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  1. I do not use any hormonal contraception. I have been under a lot of mental stress through uni and this in turn has meant little time for the gym etc. could this just be down to mental stress?

  2. 100000% dick move, this person would say yes from a place of vulnerability (because has feeling for you….). Don’t take advantage of the situation

  3. Your fuck buddy of 2+ years, who doesn’t see you as a potential wife. Girl, stick up for yourself, you deserve better. Cut this off ASAP!

  4. What I meant is: If men are not happy with (modern day) feminism, and women are not; who then is benefiting? I always thought feminism was about equality, but dominance is the opposite of equality. I have no problem with your approach or definition. But it's one sided. When you have legions of feminists teaching young boys (not that they all learn) in schools and colleges from tender age that their masculinity is toxic, that women don't need to be protected, and that they should be “nice”; it is going to limit your “choice” isn't it? It's not like you can push a button and undo decades of cultural and societal effects on a man's brain. I have been studying social conditioning for a decade. There are brain structures that literally grow or shrink. You can't flip a switch and have your man act dominant just because that's your choice at the moment. Even if you could teach him a behavior or two, it'll sound mechanical and robotic. Not all hope is lost though So, I respect your choice but they ruined it for you

  5. You’ve been together 2+ years. Expecting to stay the night at this point should just be a given. It’s odd that he feels the way he does and I’d consider it a major red flag. You feeling like you want to end things might be your gut telling you to do just that.

  6. I had a Female partner that is his twin. My suggestion is RUN. You will never find common ground and it will end badly. I am sorry for telling you this but you deserve to find someone that has your same ideals, wants and desires. Best of luck and I wish you the best life has to offer …. now go find it

  7. He's probably just been religiously “brainwashed” as a kid, those values were instilled in him and now that he's breaking them it feels guilty. I've experienced it a few times. Sucks bc I don't really believe in marriage personally but I get it on his part. Maybe he doesn't want to give too much of his self and time away on what may be potentially a waste of his time? I'm about his age and have been burned quite a few times. So much so that I just don't want to make that mistake again and spend all my free time on someone else. Dating is one thing, I wish I'd realized that before. All of my LTR's almost immediately just became move-in girlfriend's and took over my life. I don't want to sacrifice that much of myself again, maybe he doesn't either? Noticed any signs, like you always having to be the one to initiate time you spend together?

  8. for your notes: as a solo polyamorous person I'm technically single but also partnered – that demographic question didn't quite cover the bases. (also I'm curious about differences between polyam and mono folks, I bet polyams are more likely to think of masturbation as a separate sexual relationship they have with themselves than as a stand in for partnered sex)

  9. Thats still shouldn't matter your his girlfriend at the end of the day he should love you no matter what and be able to have sex without it being a problem

  10. Sharing your fantasy is an intimate thing. Be nervous… be raw… be real. It’s not an unusual fantasy. I share the same— well, sort of. I told my wife 15 years ago, and I was surprised at how understanding she was. At the time, she even thought she might be able to meet me half way.

  11. Speaking as a married 31M, it’s overrated as can be in my opinion, I’d rather jerk off if I’m being 100% honest

  12. Honestly, needing him to shave and use an enema might be enough to deter him from the idea entirely, although I fully understand that wasn't the goal of your suggestion, and again, I don't want to “trick” him into not wanting to do it. I do think there's some element of not wanting to be dominant, although I enjoy that dynamic in other scenarios. I think at this exact moment I'm also feeling a little shocked, because in our whole relationship, I think I've only fingered him twice, and the most recent time was many months ago, and now he's just out of nowhere told me he's tried fingering himself while masturbating and wants to try a strap on even if he's not at that point yet (I think the latter point is another reason I'm quite freaked out by it all- I am NOT willing to tear him open and hurt him, he would need to be completely prepared for me to even think about that, but when he told me, he was so fired up he told me he didn't care if it would hurt) So I think the zero to sixty aspect is also freaking me out.

  13. So does she shut you down for sex often? Does she not seem to like it when you are doing it? Those are legitimate issues. I mean some women don't like to initiate for whatever reason but that doesn't mean they don't want it and aren't into it. I've known women who don't think it is ladylike and feel to shy to do it even though they love it. If you are tired of fucking her after 2 years then that is a different issue. That happens a lot. Would her jumping on you really improve that?

  14. Hate to say it but she might be getting it elsewear and the guilt makes it hard for her to be intimate with you

  15. You can't really will yourself to sweat less. I think there may be some prescription drugs that decrease sweat if it's a huge problem? But you'd have to ask a doctor whether they were appropriate for you. In the meantime, how about trying positions where you're not raining down sweat on her? She could go on top, or you could do doggy style sex, or sex where you're lying side by side.

  16. Have you two tried toys? Exploring fantasies? Getting kinky? Sometimes it's about the journey you're both on together. It might work, it might not. But you're soooooo young. Try not to get down on yourself and understand that you're on a journey that could take YEARS before you really get the perspective in order to get comfortable in that regard. You'll get there. Just be patient and try a lot of stuff! Even if you didn't orgasm, you probably learned something about yourself, right? Just let go and lean in!

  17. I kinda relate to this guy, when asked my mind goes blank lol, I can't think of anything to say or I'm just cool with standard sex. Feels weird specifying fetishes or things I like.

  18. I was thinking any of the “yes/no/Maybe” quizzes out there might help op and friend explore and start a conversation. I find them fun and flirty but to each their own, I can understand how someone might find it upsetting or awkward. It might be a way for him to uncover what he wants and open up about it. And OP might too.

  19. Could I have done anything better? Quit asking so many fucking questions and just do shit. She obviously doesn't know what she likes and wants you to take the lead, so just do it. If you want toys, then go buy some toys and use them. She will tell you to stop when you get off in the weeds. ​ the number one thing I want is just for my partner to every now and again come up to me, grab my cock and say 'I want to fuck you right now' You're not dating that personality so move the fuck off of that idea. Either accept that she will never be that person or break up and go date dudes.

  20. Absolutely! The variables of touch, friction and speed all vary from one body part, person or object. Then you also have the emotional aspect. Quite a few combinations

  21. Just be verbal. Express how much you love it. “I don't mind” is a kick in the nuts. Tell him you love it. Tell him it's perfect. Be visibly excited to see it and touch it.

  22. A partner once filmed me orgasming so that he could show me what I looked like. I found it horrifying and never want to watch myself again. My partners seem to like it, though. Perhaps it's like how everyone hates the sound of their own voice.

  23. What should you do? Probably grow the fuck up you're in your 30s having unprotected sex with a stranger who now has a third of your income for the next twenty years. Get the kid tested soon as possible and buy some protection

  24. I dont think that it will be fixed. The whole thing just got wrong when you “forced” him to do that. It seems like he'll never forget about that, whats the point of being in a relationship where you cant trust your partner anymore? You only tought about yourself when you proposed that. Why dont start with FFM 3some? He would be happy and feeling obligated to please you afterwards. I dont know how thing goes in your country/culture, but here in Brazil, the girl commands the relationship, if I wanted to do such fetish, i would first make my girl happy doing MMF 3some. Firsr spouse then me.

  25. Check out a sex shop for dildos, butt plugs, etc. start penetration with one finger. After a few minutes of exploring with one finger, make it two. Maybe precede the one finger in the rectum with fingers in the pussy to arouse her. With fingers in both holes, you would press the fingers gently towards one another. If your fingers are meaty, maybe start with something thinner in the butthole. Best lubrication for anal is silicone based, not water based. Saliva (yours or hers) is sufficient for just the fingers, but insufficient for anything bigger. Using saliva can be fun, but silicone is best. To use saliva, drool onto something and rub the fingers in that. Large amounts of lube aren't better. And don't try to pump the silicone into the hole, spread it on the opening and on whatever is being stuck into there, and slide in in small increments. Don't bother with enemas. Keep a roll of paper towels alongside, wipe the inside with the finger, wipe onto the paper, until the wipings are clear. With one finger, don't primarily slide in and out. Curl the finger. Rub 360 degrees. Nudge down on the inner edge of the sphincter from for a while, 360 degrees. After all that, with an anal virgin, try this two stage sequence. In stage 1 don't thrust, just try to enter. Just the head, ease it in, hold, ease it out. Repeat. After some time, progressively stick more in, again ease in, hold, ease out. Then take an intermission for like 10 minutes. Come back for stage 2, actually fuck.

  26. You put your idea of having fun before your bf's comfort. Many times before the encounter there was red flags everywhere and you decided to avoid them Continued after mans literally cried ? Bruh.

  27. You put your idea of having fun before your bf's comfort. Many times before the encounter there was red flags everywhere and you decided to avoid them Continued after mans literally cried ? Bruh.

  28. I'm sure people will help here or you can try r/BDSMadvice Personally for punishments I typically used: Edging/orgasm denial Spanking/slapping breasts or her vagina Particularly rough sex

  29. I usually wear boxers but have a few pairs of boxer briefs. My gf likes seeing me in the boxer briefs sometimes because it makes my dick look good according to her, think of it like men's lingerie, it's all about showing off for her!

  30. Nice. I'm also trying to be more dominant as a guy in bed. I find watching amature porn videos to be more better.

  31. I know men and women like this. If a girl tells me I shouldn't wear a condom I go ahead and nope right outta there. I usually try to feel a person out about safe sex and preferences before we get to that point though. If they don't use protection then I assume they never use protection and never get checked. They can play that game with their own bodies but I'm not going to join in.

  32. Mmm this could be many things. None of which you should take to heart. (Respectfully) The feeling of two people wanting you and filling you up is a ultimate fantasy for many women (and men). Id ask her what made it hot for her, what about it she enjoyed. It sounds like perhaps a kink. Also, yes different dicks feel different but I doubt that’s all it is. And there isn’t always an explanation. Personally- as a woman- I’ve had people I’m wildly attracted to that don’t hit the right spot, and I’ve had people I’m meh attracted to make me cum. Especially in kinky scenarios.

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  34. I think we all do things to please our partners, fully consenting, even if it is something we wouldn't choose to do otherwise. For some couples this will be sexual, for others it might be how you arrange the dishes in the dishwasher, and so on. So, yes, consenting to something for your partner is okay as a generalization. However, “…it really hurts” is concerning. Anal sex presents many potential pitfalls, but when everything is right, it should not be painful. Painful sex is sign of a problem, and one that needs to be addressed. If you said, I do anal, but all the enjoyment is entirely how much my partner enjoys it, I'd think, well, that is okay if you're okay with it. But this isn't a lack of enjoyment, this is pain. And this isn't “I like some degree of pain” in an S&Mish way. This is something that shouldn't be painful. More lube? Diffierent kind of lube? More warming up for you? Slower and gentler on his part? All of the above and/or something else? Explore and figure it out, but don't accept that it should be painful. It shouldn't!

  35. I understand being comfortable otherwise, but tbh…and I don’t mean to assume anything…but the fact that you even had to tell him that part about not using you as a sex toy. Like, I’m sorry, but it really seems like you may just be ignoring other things in a way to justify your relationship, because you are afraid of being alone. Again, I do apologize if I’m assuming too much, just offering a perspective from someone who was in a similar situation once, and have also seen this seemingly exact situation play out multiple times. You do not deserve to be shamed for wanting physical pleasure from your partner. It is incredibly selfish of them to not even consider your feelings in this matter. There is ignorance, which is forgivable, as long as they correct their ways. But then the other side of that is selfishness and apathy, and really neither of those thing are something you are going to want to have to regularly deal with from someone you are supposed to be able to trust.

  36. I feel you on a few levels. I, on the other hand, have a ridiculously high sex drive and would have sex multiple times a day, every day, if I could. But I also have a very toxic trait that sex = love, and if you don't want to fuck me, you must not love me or want me. My current partner is very patiently guiding me through these feelings, lol. He's a good bit older than I (mis 50s, I'm early 40s) and while the sex is AMAAAAAZING, we only have sex 2 or 3 times a week. And there are times when he's too tired after a long day. I used to get upset about it. Equating him being too tired for sex meaning he didn't want me. After 2 years I can finally accept that him being tired has nothing to do with me, and that we can enjoy each other without sex. And that's been really eye opening for me, tbh.

  37. Polyamory requires honest communication. Does it seem like a man who won't listen to his gf is capable of that?

  38. Simple. She doesn't have the correct amount of testosterone in her system to give her a sex drive. Men and women work the same where testosterone is the backbone of any libido but due to biology, men and women need different levels to do different things which is why men's testosterone is 10 to 15 times more than women's but women still need that correct amount.

  39. The internet is the single greatest creation of the human race. Mayhaps use it to Google a felatio guide. Pornhub has a bunch of these, hell even YouTube has some of these

  40. I would be inclined to think that too but she's also pretty bummed that nothing has worked so far :/

  41. Hire a sex worker and be open about feedback and snag feels good and practice. This is your chance to not be insecure as it’s their job and you just need to communicate. Otherwise do the same but with other women. Everyone appreciates questions, playfulness, openness and experimenting you just need to be willing to be vulnerable!

  42. That would be a deal breaker for my current relationship. We both agreed we would be each other's everything (in a non-crazy way, of course). If he wants prostitutes, he can have them! But I wouldn't stick around for it. Especially since depending on regulatory bodies and legalities, he could bring home an STD. I don't say that to demean sex workers but to encourage you to keep yourself safe.

