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Make it all about her not about you getting off cuz you you get her there you get your trust
Pro tip – whenever someone says that all or no people ar any given way, they are almost certainly wrong.
I think it’s honestly because when women sleep over, and if an argument occurs and cops are called, the man will be moved out and put in jail overnight in most cases cause his presence can harm a women. Yes even if the women started it, cause he’s a threat of violence. I forgot what the law is called, but there’s some laws like that or the precedent has been set in many countries. But, if he doesn’t want you to sleep over I kinda understand. I know I might get down voted but he kinda decides if he wants you to stay at his place. I totally understand, cause sleeping over is not considered cohabitation, which is when a women can sue for divorce with out being actually married, but it can lead to cohabitation which puts him at risk. Disclaimer: don’t use this to manipulate guys. That’s just horrible.
wait til people find out that its WOMEN being the ones who demand no condoms in casual sex really tells you who actually has casual sex or not
Is not, there´s a lot of men that use condoms when have sex. Don't be put off by a few fools.
There may be thyroid issues in play. Might wanna think about seeing an endocrinologist. Not medical advice, but my ex-wife went thru some of the same shit as you.
Time for you to find a man that truly appreciates you and one with a similar sex drive.
OK, you need to pace yourself, Use positions that are less sensitive for you. I can usually pound her for a few minutes depending on how she is responding. If she is spasming I get super tempted to cum because she is so hot in that moment to me. I will slow down my rhythm if I want to extend the session or switch positions which basically gives me a moment to regroup. It's also a great opportunity to try edging with her. Remember the 1st time you are more sensitive, so masturbating beforehand can help. Missionary is not really overly stimulating for me so that is a good position for long sessions. Doggy at times makes me cum in minutes so when I am ready to finish I will switch to that frequently.
If this guy is even close to your age just stay away. First of all, what he said is stupid. Second, he may he “experienced” because he has been with 16+ people but that doesn't mean he's any good or knows what he's doing (see my first point).
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You can only get a STD if the other person has it. So if your partner is STD free you won't receive any.
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Huh that makes so much sense. I don’t often come during sex so I’m usually wide awake afterwards but last time I had multiple blended orgasms during it and I was absolutely spent afterwards and nearly fell asleep in my guy’s arms even though it was morning, we’d just slept for 8 hours and all I mostly did was just sit back and enjoy it so I wasn’t even being physically very active. I also masturbate almost every night to fall asleep… I thought I just did it because it puts me on a good relaxed mood but I never knew about oxytocin causing sleepiness! One of my favourite ways to masturbate for sleep is actually an orgasm through just bile stimulation because I find that I just get immediate good feels without having to get the blood flowing in my vulva, and I’m always super sleepy and calm afterwards.
Honestly, needing him to shave and use an enema might be enough to deter him from the idea entirely, although I fully understand that wasn't the goal of your suggestion, and again, I don't want to “trick” him into not wanting to do it. I do think there's some element of not wanting to be dominant, although I enjoy that dynamic in other scenarios. I think at this exact moment I'm also feeling a little shocked, because in our whole relationship, I think I've only fingered him twice, and the most recent time was many months ago, and now he's just out of nowhere told me he's tried fingering himself while masturbating and wants to try a strap on even if he's not at that point yet (I think the latter point is another reason I'm quite freaked out by it all- I am NOT willing to tear him open and hurt him, he would need to be completely prepared for me to even think about that, but when he told me, he was so fired up he told me he didn't care if it would hurt) So I think the zero to sixty aspect is also freaking me out.
You can work through cheating if both parties are committed to the relationship and putting in the time and work to rebuild trust. It's your call though your gf will be in your life for the rest of it since you two have a kid together. It's not like a situation where you can completely cut her out of your life.
I like to switch it up all the time, play with her boobs, caress her body, hold her hands down, grab her neck, her legs, etc.
Can sex alter pH? Yes. Is it permanent? No. He’s right that you will probably taste different though. All vaginas are different and they don’t all have the same taste. Hormone levels, diet, etc. can all affect the taste. Do I think you should let him taste it? No. If you have a hard time trusting men, going for someone who is clearly a fuck boy isn’t going to make trusting men easier for you. I remember when I was a virgin in high school and I had a guy pursuing me heavily. So much so that I figured he wouldn’t have time to be flirting with anyone else, but the truth was he was talking to multiple girls at once. All the fuck boys do that. They just want sex, not you personally. Anyway, he only managed to convince me to send him a topless photo, luckily. Because right after that he started dating another girl that I had no idea he was even talking to. Always went for girls who were virgins and did not want to sleep with him instead of girls who actually wanted to fuck him. Worst decision ever. And it sounds like he’s playing the same games with you “I’m not interested because you won’t fuck me”, “you’d like it, I’ll make it worth your while”, he’s manipulating you. Wait for a guy you trust! It’ll be worth it.
According to this very detailed study, only 52% of vulvas are symmetrical. You're fine. https://www.scribd.com/document/474097628/Classification-of-the-anatomical-variation-in-female-external-genitalia
Another thing iI'ev heard is that you might want to try to say to yourself: I can under no circumstance orgasm, make that your goal. It will take the pressure off of it and might get you to let go and enjoy more.
tHaT aGe GaP. She’s trying to manipulate you!!!!!
Yes, use a vibrator, it’s the easiest way. Then u will know what you are aiming for feeling wise. Took me a long time when I was ur age to finally have my first organs with someone. Just relax and enjoy the feelings. No pressure at all. If it happens great, if not, you can try again next time ?
Everyone on Reddit loves to be all “dump his ass!” Like, there couldn’t possibly be any other value to someone’s relationship, in the face of the issue they’re seeking advice on. However in this case… I am really sorry you’ve been put through this.♥️ Are YOU even attracted to someone who’s not that into you? I promise someone wants to have real sex with you. And, they won’t need auxiliary stimulation. You’re totally enough!
Could you try the mojo upgrade online quiz? See if you guys have any kinks in common?
You could ask her if she wants sex You could reach around and give her breasts a bit of a squeeze You could reach around the front and play with her genitals (If she's into it), you could get a little rough and flip her on her front or back and start getting frisky You could give her a back massage You could talk about her day. If this is one of her love languages she might be more responsive to sex after she's felt you've listened and been attentive.
“Moisturizing?”
I've asked him about past stuff I've done/we've tried and the answers are usually vague. Which tbf he's a little awkward in general lol
Wrong. Teenager. Never told you to have sex with old men. Yet, your young brain saw it as such.
Ok, did a doctor tell you it’s fucking with your bp and you still did it? Did your wife tell you to stop spending 50/day at Starbucks and you ignored her? Did you miss your sons baseball game or fail your exam bc you were too ducked up on coffee? I know how badly you want to be right here, but I’m telling you as a professional, and a person in recovery that OP is likely addicted to porn.
Anyone else want an update on how this event goes? I'm sitting here with popcorn ?
Hand massage his balls while you have his cock in your mouth. Then play with the surface of his butthole. Light pressure only and don’t use fingertips try like the flat part of your thumb
Enjoy it. Just make sure the people seeing you actually want to see you or it can get a bit legally messy.
Lick it then stick it is the motto
Sounds like he cheated. If this is a deal breaker then no biggie just leave him there are tons of other dudes out there if you can get over it and don’t feel like it’s worth ending your relationship then try to work it out but denial won’t help just honest acceptance or tell him it’s over and focus your time and energy else where
Put some coconut oil on your hands. Stroking the shaft feels much nicer w lube. It’s also edible
If he doesn't care about meeting your needs and talking it out is not an option you may be better off moving on.
Just like EVERY question like this that's EVER been asked. The only answer is it depends. Nothing is a turn on or turn off for everyone. Your guy has his own preferences. Asking us what he likes is a waste of your time. We're not him. He knows. We don't. I'm sorry you're in a difficult situation, but nobody here can answer your question. We're not your husband.
Just because we aren’t together and I didn’t wanna give relationship vibes I guess? Idk it was really random tbh
you can be intimate & sexy without penetration. you can make out, oral, toys w him, etc
We are all learning or we are not alive. Have fun. And be safe.
Not sure I would be able to stand back and let it happen but you're right, she's 19 and should be making her own decisions. The best thing you can do is give her the confidence to not allow herself to be manipulated and abused. If she is allowing him to pay all the bills she may be doing some of that herself.
Thank you very much. Solid answer and much appreciated.
“oh, your so tight . . . and now you're so wet . . . oh wait, not so tight anymore”. I don't know the answer, but looking at one of those cutaway side views of the female anatomy (search engine > Images), the back of the bladder is behind the front side of the vagina just before you reach the cervix.
Thanks. I hope he changes his outlook one day
Well without it you're at orgasm 1.0. High on the weed you get orgasm 3.5 to 5.9.
Yes they do Porn is not realistic and, as someone else mentioned, is about what makes for good viewing angles. They are actors selling a fantasy. Most of the more enjoyable positions are actually really tricky if not impossible to film in a satisfying way. But also there are plenty of porn videos where boobs are played with if not the primary focus, it may just be a sample bias because what you've found/enjoyed doesn't typically focus on them.
I usually wear boxers but have a few pairs of boxer briefs. My gf likes seeing me in the boxer briefs sometimes because it makes my dick look good according to her, think of it like men's lingerie, it's all about showing off for her!
Too much what?! Yeah, there's your answer lol.
Delayed orgasms and challenges maintaining an erection definitely sound like a combination side effect of meds and anxiety. Both of those mess with arousal. I've been in similar situations, although thankfully never ongoing. I'd highly recommend just setting it aside for now (figuratively speaking), and focusing on building your self-confidence in general. Not only will it help with future encounters, but it'll make your next opportunity happen sooner. When you do find your next partner, let them know about your past before you two are at the getting naked stage. I'd recommend bringing it up when you're discussing your respective health, safety, and consent considerations. Let them know that you may need more time, attention and patience, and that you might not have sex on the first attempt. Then, when you are at the naked stage, don't have PIV sex or your orgasm as a goal of the session. Have it as an option, but make the goal giving your partner an orgasm, and really tuning in to your arousal. If your partner is open to it, let them try out some different things that give you pleasure but don't require an erection. Most importantly, take the pressure off yourself to 'perform', and set up expectations accordingly.
