I find a guy who thinks like this
Vaginismus is what you're thinking of, where the vagina doesn't properly expand to allow for penetration. My ex fiancee has that, and as a guy with girth, it wasn't easy to deal with. The dilation dildos/vibrators were an essential for us, and even then it wasn't always enough. Also I couldn't help but laugh at the snowflake comment. Those are the toughest snowflakes I've ever experienced lol. Look up Trevor Noah's take on pussy as an insult and you'll understand why I found it funny, it's a great bit lol.
I get issues that NEED to be off limits for some reason or the other such as being a recovering alcoholic, but it seems like you have too many rules. People are sexual. If porn impacts your sex life, it could matter, if it doesn’t, then having a hard line about sexuality seems more damaging than constructive.
I really appreciate this response! Its good to remember that everyone is different, and what my partners may prefer is out of my control. I guess I just have a weird need to control situations and the idea of not tasting good for someone I like is tough. Regardless, the right guy will make me feel amazing despite all of that. It’s definitely a very intimate thing for me. It’s wild bc I LOVE giving head, and do give it often. It’s my favorite thing. But receiving any oral is so much more difficult. I hope I can get to the point of prioritizing my pleasure.
Your brain needs some time to adjust to sleeping with girls if you have watched porn before. Quit porn, keep trying. You can get cialis it is a medium viagra but works a whole weekend. If this helps you out the first couple of times, go for it.
yeh
Hopefully you’re not having as much of an issue with it now though! 🙂
Dude gave you PTSD 5 years ago, when you had just met? This is absolutely awful and I mean this in a way that absolutely does not minimize what's happening to you, but you are in serious danger in this marriage. Get out fast or you're playing with fire every day.
Well, first of all, anal penetration has nothing whatsoever to do with sexuality. Everyone has a butt, and almost everyone has the capacity to feel sexual pleasure from anal stimulation if that’s something they’re interested in. Gender and sexuality aren’t factors in that, except insofar as the cultural narratives we build around these things. That being said, if you don’t want to do it, you can say, “That’s not something I’m interested in doing. I will let you know if that ever changes, but unless I do, please don’t bring it up again because my answer is no.” If she doesn’t respect that clearly stated boundary, then you know you’re with someone who’s not safe to be with, and you should end the relationship.
Lol. Thanks!
I’m not sure if I’m ready for the pain to be honest. It’s been years since I’ve been in that situation, and the last time wasn’t for pleasure
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It's just a joke mostly. I suppose if a guy lasts a long time you might want to switch hands. A good handjob is super underrated though. Most women are shit at them but I think they could be a valuable tool for women in relationships just like in the southpark episode. Not in the mood ladies? Give your boyfriend a 3 minute hand job and he'll be off to sleep rather than bugging you about it for the next 45 minutes.
I want to ask this but I’m so afraid of ruining our friendship.
I had someone (an acquaintance) whom had already shown red flags for a while follow me to the library just staring at me, and I ignored him and left without interacting. That was the first (known) time he actually straight up followed me like that. Fast-forward to ongoing stalking. This honestly sounds like a sexual predator; stopping when you stop, no. It’s one thing for a person to just try to be in the vicinity (where they’re expected to be seen) of their crush or person of interest, and that’s another thing entirely. Red flag!
I disagree with this. More like 25% can from penetration.
Use chocolate sauce. Then it's no longer vanilla.
you mean we're all different…and process love and loss different :::gasp::: here i thought we're all programmed to do and be and feel exactly the same as everyone else
No no no. Do not involve any kind of mind altering drug because the next thing you know you will be sitting in a court room trying to convince a judge that you didn't rape her.
Please don't use numbing lube for anal, you may not notice damage being done
Its just a fantasy if nobody is getting hurt or could get hurt its just fun.
Maybe find a bisexual man with similar desires towards men, and then have couple swaps, or your own side-fwb's?
Have you tried to incorporate toys?
I’m starting to agree with you at this point
Are you concerned you’re husband won’t want to have sex bc of this?
Yeah, that’s what my original reply was solving
It isn’t healthy but the impression I get based on all other comments form OP is her husband has NO idea how she feels, and thinks this is their shared kink, she is not communicated that this is actually not a good experience for her and that she suffers through it. That is a really different context than someone knowing their wife finds it painful and not enjoyable. I think this husband is clueless.
level 4StepmomanddadOp · 5 mo. ago · edited 4 mo. agoI'm gonna say using the metric system. I'm 177cm tall anf my gf is around 180cm give or take. I weight around 80kg and i guess the outweights me by at least 20kg but i am not exactly sure.
What he means is, condoms don't feel as good. Even when I couldn't afford food AND toilet paper, I still had condoms. Sounds like he has two choices.
Fair point too. It’s just such a primal thing but I’m sure there are guys out there who will be happy and feel complete either way. Also 20 is too young to compromise
You’re right. His body – his choice, her body – her choice. BUT he can’t decide it’s his body so it’s his choice to cum inside of her. That takes the choice from her. She already offered him compromises and he rejected all of them. Celibacy is his choice apparently.
Yep. You can have a stubborn, elastic hymen (or a guy that doesn't penetrate much) and have had intercourse with an intact hymen. The whole “sex makes you worth less as a human” attitude pisses me off and shows me how little quality as a human being someone has. Isn't it also funny how men don't seem to be held to that same standard?
While I personally don't do it I've definitely had the thought to do it. I don't think it's weird and if you feel hot and want to rake a Pic, why not?
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I feel very aroused by him before, during, and after haha.
To tease her, build excitement and tension, and increase pleasure and enjoyment when intercourse resumes.
That's her problem, not yours… She should loose some weight… If she was on the edge of overweight and then she gained another 100lbs there's some problem with her health… Try to say her she should go to the doctor, if it's not too late…
I don't know if it's just me, but I discovered that I have 2 distinct sex drives. I need to get off but I also developed a second drive where I really need to get my wife off. They often show up together, but not always. I sometimes have no desire for sex at all, but I can't resist the urge to get my wife off. My wife actually had a tough time adjusting to this because she felt selfish but eventually accepted that I actually get everything I need out of sometimes making it all about her.
It’s like having one too many cocktails and forgot to drink water in your 30s. Do it and Accept the consequences!
I masturbate but not to photos or videos, just the feeling really
Expand your social circles, get to know men as acquaintances in new communities that you join. Take your time and be choosey about who you invest your time and energy into, observe that they care about you and your wellbeing first which will hopefully result better sex later.
Just tell him. It doesn’t matter
Some subtle flexing there OP?! haha. My last partner was around 6 inches and it didn't stop us doing any position. As a curvy girl It's more the size of my ass and thighs that limited things like doggy for example. It's all about angles and spreading those cheeks lol
OP, I have never heard of a healthy relationship with this age gap this young. Would you have any interest in dating a 14 year old? That’s only a five year gap, but I bet you can see from that perspective how what would be motivating an older person in that scenario isn’t a genuine relationship connection. You get to make your own decisions, but folks here are concerned about you for good reason.
Pretty difficult to describe it to someone who doesn't have testicles. For me, it feels great. I like the wet, the warmth… all of it. Some guys are very sensitive and can't stand it. It will 100% vary by guy.
Yes, she does go down on me but it took years in our marriage before she would go down on me. Now, she uses strawberry lube and goes down on me before we have PIV.
or tbh get a vibrator and use it on her?
Holy fuck, why does he deserve multiple blow jobs to your detriment?
Aaaaaannndddd-we’re done.
The other liquid is your biolube
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physical? technique? anxiety? I'm not a medical professional – I took a peek at the vaginismus causes (people who have pain upon insertion) and anxiety is one of the causes, apparently. the reason I bring it up is some people bring that up with the same concerns here. food for thought? embarrassed Embarrassment will only slow the process. advice If I could give advice I would say don't give up, treat it like an experiment, somethings just have a learning curve, so keep trying!
Give her a massage prior to sex and set the mood with candles and music… that relaxes every women
Same thing happened with me 15 days back.I went to her house and her eldest child was there. I simply could not focus on act.FInished fast and went away. I don't feel comfortable and told her so.So stopped going to her house now.
Same thing happened with me 15 days back.I went to her house and her eldest child was there. I simply could not focus on act.FInished fast and went away. I don't feel comfortable and told her so.So stopped going to her house now.
I see! Well that's unfortunate honestly but if you're happy (largely) with your relationship that's what matters 🙂
Holy shit, this didn't happen to me and yet I feel so fucking bad lol tbf if he's still having sex with you that's good, cuz I would personally not be able to. So I guess you just have to talk to him, preferably outside of a sexual context
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Consider it this way, he was so excited by you, that you made him cum without even having sex with him.
He doesn't have to lie, and if he does and she finds out I don't feel bad if he loses everything. And not every state is a no fault state, in a no fault state he can ask for divorce without reason. Not every state automatically awards 50/50 and if a man is worried about not having sex and thinks he'll cheat but is worried about losing anything in a divorce, he was a dumbass to enter a legal contract
Oh goodness ? I’m so glad you posted this! Don’t listen to him, especially about that. It’s not a thing. He’s young still, so even if he doesn’t want to admit it he’s not that experienced. When I was younger I had dudes telling me that I’m too tight ALL the time. They had a lot of opinions about my body and how it should be and those words eventually got to me and made me insecure. Cut to my 20’s when I started dating older guys, and even right now in my life, I have NEVER had any guy complain how tight I am. They freaking love it! There is nothing wrong with you!! There is something off about his mindset ? Pls don’t let his words get to you, ever?