  43. Stop masturbating for a month, and it might get better. If you have a death grip when you're masturbating it is very difficult to cum from partnered sex As others have mentioned, why not change from PIV to a HJ, or oral, or a sex toy after 10-15 minutes.

  44. So I would think we should leave insecurities at the door. Feelings aren't rational. She is out the next day and then we can talk about what and how her blowjob was and maybe, just maybe, I can try to learn something new. There's no guarantee that he can learn a skill and give her the same experience. I have never gotten a vaginal orgasme. But we try, 7 years together and we try and try, so of course it would be a big fucking deal. I appreciate you showing that you get it. It's not like she wants to marry the third guy. she just wanted to get that feeling again and I think it's okay. Because sometimes it's not “That was fun, let's do it again.” Sometimes it's “wow, I need this thing from you that he can't give me”. Because not every person is good and perfect. Sometimes people think less of their partner after things like that, and it work to build up to that trust. He just learned that vaginal orgasms aren't impossible for her. And it's good enough that she wants more. But she might no be able to get it from him. So does she just forget it happened? Yeah, it's great that she got to feel that new experience. But it's something he might not be able to do for her, and that's a little sad.

  45. Hmm it depends on the person, but without all that preparation of not masturbating or having sex for a while and similar, i would say 69 and positions where you are most relaxed. The more you need to move, more blood is needed in more important parts of your body than your penis. Try penetrative with just the tip, as it is more sensible. If anal is an option in her, it might help you as it's tighter. And if it is an option in you, prostate massage will help. Other than that, your diet(rarely) and stress will affect how long you last, so take that in account and try having an healthier diet, being the most relaxed possible, massage each other. And all the other “preparations” on the comments

  46. Yes. Bad idea. Don't ever bring up your ex, anywhere near the bedroom. And certainly don't bring up disappointment that his dick is soft, especially after a round. That's a huge sore point for a lot of men, they think they should be able to get it up for another round but it's just not happening, which is totally normal but still embarrassing.

  47. Personally, as a man, i barely show any reactions when I am doing the moving because I'm trying to focus and not mess things up. I tense up when I cum but that's about it. BUT, when my partner is on top and in control, I moan and react like crazy, especially as I cum because she speeds up as it happens.

  48. What you definitely should NOT do is tell your friends about it or someone that will go back and tell him they know. If that happens he'll probably never forgive you and never get over it! This is good advice. In fact, how he gets treated in this situation will probably have a lasting impact on his attitude towards relationships/sex. Try to make sure it's a positive experience based on understanding, discretion, and trust. Sounds like you've been making the right moves so far.

  49. Why are you doing this technique? What’s your end goal of doing it? When I’m having trouble committing to a goal, usually I just remind myself of why I care about the goal in the first place. If I can’t answer that question, or don’t care sufficiently about my answer, then maybe it’s not worth doing.

  50. Labels are pointless. You are on the spectrum of sexuality. And maybe you lean more flexible than other straight men. Unless you are going around telling people you don’t really need to label it. Just do what you enjoy

  51. They better if they expect a blow job. If they refuse to give oral TO a woman but still ask for oral FROM a woman, then yes…they’re selfish.

  52. Op, remember every reject is a redirection. You are going to eventually find someone who accepts you, even with your scars. Also, in case you like tattoos, there are tattoo artists out there who do specialize in creating tattoos to cover up self harm scars. It’s a new trend going on the last 5-10 years. Definitely something to think about regarding the torso area.

  53. Outside of that don't be a dick and lie to people just to get a baby out of it and that's a fucking weird sentence I just typed. Well if women are allowed to lie about body count and usually other women tell women to just “lie about it” then I should be able to lie to a woman as well by pretending to lover her just so that I get sex/kids from her

  54. This should make you think how would your man act in a situation when another man comes and disrespects you in front of him.

  55. When you first used the toy, did you “finish”, as they say? With or without ejaculation? That's be a red flag. Retrograde ejaculation could be a problem, particular if it was forced by the constriction of the toy. If you're still using the toy, now that it's loosened up, do you “finish”? Maybe put the toy away for awhile and see if things improve. But talking to a doctor would still be a good idea.

  56. Let her lie down on her back in bed and raise her legs. Then, sit down on the bed with your legs open on either side of her body. And then, lift her up as much as you can and penetrate her vagina. If you lift her up enough, your penis should be in position to make contact with her G-spot. She can also put her legs on your shoulders so that you can run your hands over them and massage her thighs, if she likes it.

  57. Push your booty into the air as high as you can and lower your shoulders and torso as much as you can.

  58. I wouldn’t say you’re screwed. My boyfriend LOVED anal apparently before getting with me; he always brought up how he eventually wanted to do it after I got used to using small toys- well we never did it 3 years being together because the bigger the toys to “anal train” with- the more it hurt. If he wants to be with someone else he will get with someone else- doesn’t have to do with anal if he were to leave. He will accommodate with your comfort zone if he’s the right one.

  59. People only seem to make this distinction in a sexist context. She CHOOSES to be friends with this shithead. She CHOOSES to allow the thought to be entertained instead of making the correct, moral choice. You can't blame coercion here. Cheating on that poor overseas guy is objectively wrong, put your fucking foot down for once for what is right.

  60. As long as she's still in the faith, she will never recover. The constant exposure to guilt and shame will prevent any growth. So yeah, this is pretty much it. You can try therapy and sex therapy, but it's unlikely to help. I personally would not continue a relationship like this- especially if my spouse had a huge difference in religious commitment than me. It's doomed.

  61. Don't do this if you're not 110% down for it. This sub is full of regretful posts about threesomes gone wrong. Just type threesome in the search bar and you'll see. Also the fact that your friend “cant stop thinking about” your bf is super shady. Also, does her boyfriend even know about this???

  62. Exactly!! It makes no sense to me how some guys are willing to fight tooth and nail to defend their negative habits rather than simply discuss it with their partner and stop viewing content that upsets them. It’s so simple to do. It’s also very easy for them to accuse you of being insecure, controlling etc etc rather than making one small change that would dramatically change how they make their partner feel and increase the levels of mutual respect in the relationship. I can’t imagine ever wanting to make my partner feel bad for trying to establish a boundary or communicate something that’s making them uncomfortable. It really comes down to choosing women on the internet over your partner. Which is ridiculous and pathetic. And then they’ll accuse YOU of being the one with the issue…

  63. Have you had a conversation with her about her sex drive? Does she get horny? If she hasnt pursued sex for 20 years then I’d say she either doesn’t like sex, or doesn’t like sex with you. She could possibly not be into men or not be into sex. Id ask. Don’t be mean, don’t be accusatory. Come with a sense of kindness and curiosity.

  64. You want to avoid paying for an escort and having no clue what to do with her, for sure. Discuss with your partner which of the three of you should begin as the point of focus. Threesomes aren't generally three people all having identical sex: focusing on one individual at a time allows the threesome to develop organically. Knowing that will color a lot of how you approach this. If the man is the center of attention, consider viewing some tandem blowjobs online and seeing what they look like. If the escort is to be the initial point of focus, consider whether one or both of you want to go down on her while the other makes out with her. If you are to be the point of focus, communicate to your boyfriend what would be physically pleasurable to you.

  65. You want to avoid paying for an escort and having no clue what to do with her, for sure. Discuss with your partner which of the three of you should begin as the point of focus. Threesomes aren't generally three people all having identical sex: focusing on one individual at a time allows the threesome to develop organically. Knowing that will color a lot of how you approach this. If the man is the center of attention, consider viewing some tandem blowjobs online and seeing what they look like. If the escort is to be the initial point of focus, consider whether one or both of you want to go down on her while the other makes out with her. If you are to be the point of focus, communicate to your boyfriend what would be physically pleasurable to you.

  66. Yea people are mad insecure on here lol. Like idk the thing is, if someone is dating you and has made that choice, they want to date you lol. Like I have seen people try to flirt w my bf when we were out, it didn't bother me because I think I'm the shit haha. There will always be people more attractive then you in ways or better at something then you or whatever but you gotta be confident that you/what you bring as an individual are enough…..or your just going to be miserable ?‍♀️ and like everyone has shit they don't like about themselves but that's really not anyone else's problem.

  67. What is your problem? I’m not doing anything wrong this is the place to ask this type of question, look at all the posts in this community and you want to remove mine? God I chose the wrong time to post…

  68. I mean it's two pieces of a puzzle I guess so it could be either gender but in my case im 7 inches with decent girth so it's probably not me

  69. Dont set abitrary time frames, it should just happen organically; when it feels right. You making your current guy pay for your past mistakes/mistakes of other guys.

  70. It’s enough for you to make a post on the Internet about it so I think you really know the answer to this one.

  71. You can have as many preferences as you want-there’s nothing wrong with that. You can even be as picky as you choose and price yourself right out of the dating community if you feel the need. Dating is theoretically about searching for a lifelong partner so don’t compromise on things you would resent yourself later for.

  72. My sister is a doctor and scientist who teaches at a medical school, and we’ve had this conversation so many times. Bodies are different, and I can’t speak for other women, but I only squirt when I orgasm, and it comes from my vagina. It’s hilarious to me that average joes want to tell me I’m wrong. Y’all know the history of medicine, right?

  73. That's not how pubic hair works, actually. The smell that is 'stuck in her hair' would then just get 'stuck to her body' without it. It's her body and if you're uncomfortable with it and she doesn't want to change it then you can either learn to get comfortable with it or find someone else.

  74. Don’t forget that sometimes other meds can make your birth control less effective. Especially certain antibiotics.

  75. If she was using an iud you would have been able to feel the strings…… I think it's dodgy as hell insisting on no condoms. I prefer no condoms with regular partners myself but if a guy prefers them ill go with that

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  77. Those words you just used, say them to her and then listen to her response and discuss accordingly.

  78. Did he say specifically say how it smells? Did you go to the gyno to make sure it wasn’t BV or some underlying condition. If all is good down below tell him to learn to suck his own dick! If you both like oral and only one person is reciprocating that’s BS. And you mention his dick smells too. Is he clean? Does he shower and soap up his dick, balls and ass?? It’s not rocket science. Be clean and smell nice for each other.

  79. Of course. I respect boundaries. That's different than being selfish or lazy. I know for me, I'm done being one-sided with anything.

  80. Tell her when you're about to come so she isn't blindsided and SHE can make a decision about where you blow. She can keep it in her mouth if she's willing, or point it on her breasts, on the sheets, wherever. She's selflessly giving you oral pleasure – don't be selfish in where it blows.

  81. No guy is like yeah, sex was fun but I would rather just hang out Lots of guys, including myself, do this. Some of my closest friends are ex GFs or girls I dated and it didn't work out so we remained friends. It sounds like you have some serious jealousy and insecurity issues.

  82. What do you have in mind that could go badly when a woman receives? Beyond, be careful with fingernails when sticking fingers inside her?

  83. Many rape victims don’t count the rape as taking their virginity. While “technically” they are no longer a virgin; to them virginity holds more meaning, stop being a douce.

  84. Sounds like you either have a hormone imbalance or you’re asexual. Sounds like you’re not interested in sex at all.

  85. Masturbation is normal and some people do it every day. If it is to the point where you feel like masturbating multiple times a day and it takes a negative toll on you, fill your time with other things. Spend time with other people, find a good hobby that deals with your hands, listen to music, go online (not anything nsfw). Whatever you do don't exchange masturbation addiction for another addictive thing like smoking, vaping, eating, or drinking.

  86. I decided to go shallow with my wife while rubbing her clit and made it happen. She always said she couldn't cum from PIV. Disclaimer: I'm average in length, 6″ but have girth which she loves.

  87. Tbh. He should probably just go find someone with equal libido. If your needs are incompatible then there's no reason to keep villainizing back and forth. No you aren't wrong for being yourself. No he isn't wrong for wanting a sexual relationship. Incompatibility is harsh. And you'll probably have a hard time finding someone who is based off of self description

  88. I am going to guess that he is scared of losing control, and of how much rougher he'd end up being with you if he let himself do that. He knows you're liking what he's doing right then, but he knows just how much harder he could go. When he's fucking you roughly as it is, he's likely still monitoring himself, making sure that he's not crossing what he sees as a line of roughness that might actually cause injury. It probably gets to a point in the sex where he's getting so into it that he's worried that he's going to lose control and stop limiting himself. When he's apologizing afterward, it is probably for things he did when he's worried that he lost control. Who knows where this reticence of his comes from, or why he's struggling to move past it. Some of the reasons involved could be good and understandable ones. He could worry that he's one or two really hard thrusts or slaps away from something that could be considered assault…I don't know how rough you two go or how long you've been together. My usual advice is to “go positive”…try to ignore anything you don't like, and just wait for him to do something right and love-bomb him for it. Sex thrives on positivity and withers on negativity, so it's good if you can manage it that way. If you get through a sex session without him apologizing, immediately say “omg I loooove how you didn't apologize this time, that was so hot” before he even has a chance to get an apology out. If you can't do that, though, just be as clear and firm as you can be without being mean, and use a feedback sandwich. “Sweetie, I love the things we do together and you fucked me so good and hard in the middle there. I absolutely need you to stop apologizing to me. I mean it, stop. It turns me off. Just keep it in your head, ok? I really need that. Please? Great. Mmmmm did I mention how goood your cock tasted when I was sucking you at the start?”