And if you’re hitting cervix in other positions, that may be why she only likes missionary because that may be hurting her. It may also be why she wants quickies. Get her a bullet vibrator for her clit for doggy style and other positions. It’s a game changer. I mean is she cumming? If not, hell I wouldn’t want to have sex all the time either.
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That’s actually worse, then. You should know how dismissive it sounds. Engage with people the way you’d want to be addressed and life will go a lot better for everyone. The original issue was created by you saying “there’s more important things than sex” and being rightly corrected that, without sex, a lot of relationships fall apart. We have got to stop, as a society, minimizing and shit-talking sex as a requirement for a healthy relationship. There are so many people who remain in god awful situations and are scared to leave because of how it will make them look to their families or friends. Saying stuff like “there’s way more important long term things” is simply unhelpful to a person who needs a sexual connection with their spouse for ANY of those other “important things” to happen.
If you dont do it someday somebody will. Tell her too find a porn scene as reference and take it from there. Safest option. Imagine you go in full of leather with whips n chains and all she wanted was a spank in the ass while pulling her hair. Reference is the safest option. Get into the alpha role even if you aren’t. If you cant look for porn together. Tie her up blindfold her and use toys on her. That will do + dirty talk.
I'm so glad I'm single. I don't have to do this anymore. Tbh you need to use lube and use fingers before to get it to loosen up.
Sharp face looks hot, could be achieved just by using eyeliner. Wide hips and V necks are like eye candy. That's it think.
You are a grower, not a shower. My hubby is the same and I don't see any problems with it.
I have never thought about my own desires. I have always just initiated and let the moments flow. I have no hangups whatsoever and am open to whatever the partner desires. Has worked successfully for me over many years.
When grown adult men date teenage girls, they tend to be creeps. Ditch him.
First time I got spitroasted, I literally came within 2 mins… I spent 2 year's training with dildos. Getting stuffed with 2 cocks, makes my legs trembling. Even to this day. Point is, you were part of it. Unless she has fantasies of fucking bulls while you being cucked, then you've probably had a BIGpart too. Be happy for her and let her fuck more guys. your sex life will thank you for it.
We have done it a bunch in the past, but know we combine it with shower sex so things are on auto-clean.
Be happy, you found what really excites her ???:snoo::table_flip::heart_eyes:
She hits me up for sex more than I do. She asked for unprotected sex first, not I. She enjoys sex as much as I do. I'm not the only one at fault here. You're an idiot.
She hits me up for sex more than I do. She asked for unprotected sex first, not I. She enjoys sex as much as I do. I'm not the only one at fault here. You're an idiot.
Bro needs to be taught. Teach his ass
Yeah just be sexy about it, after round one be like “so when can I get him in me again? What can I do to help speed up that process, because I want him now, but I’m patient “ super sexy and yeah, because honestly it varies a lot, I can go sometimes 2-3 rounds back to back, sometimes need 5 minutes maybe ten, sometimes my little guy down there just needs a breather for an hour. But being turned on again whether that be through making out, touching, receiving or giving oral, even when hes flaccid speeds up the process dramatically
I think there must be some attraction, because otherwise you wouldn't be hooking up with the person to begin with.
There are genetics stuff, but yes the more precum the more aroused you are, idk why that other person said something different
The more foreplay I do, the more horny I get, and then I come even faster. I know I’m sounding dumb but at least I’m trying to improve ?
Okay thank you I appreciate it! 🙂
Women respond very well to sights and sounds of other women being aroused. Women are much more likely to genuinely aroused in lesbian porn than in straight porn. I'm as guy but this is one of the primary reasons I prefer lesbian porn myself.
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You are 17. You don’t need this shit. Find a new girlfriend. One that can make you bigger.
You are 17. You don’t need this shit. Find a new girlfriend. One that can make you bigger.
It might have been because it was my first time idk
The fact that ur sleeping with someone you aren’t physically attracted to is kinda desperate. And if she knew that. She would be so hurt. Be better than that
Absolutely
I don't wear them during sex (in bed at least), but my girlfriend does occasionally and I don't mind. Can't help it, since she tends to have lower blood pressure, which means that she tends to have colder feet and hands. ?
I'm the same way with my stomach always hurting after I swallow. I just decided im only going to swallow if I'm good with having stomach pain later on.
lucky bf, no such luck here…
There's more. The researcher compared what the subjects reported they felt to their genital reactions. The lesbians might report that a pic of horny men did nothing for them. But the measuring device in their vagina told a different story.
I didn't masturbate in the correct position like many do. I just rubbed my meat on my pillow for resting legs. I'm thankful that you replied. Which oil should I use? There should be a problem if oil goes into the dick?
r/phimosis can give you some insight on how you might help your foreskin
Banned in 3…2….1…..
oral on a vulva
If the pill is taken correctly, it's a very effective method of contraception. If you're still scared, you can add condoms or pulling out. Didn't your doctor explain you how the pill works?
Yep, sure
She needs to get to know and feel comfortable with her own body. She should read, “Come as you are.” By Emily Nagoski, good for you to read as well. As for the dryness, get lube, try different ones. The days when lube was regarded as something for old people are long gone. There are amazing lubes that can spice things up a bit, flavoured ones, edible ones, massage ones. Take it slow with her. Don't worry about only being able to do missionary. Once she's comfortable, you will learn new positions that she can do. Besides, missionary is easily the most intimate position.
I’ve done that and we have had sex but it doesn’t go back to being consistent if that makes sense
Call him and pretend like you're being fucked by someone else Point out other men that you find attractive and play it up w/ dirty talk Be playful!
Ask him to try letting you peg him, then see if he changes his mind.
You were a couple that had sex on a regular basis. You knew she was drunk but not the extent of how drunk. Yuu were doing things you did normally, and when you noticed it was NOT what you thought, you stopped. You are fine. If this worries you, in the future, when you are in a relationship, you can ask your partner how they feel about drunk sex. And go from there.
How are you at picking her up and carrying her? Is she a fan of getting split?
Thanks, he's got some Chlamydia kits. Do you know how long it takes to get results back from a full STI test?
I'm in your same age, so I would say that changing your behaviour rapidly is very normal for all of us.
You should totally watch it. It’s a good show!
Tell him you want a three way with a dude first lol
It is just something that I have wondered about. It has nothing to do with my ex or my current partner or my sex life. Just that my ex was the most prominent woman in my life that was like this, she just served as my example. This is simply just something that perplexed and confused me.
This sub leans woman-based and they seem to hate anything porn or porn-adjacent here
Don't worry too much about it, my husband is so white (also ginger) that he's almost translucent and I absolutely adore him. He's like a gorgeous vampire lol The right woman isn't going to care how pale you are 🙂
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I would think that's awesome. Means y'all have a very comfortable relationship. NBD.
Or if you have a bathtub, that would also be an option
Barring some type of medical condition or injury loose vagina is for the most part a myth. That gets perpetuated by uneducated guys. The reality is that a lot of guys aren't as large as they think that they are. Compounded with the fact that they don't understand that when a woman gets properly aroused a woman's reproductive system under normal circumstances can adapt to things significantly larger than a 3-5 inch penis. And that is why average sized men will have sex with well lubricated women and then say things like “girl you loose”. Leaning on the other unrealistic situations they see in p*** where you have unrealisticly large men actually inflicting pain with their size.
Dang, you are very knowledgeable and informative. Never had the process described well. Awesome reply!
do what you want and what u would like enjoy.
If you really want to keep things to yourself, don’t “forget” to close the pages. If she already feels unsure about herself you lying won’t get you anywhere
Thanks so much. I do plan to be more consistent with it and learn more about my body for myself!
Why wouldn’t you include the full run down of why she left and didn’t speak for 2 days? Also, why would you not mention the thing about the porn on your laptop? I’m not saying you went out of your way to lie. But I am saying that your initial post should have included all the things you talked about in comments. It sounds like there had to have been something she told you she didn’t like that she felt you kept doing. I mean you’ve known her for years and it doesn’t sound like you observed this behavior before hand. Otherwise I can’t imagine you’d start dating her. One paper cut is easy to deal with but a million paper cuts will break anybody. I’m also not saying she’s in the right to treat you this way either. How she handled things is not ok and definitely not a sign of an emotionally intelligent adult.
I never thought it would be possible, but we just fall deeper in love the longer we're together. She's away on business trips 2 or 3 times a year for 2 weeks, and we both lose our minds. We just spoke about that idea, and how it's so rare and beautiful to have that person that's perfect for you. I'm glad to hear that from someone else as well. I'm 32, she's 28, we just got engaged recently. I lasted a lot longer when we initially started dating, and it's obviously a beautiful thing to be so beguiled by her, but you know, it would be nice to last a bit longer, haha. I'll definitely give some of the suggestions a shot, but it's less about my side, and more just figuring out how I can give her more. Strangely enough, she prefers the pounding, grinding doesn't do much for her, so that's the goal I'm trying to achieve, more or less. I'm absolutely a person that enjoys giving pleasure more than I enjoy receiving, so I always make sure that she climaxes before I do my thing. I'd love to do multiple rounds, but she isn't on the pill, so it's a bit too much of a risk, and if pounding is involved, the risk of a condom tearing wouldn't be a welcome situation. Thanks so much for your in-depth comments, I appreciate the advice and kind words 🙂
Don't worry if he thinks you're interested. If he's interested he'll keep trying.
Please delete. This is inappropriate
Are you right to think his reasoning for it is silly/not valid, sure! And you can speak with him about trying to do it. He has his right to double down & stay firm to not do it even if the logic/reasoning might be questionable. You don’t have the right to tell him to get over it & just do it. Think if the roles were reversed or you read one of the other posts where a woman doesn’t want to give their partner a blowjob. At the end of the day if he stands firm on it then you’ll have to consider if you can stay with them without it or if you’ll need to move on.