It’s not about me being turned on really, it’s just pleasurable. I watch porn for the first time and then turn it off directly after because I’m no longer into it
It’s not about me being turned on really, it’s just pleasurable. I watch porn for the first time and then turn it off directly after because I’m no longer into it
Above all else, communicate well. Everything else is just touch and go for who it works on. Some will love it, others will want something different, but communication always helps.
I’d love to lick your tight pussy
No you aren't a jerk at all. It's a need, you'e not asking for a lot comparatively…but on her end you're asking for the moon. What sucks is that a therapist will eventually tell you to be in an open marriage. As much fun as that sounds ultimately, it doesn't give you the connection you want with your partner. Men need to feel needed, and wanted, even in sex. It's a pretty difficult thing, but you might want to think about opening things up at the very least so you can stay with your partner and continue to be there for them.
Please do not go back to him with the above information. It’s happen to me before with maybe my 10th sexual partner and I’d had a ton of sexual encounters with 2 of those 10. She was older and I was terrified, 19/30. One pump it was over. So call it 3 seconds. Other than that it hasn’t really happened.
Which they can’t handle the truth lol.
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It is all about being comfortable, if you have sex with someone for the sake of it, it will put you off if it doesn't go well, or give false expectations if it is amazing. I'd recommend putting yourself out there for dating, if you are comfortable with them and feel like you can, go slow. Show them how you like it when you touch yourself during foreplay, ask how they like it but don't over step boundaries. Then you will find it easier from there.
Shouldn't be hard to change
Superman pills??
You might enjoy a porn performer named Will Tile. In one video, he did all the work with a huge BBW. She must be BMI obese, but in a good way: figure is still hourglass, not saggy all over, but really inflated looking. This man stood and held her up by her ass and bounced her. Talk about strong. The cock being totally straight, or being shorter, reduce the risk. I guess also the thicker, the safer.
SSRIs Adderall Opiates All will make it a challenge to cum quickly
Death grip can be fixed usually
This has v bad vibes. I feel like he’s v pro consent now to groom you into trusting him. Also it’s pretty intense to bring this up after only having sex once and use language like “not worry about you.” Maybe I’m paranoid but it feels weird and like he’s pretending to know what he’s talking about so you’ll trust him.
I can be your wingman if you need it. Ask questions my inbox is open.
Enjoying the sex while being crippled by gender dysphoria. I don't want this penis, but you're damn sure I'm gonna make the best of it for my wife.
??? okay, tell her to keep studying and when she passes the bar she can let you know about damage calculations
No. I'd say it's just as frustrating as it is for a girl. Getting aroused but not being able to climax so if that ever happened to you, you'll know how it feels. It COULD be physically uncomfortable if you are doing something heavily estimulating and are really really horny but don't orgasm, but it isn't painful or unbearable. A lot of guys exaggerate this feeling to manipulate their partners into “taking care of it”. Don't do anything you don't wanna do. Personally, whenever this happens to me I just go and fap it out.
HSV2 has a longer viral shedding period where the virus is transmittable without symptoms. I’m so sorry dude, that’s considered assault legally
I'm a little shocked that guys are still saying “I can't help myself”. If a guy says he can't control himself, don't date him, don't have sex with him, don't sleep in a bed with him. He already said he cannot control himself. Believe him. Tell him the reason why you are leaving is because he “can't help himself”.
You said in one comment that you attend a university. I’m your classes, are there any learning groups you could attend? Just start with hanging out with them and if you know them for a few weeks, they will eventually talk about the weekends and stuff and you can drop something like “I never went to a club/bar/whatever, is this fun?” and you’ll have a conversation about it. Maybe you can join them. It’s all about getting into a group. Once you’re in you kinda just flow with them
“I don’t want to kink shame you, but I’m not interested in that.”
I kinda learned to “listen to what people are not saying”. But I mean it's not fair for your wife. If you discuss the issue and reach a conclusion with your wife, there are many options Plus you should consider your work schedules. Too much work for long time is unhealthy
Yeah my boyfriend often wants to do a spit swapping sort of make out when I’m excessively salivating from choking on his ?, never understood that before until I read this
This totally hot like she bringing, her own toys to mix or using my collection of sex toys in general would be amazing. I think the person I'm hocking up with is more on vinilla side then exploring.
So it sounds like he doesn't know how. Be patient, and maybe practice outside of sex. Talk him through what you like, and let him touch you when you're not in the middle of sex. It will be less pressure on him, and you're not going to be as frustrated. My wife and I have had similar talks about each other, and we find that talking and touching outside of sex is a great way to openly communicate in a way that doesn't frustrated either partner.
God gave you hands for a purpose ?
Doesn't happen….women always initiate with me so never have the problem
Get tf up and ride
I just asked my husband about this and he shyly admitted that it happens a lot. We’ve been together for 16 years and I never knew this. We just had the best shy giggles. I love this man.
Also different sizes
Are erect penises shown on mainstream TV in the US?
Idk if everyone does but i know I do, it's less of a feeling I can describe so much as different stimulation results in different orgasms. Of the top of my head the stimulation that jave thier seemingly own orgasm. Regular masterbation, ending masterbation, anal masterbation, regular sex, edging during sex, and regular/edging sex while having something in the butt. Idk how to describe the differences but each once has thier own feel that the others don't replicate.
Could be age related? stress? hormones? Testosterone?
In any relationship, there are things that aren’t 100% what you’d prefer them to be. If you don’t want someone to settle for your micro penis because they love you…. Then that’s fine. I can Alan it guarantee that they will be settling for something that isn’t ideal for them regardless of your penis size.
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I used to be able to do this. I can usually cum once and stay hard but it takes a really long time to get a second one out.
No; we haven't done PIV or fingering, but every time he's asked to finger me I decline just because I'm not wet enough. I want to move on to penetration, but again I'm not really sure how to get myself wet enough outside of sucking his dick lol. The times he's asked it's been like 30 minutes after and at that point I'm not in the mood for it anymore. I've preferred the idea of him initiating (rather than me asking) because then I know he really wants to, but obviously he's not capable of reading my mind and knowing when I want it. Thinking about it while writing this, I imagine it'd just be better to invite him to touch me while I'm in the mood for it?
Wtf is this comment. She moaned slightly louder than he would like. He tried to violently cut off her ability to breathe. Those are not morally equivalent things and it's fucked up that you think so. This isn't her fault. He's a fucked up violent person and he assaulted her. Stop victim blaming.
I’d love that !
While I make my gf come, right when there is the first pleasure explosion, I switch from stimulating to firmly pressing my whole hand on her clit area (with the palm of my hand or my fingers kept together). This gave her an even higher and longer orgasms. Not sure if it works for other girls, I started doing this with my current gf and didn't meet anyone else meanwhile.
Excellent point, spot on !
Yeah if the joke is funny
fun fact: almost everyone has herpes! worldwide, literally 90% of sexually active adults have some strain of herpes. so you’re going to be fine, really 🙂 this clip from Adam Ruins Everything has some good info on it
Are you on any medications?
NAT 99% chance that he knows he got something, and not caring about getting it treated..
Hold fast. You are being completely reasonable. Do not give in.
If you want a partner to get tested, you do that up front, at the start, not wait three years into the relationship. Just because you’ve been using condoms doesn’t mean you couldn’t have managed to give something to each other, and I wouldn’t be the least bit surprised if that’s the way he’s looking at it. If I’d been with someone for three years and they suddenly, adamantly insisted on us getting tested I doubt you could convince me they hadn’t either cheated on me or thought I had cheated on them. Why else wait THREE YEARS to ask for the test. All of you people calling him names aren’t even remotely thinking like a human in a long relationship. You’re thinking like someone who’s just getting into one. If he’s really that pissed off (which I can see many reasons why he might be), I could see him saying fine, getting tested, showing the negative results and then breaking things off. With this coming out of nowhere, he has every right to feel like something else is going on.
https://youtu.be/x8Xa0cdVbew
Sounds like you weren't very turned on. In fact sounds like you aren't that into him.
I got them from my first sexual partner and literally had one breakout ever, ironically during wedding planning about 11 years and 6 relationships later lmao. It’s rly not that serious. Just be honest w your partners.
If you hooked up with her and she came in 2 seconds, would you toss her to the street?
Everyone is has their preferences. I like bubble butts more than boobs.