  89. Men can also take charge of communication, that's my point. Instead of assuming, ask. When in doubt, seek clarity.

  90. I haven’t tried yet actually but I wanna learn how to do this and how to do it “correctly” There isn't really a “correctly” here. So long as it doesn't hurt you? You are doing it just fine. Take your time, explore, and see what feels nice to you. I know that I need to be really horny or aroused or what ever to find my g-spot and have a g-spot orgasm…just not too sure where and how to exactly to find it. With one or two fingers inside you, as deep as you can comfortably get them, make a “come here” motion to rub the top of your vagina. Not everyone feels it very distinctly, especially when your body isn't very aroused. Don't be surprised if it takes a while to find the right place and pressure to feel good. I know that i need to cut, file, and clean my nails being doing so. Not a bad idea to just give your hands a light wash and get any soap off before you start either. Can't be too careful! For love of all you hold dear, if you have handled ANYTHING spicy recently please do this. Good luck stranger, wish you all the best!

  91. Everyone is different. I really need music / sound to not lose focus but some of my partners find it really distracting and would rather concentrate on the sex sounds. It’s something you’re doing to need to keep talking about and hopefully finding a happy middle ground that works for both of you

  92. Depends on the person really. I think missionary is great because laying down puts pressure on your backside and kind of forces the penis in at a certain angle that makes it easier to hit. I also find that reserve cowgirl does it for me too.

  93. Thank you, this is exactly what I needed to hear. I think I'm just extra paranoid since I just got into my dream school and don't want to mess that up.

  94. Oh well i mean i usually rather have a man undress me than i undress myself. Maybe get some cute lingerie so if you’re keeping it on at least it’s pretty

  95. It sounds like this is a her issue, not a you issue. I’m not sure what she imagined it would taste like, but if you lick someone’s arm it’s going to taste salty too. She can position your penis in her mouth so it just shoots down her throat, if she really doesn’t like the taste. IDGAF if my man has showered or not (although he is admittedly always clean) there wouldn’t be anything stopping me from enjoying his taste.

  96. Plenty of reasons to have bad sex. Even bad orgasms, for example if I pull out to stop stimulation but I am a bit late and I still cum, that's a terrible feeling, it is also called a ruined orgasm for a reason. But usually sex is just as good as the partner is excited about it.

  97. If she's on top there's a nice move I like to do where I get my arms under her legs, slide out and pull her up onto my face. It's not easy to do with every woman but it's definitely a winner

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  99. I honestly feel for you as that would be frustrating! My one suggestion is to make sure they are hard before clothes start coming off, and not take them off until there are steady signs of life!

  100. I’ve seen a lot of responses here and my question to you is this: is the relationship worth fighting for? Not to say you should toss it away haphazardly, but from what I know this is going to be a lifelong battle between you too. You’re sexual, she’s not, and it’s not likely going to change. If you love her enough to fight for her than I wish you all the best of luck, but it may be worth considering ending things for the sake of both of your mental health and just being with a partner that is on the same page in this area.

  101. We do have health insurance and covers some therapy but co-pays are not feasible right now otherwise I’d get help, even if it’s just for myself.

  102. A Guy who thinks that sextoys in the bedroom will replace him is very insecure and self conscious, if he’s not mature enough to get past that then you gotta dump his ass.

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  104. If you’re serious about this relationship ask yourself this question. “Am I really wanting to spend the rest of my life with someone who I am unable to have sex with and won’t let me watch porn to satisfy my sexual urges?” I understand that you love this individual and you’ve been very accommodating to their asexuality, but do you really want to sacrifice sex to be with this person? It’s a genuine question. From what you’ve described it seems you are not compatible and unable to be satisfied due to your frustration with their boundaries of no pornography and no sex. Pro Tip: Break up and find someone else. You have sexual desires and she doesn’t. How important is sex and/or having an outlet to pleasure yourself to you? If you can truly reflect and accept a relationship without those two things with her then we wish you the best, but if you genuinely feel that without sex and an outlet to satisfy your needs in your relationship will continue to cause discomfort and frustration then you only set yourself for years and YEARS of pain, resentment, despair, and many other negative things that will happen. This type of stuff is something that NEEDS to be considered in a relationship or else it is 100% doomed to fail and you’ll realize you’re in your 30s or 40s having wasted 10-20 years in a relationship that never truly fulfilled you due to your incompatibility when you could do BOTH of yourselves a favor and find different people who can fulfill you in ways that suit your case more.

  105. Ah ok, I wasn't sure but the person I replied to was talking like your ex had a problem with the poop so I was saying to lay off.

  106. If you want it, look for someone that like that too. Should be talked before marriage. Have you talked with your partner if they like it?

  107. It's the sort of thing you discuss way before marriage, during the 'getting to know you' part. Sexual compatibility is very important. People change over time of course and there will be lulls, but from your post I'm assuming it's never happened and never even been discussed.

  108. Have you tried using some lube and very, very lightly touching the area around her clitoris and/or the clit itself. I'd say use the pointer finger with nails well clipped. The wider you can get her to spread her legs, the better. Also, she could keep her legs spread and flat on the bed. Something about the knees up/gyno position can make a woman feel more vulnerable at first. Or, you could be the big spoon, behind her, and touch her vulva area intimately.

  109. ok see people like you are the reason i’m so adamant about this in the comments!! & the wild thing is it’s non lesbians & non queer women saying these things. it’s ok to not like oral!! everyone has their preferences!! doesn’t make you asexual or straight. there are bi women that don’t like going down on women and that’s ok! let a straight woman say she doesn’t like sucking dick and no one bats an eye. no one’s questioning her sexuality or whether or not she likes men. my ex did not want me to touch her genitalia at all. i promise they exist!! it’s all about compatibility. don’t let comments telling you otherwise deter you from figuring things out. you can be attracted to a woman and also not want to preform oral!!

  110. Setting a good tone could also be considered foreplay too. Like if you take her out to a sit down restaurant for dinner that's within your price range and not something like McDonald's. Go on walks and learn more about each other. Be cheesy as hell, like if you see a flower give it to her and she'll likely laugh and call you a dork or something but laughter is a win. TLDR: Foreplay doesn't necessarily have to be sexual.

  111. Well OP, it looks like she hurries with penetration because she wants to be over with it. Probably she is not comfortable as much as she wants you to think that she is. Foreplay is MUST. In the young age (I assume from your post) it is very hard for women to reach orgasm from penetration (or at all) and the most orgasms are clitoral. That’s where your energy should be aimed the most. But first – talk with her about self pleasuring. She first needs to know how to pleasure herself. Does she do it? How? Fingers, pillow, toy? It is big difference… because there are different types of pressures on clit and different types of movements (fingers – direct pressure and circles or up and downs, pillow – friction but pressure is more spreaded out on whole area…) e.g. I don’t like direct pressure therefore we used the pillow and doggy style or position on top and I was lying on my partner and use the friction on my clit that way. Don’t forget that arousal and seduction is first in woman’s head. So start there… tell her your dirty fantasies where she is a star, praise her and her body, tell her how you think about her when you are not together… Foreplay – I don’t think that fingering or oral are foreplay – more like form of intercourse – or part of main course. You want apetizers. Kissing – neck, shoulders, ears, back, fingers, breasts – build it with kissing everywhere except of nipples, legs – under knees, butt, tights – inner thighs but don’t kiss her between them yet. When you build her anticipation, you build her arousal. Once she is squirming, you can attack – nipples and clit. Did you know that there is direct conection between nipples and genitals? The more attention you give them the more you help her to feel genital stimulation or by doing fingering and stimulating her nipples at the same time you highlight and speed up whole experience. And if she likes the missionary and quick and rougher movements – you or she should also stimulate clit & nipples the whole time.Try lubricant with stimulation effect inside and on clit, it makes intercourse more pleasurable.

  112. Well… you are not on your period so go for it She is the one that has problem so she has to deal with it

  113. Not petty at all next time he tries to act insulted when you say no remind him you’re not into it and don’t want to and only used to do it bcz he likes it but since there is no reason for it then you’ll stick to not doing it since you don’t enjoy it anyways and that’s your choice. might seem petty but sexual compatibility is huge in a relationship yes it their own choice and it’s good to communicate and sometimes find a compromise but why should you put yourself out there and not get the sentiment returned sometimes it is a tit for tat situation.

  114. Maybe you could switch to the sextoy, I am beginner and i bought an anal plug thrusting prostate massager at adulttoyunderwear.com which really make me exciting with my gf However, you and your bf are a young couple, you should try to spend more time communicating and trying to make each other happy without using things

  115. There is no way in any version of the multiverse that she will change her game and become a sex goddess after you get married and have kids. You may need to just level with her. Think about it… unless really aroused it takes 20-30 minutes to orgasm? She’s not even turning you on very much. Do not settle in your life from what makes you full and happy. There aren’t any refunds.

  116. A lot of people aren't going to be comfortable with that, but beyond that, the first time you have sex with someone, or the first few times isn't going to be indicative of what ki d of sex you have 10 years down the line. Personally, sex with my husband has gotten exponentially better since we started dating almost 20 years ago (and we did happen to sleep together as “friends” before we started dating.) But it was new and a bit awkward at first, we were pausing fairly often to check in with each other and figuring out what each other liked. It wasn't perfect and I didn't have orgasms with him right away, but through the years we put effort in together to become better sex partners for each other. I think that perfect compatibility often comes with time, so there's no shame in dating someone, finding out you're not compatible and moving on. ?‍♀️ Maybe even several times before you find someone you mesh with. That's generally how it ends up working.

  117. Having boundaries and being in love don't conflict l, and you your feelings for her might drastically change, if she gave you a child you don't want.

  118. Anal/taint play, in addition to playing with his balls, lightly play with his anus, see if he would be up to prostate play. “Prostate play is not gay”

  119. Unfortunately being a minor has more extreme circumstances as well. If you're caught, especially around other minors, there are sex crime implications

  120. Me with the wife. They ask if I could met up again, did a second time, the wife asked if her husband could like my cock clean after I had sex with her, itially was shocked, let him do 8t and she got excited

  121. The topic of partners' sexual histories is discussed very often in this forum. If you search past r/sex posts with some diligence (following Forum Rule #3), you’ll find a number of helpful discussions. The r/sex forum's HUGE archive of past posts is a tremendous resource for people who have all kinds of common questions regarding sexual activity. Searching those posts for relevant discussions will definitely help you here.

  122. It actually takes practise.. you need to clench as hard as you possibly can till the excitement stops, probably best to practise while you masturbate .. once you can stop once it takes me back about 2 mins till I get close again but it worked for me… after about a month I had gone from lasting just a couple of minutes to over 20 with a condom on.. hope it helps You can also get numbing creams etc but I have never tried or needed these. Have a good day

  123. There are a number of articles that support one legged dog’s statement. Here’s one: International Journal of Urology / Volume 29, issue 11 p. 1368-70. There are others. MD or not, you’re incorrect.

  124. I am the same, I get so much more aroused after sec often, even after doing a variety of things… I feel a bit like a fiend most the time??

  125. I've had sex with someone tight enough that it was actually painful. So it can definitely happen. Then again I didn't complain about it.

  126. Like you facing the back of the chair? Is it a pretty deep chair then? (Not sure if that question makes sense)

  127. Me (48M) too! Unfortunately the disparity between my academic knowledge and practical application has turned out to be infinite.

  128. She doesn't want to make a mess if it gets to intense. Mine is the same and that's her reason, and we do exactly what buddy said, put a towel down, then get down!!!.

  129. Sounds like you are doing everything you can do. Good luck with any decision you make, it's going to be tough. We're all giving you virtual hugs and hoping for the best.

  130. Hmm, I do have the fear of someone coming into my room a lot (especially if I want to listen to audio stuff, I can’t just put my headphones on and truly concentrate on it because I’m always checking to make sure someone hasn’t knocked and just walked in) but I’m also quite hard on myself. I’ve had (and still have) a lot of sexual dysfunction issues and I put a lot of pressure on myself. Other than that, maybe comparing myself to my partner because she can do more things or certain things work for her but don’t do it for me? That type of thing.

  131. I would believe it if you’re watching amateur stuff where it’s real people actually having sex. But if you’re watching professional actors making adult entertainment, then I remain skeptical.

  132. Quick rant: This is exactly what's putting me off. Of course this guy's a real asshole, but she didn't tell him anything. Of course also she doesn't have to give two fucks about this guy, but she didn't give him one reason why she stopped and went home. Not that it isn't obvious in some kind, but maybe, just maybe it was not obvious to him. I can imagine a situation like that, he completely in the mindset to “fuck some girl” and thinking to himself “what would make this even hotter?, yes exactly let's compare her to my ex, maybe this will heat up the situation some more”. Stupid and disrespecting move, probably from an even more stupid guy. But the fact that OP didn't say anything and that there's this window for utter miscommunication, i don't know that's putting me off. Of course power to you OP, you don't have to put up with these kind of guys. You did everything right, for you. Not this whole situation, but who cares anyway. Okay now I'm done

  133. Maybe you need to have the talk with her. Perhaps those services should be outsourced. She might be open to that option.

  134. I am planning to but as my reply to the person above says I won’t be able to do so until mid next week if I’m lucky..

  135. Depends on the ace. There's some that don't like anything, some that like relationships and are cool with the partner having sex with others, there are even some that still have sex somehow.