I (65m) was like that when I was younger. It seems kinda homophobic, but I think it's just not being attracted to men and being very attracted to women. It's instinctual really. A few partners pointed out how silly I was being. I got over it over time, including my aversion to my own cum. For that I had to force myself to taste and swallow it. It just wasn't that bad, although it didn't do anything for me, but it sure opened up possibilities when I wasn't worried about that anymore. Anyway OP, he probably can't help it. It just seems gross to him. Maybe if you point out how limiting it is, especially in terms of you not getting eaten out and how dissatisfying that is for you, maybe he can get over it bit by bit.
I'm friends with a few of my hook ups. I don't really see any reason not to be, if it works that way.
Yea. I didn’t do anything wrong. We broke up for other reasons later.
It's not a dumb question. The reason why, despite how well you clean yourself, more cum comes out is because (to my knowledge) there is no way other than sitting on the loo and hoping it drips out while you're having a pee (which is a good idea after sex anyway because it reduces UTI's). I tried kegels as well but it didn't really help. Using a sanitary towel can help a little if his cum isn't too thick.
Adding to this from experience. Had the Nexplanon implant and got pregnant within two weeks of it being removed.
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She is still young and not every girl is ready then. Talk to her communication and be direct is important especially sexually with your partner. The awkwardness will go away as you talk more. Im 29, and my friends dont even talk to their girls about sexual stuff lol. I like being direct and just see what you can do to make her more comfortable etc
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Spread your legs for him, it should be over in 30 seconds or so, he'll have fun don't worry.
I think if I gave a dude a handjob I might be kind of traumatized too
Right, you’re immediately turned off when you see them. That’s cool, that’s fine. Not the case for him though. He didn’t have anything against it until she actually told him they were fake. He didn’t know.
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She may not be actively religious but doesn’t mean her parents didn’t jam certain beliefs down her throat growing up. It happened to me and I felt guilty when I did my first sex stuff but I wouldn’t have said I was religious
Some females are not into it. I have met a few in the past. It may be that they don't like the feeling, may have some insecurities about their vagina, some do not like their smell all over your face. Best way to know is have a conversation about it. One that is kind and non offensive. Ask “I get so turned on going down on you. It is so amazing. Why don't you like it?”
Repetitive topic.
Lol you’re an idiot.
I think it’s rather complicated, it’s got a lot to do with how people see their partner, and a lot of people (particularly guys) are judged heavily to be able to get sex, so they see it is as especially gratifying when they are able to, so that leads to them feeling wrong about someone who’s been easy, so they judge those that are easy and that creates a sort of vicious circle I think. My only personal experience with caring about a partners history was when I dated a girl and she tried to give a strong impression that she was changed or wasn’t accepting her sexuality, and so I had these strong feelings that she wasn’t being herself and that she was defined by these experiences and sort of used herself up (as if she had her fun, didn’t own it and I wasn’t in to that.) It led me to this weird interest in trying to get her to be that person again-as someone who hadn’t been shaped by other people, as I very much like to be with a partner who feels special about things. Which is weird because I’ve felt much more comfortable seeing girls who have slept around a lot more but they own it, like I do. So I believe that body count has got a lot more to do with how people become defined by their experiences that they bring into new relationships, more than it has to do with different values of sex. The best thing for people to do is understand that it’s natural to have sex and if they want to fuck someone and they’re being smart(knowing that it kind of matters who you fuck) you shouldn’t hold yourself back because of what some judgmental people might think. Own it and take responsibility for it.
Best you could do is use silicone lube heavily and stick it in before the lube rinses off, then with mostly internal thrusting you maybe could make it last. However I agree about not wanting pool water up in it vagina.
You described a narcissist. Self-centered. You need to figure yourself out and what you really need in the long run or keep chasing the super built and attractive ones. He cares less about you. He made that obvious. Good luck on your life journey. Then trying to find a good guy, you gonna tell him about this 3some. I bet he wigs out and leaves. Be smart.
Seriously, trust your gut. If you’re feeling uncomfortable about his response, your body is telling you something.
Sexuality isn’t always as straightforward as you may think. Yes you might just be finding it to be something different, but you also might just be exploring a part of you. I would say that “asking LGBTQ friends” is not a real rock solid plan for exploring this side of you. Only you can ultimately determine that. You might actually be attracted to a woman’s body, but be ok with trans women. So many people out there might say “I’m not gay, straight, bi, or whatever, but given the right partner might change their mind. Don’t be afraid to explore yourself and best of luck to ya’.
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do y’all squeeze the air out of the tip while you’re putting the condom on?
I love a long flat wet widened tongue lapping from bottom to top of my vulva.. delish Also.. feeling like the person wants to be down there is a winner
Thank you. These sound like alot of fun!
How about couples therapy or a sex therapist?
Dude yea def depends on where I’m at in my cycle! Like last time I was not having as much fun as normal, and coincidentally im due for my period next week too lol.
She's not too loose. That's how women's bodies work. When a woman is aroused, her vaginal muscles relax. If you can't feel anything, have you considered that you're the one that might have an issue? Maybe you're desensitized due to a too tight grip during masturbation?
people can’t expect penises to taste like dessert, cum is going to taste bad either way. i guess depending on your diet the taste CAN be improved in terms of bitterness, but cum is not going to taste good ?
Yes we can.
Cardio and diet. Seriously on the diet. Self-inflicted pain. Nothing crazy like leaving marks or bleeding/bruising, just pushing a fingernail into another finger or putting skin in my teeth and adding pressure. And then focusing attention on that pain signal. Getting right to the edge, then pulling out and eating her out while I cum. Eat until I'm reset, and then I'm usually good to go for a while. Finding a position that can continue post-orgasm. It might be slow-going for a while, but if I'm not huffing and puffing to pump and pump and pump then it's possible to stay hard enough to not need a serious break. Anytime she can find a way to get me hard after I've gone soft, I will last a good while. Blowing, dirty talk, taking a shower togther – it can vary but the results are worth it. It's not often talked about, but I find certain positions to be absolutely detrimental to my ability to last. If I'm working too hard, my body wants to finish so it can be done, and then it's going to redirect all that blood to feed oxygen to my deprived body. If it's too stimulating to the head, then I'm probably not going to last long. And lastly, since it's the only one women can really help with, teasing, foreplay, and the like is not helping my endurance at all. This cannot be stressed enough. I'm an adult male who takes care of himself and has regular sex with a long-term partner of 15+ years, and I can still last less than 15 seconds inside her if I use up all my 'energy' before penetration. So if you want a guy to last, then get yourself wet before hand, drop the undies, and jump him and get him inside you as quickly as possible.
I'm not reading your essay but misandry is not a thing. We're living in a misogynistic society so a woman being angry about that is a perfectly rational response but thanks for stalking and trying to make men (who run society) look like victims. Read the title. The should govern your approach. It's a kink. This is a sex forum. My empathy lies with OP not her terrible partner. Yes being a male platform empathy does always generally go to the male partner no matter how terrible his behaviour is. Your empathy should lie with OP who is in a vulnerable state.
It varies from person to person from day to day. There is no set time.
Thanks for the clarification, including 'strangle' vs 'choke'. I read the post again, and you are referring breath play as engaged in by other people. Being choked makes one dizzy, and one can get high from how the body recovers.
There's way too much involved to write here but i follow the regimen in the da Costa pompoir book. I got mine on Kindle.
A naked woman is one thing, but a good fuck is entirely different
So very true to all of those things and why I mentioned that initial lie of his age. He was honest after I came to his house the first time. He said that he was nervous i'd urn him down immediately. Which one my end, I probably would have. Communication is very open with all potential partners. Currently I am getting to know a couple for the past few months. I've been getting to know this one for almost a year now before this came up. Being thorough and upfront is very important to me. They all know how I am & have cut past ones off due to not full comfortability in my polyamorous agreements. There is safe sex. I have BC and wear condoms every time. Although I've been abstinent since December I'm really getting to know people. The age gap is a hard one for me. I've always been with older men most of the time. The experience levels are definitely a thing and it can be a daunting task to teach someone per say as I've always been the one to be taught. One of my past Dom's thought that it would be a good learning tool to switch roles as I am naturally a switch and have only done the switching part with my Dom's. I am into All kinds of kinks. This one has peaked my interest just never been open enough to explore it with anyone. As I've said I'm a switch, enjoy being worshipped, I love being sub to certain people. Naturally I'm Dominate in my work/normal life as I have to be to be a carpenter in construction. It's a deeper emotional bond with him and I didn't realize how much I'd enjoy the deep level of intimacy and emotional connection from this specific dynamic. I have been involved in dungeons previously and apart of orgies. I definitely have a lot of experience and don't think that intimidates him. I'm very vocal about my opinions & how I want to be treated. Thank you for your time in writing and reading this. I will check out those other forums and see where it takes me.
But is the anything about doggy style sex for you that makes it better than normal?
Try silicone lube. Sometimes we have to reapply a few times for a long session, you do what you gotta do!
Why is this completely unsurprising haha
How does foreplay work for you?
Masterbate ahead of time like hour or two.
Note that they were specifically betrayed and worried of him CHEATING, not masturbating
Thats like saying i dont want any of this free chocolate right here because i i perfer a different brand. Yeah. I do that. Not all chocolate is equally good. Same goes with relationships.
visual. it's sort of an act of 'marking' you with him. think of when someone goes down on you and how you might feel to see their face covered with your cum or to see them licking their lips. or how people feel when they get hickeys, they want to see that youre theirs. its not like demeaning but instead prideful
I really love him He's understanding of so much, he's gorgeous, he's sweet, has a sense of humour, it's just exhausting having to deal with the bad moments
If it’s a girl finger, then no.
As a woman, yeah I’d probably find that a bit iffy. I get your sentiment, but still, I think most women would find it weird.
Got it! Imma just keep it at toiletries
Exactly my thoughts. Also, that describes basically all popular female pornstars. It is the no1 thing that gets men going.
Or not at all
Conservative Christian culture where sex is viewed as sinful and not talked about. Sex Ed=abstinence only. Some even go so far as to not even kiss until the marriage ceremony.
This is the reason. This is not foreplay.
This is the reason. This is not foreplay.
This is the reason. This is not foreplay.
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Yeah no he would be an ex after that. That is assault. He didn’t have your consent. That is a deal breaker. No questions asked. I would be done.