You can also use your finger on her clit while in doggy, cowgirl or missionary if spooning isn't working
You did it because you were turned on by him. For whatever reason penetration wasn't working, so you found another way. You didn't use him. You were having sex with him, he was clearly into it, and you improvised. If I were him, I'd still be thinking about how hot that was! If you're really worried about it, just ask him if it was OK with him. But I'll bet you dollars to donuts, he was just fine with it. Most men would be 🙂
Yeah, thank fuck the subreddit killed itself by migrating to its own website + discord, was such a femcel cesspool. I understood about that post because there was a poor guy in r/sex who was suffering something similar to what this FDS post was describing, so someone linked it as a possibility to explain his partner's behavior 🙁
Start at a time when the kids aren't around and you two can talk normally – a time when you don't expect to have sex right then. Tell him how much you appreciated his kindness on your birthday, how much you loved the cards and the dinner and the relaxing bath and massage. Then tell him how it would have been better if the man you love came to you after the massage and shared that love with you physically. Smile and touch his arm (or whatever body part is nearby) and tell him that you love him, and that it would make you happy to share your love and your bodies with each other more often. The conversation will go wherever it will go from there. It depends on his reactions and his feelings. But assuming it goes well, you have now had “the talk”. From then on, whenever the time seems right, you can initiate in easier ways. Touch his thigh and let your hand move upward to other parts. Put his hands on your body. Practice telling him that you want him (it will feel REALLY weird at first, but it gets easier with practice!). In time, initiating sex with your husband will start to feel normal and natural and wonderful. And also, stop listening to those friends of yours. They're flat-out wrong. Men are not horny 24/7, and women are allowed to ask for sex whenever they want. You and your husband make the rules in your relationship, not those other women.
Yeap people who don't stay don't go complaining about their partner.
Lol why are you dating and fucking this loser?
So apparently you dropped him off at his parents house? What about you don't pick him up again. That way he can edge for even longer and you don't have to deal with this anymore. Win-win!
Teamwork!
Your bf is on Meth
I Donno about these people but you sound like a great partner. You seen she was in discomfort and wanted to stop but didn’t know how to do it without being rude. She was hoping you would by sending the signals to you. This is a great relationship and not your fault if the other gets butt hurt about it. Both partners always retain the right to end it at any point even if the other doesn’t want to. If not then your asking for a very bad relationship in the future.
Straight into it, I don't really notice it in the moment tbh, I guess because we both have it.
Dont have access
Why would you trust a hookup with the possibility of paying child support for 18 years? Wear a condom!
You’re right that putting in all that effort just to have sex once doesn’t make sense. But you and the other commenters don’t seem interested in understanding any nuance. There’s this kinda trope that scummy guys will do anything to have sex. While that is sometimes true, if that was what he wanted he could keep leading you on to use you again. I hate to put negativity out there, but could something have happened that night that turned him off of you, but he’s not saying it to spare your feelings? He could have decided there wasn’t enough chemistry to make long distance work. He could have had negative experiences with an ex who had trouble orgasming and you triggered the memory. He could hav me just realized that he didn’t really like being with you in person. I’ve been in a similar situation before, and acted like him. Maybe not quite so affectionate, but the other option, that is to just tell her to her face that I wasn’t feeling it, felt cruel. So I did what he did and had a nice time but let her down easy later.
I wouldn’t say NO pleasure but yeah I’m like “can you put it in yet”
I bend her over no kissing.. married life lol
Have you told him what YOU want to do? This post is all about what he wants and not what you want. If you tell him what you want and he isn't into it then you have yourself a big problem.
I’m assuming he’ll be the dominant role? The dominant role is usually the easier to play because they have their “want” and that’s what drives a scene. One character wants something whether it’s obvious or not. In acting that’s what gives the simplest and basic scenes a life of their own. As the submissive role, try not to think too much but focus on being present and simply react. If this is a forceful scene he’ll probably speak to you a certain way that’ll be different than normal. If your instinct is to laugh or not take him serious, this can actually be a valid response. Then he has the opportunity to respond to that. He may get more forceful either in tone or physically, let yourself react to that. Also, remember to move with the scene. If he puts you in a certain position and it feels right and part of the scene to “fight back”, do it (not like it’s actually life and death and could truly harm him). When you physically move certain ways emotions and thoughts will naturally come out.
My favorite Anal practitioner told me to never do it without gloves. A sharp nail can be brutal on the tender tissue and can lead to an infection. Find a nice tight pair of gloves, and a nice silicone lube, and go slow. Your target is his prostate gland, google a chart, and once you get in there and find it treat it like your g-spot. Have him on his hands and knees, when you are doing it right his precum will flow like a river. If you want to peg him, look for a feeldoe. One end goes up in your vagina and you will get a lot more out of it than a harness. They also make one that inflates inside of you to help keep it snug. My wife came three times when we first used one. When in doubt, more lube.
Does the bratting end in sex? Is she into the DD/LG kink? Have you looked up “little space”? So much psychology at play with sex.
My gf is 22 years my senior, it comes with its own set of challenges as far as a relationship goes, however, aside from lack of sex, every other factor in our relationship is amazing, women my age tend to be more focused on themselves or their kids (not all, but typically the ones ive personally come across), I am 32, she is 54. We communicate effectively and it is plainly obvious she loves me, and I her. Dont let the stereotypes change your perspective, its not like a 40 year old dating an 18 year old, we are much more mature and well beyond the creepy age range
Fortunately most people doesnt discover how their partner react to the lost of a loved one immediatly in a relationship. And most young adults don't even know how themself would react at this. That's not something you can guess.
Stop faking orgasms. Feel free to express enjoyment or enthusiasm but never fake an orgasm. Otherwise you are training your partner to fail.
I doubt this is serious (in which case: you really don't have anything better to do?) If it is then no. That's blackmail and a crime. Record the conversation, then he has no hold over you. Second find someone else to fuck. This one is not nice.
Maybe she “just wanted the release” as well. If he was only worried about himself he should have used his hand.
Yes, thank you. There's such a double standard when it comes to this.
See the massage is a good start, yes oil can be messy but warm oil on your body while your partner is kissing / rubbing your back is so hot. *FACEPALM* so he only kisses your boobs and your vulva? OK the blowjob I get it, that is a good thing to start with after the massage or some dirty talk and feeling around on each other. Once that blowjob is done or you move on to the main thing, that is when the foreplay should start. You don't just jump right into 69 or PIV. He should be kissing you on the lips and whispering things to you, building that connection between both of you. Girls are mental creatures they get more stimulation from words and bonding then men do. It sounds to me that you both need to learn more about yourselves. That is why you feel like you don't know what to do. The more you have sex, the more you're going to learn what you want and like. Both of you are inexperienced and that is fine! learn together! Explore every inch of each others bodies, it will become more automatic and more clear on what to do! Just gotta practice 🙂
She may be heteromantic and simply bisexual. That might be why she's confused.
Thank you for your advice! I’m def going on a pavlovian de-conditioning approach and cutting out vibrators for at least a while. I’ll try get out of my head too. My partner is pretty good in terms of foreplay and all that so no issues there! I suppose best thing to do really is enjoy the moment and not be too focused on climaxing
Are you suggesting closeted straight people are going around having gay sex or something?
Yes….the depression and other meets greatly effect your dick stiffness and overall desire…..one thing to check in the early stages is diabetes….it's easy to control…. and helps the the wood….depending on what depression med you take also makes a diff….trust me when I say diabetes is a bitch!!!!.. list all your meds a dosage….find you a very trusting doctor that you can open up to and one that will actually listen…..your meds can be taylored so you won't suffer or show any ED problem.
What in the actual fuck? I'm sorry, just because you can't pleasure me I'm not allowed to do it myself?? Sex would be over
I'm sorry people have been so cruel to your face. But it's good that you know some of these women are cruel and not worth your time – it's one thing to have a preference it's quite another to state it without tact or compassion. Ok, so you weren't born with the best deck. To be honest the only people born with good decks are the rich, who can afford to fix their flaws and have legions of sycophants to fuck. But the rest of us make the best of what we have, and try to form fulfilling relationships. Let's presume that your obese woman analogy is correct, though I'm not saying it is or isn't with any certainty. Obese women are able to establish loving, sexually charged relationships with men. Sure, they're never going to be Leo's latest trophy, but does that matter? Likewise, and much like my brother, you can also have good relationships and good sex even though you don't find all of the male beauty standards. If you're trying to climb to the top of the pile then you're just going to be unhappy because there is always someone taller, richer and more handsome than you or me. I know you've been telling yourself for years that you're short and unloveable and that's a hell of a programming to break. So you need to get out into the world and participate in communities that value you for more than just your height. That's where you will find the women who actually want to get to know you and be intimate with you. But I know that one guy on the internet telling you this probably won't change anything. So I just hope you remember some of what I said when you hit rock bottom and decide the only way is up :).
Finally, a post with a “happy ending” ?
Lol How did it called the nun position
Even I want to go skiing with you now. Haha
Yes, you may have damaged your penis. Have a doctor check it. This can usually be fixed.
i do too, just keep your actions in check, and you should be ok
Push your fingers up and curl them towards you like you're telling someone to come here.
Idk what you wanna hear, if he walked around with a boner, as a roommate you should probably assume it's not for you, so he probably assumes the same about your boobies. Maybe put a disclaimer out there about brushing your teeth naked but also don't want to be walked in on, unless you do, then I guess make that clear too.
Lol no. You do not have to wear a bra. You are simply existing. Maybe throw on pants or whatever if you think that’s more comfortable for him or you, like basic roommate courtesy? But I don’t think that extends to wearing a bra around them.
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Shave girl
He's probably already forgotten about it… or just doesn't care. It's not a big deal, as he's already told you. Most guys don't really worry too much about farts to be honest.
It happens it’s not common but possible – twice accidentally to me. Slippery when wet… luckily for me I don’t mind and quite enjoy anal so wasn’t a deal breaker or a problem for me
Is it 1 or 2? I read 90% of people test positive for 1 even if they haven't had symptoms.
Too much masterbation or watching too much porn cause this issue I think.