  136. Google some pictures of herpes, genital warts, and other STDs. There is no one willing to lie and cheat more than a teenage guy.

  137. I'm sorry to hear that. You're right it does fall quite often unless the relationship is strong. I had a previous divorce as well, but I was confident that the cheating started long after any sexual contact between us stopped. But still I'm fairly certain without giving a reference that the numbers are better than they are for condoms.

  138. A person who doesn't respect your future is not worthy of being with you. If you become a nurse it would be much more easier for both of you guys to have handle the babies later and can have lots of perks if you find a good job in a hospital.

  139. Then your problem is selfishness, coupled with the possibility of what you already mentioned: you're not attracted to your boyfriend. The point of going down on your lover is to PROVIDE a specialized, localized pleasure. You enjoy when it's done to you, and that's good. “Maybe” he enjoys it too. When I go down on a woman, it is never tedious or a chore, no matter how awkward some of the angles. It's a pleasure to perform. I like to give pleasure. If the shoe were on the other foot… read half of the threads on here of women complaining about how selfish their boyfriends are with giving head never reciprocated. You're all of those boyfriends.

  140. Reassurance is a good thing. How can he best help you along to learn the skill? Not by being annoyed. Start at the shallow end of the pool. Just take two inches, focus on the head. This is one type of BJ, where the main action is you licking. Train to keep it inside for many minutes. Going all the way in the mouth, and going even beyond the mouth into the throat, are a different category of BJ because they don't involve licking. When sliding, practice him holding still and practice you holding still. Train yourself to give and take fast thrusts indefinitely, for many minutes. How fast is fast? That varies, but try for every two seconds, later speed it up. Start out not going into the throat. First, learn to manage taking him only to your uvula.

  141. I think it’s very normal for couples to experience a drop or change in their sex lives when they move in together, because it can take some time to figure out how to reconcile domesticity and eroticism. Esther Perel is a really good resource on this. I expect that could be the biggest factor rather than the weight gain. You haven’t said anything about the cause of the weight gain, so it’s a bit hard to figure out how to help. It’s worth seeing a doctor to rule out any medical issue like a hormone or thyroid imbalance. How’s your mental health at the moment? You mentioned feeling stuck in the house and crying every day. That might be something to discuss with a doctor too, as depression can contribute to weight gain. You deserve to feel desired, wanted, and valued whatever your weight.

  142. It's not you she has a disgust reaction to, it's excreted bodily fluids. If I could naturally and easily make this distinction to the point that it didn't bother me anymore, I wouldn't be posting here. As I said, I know it's irrational. It's not that I think I am my fluids, it's more like I can't relax and enjoy sex, or kissing, or any number of things that involve an inevitable sharing of said fluids. I can't really “let go” and delight in the sensation of release if I know it's making my wife feel grossed out on literally any level at all, even a little. I likely will have to go to therapy again, but I think the problem is mostly on my end. I don't know what putting any of this on my wife could possibly accomplish other than making her feel more regret for telling me a very valid and not uncommon truth about herself. She claimed that it used to be worse for her when we first met, that she had to really force herself past this phobia in some areas otherwise she would not have been able to share a drink with me or eat off the same plate. I don't want to make her feel crushed for actually accomplishing something there, but also it would be unfair for me to expect more.

  143. Yeah I was thinking that I need to confront her about this as tbh, it's definitely within my top 5 least favourite coming moments. I struggle with depression so yeah, I think it was pretty insensitive to do something like that while I was doing something she knows I enjoy. I do feel pretty hurt. Thanks for the advice, I'll ask her what's up with her behaviour after she gets in from work today.

  144. My cousin got baby trapped this way because his crazy ex said the same thing and like an idiot, he believed her. She gets knocked up and they have a shotgun wedding because the parents on both sides are pissed. They eventually split up, of course, and he's still got at least 6 years of child support payments to go. I'll take “Dumbass Decisions that Fuck Up My Life” for $500, Alex.

  145. I'd take that as a compliment. Passion and feeling desired are very arousing to me. Maybe you're associating term passionate with vanilla sex?

  146. A user below posted about an app that tracks period and you also temp. That could be a good option? I don't use this method of birth control but my sister had success trying to conceive using these methods, so it's possible to not conceive using these methods. Both partners should be involved and do the research if they use these methods.

  147. Fuck it, it should be fucking free, like most countries with free healthcare. I hate the north american healthcare bullshit

  148. What he wants to see, is a combination of your technique, facial expressions, body shivers and…all of it. He wants to get to know how YOU want to do it. It's beautiful. Precious. Sexy. One of life's true wonders. He will be forever grateful, trust me on this. Now. If the idea is a hint uncomfortable, how would you feel about being in a candle lit room instead, so that you don't feel so consciously looked at? Or how about having him close, his arms around you, being allowed to be close and being allowed to listen? Would that make you feel less self-conscious. I can say without a doubt that being allowed to listen is ALSO very much a precious gift that he should be grateful for.

  149. Ask yourself this really simple question? Do you want to have him in you again? If yes, arrange that. He can't guess what you want.

  150. He doesnt really know how to teach me because i was first to give him head so he doesnt really know what he wants or how to guide me. I really wanna be better for him tho. Thanks for your tips!!

  151. No, it was the fact that he's complaining that she isn't good in bed and threatening to get with someone else if she doesn't fall in line.

  152. No, it was the fact that he's complaining that she isn't good in bed and threatening to get with someone else if she doesn't fall in line.

  153. No, it was the fact that he's complaining that she isn't good in bed and threatening to get with someone else if she doesn't fall in line.

  154. I am removing this post because it is full of red flags. Do you really think that someone you met online would legitimately invite you to something like this? And second, you have to ASK what the possible risks are? Come on man. This cannot possibly be a valid question.

  155. Take care of your own emotional state before taking care of someone else's. He can't be blamed for not lasting long enough for you to finish nor can you be blamed for not being able to perfectly verbalise what you enjoy most in sex on your first tries. However he is definitely wrong to not even try to give you orgasm after he has finished and you are wrong for not telling him directly and honestly that you want it. I know it's not romantic and can be hurtful but truth is the nessesary foundation for any stable relationship (sexual or not).

  156. Where did you get the idea that it came from porn? I can't think of any porn where dryness has ever been celebrated. Wetness is always a good thing.

  157. OP, you said you were recently a virgin so you’re putting this self-esteem boost wayyyy to high on the priority list for your sex life. INFO: can you have PIV orgasms?

  158. “Just because you usually make women go dryer than a desert, doesn’t mean that’s normal”. No but really gives vibes of someone used to going in dry. Nothing wrong with you.

  159. You can tell her that you're nervous. She probably is too. Take baby steps. If it doesn't work out, just try again next time! Enjoy the experience and enjoy each other's bodies. Don't rush! The first couple times are never that great anyway. Don't stress.

  160. Honestly, communication is the most important step. I think most people are having bad sex because they are too afraid to communicate what they want and ask what their partner wants, because they are worried that it will ”ruin the mood”, insecure, or too overly confident and refusing to look for ways to improve. Just tell him when he does something you like, or ask him to do something ”Can you touch me there? A little slower/faster. Just like that!” etc. Of course there is often a learning curve with a new partner, and experience will probably make it better, but only if you’re open about what you like. Moan when he does something you enjoy, if you want to be more subtle.

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  162. I smoke and get a lecture every time about the dangers. Nothing would happen to the doctor if you did report it as he would say yes I did give her a lecture about the dangers of her choices and thats about all that would happen.

  163. I agree on greatest feeling ever…but only sometimes. Sometimes it doesn’t feel great, like if things aren’t perfect internally it’ll feel like a cramp, or if we go too fast it feels painful at the entrance. In those cases we slow down or stop altogether. But when it’s good, it’s soooo good! Maybe you (and your partner, if you have one) can try playing with smaller butt plugs and dildos before going for the real thing.

  164. You should put a stop to that ASAP. Personally I don't think pain and sex belong in the same sentence. But even for those who do, you aren't one of them and you don't deserve torture. Because that's what this is.

  165. So the lesson to be learnt is have sex 99 times, use a condom for 1 time then you're good for another 99 times. Wish I had known that years ago.

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  167. You're not weird. We have no way of knowing how your girlfriend will feel. She may or may not be interested. That may be because she has some beliefs around this, like your brother. She also may just not be into it because it doesn't line up with her sexual interests. Or she may be into it. We have no way to predict how she's going to feel. The only thing we can tell you is that a sexual desire in and of itself is neutral and you should be in relationships where you feel free, at the very least, to express preferences without being made fun of or looked down upon. That doesn't necessarily correlate with sexual compatibility all the time though. This is more complex than just “is it good or bad” “weird or not weird”. It's not weird and it's not bad but that will not inherently equal out to mutual interest. It also doesn't guarantee that some people won't be assholes and REACT as if it's bad/weird. No one can guarantee that for you, despite our belief that it's a fine preference.

  168. Your messages are very nice of you. You haven’t done anything wrong. Too bad if you’re a BJs pro and the wife isn’t ?

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  170. Got my nips pierced about a month ago and they've completely healed and look amazing. I've had so many compliments from friends that have seen my pokies through my shirts. But the biggest compliment came from my best friend who I got them done with. She even copped a feel and I loved every minute of it. She really wants to get her clit pierced, but not me. I'm hella scared but she says it will heighten her senses and when she does it, she will let me have a look / play to see what it's like.

  171. Perhaps it’s just that you’ve found somebody that you’re comfortable enough with to enjoy giving a bj.

  172. Yes. Because you're not hitting the cervix directly and instead hitting something else, therefore alleviating the pain.

  173. Well I love to help with peoples insecurities, I used to be extremely insecure until I started doing selfies and making me like me for who I am

  174. That’s my point. As someone with a similar issue, when women take MY inability to finish and turn it into a THEM problem, it becomes even more stressful for me because then I’m forced to have to comfort them for feeling bad about something I can’t even control. If he says that he enjoys sex with you then don’t add even more stress to an already stressful situation and learn to trust him when he says it’s not you. I’m glad that it’s important to you to try and finish him, I truly am. Just know that if he could finish he would because, generally speaking, no one turns down having a free O unless it’s just too much work.

  175. The human ego is fragile, we worry even though we know it happens. And we are pretty worried that you think that we think less. So some of the anxiety is about your feelings, not the lack of said erection.

  176. I have some nerve damage and im slow to orgasm. Its been a problem and a confidence killer for some partners. I am not guaranteed an orgasm during penetrative sex at all.

  177. I think lots of women fantasize about MFM threesomes but are maybe a bit more hesitant to try them for lots of different reasons I love the idea of being spit roasted but if I was given the opportunity I don't know if I would take it

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  179. If she got her period that night, that means the egg had already descended and was long dead as ovulation happens roughly 2 weeks before the period starts.. Thats ehy we have periods, the uterus sheds the lining because the egg did not get fertilized before it died. She likely will not ovulate again until around day 14ish and as you said, sperm can live up to 5 days….which is a long ways away from 14. Even if she was in her fertile window, the chances of getting pregnant from precum on your fingers is so unbelievably low it's almost impossible.

  180. There are some positions that will make it easier for you to deep throat. For example 69 is great, because the penis will be aligned with your throat and it will slide more easily. Also, don't rush. Take it easy and you'll be fine

  181. That's ok too! I'd let him know that you are turned on when talked to like that. Some guys might not want to offend you, but if you tell them you like to be treated that way, then I think most, at least the good partners, would love to! It doesn't take much to tell you “I'm going to pound you until you explode like the naughty slut you are!” If that's what you like they should indulge.

  182. Use this opportunity to get way better at it . You’ll be a god send to your partner , by the time you want to settle down .

  183. It's generally considered courteous to change sheets been people, but as always communication is key here. Just ask the next person!

  184. Figure out his refraction time (time to get hard again) then go again. Round 2 is usually a lot longer and better.

  185. Is it a fishy odor? If so it’s likely BV. She can even get pH tests OTC. If it’s high it’s BV. Disruption of normal flora. There’s probably a biofilm in there at this point, it can be hard to get rid of. But she needs a course of metronidazole. Get some pH balancing vaginal suppositories to use after sex (semen is too basic for the vagina). Also she should start probiotics. Do not use douches ever. Always pee after sex, always.

  186. The sight of blood would make me react the same way. The sight of it takes me out of the mood completely

  187. I get the feeling we’ll both be downvoted but I definitely second this. Though I think there’s nothing wrong with an individual practicing any religion, I’d just recommend anyone be careful. People suffer religious trauma simply from the pressure and shame around stuff such as masturbation or sex. At the end of the day, religion and spirituality should be individual. You shouldn’t be ashamed doing things you want to do and that are very healthy with no real downsides. Organised religion can be incredibly toxic.

  188. Once had sex with a woman whose pussy was so tight and I hadn't come for 3 weeks, thought I would cum immediately. Went slow and lasted for some time. Still remember her, I liked the tightness.

  189. And if she isn’t sure what she likes, then you can encourage her to masturbate more on her own to find out. It’s not the same as receiving cunnilingus, but it will still help her learn more about what she likes and be able to give you more suggestions in the future.

  190. Men will be men. We like our steak done just right, and our women with a little flavor. No one wants to eat food with no flavor. Do you?

  191. He’s actually told me he wants me to do something like that. He gave me the idea of giving him head so he wakes up but that’s it. Any other ideas?