Sounds like you've put a bunch of work into the problem on your end, and talked to her about it. She has to decide if she's willing to work on it. You have to decide if it is a deal-breaker for you if she doesn't work on it. It's probably worth asking her, straight-up, if she's willing to work on getting past her unjustified and irrational disgust for giving you pleasure. If she isn't, you have your decision to make.
Not a problem! Whilst there is definitely a lot more maledom kink representation out there (both on the internet and in real life), femdom is a bigger thing than you might realise! Also a small thought that popped into my head from reading your post – if pinning him down & the more physical side of domination is something that really appeals to you, I would recommend looking into primal play a bit. Unfortunately it feels like there's a lack of resources on the subject, but it could be ideal for you if that is something you really enjoy.
i hate that it takes long and the idea of him cumming in my mouth or almost doing it sounds sounds so gross and makes me wanna puke. i’ve swallowed before and i almost gagged it was so disgusting. not just the taste but the feeling of it in my mouth too. and he doesn’t need to cum in my mouth, he doesn’t find it necessary since we’re going to fuck anyway and that’s normally the only time i do it.
I didn't notice i was being downvoted. If I was to guess, it could be that some are reading that last tip as in some way blaming her for the problem (which I'm not, it's his responsibility to Use His Words), or are perhaps just incredulous that begging a guy for his cum could ever be a turn-off? Could be wrong about all of that, tho. It's my guess because everything before that seems pretty uncontroversial.
Presumably the two things happened in the reverse order.
God I wish I knew? when I ride I usually have a guy hold them, or if your hands are on his chest, squeeze the together with your arms….helps support slightly
Problem is that we meet in the university campus so there is no way to watch something, and chilling would be just sitting down somewhere
In my earlier years sex last on average 5min-45 min since 2019. About 2-3 min. Last year I did try celibacy for few months.. thought I lacked self love
Free use means one or both partners get to initiate sex at random times. Consensually of course. Having sex immediately after arriving home is a common free use scenario. Dominance is just regular BDSM element. I didn’t say no, I would definitely say consensual as I ended up giving in Just to be sure, do you think he would have respected if you said no? Make sure you have safe word of some kind if you're going to be doing stuff like that. Have fun.
her parents said they would kill me if she gets pregnant. Instead of threatening you (a 15 year old) her parents should have either put her on birth control or taught her why condoms are important. This is her mistake as much as yours. She's probably not pregnant, but don't ever do something like that again or she very likely will be.
Yeah. Like the guys have said. Just don't feel bad, or take any blame. We are all made differently. My suggestion, and only a suggestion, explore kinks and fetishes and things. Not saying act on em, but the thoughts might help you in a way. My (wierd) thing, I usually go for hours, and rarely get off. I learned either to fantasize, get kinky, or just take satisfaction in getting whomever I am with off a few times. We are human, we are not perfect, but we can use other methods to meet our goals. We adapt to the situation.
She's in the direction of a pillow princess. The quality of your life would be so much better with a partner who wants sex all the time, wants long sessions, is highly verbal during sex, who's expressive in general, who's eager. It's not just about the sex, it's about a personality that's warm, spontaneous, eager, and talkative. Although the quest to find this woman could be arduous, the payoff would be so high. It's worth the try.
Not really on topic here. But fun enough that I let it say anyway.
Maybe you could try sex toys or something. I have a feeling that having it will help you out a little bit.
Cock extension more girth and length! Also sod real feel dildos and a magic wand
don’t be with someone who doesn’t eat pussy…it is that simple
Prolactin is responsible for the refractory period. Some people say vitamin B6 helps but too much can cause numbness. I’d be looking at exercise and THC to help instead
quitting drinking This is the correct life advice in literally all circumstances.
One of the most important components to enjoying sex fully is learning to take yes for an answer.
Oh I am sorry. I didn’t see that in the rule. My apologies.
Really great advice here! Please keep in mind, that the enthusiasm for oral (even if you don’t enjoy it) but you still practice oral, never tell him you don’t like doing it. That will always be in the back of his mind and won’t enjoy the act as much because he knows you don’t enjoy it.
I’m so sorry babe, this is not good. Please call the police on him or something—that is a crime. Do a quick shelter search on your phone. Love is out there, but it’s not with your boyfriend.
She said it was annoying only because she didn't want to have to clean up again. Problem solved.
My last girlfriend had an issue like that. The thing i Said to her is if were are to the point that we are having sex it means without a doubt i like her body. But the thing is, are you worried is not attracted to you during it or you dont find yourself good during it?
thanks
Good old finger I’m the butthole. Ask first though.
I meant the belly button. It does smell like shit from the inside even if you bath. Belly button and nearby area (naval) is quite stimulating so I thought maybe the OP played around with the naval (inside belly button more specifically); Which made the finger smell.
This person wants to have sex with you and is enthusiastic about things they want to try with you. I'd say that's evidence enough that they find you hot and attractive. Being on top won't change that. Please take into consideration that men are mostly attracted to enthusiasm so I really hope you learn to see yourself as beautiful a person as the people around you do. Good luck! Enjoy!
Look I want to stress that I agree with you. She shouldn't be made to do something she doesn't want to do and OP should accept that as the cost of admission to having her as a wife and a sexual partner. Her say “alright I'll do it” only to turn around and say “God you're so gross why would you make me do that” is also a problem. Admittedly I'm not in their conversations so I don't know how it goes, but if he's pressuring her that's one problem and if she's a willing participant but then turning around and shaming the OP then it's a different problem.
Look I want to stress that I agree with you. She shouldn't be made to do something she doesn't want to do and OP should accept that as the cost of admission to having her as a wife and a sexual partner. Her say “alright I'll do it” only to turn around and say “God you're so gross why would you make me do that” is also a problem. Admittedly I'm not in their conversations so I don't know how it goes, but if he's pressuring her that's one problem and if she's a willing participant but then turning around and shaming the OP then it's a different problem.
thin stick Yeah. But you are his thin stick. His absolute favourite thin stick, in fact. Don't forget that. I am doing that bra thing already See. It sounds like you have figured out a thing or two already. glad we have the same idea Well, as far as I am concerned, your favourite dude is going to get laid soon. And he is not even aware yet. Hilarious, isn't it, how these things turn out?
That’s good to hear! Both that it won’t be a really taxing day and that there isn’t a lot of pressure. I think the best thing you can do is take it nice and slow. Plenty of foreplay, talking through it, changing positions if one is too uncomfortable
You can say no. He needs to learn your pattern when it's appropriate to have sex, and you need to teach him when and how you like it. A huge part of that is saying no when it's a no
First, sorry about using the word “sexuality”, I didn't know the specific way it is used here. I probably sounds way more heavy duty here than in real life. I really don't see it as a core part of my personality. Like, I never exchanged more than a few sentences about this. I definitely like to thank that I am interested in them as a person. Talking about our feelings and what we care about (including her talking 😉 ) is one of my favourite things to do in a relationship. And they tell me they feel really connected to me. But maybe that is why I sometimes feel badly about wanting sex? Like I don't want them to feel like I only care about their bodies? Sorry about the apparent manspaining tone :/ Do you mean the tone of the post or what you think I talk to women like?
It does! I had one partner for 20 years and never got a single UTI. But then with my next partner I was getting them over and over. This is what the doctor told me and it really did help. Rinsing off helps a lot. And drinking water helps you pee out the little bit that gets up there. You want to drink a lot so you pee a lot for a few days. Sugar gives the bacteria food so it makes the UTI worse.
It does! I had one partner for 20 years and never got a single UTI. But then with my next partner I was getting them over and over. This is what the doctor told me and it really did help. Rinsing off helps a lot. And drinking water helps you pee out the little bit that gets up there. You want to drink a lot so you pee a lot for a few days. Sugar gives the bacteria food so it makes the UTI worse.
You did the smart thing and the right thing. Sometimes the better option isn’t always the fun option.
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“No.” is a complete sentence.
“Hey check this out. I've been figuring out my sexuality and I'm only interested/attracted to X these days. It's not you I'm just not feeling attraction to anyone of gender.” Simple.
You gave up for lent?
This is crazy
I’m a guy so with that in mind, talking is always the place to start. You feel how you feel and nothing is wrong with it. And he feels how he feels. You both need to talk about what you both want/need and go from there. But from a guys point of view, porn has nothing to do with you. I know many women feel different but for guys it’s a time we use to focus on us because most of the time we are focused on others. I hope that helps.
You could dress like woman or do your makeup or shove things in your butt all day but the moment your interested in men is when you officially become gay or bi.. There are straight CDs and TS women So u cant assume everyones choices make them gay. That's just a logical response, The majority of society would consider a straight pantie boy to be gay regardless of the explanation or anything feminine.
Lots of water,edging and you'll be throwing ropes
Lots of water,edging and you'll be throwing ropes
I have always been fascinated by sexual and kink psychology. Love downloading the latest stuff from scihub. Have never found anything specifically on face / throat fucking (Irrumatio) Am a guy with a pretty big kink for throat fucking. Have always been interested in what partners like about it. Partly because it's just interestingly, partly because it can be hot, but also partly as I am checking it's not a reason that seems unhealthy. One partner when alone would shove an ice popsicle in and out of her throat because she got off on it. The especially liked the cold feeling. So for her in part it was literally a tactile thing. She liked the actual feeling. Another partner was just very fixated on it. It was some of the porn she watched. She was the only partner I have ever had cum during it without additional stimulation, but it only ever happened once. She wasn't so good at expressing exactly what she liked. Though she liked tears so I get the feeling it was a release thing for her similar to as you describe. Another partner just liked it because it got her in to subspace the quickest. She would get insanely relaxed almost immediately in a way no other sex act would. This experience sounds reasonably similar to yours. Another partner I think primarily saw it as a challenge. She liked being really good at it and giving pleasure. All subs / switches, which makes sense. So it can be some combination of at least the following; Likes a challenge / sense of achievement. Release. Actually orgasm inducing. Tactile eg genuinely likes the physical feeling. Enjoys breathplay. Service sub type, if it gets you off I like it because you like it. Finds it very relaxing. Likes CNC type scenarios, rough sex Healthy masochism (by DSM5 standards) Then there are the obvious things like level of trust required and the level of intimacy. However there are also negative reasons; Doesn't actually like it but has poor boundaries Likes throwing up but because of Bulimia (bad idea) Straight up force / abuse / manipulation Unhealthy masochism (by DSM5 standards) One of the most interesting things about kinks for me is how 7 different people can have 7 different reasons for liking a kink that on the surface looks like the same kink, but underneath the experience and reason is really different.