Nah, but I am tall with long arms
Taking deep breaths during the process can work wonders. Mix that with self awareness.
You gotta resist the urge to give in and let him know that there is a proper time and place. Maybe you could tell him that you also want to have sex, but not right now. If he's feeling super horny, then encourage him to masturbate. Don't shame him for having needs, but be firm with only having sex when YOU want to.
Get him to trim his ass fur. It’ll make it much easier, you won’t be fighting through hair the whole time.
So peeing inside your girlfriend falls into the category of risk aware play. Does it come with some risk. Yes. Is the risk reasonably low. Also yes. People definitely do pee in each other. You do run the risk of infection, causing some local irritation, and some discomfort. But the risks are generally low, and if you pee in her once every couple weeks to a month, chances are she won't have any issues. Probably not a great thing to do daily or multiple times a week. But for the odd thrill, one could consider it Ultimately you have to be comfortable with it as. You have a say in what you do, and don't get to do with your partner. But there are lots of sexual acts (pain, bondage, watersports) that carry some inherent risk, but people think are okay to do with consent, and being risk aware. Ultimately though that choice is up to you.
Health issues play a part in older men and to me it seems the sperm is not much at all anymore, plus the penis doesn’t get hard hard like a healthier older man can or younger man.
…maybe he is just seasoned enough in the sport to wear a soft susp cup?
I like when my guy says “You’re being such a good girl” “do you like when I play with your tits like that” “do you want to feel my tongue on your clit (inside your pussy, all over you)” “I’m going to make you cum over and over again” “You play with my cock so good baby” “You’re so fucking sexy baby” “I love hearing you make all that noise and enjoy your self” “Cum for me you dirty slut”
I would definitely stop being friends with her and absolutely never sleep with her again. I’m sorry that happened to you. Go out and do something for YOU and make yourself feel confident in who you are, then go take what you want! (In a consenting and respectful way)
This is hilarious. You sound like a sex and the city character
I just don’t see why it has to be so hard. I mean I do, but it shouldn’t! It’s just sex, it’s good right? Why does it have to be so hard to get
Now I see it. Thanks.
Having mismatched libidos is still common even for a couple that have sex before marriage because no one's libido is 100 constant as they go through life. I'm not arguing for abstinence. It's still unwise. But I think every couple has to try and negotiate these issues and hopefully come to a compromise where both partners feel loved and appreciated and not neglected, nor feeling like a sex robot.
All the people shitting on you for waiting until marriage out of choice can go fuck themselves. Just because your morals/choices let you fuck everything that walks doesn’t mean everyone’s the same. This is a solvable issue and not just a you’re fucked issue. All of you who are shaming her probably are the same ones that preach “tolerance”. I’m not a religious person but I’ll be damned if I let others berate another for their personal religious choices. OP go into counseling or something either individual or couples and get this solved. These people will do nothing but try to berate you for following your beliefs which have ZERO to do with them.
If it has been an issue more than this one time (and I’m assuming it has if you’re resorting to Reddit for advice), then perhaps instead of saying you’re a virgin you simply say you don’t have a lot of experience. That gets the point across that you may not know what all to do without bringing the V-card into it. If they press and ask if you’re a virgin, then what you say next is up to you. On a side note, just because you haven’t had PIV sex with a guy is no reason to not know what you’re doing. I was a bit of a late bloomer myself, but I had read a lot about what to do and how to do it, so I understood the mechanics of foreplay, oral sex, how to use my hands, fingers, etc., before ever getting the chance to do more than kiss a girl. If you haven’t explored that already, then I really suggest you do so (or anyone do so). Porn is a lousy way to learn, but there are hundreds (if not thousands) of videos designed to show people how to do just about anything you can think of sexually, from foreplay to BDSM. They’re made by sex therapists (among others), and can make it so your first partner has no real idea he’s your first. I realize you may have already done all of this, but it seems like if you had, you wouldn’t be having as much of an issue. On a final note, I have avoided virgins as well, but it’s always been because I felt I was the wrong person to be someone’s first. Maybe a lot of other guys feel the same way?
Penis size is an essential part of sex. One of the most important, if not the most important, things a man brings to the table. If a man is unable to satisfy a woman because he is too small, using a cock sleeve is the least offensive option. TBH, if it were me, that would be an immediate deal breaker as a wife that my husband has a pee pee and not a penis that can satisfy a woman. Other choices include using toys (cutting the husband out of the act of penetration entirely, probably even more offensive to you), finding a partner outside of the marriage who is large enough to sexually satisfy, or breaking things off/annulment.
30+ minutes of penetration can get quite tedious. for real?
Pee ?
I would and have. I expect it's a lot more common for men to want FMF threesomes but no, you're not in the minority either way. The types of people who frequent online sex spaces (like this sub) are just going to tend to be people who are more adventurous than the general population, so don't think that responses here are indicative of most people.
Don’t hide it. I feel like you think there aren’t many because you aren’t being open and honest. Just ask. Talk about it. Have the conversation. Why do you think most women are turned off by bisexual men? I think the opposite is true. But it honestly doesn’t matter cos you’re not going to be dating “most women”, you’re going to find the right person for you no matter if she’s the only one of her kind or if there are millions like her. I think MMF is an experienced that most women would at least like to try. So wherever you go, whatever you’ve been doing, keep doing it, just include space for the conversation.
it's amazing! Best sex ever… time kinda slows, senses are more sharpen sort of, very sensitive, orgasms are super intensive. But it has to be the right amount of high.
Yes super common kink!! Check out femdom gentlefemdom I think it’s one of the most common kinks out there (along with breeding) – and both make perfect sense considering we all came from a woman’s body and our first god and the center of our universe was an older woman. I think the rise of people coming to realize/accept the mommy kink is positive sign that things are righting in the world. Another form of it is goddess worship. I believe that every man deep down has a mommy kink, and a woman the desire to be a mommy – and the ones who claim not too (or to have the opposite) I find to be very disconnected sexually and not worth taking as lovers because of it. It’s a very fun kink to explore!! I also think the best relationships I’ve seen in general are older woman younger man and believe it’s an extension of this
You’re not likely to get pregnant, even with cum on your clothes.
Give it up … you had your post and comment above removed by them … with a sarcastic comment about you contributing to the problem. What you don’t seem to get is this … this is an ADVICE sub and people come here seeking advice. All these other posts (the 95% as you say) do take time and effort from them (I used to do this and know for a fact) and distracts users from commenting on posts that are actually seeking advice.
Thank you so much. This is really good advice.
Oh you knowww, if it’s too much you could always just spit it out? In a towelll? On the flooorr? In his shooesss? Go on, get creative. 🙂
Dude deserves to not have a girlfriend
I wouldn’t ever let him touch me again after he went running to his mommy about this.
Can’t speak from personal experience, sadly, but I’ve read and have been told that when about to experience an orgasm from g-spot stimulation a lot of women say they feel like they’re going to pee. It’s likely going to be a very intense orgasm and you might squirt. And squirting is not urine, in case you were worried. It can be just as messy though, so maybe lay down a towel.
what do you mean by that?
Moaning is communicating Communication is key
Have you ever considered that it's because these people actually deserve to be dumped??? Jesus christ, don't advise people to stay with people who do such messed up stuff. I have never heard of a situation like this before and it's fucked up. This isn't some chill disagreement, this is an 18 year old who is so bigoted that they feel entitled to demand their partner get surgery to become infertile…..get some fucking perspective.
That's not your problem then…. Sorry this is happening to you.
Your body, your choice. Stand strong!
I understand how you feel. But you are seriously willing to let someone force you into getting surgery done that you dont need. What if he gives you an ultimatum again? You just gonna keep saying yes because you dont want to wast the years you were together? Dont forget you are still young. You lost 6 years so what. You still have 60+ more years to live and find someone else who wont have you posting stuff like this on reddit. I am 21 so i get how you feel but you have a lot of time in your life. Dont waste it.
Firstly yeah you're in an amazing position. You won't realise until you're 50 how truly magical and full of opportunity your life is now. Secondly I'd suggest not to aim for numbers or just to sleep around for the sake of it. Imo it's better to aim for highly erotic situations. Like just staring into someone's eyes across a table with your hearts thumping can be such a powerful and magical experience. When you put the focus on eroticism things open up so much, there's kink, bondage, dressing up, fun dates, random rendezvous, little encounters, taking risks on people you just met, touching, feeling, caressing, stroking etc. Eroticism is what makes things hot and magical. Body count is just another number in a life stuffed with them.
Gonna also recommend Skynn, I started using them with a partner who had a latex allergy and likes them so much that they're all I use these days
That's the rub. In fact, I don't even know if its a mirror come to think of it… It might be the exact if you simplify it to “My partner wants something to penetrate them in ways I can't.” ime most people are just brimming with anxiety about everything that has anything to do with their worthiness as an object of affection.
This isn’t a sex question. It’s more for r/relationship_advice. The sex part is this: You’ve got a girlfriend who at least has some experience and maybe knows what she is doing.
My girlfriend shakes. I think it’s hot. A good BJ gets my legs trembling as well.
Please dump him.
Edging Prostate massage
Look into body appreciation therapy or go to a “body appreciation workshop”. I did and it was great.
Gross
I never asked for your opinion ?