  192. “If you’re in college then grab some friends and join public outings” I mean that’s kinda my problem. I go to university but I have no friends there. Which means I’d have to go alone to these events which is just gonna be fucking awkward and make me look like a loser.

  193. You are not horrible. You deserve to be satisfied just as much as he does. You have the right to have a partner that desires your pleasure. I’m sorry he’s not it.

  194. Absolutely not. When someone says they are into CNC, especially a man, you need to be EXTREMELY cautious about their motives and attitude towards it. This guy just wants to use a woman after she says no.

  195. Be sober, stop wanking, stop watching porn, have more and more sex Very common to feel desensitised the first few times, anxiety can make us experience all kinds of “mental flight” including not being fully immersed and present in reality … therefore feeling less physical sensations Very common to struggle with stimulation in real life sex if you consume a lot of pornographic content otherwise. Reason being, your brain is used to a very particular kind of erotic stimulation. It will take time and training to get your mind and body used to being sexually stimulated by real life sex

  196. This is called a dead marriage. You’re roommates. You’re describing beyond a dead bedroom with no physical or emotional or psychological intimacy. It doesn’t get any better and if anything it gets worse as it eats away at your soul and self esteem as you feel unwanted and unloved. I was in a similar situation and divorced him over a year ago. Best decision ever. Best wishes to you.

  197. When I first got together with my wife she always wanted the lights out and didnt like me staring. after a while I figured out she likes to watch me jerk off and cum for her, so I ask her to spread out and give me a bit of a show. Didnt take her long to feel more comfortable. After having kids and getting older and gaining some weight she started getting really reserved again and it took a lot of time to get back her trust that I really did want to see her naked and spread out and cum all over her. She is my wife and favourite pornstar and I love her

  198. GENERAL RANTS, ESSAYS, EDITORIALS, VENTS, CONFESSIONS, PSAS AND AMAS. These don’t belong in the main forum unless you have obtained prior moderator approval. Save them for story-based forums. Or Tumblr. Post removed

  199. Yeah, it’s exactly what it sounds like. She rarely goes down on me, BUT when she does – I have to pull out of her mouth and cum is what I meant.

  200. These aren’t the clits your looking for. Guiding his hand and telling him what you want will be sexy for him. Communicate

  201. Real talk: get over it. She would be with someone else and not you if she didnt like you. your insecurities about this can lead to problems in the future so the sooner you realize this, the sooner you can begin to enjoy being intimate with her without comparing yourself or thinking of her past. She could have had sex with 100 men and it wouldn't matter. She chose you

  202. Nerves, most likely. First times are seldom what Hollywood or Pornhub would have us think. You’re vulnerable and super exposed, in every sense of the word, to a stranger.

  203. Everything you’ve written makes it sound like an abusive relationship, & the fact that you keep covering or making excuses for her behaviour is proof. Get out.

  204. personally, i would be flattered if a guy was so turned on by my initiation and probably turned on more

  205. I wish I could, but my hips literally pop out of place in that position… It sucks truly. My hips have popped out of place like that since I was a teenager and scrawny. So doesn't matter age or size, I just can't do it.

  206. I'll make it real simple: if you're both inexperienced, then you'll have to learn along the way and it's normal, virgin or not. If she's more experienced then you, she'll be able to guide you into improving. What matters the most is communication, what one like the most and so on. One more thing is that nobody really cares about scars mid sex, it's not even a thought and most people don't even notice. There are some people that do, like me, and even then I don't care as it's not what I'm focused on. Tell her you like her and see where it goes.

  207. It can just be a tool for thinking about things, but you might find reading into the Ego, Superego, an ID as a framework for your thoughts. As others are saying the idea of breeding or sex in general is often an instinctual drive, but it's how we witness and manage those impulses that effects how we get on in the world.

  208. And I never expose my daughter to any randoms. I have a lot of issues but I do consider myself to be a good mother.

  209. vagnismus is not uncommon. It’s good that you’re seeing a doctor for it. Did they prescribe dildos that progressively get larger?

  210. Clearly your husband loves you a lot. But his primary way of showing it is through acts of service. I would suggest you to have a conversation on how you would want to have more intimacy between the two of you and also your insecurity to ask clearly might seem like you want it all the time (pro tip: do express your gratitude for the things he does for you). At this stage after having kids I feel you should be comfortable to be vulnerable and share how you feel without the fear of being judged. Humans certainly cannot live without touch whether sexual or non-sexual, so try to make him see how you feel left behind without it. I have seen a few couples in your stage of marriage who schedule sex. It might seem mundane and one might argue it takes the spontaneity and spark out; however I am sure you will figure out ways to spice it up. Finally also talk about a way to convey when either one wants to have it. Some fun ways are to get a bell, a word or phrase, specific music, etc.

  211. So you know the problem is 100% yours and psychological – so talk to someone about it and handle it. There are tons of posts about peoples partners watching porn on the sub – you’re welcome to take a look at those and the FAQ but no one here is going to tell you anything you dont already know (that the porn she likes has nothing to do with you). Post removed.

  212. THIS! My boyfriend Is amazing at what he does but I get so stressed worrying he isn’t enjoying it and get in my head about it. For women it’s a lot about the mental component of it so I would say to talk to your girlfriend and get her to relax and not stress about finishing to just let it happen or maybe get her to masturbate on her own time to be comfortable with it and then with you. It could also be what someone else said about clitoral stimulation make sure you’re touching her there too. You don’t need a vibrator but that might just be my case. Try cowgirl and that gives you to touch her that way that what my boyfriend does and I usually finish that way. Hope I could help 🙂

  213. So your girlfriend is turn on, hens why she is wet. Would you like her to not be turned on? Eye roll

  214. It’s obvious to me when I put on a condom and the outside of the latex is soaked and her ? is too

  215. it's not invading when you are literally asked and they want you to be there and it isn't awkward unless you make it awkward lol. In general I do fairly intense BDSM/kink scenes with them and getting up to leave immediately after an impact play scene or something similar is incredibly rude, people really need time to relax and feel safe after that. as far as the cuddling goes that's expected after a normal 1 on 1 hookup by the vast majority of people, it being a couple doesn't change that.

  216. This is great advice. The stigma of men always being ready and it being a chore for women really needs to die, and communication grow.

  217. Thank you that's very helpful! Not sure why I am getting downvoted lol. I know when she is having pleasure I just dont know when it is the peak or if I stop too soon.

  218. There's no right answer. If you dont show interested, they think you're ghosting them. If you do, they think your too clingy. Go with the simple approach. Reach out, say how much you enjoyed being with them, and ask if they would be up for it again in the near future.

  219. In a situation like this, on a subreddit based around advice, would you not stop, re-read and double check if its appropriate to post. I can't see how the sequence of words you put together wasn't somewhat of a joke in your mind, it comes across as very inconsiderate of the persons feelings who's asking for advice. You know in a vulnerable position where in which you're just chilling, don't give me that only human crap. Humans have empathy.

  220. This is a really great observation! It helps a lot to understand how men think and perceive the image of women. Thanks for your answer, it's a super interesting thought to consider

  221. A man worth dating is going to either be OK with what you've got or learn to love it because it's yours. But a pubic bone that makes someone cringe? I don't believe that's even a thing. If he can't handle a real woman's vagina, he's a boy. Cut him loose.

  222. staying around for a cuddle doesn't mean he's interested romantically. means he's into the friend part of those benefits. im in a committed relationship, have been for coming up to four years. sometimes we have long, slow sex where post coitus we stay naked and cuddled up for hours after (sometimes leads to an impromptu “nap date”). and sometimes we have a quickie with most of our clothes on right before she leaves for work, and im then left to my own devices. cos sometimes you want a connection and a cuddle, and sometimes you just wanna rub one out with someone else. the emotions involved toward that person you're doing it with don't necessarily change.

  223. The goal isn't (only) to orgasm, but to enjoy the whole process, the whole journey leading to it.

  224. It’s not a biological preference. It’s an illness. Agree to disagree here but I don't think the science is on your side. I'm aware that the DSM-5 has categorized pedophilia as a mental illness, but biological preferences have previously been mistakenly categorized as such. Therapy is the only way to stop pedophiles from harming children. Already agreed. Age play is NOT a good alternative and should not be done by pedophiles. This I'm not too sure about. I can see the argument that specifically dating people based on 'fetishes' for lack of a better word is a negative thing, but I'm not sure what the alternative for them would be. When I try to consider the perspective of a pedophile, I find myself considering a person who doesn't have any great options where love is concerned. You either choose to never experience true sexual gratification or you choose to be seen as the dregs of society even by the dregs of society. Obviously, one of those things is a lot worse than the other but it's a fucked day either way you slice it. Beyond that, so far as I'm aware, this is the only group of people that society shuns so fucking hard that even their thoughts are a social crime. If society knew someone was a pedophile even if that person had never offended or never even committed a crime in their life, they would be shunned. To my mind, shunning a person to this degree only makes them much more likely to offend. If they can't speak openly about it and get support even from their family or closest friends, then they are going to go looking for people who understand them – other pedophiles. That could go one of two ways. Hopefully, the majority of them choose to find a support group aimed at preventing them from offending. Or maybe they find pedophiles who engage in the behavior and swap child porn.

  225. I rub myself (I used to be shy too then one day i realizes like, I’m here for a purpose and imma do it) or ride them and rub off that way

  226. Being vocal is exactly what it sounds like. Tell him how good everything feels, what you want him to do, what you like him doing, etc. Make pleasure-ful noise, don't just softly grunt to yourself.

  227. He is a selfish lover. You are not unusual in the requirements and time it takes you to orgasm. Totally normal. Your bf had an orgasm then told you he wasn’t that horny and he’d rather not have sex if it’s going to take you awhile to get off. That is terrible. There are a lot of men who would love the opportunity to worship your body and spend hours bringing you to orgasm. If he is not willing to give you the attention you require, it’s time to drop him and find someone who will

  228. You say you don’t cheat but your post history says otherwise. You do realize sexting other men is cheating, right?

  229. Honestly we are adults, “I guess” should be taken out of our vocabulary by now and we should be communicating much more clearly. Because I’ve had people say I guess to me, and they mean “yes but its whatever”. Last I heard that was in high school. As well as her bf shouldve really emphasized that he was considering her comfort level, instead of jumping straight to assuming she’s fully onboard. Because like you said in some situations “I guess” does display uncertainty

  230. Don't figure our a good answer. Give him an honest one. If you're in it for his dick more than his personality than that's the true answer and he deserves that at bare minimum.

  231. Early days still, best thing I can think of is don't stress over. My first two times having sex I could even come as I was that nervous about coming too fast. 3rd time, bam, few minutes and that was it.

  232. My wife was a bigger woman. I know how self conscious she could be about her stomach. I went out of my way to tell her how much I liked her stomach. And I did like it but I came to love her stomach. Partly because it was because it was her stomach and I just loved her so much that any part of her to me was perfect. Partly because it felt like we fit perfectly together when I put my arms around her or when we cuddled. Plus I loved kissing her down her belly because it was so soft.

  233. If you don’t want him seeing you in the bathroom close the door. If you aren’t comfortable with the dynamic when you’re in your comfy clothes have a discussion with him about both of your boundaries. If you’re comfortable with the current dynamic, carry on.

  234. This is a pretty common kink in the BDSM scene. Look into keywords like boredom, ignored, unimpressed, inanimate, live sex doll etc. It's perfectly okay to decline if you feel like this isn't your cup of tea, but basically he just wants to use you like a masturbator and have you not be involved in the act in any other way than just as an outlet (… input? I'm not sure). Plus whatever specifics he wants to add on that.

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  236. My first wife and I were charter members in a swing club for 15 years. Every member had to sign a Non Disclosure Agreement so we were sure there would be no career damage (she was a grade school teacher and I was a Deputy Sheriff). She got all the sex she wanted, so did I but she needed so much more. It was great!

  237. Try missionary with a pillow under her butt. Use some lube and make sure you're lined up with her opening. You might have to push pretty hard but it will go in.

  238. It means you have strong hormonal swings between the two. Try drinking more water and getting some light carido every day if you aren't. Improved circulation and better hydration can help normalize them a bit. Also, try to be more aware of your knee-jerk thoughts and catch when they are that, knee-jerk thoughts.

  239. Ok, so I'm not a lesbian, but lesbians are usually attracted to the same shit guys are…most people love big titties. And think about it this way. They were attracted to you enough to go to bed with you.

  240. You're in a monogamous relationship. Being bisexual doesn't provide an out for infidelity. If you want to sleep with other people, break up with him.

  241. Have you asked why his ex was good enough to do it with? Maybe there were issues with his ex that stemmed from doing anal and he doesn't want it with you because he for some reason thinks it will cause issues in you guy's relationship? Just something to consider. The only way you will find out why he doesn't want to is if he's willing to talk about it. Doing what you can to make sure he feels safe discussing things with you is probably all you can do to get to the bottom of this.