You might be happier with a sugar baby. It's more consistent.
Maybe I am out of line… If there is such a sudden change in her life – going from BDSM style to absolute polar opposite, plus her saying she is broken – I think she has some trauma from that lifestyle. She seems to search for security of your inexperience. Like you can’t hurt her. It’s not a bad thing, but if she was interested in BDSM it means that it’s not very much about your experiences like about that she needs to be (I assume) more submissive – or at least in the set-up of Dom-sub intercourse, but at the same time if it’s the root of her trauma, she really can’t cope… she cannot reach orgasm because vanilla simply doesn’t do it for her but she is affraid of any BDSM methods because of PTSD.
Really goes to what alittlebirdy1 “Both types of people tend to assume that everyone thinks like them, so a lot of misunderstandings happen.” You're thinking of porn as “someone else”. Porn isn't a person and he doesn't see it that way. You're having a hard time understanding it because your brain and his brain don't work the same way. And that's okay, you don't have to feel the same way he does, just understand that his feelings are okay and not a reflection of you.
just break up
Yes no maybe. Depends who your friends are, or the environment you’re in
I’ve thought that but I can feel pain etc so I’m not sure if that makes sense? And like I can feel being touched it’s just no different to like touching my arm for example
Safeword and don't go zero to 100 with a ski mask and props to bury her in the yard. Maybe start with smaller stuff you haven't done before. Also be very careful with choking especially given your relative sizes. You can easily kill someone by accident doing it the wrong way.
Penis size is both genetic and hormonal so.. yes?
NGL – that sounds pretty fucking hot.
Maybe take a shower together and observe how he washes it cause like maybe he doesn’t do a good job and if the smell is still there go to the doctor
He really is a keeper, I would marry him again in a heartbeat! Thank you for sharing your side! And so nice to hear of folks still enjoying a healthy sex life in their 60s!
Truthfully? A nice salad Def something light and fresh
You play with shit, your hands are gonna stink.
No, you twisted their words.
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She may find the element of risk exciting, but if you’re not looking to have kids yet it’s a bit of a dangerous game to play.
I don’t really use condoms, as long as I know that the partner I am sleeping with his clean I don’t really mind… this being said it does not stop you from getting STDs if you know that your partner doesn’t have anything. Condoms are all the same, the cheaper versions do exactly the same trick as the more expensive versions. I would recommend keeping a box close by, or putting some in your bag, so that you remember
With a clean vagina, I could spend a lot of time down there. Since you are so clean, I would be very confident with yourself, and not get in your head. Just tell yourself that it's an honor for someone to get to go down on you.
Such a beautiful life you have, immoral and disgusting, don't waste away your time screwing people
If your body was like the porn he watches, he would stop watching that and watch porn of girls with your slim body type; its what he dosent have that makes it interesting to him. He he watched stuff that has girls that look like you; then id think he was less interested in you.
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Lips that grip are the best. You will find someone somewhere out there who will love your tightness.
Lips that grip are the best. You will find someone somewhere out there who will love your tightness.
Some options are: Not to remove pubic hair. Trim the hair without shaving it, so as not to create a rough edge. Use a different hair-removal method, like waxing.
Arousal affects erection and that in turn affects density of receptors. The same texture can feel different under different conditions of arousal.
It's actually horrifying that it can do this. Insane
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I’m pretty sure he hasn’t had sex or at least good sex, getting a women wet is good since that means she is relaxed and aroused which both are important for good sex… sounds like an asshole that shouldn’t even have sex and spends his day watching porn lol
a kind of antidepressant! often messes with sex drive and/or ability to cum
Masturbation isnt like practice at all imo. It comes no where near the stimulation you get during actual sex
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It will happen in time, you will get less anxious and enjoy it. Just take your time and go slow. Oh and by the way, her going to pee straight after sex is more so she doesn't get a UTI, it won't stop pregnancy, even with just pre cum. She will push out the urine from her urethra, not sperm out of her vagina. Some will come out from gravity but you can't expect it all to come out. Also try out a bigger size condom. There are bigger sizes out there. Or even try an internal condom that she will wear inside her.
Partner comes first 8/10 times , rarely is it an issue some times I would get a “why won’t u come” then she’d bust again. I rarely get in my head it’s more like I’m having fun looking at boobs that I forget about the big picture.
if you know him enough be direct to the point lol. that shit is hot af!
This is crazy. I was going to write this same post this morning. Now I don’t have to. Same boat as you. In 40s, married a long time, but with lots of hang up. For the life of me, I cannot initiate sex. I enjoy with while I’m having it. But panic at the thought of initiating it. Part of the problem is she’s a semi-starfish and only interested in vanilla sex. I’m the opposite. I want more deviant stuff (although most on this subreddit wouldn’t consider it deviant at all). She’s expressed little interest in experimenting, so I figure why bother? Would rather just enjoy my book and push sex out of my mind entirely. Makes me feel asexual at times. I’m not denying her sex, but rather just giving up and not initiating. I just freeze when having the thoughts about initiating and not having sex at all seems like the better option.
wash it with salt+water.No other chemical should be used there. I think,the rubber particles from condom are causing problem.
That's interesting. You know I never said she was to blame right? Are you just saying that to win a point? Also, I concede that I may have misunderstood your comment. It greatly seemed as though you were blaming OP, when in fact it was obvious our definition of blame is different. Lastly, my only advice for OP is to seek his own therapy and to have open dialog with his wife. This issue is not one resolved by people online making broad assumptions about their lives.
Hahahaha I’m sorry for laughing but no, slamming someone’s head into a wall is never safe. There is no safe way to do it.
It’s wrong to pathologize and shame a young girl. That’s what you did and now you’re walking it back. Shame on you.
make your partner feel sexy and wanted and worshipped a yes yes yes
Even dumb people learn not to touch the hot stove twice.
thank you for this. fortunately, since the day i posted this, it took me about a week and a few more days to feel less bad about it.
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If you head sex many times and she is into heavy degrading you know that you have her consent with stuff like that. But don't do it if you don' t know each other so well.
Sure we can. We can start a committee.
I have the same kinks youre not alone a LOT of people have these
He either is okay with it or he isn't, not much to explain.
You should both get tested for STD’s and then you’re good to go!
You can just say other things you want her to do. You don't have to mention that sex feels lopsided. It feels lopsided partially because you aren't voicing your desires. Just say other things that you want. Talk about various things the two of you want. If a blowjob or sex lasts a minute then it isn't a crazy ask to have more that just a blowjob for you, or do it twice. Is she open to toys? Sometimes toys are fantastic at cutting down the time it takes to orgasm. And that isn't just a criticism of her, you can give her more than one orgasm using toys in the time it takes to give her a singe one. And you can ask for less sessions of oral if you're neck is literally in pain from 1-1.5 hours of oral.
If you're not comfortable with it then don't do it. If that is the type of sex they are looking for and they have told you that in advance then don't turn up and tell the husband that he can't touch you cause that's not what they're signing up for. I don't see why it would be traumatic personally, i've been a bull before and fucked a guys wife (I'm gay). Wasn't into it so I didn't do it again but I wasn't left with any trauma / weird feelings about it.
No, we would rather they not be judgmental assholes. And if they do have genuine and reasonable concerns, to express them in a constructive way. It’s not that hard.
You sound like a very caring and empathetic person, you try to be open minded and giving. A bet you are a great partner. and I bet you think your husband is usually kind, charismatic and charming. and I think that is why people here see this situation as potentially manipulative. Your husbands behaviour is very much outside the norm, even in the kink communities. These are bad behaviours, and in the posts you are clearly very protective of him. People are not black and white, there is no such thing as “good” or “bad” people. Instead we can judge particular actions and behaviours. and everyone gets to make up their own mind about the persons character. Someone can be good with some people and bad with others. You seem to feel guilt for even posting this. You are being honest and truthful here. So here is nothing malicious in you sharing this. You likely don't have anyone close to you to talk to, and were lacking outside perspective, but the perspective you are hearing is going to be difficult to process. These behaviours you describe are bad. You are naturally going to feel an instinct to protect him. This is someone you love, you supports your family and whole way of life. You have tied yourself to him, have a family with him and excusing the behaviour is the more comfortable option. Someone being a good to other people doesn't change the fact that this particular action is bad, it is unkind, callous and cruel. People don't get to act in that way to one person, just because they acted kindly to another. Even if he was an uninvolved father, would that make you change your mind about the behaviour? This isn't just a minor sexual preference. it's very extreme. This kind of behaviour can only be healthy when done with a willing participant who has enthusiastically consented. Wanting to do this to someone unwilling is quite a red flag. Sexual masochism (wanting to be hurt) is not that common, and in the people who DO want it, they are completely in control about how it will be done, where it will be done, and will have signals to indicate if they need someone to go softer or stop all together. In the kink scene, the person getting hurt is in complete control of the encounter, thats a requirement. For someone who enjoys causing pain, they NEED to be partnered with someone who enjoys receiving, and who will direct HOW they want to receive it. The harsh reality is, you've found yourself with a partner who enjoys hurting you, causing you pain and knowingly distressing you. The rules of the kink community are “SAFE, SANE, CONSENTUAL” You don't have any of those, There is no care for how your body is impacted. you are not in a clear head or good mental state, and you are not consenting. Are you going to endure this very unpleasant experience for the rest of your life? If you knew this will never change, would you be happy with that being your life? Also ask yourself how would you feel about the situation if it was happening to someone else, such as a close friend? or a daughter one day? Safety doesn't just mean someone will kill you, it also means your emotional and mental safety. usually, to feel that in relationships, you need to be able to feel some sense of control. An ability to communicate boundaries and have them respected. not wanting to be physically harmed or in pain is definitely a boundary that no one should question. You said he is scary, that if you try to stop him he “makes it harder”. What would happen if as soon as he put a hand on you, you told him to stop, and said “don't hurt me, I won't allow it”? What would happen if you left he room if he tried again? In a healthy relationship you would be able to stop him and leave the room without any particular negative consequences other than, at worst, slightly hurt feelings. Overall, there is no reason to allow this to continue, you have allowed him to “experiment/explore” if you want to call it that. but its completely nonsensical to let this continue. It is only going to cause a greater and greater strain on you, not just physically, but mentally. Feeling constantly harmed, violated and scared in your own home is very damaging over the long term. it will affect your ability to live your life happily. You could develop anxiety and depression form the stress you are under. No rational woman should endure something so serious for his “stress relief”. There are plenty of other ways to relieve stress. He is being unreasonable. if you have told him you hate it, that it makes you scared of him, and that you feel violated, there is no excuse for him to continue. You have every right to say “if you love me, you will stop. if you don't stop, I will leave”. Anyone who you tell the truth to would support you in doing that. it would be the completely reasonable and rational thing to do. After all, someone continuing after you have asked them to stop makes them not a safe person. not someone who respects you and your boundaries. and if someone doesn't respect your boundaries, the only rational thing to do, is remove yourself from them. Even temporarily. to stay with your family, to show you are serious and to give yourself some perspective, and see how it feels to at least have a break from needing to endure all that. Sometimes even “good people” get their perspective so warped they are making excuses and have convinced themself something is okay when it's not. In that situation you have a duty to bring them back to reality. Opening yourself up to outside perspectives is the only way you can compare your relationship to others, to see what is and isn't 'normal'. If my partner started regularly punching me in the face and said it was “stress relieving and hot” you would still urge me to not make excuses for the fact I was still getting beaten. That's whats happening here. take care of yourself. You don't need to be a doormat, you've already proven you are a kind and empathetic person. Sadly, other too often will take advantage of those traits.
