You can voice your expectations unapologetically (“build emotional and intellectual connection as well as have romance and passion”) and wait for men to meet it, if they don’t, move on. There’s someone who meets our criteria for everyone, just takes a lot of effort to find that person.
Must be nice. Half the time she can’t even get me to cum.
That’s not a bad thing .. will make whatever you do together that more gnarly
I agree. Feeling like you “have to be/act/wear X” to be in a relationship is essentially feeling guilty for who you are which is incredibly toxic.
You can voice your expectations unapologetically (“build emotional and intellectual connection as well as have romance and passion”) and wait for men to meet it, if they don’t, move on. There’s someone who meets our criteria for everyone, just takes a lot of effort to find that person.
Good luck! It can still be a loving marriage for sure.