  242. There are a lot of things you can try to spice things up in the bedroom. One place you could start is taking a sex quiz from someplace like We Should Try It. You both answer a questionnaire and then you only see responses that you both were into. This can make it easier to be honest, since fantasies or scenarios only one of you is into are treated the same as ones you both reject. With that said, you are both young and only a year and a half into the relationship. Your mid 20's are often when you begin focusing on careers, having more responsibilities, and experiencing higher levels of stress. Around a year and a half in is when many couples experience their first “rut”, as you've likely been living together for a while, you've settled into a routine, and overall become comfortable with a status quo. It's important to realize that relationships are a rollercoaster, you're going to have times where things are exciting and fresh, and times when things are a bit bland. You two may discover a new kink and get super into it for a few months. One of you may get hurt and sex will take a backseat during recovery. If you have children they will shake up many aspects of your relationship and expectations will need to adjust. Your post suggests things have gotten a bit stale and routine. This is absolutely something you should feel empowered to address, but you also shouldn't feel overly worried either. This is a normal part of a relationship, you can work past it, grow from the experience, and when it happens again you can get past it again.

  243. yeah but its like 0.1% compared to 20% with pulling out. The pullout method is a waste of time.

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  245. As a woman, I can definitely confirm that if something is uncomfortable during oral and we want it to stop, we will tell you. So don”t worry about stopping at the right time, just go with your intuition and if your partner gives you any indication that they want you to stop, then stop. It”s as simple as that. As for whether there are deeper layers of pleasure hidden beneath, well, every woman is different and there”s only one way to find out – by communicating with your partner and experimenting together! So don”t be afraid to have an open and honest conversation about what feels good for both of you. Good luck!

  246. This comment demonstrates an unhinged lack of awareness of the cultural factors that make it difficult for women to explore their bodies and embrace their sexuality. Wishing you healing from the toxic victim-blaming beliefs you’re holding onto, as they’re not doing you any favors.

  247. We do a LOT of play time before PIV. My wife orgasms more easily from PIV if we get her worn out doing other thing first. From time to time was wants more play after, but that is pretty rare.

  248. Just for the sake of completeness. let me note here that this general issue is discussed occasionally in our forum: The challenges that parents face when addressing the sexual behavior of their children. If you take some time to search past r/sex posts, you'll almost certainly find a couple of additional helpful discussions.

  249. Wow, we have similar stories. I was with my HS sweetheart married for 20 years. Sex was boring, I thought finishing in her mouth and keep sucking was a myth. Well after 20 years a child, she cheated on me with her cousins husband. We tried to make it work. Counseling, therapy. I couldn’t handle it. After selling the house I was ready to start over. It was hard loosing ur soulmate it’s like a death. She ended up dating some player from the NY Giants. We tried to link up and it was a total difference, she deep throated wanted me to smack her ass. I couldn’t take it. I did start over and yes women live oral sex and it’s not a myth. It took me being with really sexual women. I can choke u, I can be rough. So now I’m just different when it comes to sex. I def wanna settle down again but not yet. It wasn’t you. Just ur chemistry didn’t match. Good luck man

  250. Hi there. I lost mine at 26. I wasn’t saving myself either and wanted to have sex but wasn’t interested enough in someone to want to. Until my ex bf. When we started to get intimate I told him. He didn’t care and was very sweet. A piece of advice for the first time. Find someone considerate of your situation. Be honest. Because it could be a bit awkward, messy and painful for the first time. This guy probably didn’t want to deal with any of it. But there are a lot of people who won’t care as well.

  251. Basically the other women are just friends with benefits no one is going to beat him out in that regard. It’s not like he doesn’t get to be with them either. It’s a shared experience

  252. What anyone else would or would not do you has absolutely zero bearing on your desires. If you don’t want to, don’t do it. Simple as that.

  253. I tend to forget a detail or two on this, so take what I say with a grain of salt, erections happen because of some signal substances that gets released into the blood stream. Which means that a spinal injury has no effect on his ability to get hard. However, depending on where in the spine his spinal injury is, he may not be able to feel anything.

  254. I was really confused about everything and honestly hurt. He asked me if I was still coming into town, mentioned he still wanted to try hanging out (we ended up not) and then he was debating what to do out loud to me. It was so confusing and hurtful. He literally took my e tire trip to admit what was going on. Yea, I wish he’d reach out again though.

  255. Dear God, 3-4x a week? I would be in heaven. Not to mention I am actively raising my kids, cleaning, doing laundry FFS!

  256. Your husband talking to his mom about your sex life–his dissatisfaction with it, even–is completely fucked up all by itself. Everything subsequent to that, for example her talking to you about her son's dissatisfaction with your sex life with her son, is so completely fucked up that it is hard to put into words. Those two things, aline, violate numerous codes of ethical conduct and show a remarkable lack of respect for you by both your husband and his mom. I know you have kids and that it will be hard, but you should divorce this guy right now. Tell your lawyer about this conversation and there's no judge in earth that won't give you custody and a healthy financial ruling. I am sorry, but divorce is the only way. And when your kids get older and ask why you divorced dad, tell them.

  257. not exactly what i meant either, idk. thats one of the reasons im still on the fence about it but the main one is the one that whether or not it is shameful because idk if i will be happy with such a decision a few years into the future

  258. I might be the lonely disagree here. I feel the same as OP's partner. I need sex to be spontaneous and not planned, or else it feels forced and loveless to me. However this is also the same for my partner, and since were both high libido, this works out perfectly. To me this just sounds like OP and her partner aren't sexually compatible, so this “disagreement” leads to frustrations.

  259. Make her orgasm all the time. Let her finish. Sooner or later but most definitely she will want you to be inside her. Always remember never force her just give her pleasure to the point she will crave it

  260. Hey, there. If you have a bench or long ottoman, she could ride you on that with her feet on the ground as she straddles the bench. If this is a long term relationship, consider investing in a sex chair, like the Liberator. It helps with height difference and also a great way for you to sit back while she can kneel comfortably and give you head

  261. I will say my bf loves the physical care and affection that goes into kissing him all over. He says they feel amazing too in a sexual context too.

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  263. There's really no reason for you to feel bad. None of us is really born knowing who we are sexually, so it's difficult to express that to a partner until we've grown into our own sexuality – and even that will change as we grow and mature. There will be bumps in the road, but with the right attitude and a better eye for what makes a good lover, you can smooth them out. As for people who think they're good lovers, yes that is ego talking. It makes no sense to talk about what worked for other women in our past or how good we must be (in our own eyes), because ego keeps us from understanding that every human being is uniquely different and every sexual experience is as unique as the woman we're sharing it with. There is no substitute for time and communication when it comes to developing a beautiful sexual connection with someone. Sex is an intimate dance that plays out over time, in which we need to pay attention to the sexual being sharing herself with us in each moment, how she is vibrating, resonating, and responding from moment to moment, and then interpret the clues and cues radiating from her body. When you find a good lover, you'll see that he understands that you are not any other woman and he will take time to learn how you are different and unique in your tastes, wants, needs, and yes even challenges. That sexual connection will come from two-way communication and you'll both feel it.

  264. I guess, but this is the post I'm referring to: https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/12hi33w/he_said_my_clit_was_too_big/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button I dont think the post broke the rules? I didn't read all the comments, maybe they were bad but the mods could EASILY comment and pin the comment stating why it was locked. It's frustrating to read through a post, have a comment that I think will be helpful, then realize I can't. If it's frustrating for me I'm sure it's also frustrating for the posters.

  265. im decently short, have a small dick which has lead me to bad experiences. im not overweight 🙂 its not only body issues though, im not really confident and lacking confidence is quite unattractive.

  266. He's showing you who he is…he's denying your actual identity because he perceives it as threatening and is trying to get you to change your body so you can't, perhaps, have a relationship with a woman that'll feature children. He's SO insecure it's absurd. He also doesn't respect your identity, your desires, or your bodily autonomy. If this was happening between two people you knew you'd be having a VERY different reaction.

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  268. My dude, you need to invest in a Splash Blanket. Game-changer. Just keep it next to or at the foot of the bed, and you can still be spontaneous. Washing the blanket is so much easier than doing a full sheet-change. Also…change your sheets more frequently than every three months. https://splashblanket.com/collections/all

  269. He may think that when you say “nothing serious “ it means “no sex.” Like everybody else is saying, say it plainly. “Manga collection and chill” or however you wanna put it.

  270. Alot of porn is so….it's like the content you see kids watching on YT now (past 7 years or so tho). Highly unrealistic, and as someone who got exposed to porn very very young, it can fuck with your…perspective? Especially in America where we have poor sex education, both in schools and within the “culture”. It's nice to be able to see something passionate or really proffesional (in a healthier way). Obviously there's something within all this that's just another thread in a large picture. Eh, well I'm done rambling now sorry folks 🙁 you aren't wrong nor crazy tho, TY

  271. After that I asked if he wanted to get back And you… expected him to be turned on by you after that negative interaction?

  272. It's always great to explore new techniques and keep the sex life interesting. Have you considered trying to incorporate toys or other methods to mix things up even further?

  273. This. I noticed I can fall asleep in any situation, but I’ve met tons of people who just can’t fall asleep without the perfect conditions.

  274. ahh not saying she HAS to be faking it, but trust me ive talked to other older women and myself we can tense are whole body shake are legs and fake it so good its a talent. not the no one can make us reach an orgasm, but if we want to get it over with we can

  275. If you are making plans for sex, then it's perfectly fine to make plans for after sex. It's bullshit to make sexual discussion taboo with a person you are planning on letting inside of your body. You should talk about it. Who knows, maybe he'll freak out and act like a child, and you will dodge a bullet. IMO dating rules like this, or how soon you can text back after a date, are only marginally better than the guys who swipe right on everyone to game the system. Both are dishonest.

  276. Memory foam sex is awful. Probably was able to get a lot more grip for every position to hit those spots.

  277. I'm quite similar My gf can't finish me with a blowjob and I get a little aggressive with her mouth, end of jacking off into her mouth

  278. My husband claims that this is what he did before our first kiss and that thus, I kissed him first. I didn't learn about this theory until we'd already been dating almost 3 years. He leaned in like 98%. At that point my options were to kiss back or slap him/push him back. OP, I vote for the lean in and pause while looking at his mouth and then look up at his eyes and back to his lips. Definitely sounds that will get you guys kissing.

  279. I’ve never thought about watching interviews with porn stars about what it’s really like, but now that I’ve read your comment, I think this should be mandatory for all porn consumers. Too many people think it’s realistic, but they never feel the same about regular movies or regular actors.

  280. My favorite is the Trojan non latex ones. The are called bare skin I believe. To me a lot more feeling in them.

  281. Often in a mismatched relationship the ll partner will exaggerate how often they have sex. They genuinely feel like it’s more often than it actually is. This could be happening with OP.

  282. you are a terrible fucking person OP. Face the consequences of your actions and admit what you have done to your fiance. From there its up to you and him to talk about it and discuss it.

  283. Or…your bf is acting like a child. Hell get over it but you as his gf might need to parent the little bugger about not always getting what you want and being okay with that.

  284. In porn, what specific age is being referred to as being “Barely Legal”? Your relationship with your teenager classmate may be as wholesome as humanly possible, but there's an optics problem, and you're the only one that looks bad here. The question that's hanging in the air is “What's up with koolest_dude fucking teenagers? Isn't he like almost thirty? Is it because he can't pull a woman in his age range, or because teenagers are more naive and impressionable?” The only plausible out that I can think of, is for your girlfriend to win your friends over, as anything you say can be interpreted as the rationalizations of a creep.

  285. he says he wants to be with me/doesn’t want to break up. also says he is attracted to me. not sure if he has ED, thought about discussing viagra as a possible option but not sure how to breach that subject as i don’t want him to feel emasculated. i’ve suspected cheating but have no legitimate proof or confirmation, so maybe i’m just paranoid, idk

  286. I don’t even get caught when there are lots of people in the house. It doesn’t happen like this normally. But why today?! ? but I’ll take your advice

  287. Showing an interest in who people are would be a great start. Get to know them, communicate honestly and openly about who you are and what you seek ( but also be mindful of not jumping the gun or pressuring others ). Do NOT string people along that is shitty karma and passive / weak as hell behavior. Do NOT just walk up and ask. We are not sex vending machines.

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  289. So last night we were sexual but not, not having sex. We cuddled naked, she had her legs wrapped around me and lightly kissed. I kissed her neck and breasts,sucked her nipples a little. We talked and relaxed. At one point I was on top and rubbing her clit/humping with my erection rubbing her (missionary) while we made out and tongue kissed. She moaned a little. She was tired and said she didn’t want to cum or have sex. She sucked me a little. We cuddle more and talked, kissing, me kissing her breasts and fingering her a little. We both enjoyed this 10-15 mins. We went to bed relaxed (we have 3 kids under 10). And….. I wanted sex and wanted to cum, but it was nice. So there’s different intimacy levels. Now tonight or tomorrow when we truly FUCK both will cum hard from being hot from this. Just go with the flow. If both parties are getting their needs met and have open communication there is no need for an anxiety.

  290. He's hurting you then telling you it's all your fault. He is manipulative and has no regard for your welfare or pleasure. Your desires matter, put yourself first and leave him

  291. This can lead to resentment. You’re a red blooded male and most guys like their penis sucked, at least occasionally. I’d let her do it since she’s agreeable to it and you at least get some sexual satisfaction from it. I got married knowing that we’d routinely go down on each other. I didn’t close off doors.

  292. No. That part of my argument becomes irrelevant. The rest of my argument still stands on solid ground.

  293. Both the part where he was tying me up for the slow sensual build up and also him being balls deep in me with the tension of the rope sort of making it a bit tighter on both his dick and around me. Overall really great experience! Super easy too, just watched a 5 minute youtube video!