I have them on occasion, especially if I've been edging for too long or an unusual kind of stimulation (like a vibe)
If she isn't concerned and is satisfied, and as long as she doesn't lose functioning for and extended period of time just go with it and have fun. Off topic, but we do know she is not actually peeing out cum right? The urethra and vagina are separate, women don't pee out of there vagina.
If she is telling you to do it, you're good. I would also point out that siswet still seems to be doing just fine. Research that at your own risk.
Wipe it up.
Not on bc, and I've never had a fluctuation like this, but I'm hoping you're right
It's not your job to keep someone else's wedding vows. Sounds like the wife is projecting her rage at her husband onto you.
Nah ah. Nope. You are being too cooperative.You should find a comfortable middle ground for both of you. Especially if there is pain involved. 30 mins is unreasonable.
Do you enjoy the buildup? Cause I’m wondering if part of the issue might be more psychological. If you’ve never thought of your own pleasure or had an interest in sex before you met your husband, then it might be possible that you haven’t developed a connection to your sexual self. I’m not someone with a vagina, so I can’t really give advice on how to make sex or masturbating more pleasurable for you. But I’d suggest, if you can afford, trying a sex therapist or sex/intimacy coach. They might be able to help you connect to your body to help you find that pleasure. The issue might also be hormonal or in some way physiological. So it might be worth talking to a doc about too.
It's like in the fence between being important and not. On one side, I am missing out on sexual experiences, but on the other, there's also the possibility of me regretting it, since it's a memory that will carry for the rest of your life
Really ? Go through the last 24 hours of questions on this page. Then perhaps you may be able to see why I am proactive in my kids education on said subject. Especially on STDs or pregnancy.
He just doesn’t like it, it isn’t you it’s just not his thing. Maybe this isn’t the FWB arrangement for you since you can’t get what you want out of it.
What kind of lube are you using? And are you using a lot? Are you able to try some motions that put more pressure and stimulation on your prostate while getting pegged? Maybe less of an in and out motion, but angling from side to side ect. And have you tried different toys? Thinner ones, vibrating ones ect.
Your reaction seems completely reasonable. That is a serious matter and has to be treated as such.
hmm okay so you’ve got that pretty covered, my only suggestion would be to just keep trying different things, and hopefully you find that’ll work great for you… for me at least of took awhile
Are you from the US? There’s like 330 million people there so even if only 1% of the population is into that lifestyle you have 3 million people to choose from You’ll find someone that will accept you and your lifestyle, don’t give up.
This is something you don't realise until you have sex, but masturbating (as a man) you literally decide when to cum up to a point. During sex it's a combination of factors out of your control, so you could last longer on average.
Thats why your not supposed to have a 3some with friends.
Well, humans make mistakes but I think if he does it again he should be punished to learn that maturity and respect should be a priority in a relationship, stay safe and be happy!! Too all the people that hate me, sorry for any misunderstanding, English is not my native language:)
Some guys find bigger girl’s attractive this guy obviously finds you very attractive it’s not always about the body your mind is probably really attractive to him as well I guarantee he wants you more than anything.
Oh man for me it’s just the opposite. First off, do not turn around. Push back a little and rock your hips back and forth and grind back. If you want to reach back don’t do it to grab his dick. Grab his hips instead and pull him to you more. I’m sure at this point his hands will start to wander more and hopefully he reaches around to use his hand either in your breast or pussy. If he grabs your breast let that go on for a little but if you want to ramp it up take his hand down to your pussy. After doing this for a bit, if you can, pull your pants/panties down or tell him to do it, but stay in that position. Then tell him you want him inside of you. chef’s kiss. From there he can stay spooned with you or the pieces de resistance is for you to stay in the position and he straddles over you bottom leg and you pull your top leg up closer to your chest. Deep penetration, plus he or you can access your clit fairly easily for some more stimulation. Plus your boobs are easily gradable. My work here is done. Enjoy!
Bias? OP is a girl.. guy doing her was a guy. But yeah.. it works both ways.. But that wasent what we were discussing was it?
39 > 38… 38 / 2 = 19
There is a 48 hour window Friday night to Sunday night. I gave up games that “force” me to play, or at least won't let me say “Hey, well hang out right after this match.” Even if he's playing some of the really addictive games he doesn't need to raid 12 hours a day Saturday and Sunday. It's an eternal treadmill that you never reach the end. Like, I feel for him during the week if he's truly busy. But there's time in the weekend for games and YOU. And surely there are other things that need to get done besides his gaming chores, sex with you, and other chores.
Does she masturbate? Ask her to show you what feels good, how she makes herself orgasm.
If you ask silly questions, you can expect to get silly answers. The sub's rules are super clear here. 8) OPINION SEEKING, POLLS, VALUE JUDGEMENTS, OR VALIDATION POSTS. This forum is not for simply collecting opinions – “do you think [X] is hot?”, “Women, do you like [Y]?”, “What is your favorite sex position?” and so forth. You want to collect opinions, try a sub that allows that. Maybe /r/redditafterdark?
Really great response thank you for sharing. Trauma is a touchy and divisive subject but I think it can be worked through if both partners are open to it. I don't think I'm gonna prompt her out the blue about it but if we have a discussion about sex again, I'll let her know about how I feel on this and see what she thinks
She needs to drink more water too OP. Soda, booze, sugar is a bad news. Natural juice and water OP. It's also dehydration that can cause this issue.
I need more confidence to be like you, but that will inspire me!
Humor is extremely important to me, and I am very playful in my day to day! But that does not extend to me sexually—I am most turned on by intense, rough sex and being overwhelmed and dominated. And I was definitely laughing because it sounded silly. What’s even worse to him is I got distracted and never came. That is a good suggestion about the movie, but couldnt that be interpreted as me expressing sexual interest in another man besides my bf? (I am careful to avoid that…) Thank you for the thoughtful comment!
Ive come across pussy SO clean that there would never be question of me going down, and just being totally content with giving and not recieving. The act of “Getting Off” doesnt have to involve an orgasm on my part to enjoy and please my SO.
I've learned to at least take what I can and it's fun. I try not to look at porn for trying myself. But it make a point it's common enough to make videos of.
Sex Counseling – He needs it. Based on your comments he needs clinical help unpacking and learning to have a healthier/less stressed view on sexual acts. (or) info: How is the sex?
Anorgasmia, though less common in women, is a side effect of fluoxetine. Impotence, or inability to maintain an erection is significant in men taking this drug. 60mg is a decent dose. Ask your provider if you can slowly decrease to 40. It may help you orgasm easier.
As a guy I can cum purely from having my nipples sucked, takes a while but omg it's amazing
This. I prefer to be more submissive, this can come across as a low sex drive, and has been an issue with some partners in the past, but it just doesn't turn me on if I have to ask for it/start it. I also don't really get that sudden urge of “yes I need sex now” lol. I want him to start, to come to me, to be in control essentially, and then I'll do whatever he wants because I'll be massively turned on.
Yeah, and it can be easier to start with gentle cuddles and touching. Having penetration can be too hc for many people with low libido but having some type of contact should not be too much to ask.
Mine was worse than this. Haha, it goes away I promise.
Don’t assume whatever happened to him is related to sex. Could’ve been physical abuse or emotional abuse. Usually both. Or, maybe he hasn’t been abused. Key here either way is just to go at his pace.
Sure can, honestly the smell and taste didnt bother me at all, in fact it turned me on so much more, i love it from her! Obviously everyone is different so i would suggest kiss and play around her anus for abit until you get more comfortable with it
Well we’ve agreed that while we’re seeing each other we wouldn’t see other people. Exclusively for the stds or in the off chance I somehow get pregnant I don’t wanna question who the father is. Anyways we also agreed to say something if we have sex with other people. So it should be fine. Right?
Superman pills??
There is no discernable difference to me, and honestly, I'd be suspicious of anyone who says there is. Minus some traumatic birth, the vagina is very elastic and returns to the previous condition pretty rapidly as I understand it.
And this is exactly why I am one in the first place. Thanks for proving me right
I recommend learning to be a multi Cummer. My first can be quick too, but not the 3rd.
Sorry I know this is a nitpick but the actual question doesn't specify gender, yet all the answers are she she she her her her lol. Like hey I get it's not an LGBT specific sub but every post defaults to that.