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Priotizing Sexual Compatibility early in relationships
I tried but then they lose interest. There was period in my life where I was really lonely at work. One guy was really nice and friendly, and asked me to hang out with him after some weeks. I went on the meeting with him. What happened next? He flat out asked me to be his girlfriend and CONSTANTLY touched me (it made me feel vomit). I stopped talking with him, he then texted and asked why I don't interact with him anymore. I asked who in their right mint would want to do it with someone they barely know, he then become angry and said he thoughts we were friends. Then asked to lick my feet. I blocked him after that of course but it's not the first time. It happened 4 times at least. At this point I feel abnormal for just wanting to know person somewhat before having sex, all men who were interested in me just jump straight into sex. Like is that me or just being unfortunate enough to attract weirdos?
Shit happens.
if she wanted to she would
Presses the staples button again.
!remind me 5 days
A few of my friends and I hooked up with the same dude and when she told me she had to leave at 3am I was quite shocked because both times I was with him I spent the night. The first time he asked, the second time it was just known I would spend the night with him.
Agreed
but seriously though you just don't like his pheromones
Backing you up again OP. There is a technique to showering. If he misses a spot, it'll stink. If he doesn't exfoliate, eventually it'll stink. If he doesn't thoroughly wash his ass and junk, it'll really stink. If his skin feels greasy, he isn't washing it thoroughly enough.
Genuinely surprised there. And honestly a blessing in disguise given those people were not worth dating. I think the best route is still be open and honest when meeting new people. If you find you continue to get judge, maybe change up where you’re looking for dates
The honeymoon phase is…… ?
Bro, set her on her side, have her pull her knees up as far as she can. Some women I been with can bring em up to they’re chin basically. You lay on your side (honestly it don’t matter what way. One like your behind her or bending her over or one like yins are facing each other) but you have so much more room to flex around and position yourself plus yins are laying down it’s weightless and easy. I been told my dick is pretty big but with this position I literally feel like I’m fucking deep in her guts lol. And once your in, you both can position better to get locked in. And then boom. You will have an amazing grip and can basically just hold or hug her and fuck the life out of her.
You're part of a generation of 20 year old guys who have had the least sexual experience out of any generation of 20 year old guys that we know about. So, yes, there are a lot of guys who feel embarrassed or awkward about being virgins in their 20s that are your current peers or just a bit ahead of you within your cohort. Up until your generation started to hit their teen years, the generation before you had previously held the title of the least sexually experienced generation at your age that we knew about. So you have a lot of guys in their 30s and early 40s who have been in your shoes, or at least the version of them that was around at the time.
It might be that you don't feel ready for sex just yet and that these feelings will change over time. That's perfectly valid and fine. These feelings may always stay the same in which case you might choose to identify as asexual. You might choose to seek therapy. You may do both or nether. Your feelings are perfectly valid. Don't ever feel pressurised into doing something you don't want to do.
Some girls it just does nothing for them, they need stimulation from different things, clit, nipple play ect…
Please don’t buy into all the misogynistic you tube channels that have recently started up! Whenever men try to analyze woman or woman men, be dubious! Porn will also add to objectifying and desensitize you to making a real connection. I agree that a high body count for a man or woman is not ideal but why preclude the possibility of happiness in the name of an antiquated ethical standard. Happy children which you seem to want, need a loving nurturing home with two parents that set an example of love and commitment to each other.
You're going to find outliers here fucking like bunnies. The reality is, yes it does decrease if you don't work at it. A lot more couples in their 40s/50s/60s/older not having sex than fooling around like horny teens. Decreasing hormones play a role, boredom plays a role, each being overweight, not feeling particularly sex and being tired plays a role.
He’s not a boyfriend, he’s an ex boyfriend. Someone should never try to guilt trip you into any kind of sex. No is no. Period.
Will she go another round once she’s orgasmed? Sleeve her to completion then unsheathe the beast.
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Also, not necessary to depe throat to give bj's, most of the sensitivity is at the tip, your hands can work the shaft. Not like you won't be giving great bj even while you figure it out, if you can/want to 🙂
“Any insight on how to fix this or do you think should I just except this is how he is?” Fixing him was very much the notion you gave when you wrote the above
I would suggest that he see a doctor. There’s nothing a bunch of strangers can offer.
Okay, lets break this down. Sex does not equal attraction. Especially as relationships develop lust turns to love, and sex frequency on average decreases. So is your partner still into you, Probably still 100% Sounds like sex, and physical touch are your love languages. Explain that sex creates a connection between you and your partner, and you would like more physical intimacy. Tell him WHY it matters to you, and HOW it makes you feel. Chances are he will be more motivated to engage My partner and I schedule sex. It's great. Sunday's are Sunday Funday, and we have some great kinky sex (almost) every sunday. Feel free to schedule sex, to initiate sex, or even initiate just more physical affection To me this is super normal relationship stuff. You're past the honeymoon phase, and into the real phase of a relationship that requires communication and hardwork. Does it take some effort yes. But the connection, and love, and commitment, that come out of that is amazing. TLDR: Your boyfriend still loves you. This is normal. You just need to talk and communicate your needs and find compromise.
Eh? So you’d add to her body count and disrespect her as you did? So you’d use her for you own pleasure? So you’re a pig? Women like sex just as much as men do, you don’t see people raising their pitchforks when a man has a high body count. Women are allowed to enjoy sex, just as men can.
> Why do I feel like this if I don’t like him? Because you are having sex with him, it's normal you are getting emotionally attached to him, humans are evolved bond with sexual partners. It's usually the other relationship stuff you are not doing that makes you *less* emotionally attached. It's normal for women to hold opposing emotions at the same time. Don't tell you don't like him if you kind of do as it will just hurt him and thinks harder if you actually start liking him a lot.
Ok so… why'd you flatten out? That changes position and angle, which will always affect rhythm. Look, I totally get losing some self-control in the moment lol, but blaming him for a sudden change that you actively made is kinda shitty.
Are you engaged? Has talks of marriage been brought up? Do you think she's saying to this force your hand on marriage? If she wants to wait, and you're planning on getting married soon, I don't see what the big deal would be to abstain for a bit … If that's what she needs. Esp if she's completing a doctorate. Maybe she's exhausted?!?! Also, because I think it always needs to be said – make sure you're doing 50% of the mental and physical load without her having to ask. Maybe even 60%. Women, generally speaking, get burnt out on the mental and physical load of being the home/relationship caretaker and it effects our sex drive massively
PRAISE YOU. May your food always be warm and delicious.
100% the perfect line. Personally that line would turn me the hell on.
If she’s not having sex with you for that long it’s over.
Damn good wifey material
Ohhh ok thank you very much. I would have never guessed that.
All I can say to this is, if you love her you'll do it regardless and it ain't all that bad. And if you don't, at a certain point in time someone else will. Head up eyes open.
I can't speak for how statistically common or uncommon it is, but I do feel that the people who do like it are more outspoken about it. Especially on reddit. Note the reactions saying you need to dump him, even though you already said that it's not a big deal and you are not going to dump him over this. Personally, I don't like giving head. Not my thing at all. Nothing wrong but enjoying oral, but it's not my personal preference. I do feel like people fixate it too much on it as the be-all end-all of satisfying women, when there's an entire world of sex acts out there and not all women even like receiving oral.
If your partner doesn't agree with you having an open relationship you don't have any “right” to have sex outside the marriage, that's just unethical & cheating, what you should do is come up with a solution that your partner is ok with, because you're married
Tell me more??
I had an affair in my dead bedroom, never got caught; and still regret it. I finally left but I wish I had left before I cheated. Now I’m a cheater. Even if I never cheat again, I will always be a cheater.
Hey, it’s somewhat common to have different erections in different sexual acts. Besides the good tips here, I’d like to add: are you wearing a condom for PIV? If so, please measure yourself here: https://calcsd.info and take the condom recommendations to heart. It could be you’re bigger than average (it’s super common for big guys to not know they are big). If so, the condom will be too tight around the base of your penis, and very often kills erections. Then you get nervous bc u think u have ED, and then it becomes a vicious cycle.
This is why menstrual discs are awesome. They sit against the cervix and catch the blood so none comes down into the vagina. She can put in the disc, rinse out, and you have basically period free sex
If you check out virtual events on FetLife, you can probably find a Zoom class on some of the basics of domination, kink, CNC, discussing boundaries, etc. You might find it helpful in exploring this part of yourself— or you might find that something like D/s isn’t for you, but something like a pleasure Dom (which sounds more like what you’re describing your interests to be) might fit you. And remember that indulging in kink like this doesn’t reflect anything about who you “really are” or anything like that. My Dom is an absolute wonderful sadist who leaves me with marks and bruises that take a week to fade. He’s also a kind, gentle life partner to me.
Also would like to say that I'm a 46M and have been with my wife for over 17 years, we only recently (in the last 2 years or so) started sending each other sexy stuff by messenger/text. It's been fun. Some adults like trains or video games or animated shows, do they deserve to be called childish by some dipstick that can't understand humans individually have many different ideas/tastes/hobbies/etc…
With all due respect, this seems like needless pedantry. It's pretty clear that she's talking about being roughed up and feeling used. If you want to encourage OP to get his needs met then let him know he can also tell her that he wants to focus on sensual things at different times. What good does it do to first iron out that Free-use is technically a misnomer and she really wants her version of free use not his. Of course she wants her version, that's why she asked in the first place. This just ads an extra segment to the discussion they are going to have that comes across as condescending. You know what she meant. Why are you going over this? Are you really that annoyed with the name “free-use”? Is now the time to bring that up?