  294. I never went down on a woman until I met my wife. I found that I started enjoying going down on her as much as as sex or receiving head. Thirty years later she often asks me to just go down on her.

  295. Sounds like a fuck hack to me as long as you're not fetishizing their disability in a way they don't like.

  296. When she has a vibrator orgasm while you are fucking her you won't care. It feels amazing and hearing them lose it is awesome.

  297. Most dudes I've talked to have said they would rather have no blow job than a blow job with a condom on. A lot will get pushy and insist on a BJ without one. If you're going to regularly have casual sex with men, going on PrEP is probably a good idea for you.

  298. You were clear enough, repeatedly. He raped you and now is trying to blame you for “not resisting enough”. This utter and irredeemable piece of shit belongs in prison. I am sorry, you had to go through this.

  299. Reminds me of a girl in the past I went on a date with. I ate her out and she made a big mess all over my car seat and look like she had the best o of her life. She said she had to go home and I got ghosted the next day

  300. It's simple if an item is not as precious from an economics standpoint it won't be that valuable to you. For example say you can only possibly afford one car. Like you are screwed if you fuck this car up in anyway. However you can afford all the cheap pairs of sneakers you want. So you would have a ton of sneakers and generally not take care of them. Because they are easily replaceable and they are always coming up with better versions and even cheaper ones. But that car you just can't afford another one at the moment and would be able to for a long time if you were to damage this one. There is a massive imbalance economically for potential mates for attractive people and said unattractive people. If you are going to argue supply and demand isn't even a thing then I will stop interneting for the day and move on. But yes people can suck regardless of how late look. I think shit people are evenly distributed. But my thought pattern holds true and I see this shit play out on a real world level all the time.

  301. So you don't mind not receiving oral sex, but you still don't want to give your GF what she wants for some reason?

  302. I'm not on my phone or I would :clown: emoji His actions prove that he understood that you said no. Dating is a gray area. Sex is not.

  303. I don’t enjoy this, as I am very self conscious about the whole thing. I never want to do anything that may hurt someone in a negative instead of fun way. There is a reason you wash your hands after using the bathroom. No matter how much I wash/clean, I don’t feel safe enough I will not hurt someone. I know puss play is safe, if done at once and not leaving it out for hours before the other person consumes it. I have let it happen a few times, but I always fearful of causing real damage to someone else.

  304. I have never come from fingering, but other orgasms don’t feel like I have to pee. Maybe it’s specific to fingering.

  305. Oh, I definitely plan on easing into this with her. I don't plan on suddenly attempting as I know this is an experience and I want us to enjoy it together

  306. I hope you figured this out. I also struggle with shame. I think maybe start vanilla? Or talk about kinks in general, and try to bring it up naturally? Maybe seek reassurance first that a weird kink won’t turn them away.

  307. This! I'm non monogamous, so my partners are exploring their kinks however they want (this was obviously cheating though, since it's a monogamous relationship). But, if they did this, I would have serious misgivings about being in a relationship with them. This is sexual harassment, non consentual, and a huge red flag considering boundaries on the behalf of both the partner and the strangers.

  308. I actually have 4x her count it’s honestly just the fact that she didn’t keep it a buck with me off rip. I don’t care bout the count but damn just keep it a stack

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  310. Yes I've experienced that before, it's well past stubble it's something about the sticking-out-ness of the hair – means it's continually scratchy.

  311. Yeah that's fair. I've considered if I had infinite time and resources.. I'd probably go to some sort of sexual therapy – I think there's something about the unkemptness and inconstancy that irks me that manifests in other part of my life. Something around prior dead-bedroom experience before, and the fact that again, compared to my prior experiences she doesn't send any signals that she wants sex. Even women that aren't comfortable overtly flirting or asking straight up have done basic trope-y cues lying naked on the top of the bed, asking me to join her in bed, coming to show me freshly shaved legs… we're very “friendsy” I would say – which is great – and she's very affectiontion-n ate in a sort of archaic fairy-book-romantic way… not sure where I'm going with this tbh now ? – just thinking out loud and trying to figure something out.

  312. You can end up with the woman's equivalent of death grip. You get so used to that level of intensity and that very specific application of it that you largely become incapable of orgasming through any other means. Abstaining for a while can help; but, if you spend the better part of 10 years “training” your body to only accept that, it'll be difficult to break.

  313. A uti can feel like burning, or the need to feel like peeing but nothing comes out, foul smell, blood in the urine. It's important that you go see a doctor asap.

  314. Totally normal. Basically the same as when you pee. As soon as you're done shaking, and let go of your penis, you get that one drop of pee. Semen is the same way, your “tubes” of full of semen, and will gradually leak a bit

  315. ? Should I really go to a doctor? I mean does it require? Before last year I used to masturbate without doctor's consultation.

  316. It comes down to determination and stubbornness lol.Never show the weakness lol apply deepheat when no one is watching lol

  317. It's different for everyone I think mind you I haven't been with other girls like that but I have a friend that says she has no reaction but I can start shaking sometimes but I don't think I have some vocal tell like moaning a different way like with your one partner

  318. We’ll I’m glad guy number 2 got kicked to the curb cuz he sounds like a nut job. You shouldn’t feel guilty. Treasure your body. Someone will come along who you will have a lot of good times with

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  320. How would he be able to even get to the recruiters office without them knowing about it? I know you can apply online but when he gets mail they will know. It's a terrible situation to be in. Hopefully someone is in his area that can help him get out as long as he's at least 18.

  321. I love to be watch my hubby doesn’t like cause once in my 20s my twin (fraternal) sister and her husband we all having sex in our garage/hangout spot. It so hot! But my husband couldn’t focus and went limp.

  322. Just be friends with her and find other fuck buddies til she pulls her head out of her ass. She’s playing games with you bro. Play them right back, hook up with 21 year olds and teach them what you’ve learned from the 37 year old. Have fun being a kid still. Then tell your FWB that you’re cool being just friends that don’t fuck anymore, because you’ve found other friends that don’t try to manipulate you. They treat you way better so you treat them way better in return. I’m 38 dude, and I’ll admit at 38, I’m still a fucking moron. Just have a few extra years and experiences. But we’re all pretty dumb bro. Don’t let her manipulate you. Play the same games with her and burn her, she needs to learn someway or another to act right.

  323. Just Google Literotica and ___ and you'll get through the gate. Their landing page is atrocious

  324. There are non-latex condoms, perhaps you could try that to see if that's contributing to the issue. Do you think it could be hygiene related?

  325. My vagina twitches a little before the actual orgasm. The sensation is the same but like 1/10th of the big one, and they usually come in like one or two twitches. Kinda sounds like what you're describing are these “pre-orgasm” mini orgasms. Orgasms come in all shapes and sizes, but the big O is something you will definitely feel and there's no doubt in your mind what it is, it feels a little bit like you're about to pee and your vagina tenses up and releases and it feels amazing. Also, there is a different kind of sensation that I just call post-orgasm twitching. After I've had an orgasm and just lie down in bed, I get these strong involuntary twitches in my vagina that I can feel all the way in my toes, it's almost like a muscle spasm. They're usually followed by an orgasm, however I can also sometimes get them from just intense stimulation even if I don't come. Maybe what you're feeling could be one of those?

  326. Guys watch porn so I wouldn’t take it as he doesn’t find you attractive or doesn’t want you. As for if he jerked off or not- sometimes, If I know I’ll have sex later, I could jerk off and stop before coming. If you’re worried about not, priming might help. If you stuck with this guy or not- this advice is just in general to any relationship. You want someone where you can ask him what the porn was for- like to get ready or what- and he’ll be honest with you. If you can talk to him about this problem, and move forward, better off, then it’s communication skills that you’ll need later on. Don’t look at this as a negative. It’s a skill, you build that skill up, and it tells you if he is the guy you want to move forward with, or align your expectations. And remember, he’s on the same journey too, so allow some slack and time to learn communication.

  327. I haven't encountered that obstacle too much in my personal life, but I do think that concentrating on building trust with your partner could help you. To me, building trust seems like a solution to a lot of problems. It's widely applicable — but it does take effort and a willingness to take risks and be vulnerable to your partner. That's the hard part. But it's possible.

  328. Dump his ass! This guy is a chauvinist, narcissistic, self-centered, top grade asshole. I'd he has no interest in pleasing you sexualy he has no interest in any aspect of your life even if he shows some believe me it's not real.

  329. Dump his ass! This guy is a chauvinist, narcissistic, self-centered, top grade asshole. I'd he has no interest in pleasing you sexualy he has no interest in any aspect of your life even if he shows some believe me it's not real.

  330. First of all, semen retention is bullshit, and the best advice you could get right now is probably to stay away from the kind of people who tells you that semen retention is useful.

  331. It's not “Threat of the Third”, it's Shadow of the Third. Which seems like splitting hairs, but is actually a pretty significant semantic difference that changes the point quite a lot – a point that you've clearly missed by a mile. Perel doesn't argue that marriage (or monogamy) removes that threat, she instead argues that it's important to both allow and remain cognizant of both your and your partners sexual desires outside of each other, not so much due to any real threat (because if the pizza delivery boy is really that big of a threat you have other issues), but because it allows us to see features and versions of ourselves and our partners that might fall through the cracks in the mundanity of marriage.

  332. Personally I prefer some traction. Sometimes I'll just pull out and wipe myself off. That's enough. Plus I don't like the feeling of moisture splashing all over my pelvis. It's kind of distracting from the more pleasurable sensations.

  333. Men get real tired after, so get yours First, and tell him why if it comes up. It also sounds like this relationship is on its way out. It happens 🙁

  334. I don’t know how common it is but anecdotally I have heard of many women gaining confidence a bit later in life. You can also xPost to /r/sexover30

  335. Do NOT be self-conscious about this. It's a compliment to the dude if anything! All our bodies are so wonderfully different to each other… they smell / taste / sound / act differently from person-to-person, from day-to-day, and so on. Be proud of who you are and the body you have! Do the work it takes to build this confidence – it doesn't happen over night. Practice yoga (beyond the physical stretches – the philosophy is so amazing), meditate, surround yourself with sex-positive conversation and community, look up & watch films at the HUMP film fest to expose yourself to different types of bodies, love-making etc… Most of all, focus on the word ENJOY!

  336. Yea thats the main position we choose for going all out. If I move up higher in prone it works a bit better for both of us especially because she likes it pretty hard. I can get some sensation back like that. Sometimes we just wipe it off with special cleansing wipes and go at it again but she gets really wet very quickly as soon as i'm in the rhythm so I just ride it out. I focus on going harder, deeper and grabbing her hair firmly when I'm almost there rather than actually what it feels like for me. She said she has enjoyed that sensation the most so far anyway 🙂

  337. it will hurt like a b itch man fuck i'm considering this recently everything u said is logical and the right thing to do

  338. It’s funny, if you look there are actually lots of comments either okay’ing it, or saying that while it would make them uncomfortable, everyone deserves to have fun in bed. Have you considered that ALL you’re actually doing here is pointing out that SOME people MIGHT be hypocrites??? Is that really news to you?

  339. You’re doing God’s work right here. That was well written and informative. A guide for all, really.

  340. Only 3 years? For some, it's a lifelong affliction and becomes a borderline problem of being able to do “life” outside of looking for the next post-nut clarity. Really, it's a similar situation to becoming dependent upon fervent prayer, drugs like marijuana and cocaine, self-injury, and other harmful and toxic behaviors to be “hooked on your own supply” of antidepressant. That post-nut clarity is a bunch of developing growth hormones that last until the late twenties to the early thirties. Is becoming dependent upon a partner for your own sexual happiness and well-being in the clinical hormonal sense of the regular releases of dopamine, serotonin, adrenaline, testosterone, estrogen and all of those other emotional and physical needs happening to you? It sounds like an emotional attempt to self-regulate your mind and body to stave off depression. The guilt happens because you don't want anything else except for your own orgasm inside of someone else that wants it. Just my thoughts, Op, cause I'm going on 35 years of what you've described because I began a difficult journey and recovery in being an adrenaline junkie.

  341. Yes I realize this, and this is exactly why I posted, because I don't want to only consider my preferences… As it is a teaching opportunity. I would like other women to express their specific turn ons, so I can keep those in mind.

  342. That sounds like your period, if I'm honest. And stop having unprotected sex. Plan B isn't birth control you can just pop frequently.

  343. Yes they can tell, they will normally not say nything unless there is a very good reason they think they should. They have see this many times before.

  344. Well damn, I am at a loss then. I've never heard of such a thing or experienced that in anyway. That can definitely be difficult and hard to manage. Honestly I would talk to your physician or OB if you can. It may be a tough conversation in the beginning but they may be able to help or at least give some insight on why this is happening. I would definitely hold off with the spontaneity until there's a change or decrease. I'm sorry you're going through this!

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  346. This is so true. While my ex didn’t specifically have an OF, she did create content and sell panties – or she tried to at least – and let me tell you, it was tough going, and not because of anything she did wrong. She had a great personality, looked amazing, and was open to nearly any kind of fetish content, but the market is just so saturated that it’s very difficult to establish any consistency. I was helping her answer messages, and oh my goodness. She definitely needed me or someone to do that because she got SO many messages and 90% of them led absolutely nowhere or were just time wasters looking for a free jerk. Going back to the OP, while I think 50% is excessive and he went about it the wrong way, a good marketer/assistant deserves something. My ex and I initially had an informal agreement for me to take a small % after she recouped some initial start up costs, but sales were so sporadic that I never had the heart to take any money from this venture.