While he is really catered to my needs (foreplay etc) No, he catered to the needs of the average woman. Your needs are quite different. How should I bring up my dissatisfaction without blaming him for anything? There is no blame to be had. If you had a dog but wanted only a cat, would you blame the dog? Of course not, he was born a dog, you got him from the pound as a dog, and he will be a dog his whole life. But there is a glimmer of hope. Many men have an objection to being rough with their sexual partners on what are effectively ethical grounds: hitting a woman, forcing sex on a woman, spitting on her, even just insulting her, these are all bad things, really. It’s certainly reasonable to say that when the woman sexually desires these things, consents to them wholeheartedly, even begs for them, that makes them OK. You believe that, I believe that, your boyfriend might even say he believes it, but deep down, the rule “violent men are bad” does not have an asterisk. So, my only suggestion is this: have a discussion with him about this. If he is willing to admit that this might be the case with him and his reluctance to engage in rough sex has a social or moral source, instead of a sexual or aesthetic one, then ask him if he is willing to try, to deliberately suspend his moral judgement for a week or even a weekend, and see if he feels differently once he experiences your reaction and his own. If he refuses — or if he agrees but having tried it, still is not comfortable with it — then I think that is all she wrote. Saying “the relationship is great except for the sex” is like asking, “Except for that, Mrs. Lincoln, how did you enjoy the play?”
Hoping is fine, they're fun it's not different than hoping a band you like has a show near you, trying to force it to happen is another thing entirely. I mean keeping the band analogy it's like writing them constant fan mail or emailing them every day demanding they come to your town, you'd be an asshole.
It's all about tempo and knowing when to slow down…and COMMUNICATION. If you're about to blow, communicate that. Also…practice and knowing your partner is key. If you don't have the same consistent partner, this makes things more challenging unless you get lucky with someone at your chemistry and experience level. On a side note, I've noticed I always last quite a bit longer if I've been drinking. It's really the only time I can get up to the 30+ to over an hour time-frame. Obviously don't condone or promote drinking but that's just something I found out about myself over the years.
Anywhere your little heart desires… I think mouth and face is super hot though, if she is into it
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depends on the penis lol
well that's the point i don't know. I mean my wife (and my previous ex gf) were often in the mood. And as i was also often in the mood…we just did it. But because i never learned to do it properly…i don't know how to woo my wife. And i started this morning to help her…making dinner etc…just to get closer with my wife. Even without the sex i just want to be “mentally' closer to her.
I agree fully, it’s a bit wild seeing as you can’t help what turns you on! I’d be the same if I were a guy with lots of temptation. They’re made to be horny lol
If your guy is cool with it, watch the frenulum (underside of the glans). It attaches the foreskin to the penis/glans. When you pull the foreskin down you will see it stops going down as the frenulum gets taut. The frenulum is also commonly the most sensitive part of the penis
That’s really cool!! I’m so glad you’re friends. I’m sure it was hard at first but you sound like an understanding and good person. This man is, too. Thank you for your advice!
Condom is much safer and better than pull out. Pull out is very risky but a condom alloweds you to finish inside or out if you prefer. It also makes cleanup way faster.
Meditation, not medication. Practicing being aware of your urges and allowing them to pass without acting on them. Just like lifting weights at the gym, meditation is a muscle you need to exercise in order to get better at it, but it definitely works in not only controlling your sexual urges, but other strong emotions that you face daily.
It's not all about you, though, is it? At least it shouldn't be.
Absolutely not, I thoroughly encourage it. Life’s for living & giving each other a really good time.
If she became “lifeless” before you just thanks God for it.
Way more intensive. I'm gay and it's perfect to feel a warm, moist hole around my cock. Bottoms tell me, that a pure cock is way better. And, of course, impregnating a hole is best.
Depression
Sit up. Put a sex towel under you. Cough. Hard. A few times. Works for me every time.
Some men don't care. Us women care and overthink a little bit more sometimes about things. If he said he was good with it take that as a go. He's there for you and to get it going lol have fun with it let it flow normally. Its all about pleasure and fun. Who cares if anyone finds it weird? Do what you gotta do to make yourself and the other person feel good. Lol get it girl!!!
PS: i am a male.
I mean, men are socialized to believe that a man's worth is his sexual prowess and dick size. This leads to a lot of men thinking they've got to get the girl or they're a loser. It's a lot of toxic shit on both sides, and we all have so much unlearning to do. Honestly I'm glad it's become more of a conversation these past few years.
not taking antibiotics at all. FYI this is not true – it's only a specific antibiotic, rifampin that interferes with hormonal birth control.
If he has a favorite sports team you wear a jersey and tell him he can have it (back) if he takes it , wink wink
have you asked her if she thinks it will be easier to work herself up on her own? You are right in that she probably needs more preparation, but if she doesn't want you to do it…how does she feel about doing it by herself?
Glad you said ex But sorry you experienced that bs
Omg. Did you get it?
Blown it? hell no man. Just tell her how fun and hot you thought that was, she might have been a bit surprised but probably also thought it was really hot. Keep asking her to hang out, don't escalate too fast (I'm imagining you're quite young) but just let things happen slowly.
I'm not sure if you use a toy when you masturbate. I always start with a wifes vibrator and give her a mind-blowing orgasm before oral or intercourse. Can give her one without, but why not integrate something that is known into sex with a partner?
Has he ever been tested? For most it's just a urine sample and swab (will capture most of the bacterial infections), possibly a blood test as well to be really thorough. So, to say it hurts is an outright lie. But yes, it's very likely to get an STI from someone who has one if you are having regular unprotected sex. However most are treatable and curable, and as such are not worth the stigma.
Piv is higher
Congrats on being a healthy early 20 something. Just make sure to jerk off before going on a date.
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Sure seems like it.
That’s like saying “My husband is a gay man and he never has any urges to have sex with a woman. But he regularly loves having sex with me. (A woman) I trust my husband’s experience on their life and how he relates to the term homosexual”
Evasion I can agree on, but I def wouldn't call it lying. Nope, but it became even more obvious to me that she's not planning on telling me about it ever at least. Yea, it is. It's like I've replied around here that she obviously doesn't think it's important and that it's in the past. Only one of them though. Yea, more or less. I asked him the day after if he got a taxi back home and then he told me the whole shebang. I don't think it is actually. At least not him. I don't think the other one, the one whose place they were at, does either but I'd say he's more likely to. He's got a gf though so I don't think that night is something he flaunts around about. Yea, tbh I kinda think it's the same for them. Something that's in the past.
I wish my wife would just say “hey honey, after we eat dinner and the kids go to bed can you plow the fuck out of me”…. you prob wouldn't get what you want exactly because he'd be so excited but you'd get the point across.
This. I feel sorry for the guy and I think OP and his missus owe him a huge apology.
Ex-bf, problem solved.
Be safe. Use condoms. Take your time and explore each other's bodies. Listen to what your partner likes and doesn't like. Even if no one reaches the finish line, that's ok. Don't feel rushed or pressured to do anything.
You should just leave him at his parents, do you really want to be anywhere near him when he gets into some sort of legal trouble because he's basically a pedo? What do you even need him for if all he does is jerk off all day, is nasty to you, and doesn't even pay any bills?
“Not very much” is not nearly enough for good penetration. To get the idea, I suggest laying on the bed on your back. Pull your knees up towards you chest as far as comfort allows, relax your lower legs and they will hang near your bottom. This will also rotate your pelvis forward and up, bringing your “access point” up a bit and with a between “entry angle for him. Now just relax and let your knees split to either side. As he approaches, you can reach out and guide his body where you want him to go. If you wish, he probably will like if you use your other hand to make sure he doesn't miss his target. From that point either of you can move and adjust as desired.
i force myself onto his face, which i know he loves & he’s only playing that he doesnt want it. he is also into breath play so i control him that way. + edging. holding him down when im riding + shoving my underwear &/or socks in his mouth. i will be watching this post bc i’d also like new/fresh ideas lol
What exactly is YMMV?
Lots of comments saying he did all this for the sex. Certainly other possibilities too. Maybe you both imagined the other to be a perfect fit, and when you met in person it didn’t feel right to him? He didn’t handle it well, and I’m sorry it turned out this way, but maybe it just wasn’t right, for all kinds of reasons we’ll never fully know. I’m sorry for your heartache, and I think this is maybe the painful reality of meeting someone and having them be different than we hope.
You’re dating a literal nonce. Everything you reply is more red flags. You’ve been given so much constructive advice and resources to get away but continue to reply with excuses and I can tell no matter what anyone says on here you won’t leave until something absolutely awful happens. Sorry ??♀️
The last part is no needed: we don't know his reasons. Maybe he is having some bad time, which makes him think that way. I believe they should talk seriously about that and is very important to know if they are other changes on his behavior. He could be on a depression and no be conscious of it. In my view if he would be chatting her, he would use others excuses if he is tired and can't /don't want have sex with her because he is satisfied with his lover. For me that excuse is a red flag and they should talk seriously and maybe looking for help. If they are no other changes or he does no want to talk (it is common as we society tend to teach males to avoiding showing us vulnerables) they should begin a couple therapy. I wish everything goes well. Luck!
She should shrink down for next time, but not right after using it. You should use piv first, then sleeve. Maybe piv after for you to cum even if she can't feel it. Just hope you can feel it. Hope it works out for you.
Try hims. They make meds that will help. Even viagra can help keep him hard so he can go again and have more control the second time. But please don’t get mad. The whole problem is all in his head, he’s probably hyping you up so much that he’s excited when he’s in there and splat!! So adding to the mental part will only exacerbate the problem.
Use some self control and stop using the toy, give the bean a break!
You rally can't aside from change positions and angles.
Sorry, but you’re making a lot of generalizations here. Young women can gave much baggage as women your age, and they’re most likely to have it all unresolved depending on their level of maturity or their circumstances. Many women in their 30’s take care of themselves as much as their younger counterparts and put up with the similar aging issues that you go through. I can understand your preference not making you feel attraction, or wanting to not be burdened with children at the moment, but if you go by pictures and not personality, you’re taking the tinder approach of shutting someone out entirely based on your attraction from just a few pics. Something men complain about women doing often. I’m just saying try to be open to the experience of meeting these people before deciding that young women are the only option.