I guess you're right. Labels complicate things in the end of the day instead of clearing things up. At least for me. Thanks for the answer!
I’ve never had an issue with androgynous looking or speaking men. You may be bisexual. Good luck!
Fore play is always key. Take it slow and you don’t wanna try and do a bunch of moves all at once ha.
See, I've always been curious about men who have curved penis's – upwards, downwards, sides – because I am personally straight with an upward curve that is nothing special. But, given that the G-Spot is like 1.5 inches inside and on top… i'd assume a more upward curving penis is better? I work with what I have but, my main and only goal is to please her, not me.
I wouldn't even say porn has too much to do with it – it does to an extent – but when you literally see women mocking and making fun of a guys size in movies, shows, magazines, etc… cmon. That's the funny thing. People on this subreddit always default to porn as the reason. But the way women in real life talk about dicks has a way bigger effect. Hearing guys talk about getting rejected once a woman realizes she has a micro penis, is way more scary than a porno where the woman is paid to put on a show. Hearing women say “small dick energy” is way more impactful. And yes that phrase literally refers to the behaviour and technically doesn't mean that having a small dick is the problem, but being insecure is the problem. But in practice, does anyone really believe the people saying a guy has small dick energy would defend a guy that had a small dick? Because usually it sounds like they are saying “Don't act insecure or people will think you have a small dick”. So, going off the average vaginal depth, it seems pointless to have an 8″+ dick but can only put like 5-6″ in before it become painful for her. But that's the thing, I don't want a 10in dick because it will make me a better lover. I want a 10 inch dick because it will make me happy. It's past the point of rationale and understanding. I know my current size is enough. I just want it. “who gaf, it is what it is, i cant change it so whatever” I'd go a step further. It's fine to want a partner that likes your body as is. And it's fine to want a woman that will like your dick. The good news is there do exist women who will love a guy's 4in dick and want it to stay the exact same size. Although to the more restrictions you want the harder it is to find a woman that meets all the criteria. Finding a woman that is satisfied with the sex you're having? Very doable. Finding a woman that will love your dick no matter the size as long as you can get her off in other ways? Still doable, depending on how much she values penetration. If she just likes fullness, then a buttplug during piv can help. Timing can help. There are many ways to make sex maximally enjoyable. Finding woman that specifically thinks your dick is maximally enjoyable for PiV? Not impossible, but there is a compatibility required.
I would care. I'd make sure you did.
Why are you back with him? He doesn’t respect you and unironically (as if ironically makes a difference, which it doesn’t) used the term ‘man hating.’ This is not about you smelling even if you did which in context I sincerely doubt. The only thing that stinks here — and it absolutely reeks — is his worldview.
This guy is an absolute douche. Stay clear, he’s only ever going to mess you about and make you feel like shit. That’s coming from another attractive male btw. There’s no excuse for behaving the way has/does. You can do better ?
It's possible but that doesn't make it OK. I'm so sorry, OP. This has happened to me too: you're doing amazingly to have identified it and be able to to talk about it.
You lost a baby just around that time? I'm so very sorry for your loss. Maybe your husband is giving you time to physically recover? Or is still processing and grieving your tragedy? Talk to him about it and see what he is thinking and feeling.
You know assuming an attractive person automatically has a bad personality is just as shallow? Some of the most attractive people I've met were also the nicest people ever. On the flip side I've met a lot of unattractive people that were assholes. You really don't know unless you get to know them.
Can you link? I’ve been looking for something for my husband.
Dude is a narcissist and manipulative.
Wow… Interesting to put labels to what I'm into.
Say she offer to suck yo dick if u let her throat fuck u wit a dildo? Sucking a dick != thtoatfucking a dick. I'll suck a dildo if she sucks my dick for sure.
This guy is a pig ?
Metal does conduct heat quite well though & you can easily heat it in water.
Ask yourself this: how would she react if you showed your videos to your friends?
Very very good point
As other ppl have said asexuality is a spectrum, but for me it's mostly that I just never get turned on on my own. Like I might interact with a person and think that they're attractive, but I don't ever think about them afterwards or think it would be nice to have sex with them or like… whatever people who get turned on by other people do? Lol. It's hard for me to compare because I don't understand what it's like to have that desire towards someone else. If I ever get aroused, it's only if I'm bored and start actively thinking about a kink or watching porn just to fill time. And even then I never imagine myself in sexual situations, it's usually a character or just a vague situation with no person in specific. I don't fantasize about myself or real people. I'm not sex-repulsed (some people are), so the idea of sex doesn't repulse me, it's just an entirely neutral concept to me and doesn't interest me at all. Have you ever had a project or a hobby that you keep thinking you should get back to and never do? Maybe once every few months you'll have some free time and think “oh, maybe I should get into that hobby again”. But you don't feel the urge to follow through, because even if the hobby was fun, you're just not invested enough in it and you have other things you like doing better. And even if you do get back into it for a week or two, eventually you forget about it because it wasn't that important to you anyway? That's sex for me.
Absolutely
Uh, keep reading /r/sex? There's lots of sex-positive info here, and advice for people who've had some sort of negative experience.
Open your mind buddy. It’s an amazing world that amazing things happen to people every day.
Legit
Believe me i did but she found her way back onto my bed ?
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Just asking but how did you reach that conclusion? As well as that's was that plan if things continued on this path.
Walking 20k steps a day, and lifting for work (construction) helps quite a bit.
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Tbh, just move on. That doesn’t sound like it’s going to go anywhere.
baby you feel incredible I love how tight you are around me oh God, when you move like that it feels amazing fuck baby, you're going to make me cum if you keep doing that tell me what you want me to do to you tell me how good I make you feel (after she cums) mmmm good job baby, but I'm not through with you yet whisper in my ear what you want next Annnnnnnd there's just a few examples to get you going love ❤️. I love talking dirty!
Better ask him to wear it…?
That did sound harsh, you're right. “Are we just accepting blowjobs for the sake of feeling it rather than actually enjoying it” is a better alternative. To be fair to myself, I wasn't scrolling the porn subs. It was just the discussion based ones. I'm done with porn, trying to normalise and equalise my true sexual desire and drive without the influence of external stimuli like porn.
Definitely should separate but you seem to be under the false impression the clit is always this huge throbbing button that says push. My fiance has trouble finding her own clit sometimes, every body is very different. Also kinda sounds like they're very transactional, never a good sign in an actually healthy relationship.
He could be eating the right foods that keep it tasting good. If a person has a bad/fat diet it can taste bitter and bad. It’s super hot that you say and do this, he is lucky to have such a woman.
Both
Yes this is how it was it took her like 30 mins but she wanted to so I wasn’t gonna stop her Yk but yeah I girss
Gay and straight butt holes have the same nerves. “Gay” has to do with what gender you want to fuck. Gay has nothing to do with him enjoying you licking his ass. You’re not a lesbian because you like when a guy goes down on you.
I agree with you that most don’t get reported at all. Can a person withdraw consent after the fact? That doesn’t seem very fair, unless I’m misunderstanding what you mean
It’s a lie they tell themselves to excuse misogyny. Notice how in his comment he referred to women as ‘females.’ Weird and dehumanising. Women don’t regularly lie about rape and rapists don’t regularly get jail time, but random redditor’s would love for you to think otherwise.
I am a guy and I really would like know how to approach a girlfriend seen randomly in a bar or somewhere too. As you said, I think is a bit boring approach somebody in dating apps.
When you’re horny enough you can do anything.
Truth, I'm definitely wilder than my homies and I'm far more outgoing.
Um…ok…not for everyone….
raises hand You called?
It is what you want it to be in your mind, and it can be different for your partner as well.
I'm sorry, I had to laugh. Maybe find a less awkward and weird FWB? ? She needs to find herself and until she does, she's going to continue to yell in your ear, “Who dat?!” ?
You make some great points thank you
Vasaline?
Just his face. The facial expressions of pure pleasure as I ride him, and how he closes his eyes because it feels so damn good ?? But i agree, the hip squeezing is just ??
You’re right I don’t want to mess up a good thing, I do go to the gym and I have a fairly neat physique so I’m not sure that it’d make much difference. I’d sacrifice almost everything for her but when we don’t have sex the same grim feeling comes back. I just literally hate that my relationship would end because of sex, I never wanted to believe it meant so much.
Oh no free healthcare, free schooling, less control from corporations. How will I ever survive being taxed slightly more
You've clearly had this conversation multiple times, and I don't think she's going to change her mind. It's just not something she wants to do. Which nobody owes anymore oral. However, if this is a compatibility issue, and it's something you want in your life, you should rethink the relationship. You want to have your needs met, which is valid. She should be with a partner who is okay with the fact she doesn't give it.
Heres a cool pro: You can probably qualify for a clitoral hood piercing easier than smaller clits!
https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a19943165/sex-positions-guide/ Explore a few of these! GL
Nope! I actually look & feel better than in my twenties!
This goes for blowjobs too The wetter the better!
Do they make some that wouldn’t get in the way or be uncomfortable for the penis behind it?
Yes/no. If it's too wet and we're not in missionary I sort of lose feeling of her grip. So it's harder for me to get off. That said, if she's that wet or getting that wet, chances are I'm not going to be the first to finish that night. Good problems to have.