  347. Sometimes it's nice to see the woman being as enthusiastic about sex as we are and being clear on what they want done to them.

  348. Lol no you have a perfernce for long legs, perfectly normal. Every guy has a perf when it comes to what they want. 🙂

  349. Since the 3 of you are such good friends, they probably want to try a threesome and both feel safe with you.

  350. It can be lots of things: kinks, libido, acts you will and won’t do, attitude, foreplay requirements, etc. It is definitely a thing and very important in relationships. I personally rate it as one of my top needs in a relationship.

  351. Why are you genuinely trying to rationalize his behavior? Cleanliness is extremely important for health. The bacteria that accumulates on his penis can actually infect you and cause other issues via penetration. Additionally, he’s using an extremely dumb excuse to emotionally manipulate you into accepting his disgusting hygiene habits. Throw it away.

  352. If he's doing lighting, cameras, costuming, and editing, he's not a manager. At that point, he's the operation and she's just the talent. 50% is kind of expensive for talent. Not necessarily outrageous if she's delivering a lot of viewers and the production is basic, but on the expensive side.

  353. I don’t think she deserves you! If she already flirting with other men behind your back, clearly she’s interested in them not you anymore. Sex is not really important in a relationship but is it nice to do it with someone you love. My point is I think you should leave her, and find someone else who is 100% with you.

  354. She might be getting her D elsewhere. I would talk to her and if she ain't gonna work with you then bounce.

  355. I think I've come across that once before too, some podcast where a woman talked about the changes after she stopped shaving down there. And her partner had noticed the same thing about pheromones/taste/smell. Good to know, I've only trimmed sometimes but usually full bush which I'm self conscious about, but I've had partners who tell me I tasted really good.

  356. It’s means you simply love pleasure and giving pleasure and simply means you are sexually fluid. I believe the whole world of humanity is literally sexually fluid. It is only religion, culture and society that puts restrictions to our pleasures. Obviously there’s a limit which is no under age and as long as it’s consensual and not hurting anyone, than do what we naturally all intend to do which is enjoy ourselves because it is our sole rights.

  357. She’s probably in the beginning stages of menopause, this drastically decreases sex drive in many women. Only natural. I would definitely express this feeling to her. There can be options for medication that can improve sex drive if that’s something she would like to look into. Best of luck

  358. I come in seconds even tho I take em, when I started I was able to last longer but now It can be literal seconds

  359. I’ve always masturbated regularly but now for about 6 months I’ve had zero interest in it. And I’ve heard your reasoning before and probably even thought it myself but my mind has changed. Now my problem is is this something I can talk to my boyfriend about? Surely being open and honest is good and I should be able to rely on him for comfort, but how do you tell someone you love that you feel like it’s pathetic and cringe to want sex now? I can’t talk to my friends either since I’m technically telling them I think they’re pathetic, even if it’s just one aspect. I can’t afford seeing a sex therapist so I’m just hoping my mind will change on it’s own, but can I even bring it up to my boyfriend? Is there a smooth way to do that?

  360. First off, you haven't exchanged sexual favours for monetary gain so technically what you are calling yourself is an insult to an actual sex worker. Second, you haven't specified anything with the first guy that you haven't even so not too bad a thing if a bit dishonest and shady. I would suggest trying to date actual in real life people in order to get some of that touch and be kinder to yourself. Apart from that I don't know why you have such a low opinion of sex workers, we live in a tough economy and you can blame capitalism not the people who do what they can to make that dough.

  361. i was surprised because he told me over and over again that he felt like it was so small. also the fact that its not on display is exactly what makes it a surprise. the average worldwide penis size is 5.1 inches. im not saying it based off of my experience but on of a genuine fact lol. anyway i am trying to reassure this guy that he has nothing to worry about, even if a guys dick was 0.5 inches i wouldn't care if the sex life was still good ?

  362. Sounds like the majority of men need to grow the hell up, because their dreams of finding a lily-pure, debt-free virgin trad wife or whatever isn't exactly realistic.

  363. Sorry to disappoint you but if gets ever higher from here ? your body is in primal 'shit, we gotta make babies asap we are running out of time , must find dick ' mode

  364. I've enjoyed photos and videos of myself that I took. Some I shared, some I did not. Creating a video and sharing it are two different things. If you control the data (because it's only on your device, which you control), and you have physical privacy, it's pretty safe. The only risk would be if someone searched through your device later, but protection is available even against that.

  365. Appreciate the advice. The main thing I struggle with is reading their body language but I guess I just need more practice. You can set what you are looking for (relationship, something casual etc) in the profile. Should I even bother setting it to relationship? Not sure what the best strategy for me should be.

  366. By communication you mean what? I’m trying not to be rude and ask her for something to specific, I just want her to show more enthusiasm etc

  367. I'd say this is true. My partner sometimes cum in me with condom, no problem with any smell. One day condom broke, smells like a fish market a week after. And it's fine after regularly washing it.

  368. Trust me, if you waited six dates to do the deed, he was well aware of your physique and still wanted to sleep with you! He's clearly attracted to you, so stop worrying and being negative about your body. You are beautiful and he knows it!

  369. Some woods near where I live I love to take subs out there strip them down lean in behind them and whisper…..RUN I wait 5 min then I strip down and the hunt is on ?

  370. I understand that it could be the nerves but, I wanna know why didn't I got rock hard as I was initially and just semi-hard if there was no shift in my arousal?

  371. I got a remote control vibrator that I like to have him control when I am going down on him. It’s really fun for other times too

  372. Well my girlfriend just did it. I was laying down and she licked my balls then moved further down. Try it slow like that and if he says no it’s a no!

  373. You are definitely wrong here, why would you want threesome? You never know that your best friend can betray you or backstabbing you, they don't care, isn't husband and wife is more than enough than just threesome? Your husband doesn't want to do threesome because he knew the risk and you don't, so you took the risk

  374. I’m having just as hard of a time lol all this stuff is in my name so I’m screwed if we don’t get it together but if he really wanted to he could just dip out and be good. Anyways… whenever I try to he gets defensive and start talking over me and acting like I’m lying and then it turns into an argument.

  375. he acted all surprised and said he didn’t notice it slip off. So how can he hate them so much if he can't even notice if he has one on or not?

  376. Only happened to me once, but that’s just as the condom was too tight. Nice problem to have, but shouldn’t happen if he’s experienced and especially not if he’s protested about it before

  377. Tangy (like a little tart) is the good smell/taste, sounds like you are normal. If they smell like “flowers” they are probably using some product that is actually bad for your vagina, those things can actually cause BV and yeast infections.

  378. Go slower. Overstimulation is a real thing. Slower makes it more suspenseful and hot. If she gets overstimulated, there's no way of making her come. Also, buy her one Satisfyer pro 2, and ask her to practice on her own.

  379. Is this bait or is OP actually stupid ? Obviously he’s raping you. If you actually need to come on reddit to see that then you probably shouldn’t be datinf

  380. If you have a psychological erectile dysfunction, relying upon Cialis/Viagra is going to make it worse. You should be seeking counselling. If you have a medical erectile dysfunction (caused by diabetes, hypertension, etc), then these can be very useful medications If you have healthy erections, Cialis/Viagra has no place in your sex life.

  381. Nah, this is how insecurity sets its roots. Especially if the plan goes badly. It's called 'spontaneity' for a reason. But if you're out and about, or at home, and the mood strikes? Sure, make a move.

  382. Not because of an orgasm per se but i have laughed my ass off during intercourse!!! Stops the intercourse but some things are more important. Can also be annoying as all hell when its the partner that starts laughing and you Go Back to square one foreplay. After 20-30 Minutes of legit “Work”…. Always annoys the f out of me but (!!!!!!) for me its perfectly fine. Laughter should never be held back imo

  383. Well. Personally I think partners should be there for each other in sex and to listen to each other needs, but sometimes needs can be conflicting and it's completely fine not to indulge in every one of your partner's fantasies.

  384. I second toys. Find something similar to the womanizer because omg. It's amazing. Also do your own sexual explorations if you haven't already. Find out what feels good for you and then tell your partner.

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  386. If I had a nickels for every time the topic of genitals being dipped in soy sauce was brought up today I would have two nickels. It's not much, but seriously wtf? ?

  387. Sorry that happened. No offense, but he sounds like a slobby tool. Also, the vag irritation may have something to do with his dirty dick. You could possibly have an infection. Good luck. I hope you get some resolution.

  388. Sexologist recommending 18 year olds? Yeesh. Shaky ground right there. A male shrink recommending that to a male client would have alarm bells ringing throughout this sub.

  389. Everyone is different. Like. For me first time i cum it can only take a touch, she only need to look at it and i can cum. so excited. Then i can focus on her for long time and get hard again and then im good to go. But im gonna guess that some women really into piv. As some arent and can get of from other stuff.

  390. yeah i kinda meant it slightly sarcastically. i’m gonna talk to him about it bc it will keep bothering me if i don’t

  391. So he threw it back at me that my vagina smells bad too but that's how genitalia smells. This is “No, U!”

  392. Offering oral is fine. I wouldn't offer to use your toys. I personally would be grossed by that even when you cleaned them properly.

  393. Currently on a dating app trying to find a guy to join and I swipe no on any guys that have a six pack or anything that even resembles it. Nope I like them dad bods ?

  394. Most people take practice giving oral. If this is new, be patient. As long as she has a desire for mutual pleasure, stick it out and communicate well. Unless she has a deformity she can probably do good enough. For reference, I'm about your size. I've had a lot of partners and I've only been deep throated once and I found out later she had an eating disorder. My current gf can get about mid-shaft before she start gagging. That's a normal experience for me and it's been enough for all of them to make me cum w oral.

  395. Nah that's nasty he gets hard from other women and then uses her to finish what they started. Why be in a relationship at that point?

  396. Why are people so weird literally what's the difference about fake teeth, I'm sure you'll find many people who don't mind

  397. I'm happy because he's emotionally abusive. Years of punching holes in the wall, screaming, name calling, etc. Haven't left yet BECAUSE I gave so many chances, because I kept telling him what I needed and he didn't change. Why am I married? Because he was different when we were younger. Does that answer all your questions. Don't come at me all rude. You don't know my shit, just bits of it.

  398. Thank you all for the responses. I'm going to respond to some now. I just want to say that, I do have really good hobbies and things that bring me happiness. But even my hobbies just aren't enough anymore. I can only think about sex 24/7. I just really need to get fucked at least once soon to bring me back into my brain, you know what I mean? And I am going on a big road trip right now, getting away from it all, as I work remotely. So I know that will bring me some peace and happiness. I'm going to be spending a lot of time in nature unwinding. And I know that doing that will help me destress and lose weight. I'm also grieving the deaths of a couple of loved ones right now, and everything is just piling up. Even when I go a few months of eating very well and healthy, and working out, my weight doesn't go down. But every time I would escape the relationship for a few weeks, just go out of town to relax a couple times a year, I would lose weight so fast and not even need to try. But thank you again, everyone.

  399. That’s rude but people stay stupid rude stuff all the time, her problem not yours, let it go and move on. There’ll always be someone you come across who says something stupid, that’ll never change, just don’t waste your energy worrying about it, because they certainly don’t put that much thought into it.

  400. There could be many reasons why but I think the best move is to tell her you’re bummed about the lack of sex, you love her and love having sex with her and want to know if there’s anything you can do to kick start y’all’s sex life again. And if she responds saying her sex drive is low or something and she hasn’t wanted to/just doesn’t feel like having sex, then in a firm but gentle way let her know how much you love it with her and how important it is to you. Sex drives come and go but I don’t think it’s okay to just continuously not have sex with your partner. She could also be going thru something bigger than disinterest and it could take a little time to get there together. Obviously she shouldn’t also have to have sex if she doesn’t want to. I just think the first big move is to start a dialogue about it. Maybe you guys could go to a cute cabin for the weekend or something and spend intimate time together that isn’t sexual and reconnect in other ways and which can lead to opening the sex life back up.

  401. If he is happy to help you calm down and your happy sucking his dick you two have fun and don’t fret he’s not going to think less of you because sucking his dick helps you too

  402. I mean rape by spouse wasn’t illegal till the 80s-90s, I don’t know when stealthing will be illegal in the US.

  403. I mean rape by spouse wasn’t illegal till the 80s-90s, I don’t know when stealthing will be illegal in the US.

  404. Im sure it’s a different thing all together with shrooms! We recently found some edibles and also have some shrooms in them, so a little bit of both, and we will be trying that at some point as well! I haven’t done anything other than cannabis before, but my husband has, and with my reaction to the regular edible he is sure it’ll be even better. Haha And thanks!

  405. Well women can have sex with who ever they want but I (or any man) dont owe women with high body counts a relationship. I only go for younger women (18-22) who are slim/petite with a low or no body count who will also give me a family. Even in my 30s once I am sucessfull and making better money I'll only want a younger woman

  406. Are you just sexually attracted to this guy or actually forming feelings for him? Different stuff here. But just be forward with him, no mind tricks or beating around the bush. That might give him the wrong idea.

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