It’s actually a serious crime to let a WAP unentangled.
Doesn’t that just make you sleepy? lol
For the long term? Every time? Yes, this would be a dealbreaker for me. If you can’t stop jerking it long enough to reset and won’t figure this out, we are not going to work
So she did more to initiate… and you’re breaking up? Just seems unfair, ngl. Hey man, sex 2 times a year would be unbearable for me. If y’all are way off on libido, then chalk it up to sexual incompatibility and talk about seeing new ppl (but, uhm, not right now, just seems you’re going to discourage her from initiating w anyone). Or you can talk w her, and live w being initiator in chief. Im the one that starts things up, 99.9% of the time. It’s a tough job, not all men can live w that burden 🙂 mostly serious here. But, think of it this way: maybe you’re what she needs. Like having a socially shy SO when you’re outgoing, kind of my strengths help your weaknesses n vice versa thing. Try Nagoski’s book come as you are, helps to understand responsive desire in women. A word about bjs Try it on yourself. Get a cucumber or banana or something that reflects on your erect size. Hold it still/move it randomly while you bob your head forcing it in your mouth. See how easy it is to almost puke/gag. Now imagine you learning this skill while nervous, OJT style. She did fine, as far as I can tell. I almost can’t cum from a BJ, it can’t approximate the amount of stimulation I get being in my partners pussy. That’s ok/normal. Oral is a very one sided/unselfish act. They get points for just trying, extra credit for any enthusiasm.
Bro, get out of there right now.
The other side of that coin is that we are much more likely to experience SA than men. So, not sure that’s quite an even trade off.
Seriously? Once a week? WOW! The nerve! Basically it falls down to consent. Even in marriage. If your partner says they only want sex once a week, (which is pretty phenomenal) you need to respect that.
Oooof. I feel like that’s the same situation as OP but in reverse. Bringing toys into the bedroom is not a problem, but when you’re ONLY getting enjoyment from toys, it starts to make your partner feel some kind of way—or to your point, it’s tedious after a while
Unfortunately most people suffering from addiction aren't able to see how their addiction is harming their loved ones.
My insurance will pay for a biopsy or “pain management therapy” of my broke foot but keeps denying my pcp's request for an mri. Aetna, if you are reading this, fuck you.
“They”? Are we talking about more that one person? Because if not, it becomes vitally import whether this person is a male or a female. If a male, yeah, get on Post-Exposure Protocol, right now. If a female, well, probably don’t worry about it but raise your standards in the future.
and watch him masturbate? how would porn be useful between the two of us? genuine questions btw… i’m trying to be open minded and change my mindset even when i should respect my boundaries but there has been nothing yet that convinces me porn is okay in a committed monogamous relationship.
She is right. Try having sex with the goal of loving her and making her happy and don’t come. Then snuggle and go to sleep. Eye opening.
By doing it. You can still get hard and have sex even blackout drunk.
This is the way.
Would rather use an electric trimmer
This is a valid point, I’ve had some that made me nut super quick to my surprise and then I’ve also had some that I needed to stimulate myself to completion
It’s not a turn off, you just need to find someone who will match your energy and drive.
My wife has one an I love sucking it to pop it out. It's fun an she loves it
Did you tell him the hygiene is important and he should brush his teeth twice a day and shower daily or Did you take the more direct approach and tell him his breath and his body odor disgust you and make you not attracted to him and he needs to take care of his hygiene daily Maybe you should consider exiting this relationship because basic hygiene isn’t difficult so imagine how he tackles other daily tasks, basic chores and obstacles in the future.
When someone shows you who they really are, believe them. His personal hygiene standards will always be subpar to your basic requirements. If you give him an ultimatum he will resent you for it…. expect nothing to change and decide what you want.
Why ist it not cool? He made it clear he does not want her to have an of on her own. How is asking for 50% weird, if you are running the account together?
“Mental gymnastics” happen when our brains spiral into destructive thought patterns—making up excuses or arguments for unjustifiable decisions or situations. In other words, they're “all the thoughts that are within play to keep you from doing that exact thing you need to do,” psychotherapist Shemena Johnson, Psy. Let him eat you out. I doubt he will care.
Ehhh it could be but the comment that women need more upkeep while men can let it go points to something deeper than depression. It may be compounding the issue but that comment is a glaring warning sign.
Not sure why youre being called toxic by so many people for making a joke :/
Same here!
Sorry for lashing out so hard
There are simple exercises for strenghtening pelvic floor muscles that you need to control your ejaculation. They involve edging, that you should practice on your own first. Exercises will also helpo you differentiate your orgasms from ejaculation.
Get on T. It will give you rock hard boners especially in the morning.
Maybe his test levels were super crazy that morning which could actually delay his orgasm.it could be anything tho tbh it happens.
i promise a man that truly like you for you will not judge you. he will love how you look all over. i know it can be very scary, but once it’s happening, all that stress just releases. i used to be super scared as well w a similar experience. i finally just went for it. i promise it will be okay❤️
You are 100% wrong! I would give you a link but if you search yourself, type most dominant sex position for a male. Doggy style is #1 always. You forget we are still basically animals and this harkens back to our origins as such. Not having to look someone in the eye and putting them in the most vulnerable position possible by exposing them this way is as dominant as you can get without going into B&D.
My husband loves them so just depends I guess
I understand the views completely. My husband says when he watches porn, it’s just for visual and sounds for that moment to get him to peak and that’s it. For me, when I watch it, I think of my husband and when I do peak, sorry if tmi…I even call his name but I completely understand your wife’s point of view. And congrats on your anniversary! Yes, I’ve mentioned that to him, that he’s made it a habit or a morning ritual and it takes away from me in the afternoon, he explains that he’s just too tired when he gets home. I won’t press him as I wouldn’t want to be pushed to do something if I’m not in the mood. But I guess it’s not good either, as I’ve started to make it a habit to take it when I can get it because if I deny it, I know I won’t get it for a while. Thank you for your advice about retraining, I definitely will bring it up in our conversations.
I’ve always been a fan of the trimmed bush myself. Maybe influenced by the porn I watched growing up, but I’ve always thought it was so damn sexy.
Not everyone suits a shaved head, right? Well same goes for your down below. It really depends on what your pubic region looks like ergo what will suit you. I don’t look very good completely shaved and I don’t have thick enough pubic hair to make any shapes or landing strips, so I just keep it trimmed short and tidy around the edges. If you’ve got more hair you probably have options. Try a few things while you’re single! Or just try a few things. 🙂 have some fun with it. Ask a waxed what they recommend.
When I eat his ass, he only lasts a few seconds
Sorry to ask this, but it might be relevant… any history of abuse? Might be related. Might need to talk to someone about it.
I just see a lot of individuals on here with a high libido compared to their partners who are struggling. Not being sexual compatible.
the first vibrator is really good, i got this for a promotional video. It feels very good, but not exactly ergonomic
YTA
Thank you! I was assuming I should contact my health provider anyways and see if there are any other test(s) I should get done. So in this case, is it more likely I came into contact with someone with it and may or may not have contracted it myself? Until further proven with another type of test? My boyfriend and I were discussing this more last night, and he does further believe it might be a false positive since I haven't had an outbreak in the past 4 years (obviously could have had this for much less than 4 years as the partner I could think I might have gotten it from I was first with two years ago… Also someone who would be impossible to convince to test).
That's a fuckbuddy If they want that type of relationship, nothing wrong with it. I've had fwbs and fuckbuddies and we were on the same page so we both wanted to fuck and then disappear from eachother lol. Fwb, bit different, they're a friend first.. which doesn't sound like what you're describing. Either have a talk about what you're both looking for from eachother and see if this is mutually agreeable orrrrr find a new fwb/fuckbuddy because this can really hurt if you thought you were FRIENDS with benefits and not “just a fuck”
As if no other girl can say that ?
Girl-on-top is a great position to boost your confidence. When you are confident in bed, you are more confident in life as well. And the best part is, a lot of the tips inside the bedroom work outside of the bedroom. Close your eyes when you are performing girl-on-top and notice your self-talk. What do you say to yourself? Are you being self-compassionate? Or are you judging yourself? Chance is that if you’re judging yourself, your partner will sense it. So bring awareness to your self-talk .
That’s exactly what a bot would say
Im with everyone who says something along the lines of communication is key. You need more sex so tell him and ask him what he thinks you should do about it as a couple. So many options these days like being open or if you’re worried about stds maybe have a third person in your relationship maybe he likes to watch and that gets him going. In turn maybe bring a second girl in for him as pretty as you can find and try to help him find his libido if that’s an option. Long story short talk to him and even give him time to think. Tell him he doesn’t have to answer now and give him a date like if it’s Monday say I want to discuss this Friday or the next Monday again to see where he is at with it. Maybe he’s willing to use toys on you if you like that. Too
Damn that's what we SURELY will try! Thanks man.
Get a dog water proof blanket. Put it down and enjoy. Then wash it
That was me, that thing is a bed saver!
I mean.. if you want. I would have told my partner the moment I decided to get tested cause I try to have completely open communication, however I don’t see the point in telling him now.
It actually falls closer to 9inches if that matters with girth
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This, 100% My ex was studying abroad for half a year and let me tell you…those two times we visited each other in that time was the best bloody sex I've had
There is no real definitive scientific answer as the biological function of orgasm is not really clear (there are some hypothesis).
This. This all day. Also, a lot of guys treat their own cum like it's toxic acid but expect their partners to gobble it like they're in one of those Got Milk commercials. Tasting your own cum is a wonderful bit of sexual health self awareness as well as a great way to gain some perspective on a part of a partner's experience, OP.
some asexual people can and want to have sex. it's just that we don't experience sexual attraction. not every asexual is sex repulsed, some need to be in love, be really comfortable with someone etc to have sex. also, some asexual people make extremely sexual jokes, idk why, for some reason we do lol you may want to ask her about actually having sex. and if you're disappointed by her answer just let her know. I think I'd rather hear “sorry, it's a deal breaker for me” than be led on.
Any Dom worth their salt would tell you 10x over that he aint no dom. Drop him like its hot.
You’d be surprised how many men do just this. Pure ignorance.
Unless you have negotiated CNC or TPE, then safe word means full stop, always. Even in CNC or TPE I'd still stop and see what was going on with my sub if they safeworded
Definitely not normal. As a Dom, when the safe word is said, it all comes to a stop. He has zero respect for you.
? it’s always the quiet ones!
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I have done this (quite often actually) and my wife just laughs and tells me I'm weird… turns out I'm not the only one!!
99% of men would explode if a lesbian couple asked them to have a threesome, but in a good way. Feeld is a good, open minded app for finding a guy for this.
It could be either that he has a kink but in general we guys like when we make you cum. So it could be that his ego is being stroked while you get off his dick in such a way that he had not yet put it in you and made you cum. Only one way to find out
I think it depends a little. I personally i only use face clothes for my face and probably wouldn't be too happy with sombody using it to clean their parts even when not bleeding. If he's anal (if you exuse the pun) like me and only uses it for his face then he's right and i would too probably throw it away. If he uses it to clean everything then your right and he's a child.
Bro it’s the way I won’t lie was ragging the same bird a hour and a half loool
Happens to all (or nearly?!) sometimes – it’s not a machine, and sometimes it’s just cursed, even with the hottest partner…
Yeah, this guy needs to grow some self respect.
…if you’re with someone you trust…
AMEN MY BEAUTIFUL SISTER!!!
It did absolutely nothing for me. Regardless of whether it’s placebo, good for you! Don’t look a gift horse in the mouth.
Girl get the fuck out of here, you posted twice. Leave your pedo boyfriend. He’ll probably find an actual woman who didnt just become an adult. Isn’t anyone else curious why a 25 year old is interested in a 19 year old girl? Someone who was just in high school to someone who is out of university???
21M, been in a happy relationship for 3 years and it is kinda embarassing because it is much smaller flaccid than erect, but at this point it doesn’t stop me if I have to change clothes in front of her. She knows it’s not small anyways.
He isn’t a fan of anal? Hopefully he comes around, I live to please my wife
Jesus your BF is a manipulative emotionally abusive Ahole. This isn't ok. None of this is normal or ok. Dump his ass and find someone who treats you better. There are a million men out there that would treat you better than this. And you DESERVE better than this.
Sounds like you took advantage of him
Thanks this was very descriptive and useful. Appreciate it ! These tips are ideal
If you're very fat, it could be metabolic syndrome. If you've been taking any folk herbal remedies (including cannabis) to relieve stress or improve performance, they might be responsible.
It's a menstrual disc. They claim that men can't feel them and market them to women who want to have sex during their periods. So she was probably embarrassed thinking she did something wrong.. Just make her feel comfortable and let her know that she can talk to you about it.
Explore every inch of your body
You watch too much porn
I have a post I made today and it’s similar. Seriously what is going on right now? Men, act right ? (just kidding). I want anal but he keeps pressuring me to just stick it in with no fore play or attempts at turning me on!
Take some time and train him to give you an orgasm. Delay intercourse for days, weeks, even months if necessary. The more “new stuff” a person has to wrestle with at once, the more insecure and nervous they get. So break the new stuff up. =)
Change it’s all about her, to it’s all about YOU! If it’s all about her, when she said no, then the conversation ends. This whole post is filled with what YOU want? Do you know not every woman is Bi? Do you know not all women have a fantasy of being with another woman? Jeez your poor wife.
He needs to understand that squirming is an involuntary reflex. He should feel good he can make you feel that way!!!
Service Top or Bottom?
Sounds like a lovely guy.
That and even the ones that are transitioning sometimes choose varying degrees of surgery. Many will keep their penis and still fully identify as a woman. I know one and she has a very healthy relationship with a woman. So many think that sexual preference and gender identity should align, with many they are not tied together at all. I am learning daily to be tolerant and to learn how these people wish to be acknowledged. People are coming around on this topic though which is great! Good on for you for educating yourself!
You’d be better off never talking to your boyfriend again. He sounds unbelievably immature.
I’m just pleased to read that I’m not the only one who takes pleasure in prioritising the pleasure of other GF’s and female friends.
Take some time and masturbated explore your body when there is less pressure
The most important thing you can do, and do not under any circumstances forget to do this part, is to report back on how it went. ?
What a man
Being broke
Guys who worry about penis size don’t understand women well enough. If you want to help him grow as a lover, sure, educate him a bit and have a talk. Basically humans don’t like complexity and try to simplify everything with some caveman thought like ‘bigger is better.’ The fact that women are complex and sex is mostly mental is too challenging, because that would mean a guy can’t just kick back and be lazy, thinking ‘my Dick is big so she should be happy…not her work, attention, creativity, skills required.’ Truth. Each man and woman is different and what makes them happy sexually may or may not involve being big sucked, small dicked or even no dicked.
Unfortunately he’s like me, insecure
The obvious solution here would seem to be to discuss the issue when OP is emotionally present. She can explain to him that it's cathartic for her, Oxytocin is a hell of a drug.
Lube.
Ok. Still, she give him head, he should reciprocate.
ive never been hard for the first 2-3 times with a new girl my whole life
Exactly.
You sound like your trying to convince yourself here dude by saying things like “she wants me to do it” she says that now but afterwards I can see you losing the relationship,the only “safe” way to bring someone new in as a once off is with a prostitute,someone that you and your girlfriend will never see again BUT if you want to lose your relationship with your girlfriend then go for it
It’s called stress. You did not lose your virginity. This is all in your head and your stomach hurts because you are stressing yourself out over this. Why would this guy lie about what you two did? You were blacked out not unconscious. He would have no idea you weren’t making memories at the moment. If you asked if you had sex he would have thought you were fully coherent and would have said yes if you did.
Depends on the partner. For some, any discomfort that comes from how they are tied up can add to the eroticism. And the level of discomfort will be different depending on how the person is tied.
When I turned 40 something switched in me and I wanted to fuck every woman of every size. Larger women look and feel amazing to me now, as long as they have or can fake confidence. Trying to hide their tummy or wanting lights off is a turnoff, I'm a visual creature. Sorry to say that wasn't the case when I was younger, I idolised skinny girls with big fake boobs. Hopefully you find one of the many men of all ages that see your value and appreciate you.
I didn’t bleed after losing mine either. I think it’s something that only applies to some folks
I didn’t bleed after losing mine either. I think it’s something that only applies to some folks
The only real thing you can do is talk. Explain that you want more reciprocation, more sex, or whatever. Probably talk about it at a time when neither of you are planning on doing anything sexual, so that doesn't get in the way. It sounds like he's just using you, but without knowing everything about both of you I couldn't tell you for sure. I can understand if he didn't want vaginal sex because of the risk of pregnancy for some people that can add more stress than having sex decreases. There are many other things that the two of you could do though.
You ate your way into feeling self conscious and embarrassed by your size. It’s ruining your confidence and your ability to feel sexy. That’s not good. If you feel that way about your size, limiting calories and regular difficult exercise have to be your go-to solution. You need to lose some weight. I am NOT being fat phobic. I am focusing on your words. The resulting improved confidence will help you filter out the vile men and leave dead relationships.
Weaponizing sex is a sure way to divorce. Try counseling – so each of you can have your needs met without either BTA. As of now, seems like YTA. But he is no price either. Learn to communicate better so your kids can have two loving parents.
Probably not a lot because prepping before anal exists?
Communication is key to every relationship. You can get all the answers you desire by sitting down with your wife and simply asking her why the two of you aren't being sexual. It's fine to be submissive. However you still need to do 50% of the communication. You still need to initiate (you can initiate as an act of submissive pleasure giving). You still need to carry a part of the relationship Sounds like you have a dead bedroom not because of a submissive nature, but because your relationship lacks communication. You should be asking why your bedroom is dead. You should be asking how you can fix it. You should be talking to your partner as an equal. I am a submissive male, and have zero issues with a dead bedroom. There is no reason yours needs to be dead.
You don't sit on his face, you sit on his chest/shoulders or kneel over his face. Tell him to tap out on your ankle if he needs to stop.
Yeah. But I was young and dumb then. My husband is wonderful, so I guess I got where I needed to go 🙂
This is completely true. Even though as a bi guy I totally fantasize about MMF, it would be awful if my gf would make the suggestion. I guess in most cases it would be ok for a girl to suggest ffm, and for a guy to suggest mmf. But suggesting that someone of the same gender as your SO joins in is likely to end up with trouble.