But size doesnt matter right?
Your instincts might not be wrong but I gotta say the sickness thing is wack. Means nothing. You said you go nowhere and he goes to work – he could pick up viruses from colleagues without fucking them. Do you think he's having an affair with one woman who is just constantly sick with contagious diseases for him to catch? Or that he's “swapping spit” with everyone he meets? Sorry but it's not gonna hold up in court
This. Everyone deals with grief differently and I'd say her sole intention was to take your mind in a different direction so as not to dwell on the sadness of it all. Clearly that doesn't work for you but taking her down for trying to cheer you up wasn't called for. There is of course also the possibility that she has a funeral fetish and funerals turn her on. It happens. Inane case you and she need calm discussion, not vocal shaming.
Nah, sexual thing need consent. You probably forget but he didn't ask for it
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Google Q Care Plus. They do free, extensive testing for STDs. They ship you a home testing kit. They are great to work with and very knowledgeable. You’ll be able to send messages to the doctor as well.
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?? that’s true. I’ve gotten tested yearly lol
Yeah, I think that starting in the dark is a good way to begin because It'll remove at least one factor or anxiety for us, thank you
Yeah just have sex, try to please him sexually. He may not cum be he will appreciate the effort. And sex still feels good, there just no mess to clean
This is where it gets weird, he had LESS trouble coming at the start when we were using condoms. I went on the pill (possibly redundant at my age, but you never know!) and we stopped using them, he says he enjoys it more overall but can't finish. I actually suggested that next time I am over we try a condom again and see what happens!
This has nothing to do with body autonomy. Having kids is a commitment, and being a responsible adult and parent is not easy and requires compromise and sacrifices. Having family values and morals is a good thing. The recommendations here have been beyond unrealistic, out of touch, and irresponsible.
Yeah that’s really concerning I’d perhaps hide those.
27 and 19 – that’s the real issue
I'm really scared of actually getting pregnant and having kids, and I'm sure I want to be childfree. I also have a creampie/slight breeding kink. No clue how the two can exist together but… We fulfill my (and his) kink but only making sure it's a safe day (obviously it's not good enough contraception). I plan to get an iud soon when I can afford it. You can engage in breeding kink without actually wanting to be pregnant. But the comments about stealing your birth control pills and getting you pregnant are a massive red flag. You don't consensually engage in his kink, he's manipulating you. Unfortunately the 27-19 age gap is something that stands out in this post and spending way too much time on reddit, it's hard not to notice the pattern of much older boyfriends of 18-22 year old girls manipulating/baby trapping/sexually abusing their SO. The stage of life he's at is completely different from yours. You even notice it, he's ready to have children, he probably has a serious job, you're still a teenager.
You seem to be a tall guy so you probably wouldnt understand
She's in denial or is confusing terminology. She's really attractive but she confuses me so much. I'm 40m and women still confuse me.
They wouldn't be my partner anymore. Pretty simple.
You can't go all fast and furious unless the girl likes it rough. I recommend starting with some foreplay and Oral sex if you feel like doing it. Always make her cum first is way easier with oral sex than penetration, as you don't have much experience let her guide you and you will notice when she is enjoying it. Then If you want to go all in after she cums, I think your odds could increase for a future intercourse! Remember, Always be safe!!
When it is inserted how long does the pain last and does it impact sex in any way? I've heard some people question if you can feel the strings or if it can be moved or taken out of place during sex. Is any of that true?
I'm a switch, and I lean towards dominating because my personality is dominant. I like to be in control of everything in my life. It's so nice to switch, though. To have someone in control of your pleasure to give you that moment to simply feel and not think in or out of the bedroom. I typically don't stay submissive long. Once the rush wears off, I'm right back to being me. Your partner may need to be a switch as well with a heavier submissive side to balance it out. But I don't see men weak because they want me to take control. It's what turns me on.
Mental or physical, what word would you use?
Surely in a world that has really fucked up ideas about racialized people, you can see how ajhitty people can hurt people with those fucked up ideas in a sexual context?
but what about people like me who no matter what workouts they do and how often they will always have a non flat tummy? this is something i’ve always been super insecure about. i workout every day, i’m active, i eat really healthy, etc yet i will never have a flat belly, it’ll always stick out a bit:/
Make it about her and her enjoyment, don’t make it about you.
touching and toys both on the table
Go shopping at target, come out hop in the car start kissing hop in the backseat do some foreplay and have sex go at it then hop in the front and drive off it's thrilling!!!
I'm silent because I'm trying not to cum and I'm doing most of the work. I don't have enough spare energy to moan.
Yeah it’s hot
Maybe just concentrate on your clit? More women are able to orgasm this way. While I have orgasms through penetration during sex, if I’m masturbating, I just stimulate externally.
What are they teaching these kids
I think saying for you to not enjoy is a very bad advice. You can learn how to control the time enjoying the process. Have in mind that as animals, our physiology was designed to sex to be as fast as possible. In order to during more time, you need to train your physiology to work in a different way that what was designed for. Research about tantric sex, or thinks like this. Don't believe in videos where a guy is pumping for 40 minutes straight. Usually they pause recordings, many people use drugs or techniques to retard it, etc…
FOLLOW ADVICE ABOUT EXHIBITIONIST ACTS AT YOUR OWN DISCRETION So, you want to get away and get off. That's fair and understandable. Hotel would probably run you 2-300 and you stated there's limited availability. Also you'd probably have to awkwardly explain to the group you live with why your doing a sudden “staycation”. My first suggestion is a spa. Find a spa, get a massage, and specify you need additional time to relax before getting dressed. You could probably rub one out like dudes do. Second suggestion is going camping if there are facilities nearby. Getaway cabins, glamping, national/state park or other psuedo-outdoor venues may not be booked and would have a built in “I just want to get away in nature for a weekend” excuse. Hotel, for cost to benefit purposes, is just unnecessarily expensive.
Since I am inexperienced I think I am going to try Doggy style first! thank you for the awesome feedback ??
But what if you love tabs have crazy feelings for them
Lol, well maybe it's what I personally need? I think I've always had a low libido anyway. First time I'm getting the urge to try out bars though, so that's new. But yes, definitely will be careful about safe sex. Yeah, that's what I already have in mind but to hear it from others helps re-affirm/motivate on doing so. Luckily my conversation skills aren't the worst, but could always use work. Thanks!
Ohh now he gets 10 seconds.
Not that I’ve ever tried (or needed) this stuff but numbing cream + condom would probably help. Also, maybe try giving him a minimized (often called “ruined”) orgasm for the first round, then he will have more endurance for the main event. It’s normally associated with the bdsm scene but it’s possible to just do it as a coping strategy. He lets off a little pressure so he won’t erupt as soon as y’all get down to business.
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Honestly yea he was probably better at getting that side out of her. Its annoying but u just have to make peace w ur natural inclinations or explore being more assertive, which will take trial and error and putting urself out there more.
Even without only a fwb that would be a risk. And it might even happen before any physical interaction (so now) without you really noticing. Not saying a healthy ons, fwb or even relationship is not possible but often it is not and the younger party often doesn't notice (and the older party pretends nothing is wrong).
I think you didn't read that at all.
but there was just one position where I kept moving his body up and down You mean closed guard?
I don’t think I’m a bad person for being horny or whatever. I’m perfectly capable of masturbating the way I usually would, it’s just that direct stimulation doesn’t feel good to me. Also, to clarify when I syntribate I always need to be wearing multiple layers of clothes (underwear and trousers/leggings). I guess I could try a vibrator but that seems rather intimidating and anxiety-inducing too
The summary is he doesn’t care and won’t get you off. Leave before resentment starts. If he doesn’t care about making you happy in bed, what else is his priority?
I take on some Boudoir photography and have met many women who are shy and lack confidence in the beginning. So be assured that you are not alone in this. I would suggest starting with an outfit you feel sexy and confident in (anything you like), then work your way down to some sexy undies until your comfortable enough to take your pix nude. Take the time and learn to love your body, explore it, find the bits that you like.
If you have a bed with a headboard, leaning your upper body on the headboard while he's laying with his head on the pillow and going at it from that angle can be great and solves the “what do I do with my hands?” problem. Will also allow you to more focus on the sensations. You can also pull yourself up on the headboard to tease him a bit with the view or not being able to get at the thing he wants– always a ton of fun! Don't worry about “what do I do to please him.”You're sitting on his face, love. For most folks (specifically those that request such a thing) that is MORE than plenty.
No you are not. I would be the same way if I was still single. That is the only way you can prevent pregnancy and STDs where you have control. I hated using condoms, but I knew it was the only way I could pretty much guarantee I was not going to have any issues. Women who question that are either not smart or have a hidden agenda. I say dump girls like that as they are plenty who understand that sex has risks. I have a vasectomy now that I am married and have 2 kids, but I would still use a condom to protect myself against diseases if I was ever single again.
Why would you get flak and myself and my girlfriend are very mature for our ages and we think things through
Thank you, I guess I was always lead to believe that anything other than traditional sex was taboo and anyone who thought differently was a deviant and something was wrong with them. Even now, I still deal with lots of feelings of guilt and shame and questions of am I some sort of sicko deviant that needs to be cured of these “bad thoughts”.
This happened to me once actually found out I had mono. The diagnosing doctor fucked up and the doctor that found out was pissed. I would go back and ask if you have mono instead.
So you don’t mind if I… lol
so what youre telling me is that nobody can like my dick. thanks
Nobody deserves anything really
I think it's good to tell him so he knows this is something that can trigger really bad memories for you. But checking for consent is a basic thing that he really should do regardless.
The biggest question no one’s asking is; Did you have enough respect for them to make them aware of each other? Or if not each other specifically, did you at least inform them you were having sex with THREE other “special friends” at the same time?
I don't see that self-esteem is necessarily involved. In fact, I think it's iffy whether it's involved at all. Many women like the feeling of knowing that men want them. Knowing you're perceived as being desirable is preferable to knowing you're in no way desirable. Now, if your friend is clearly not God's gift to men, it'd boost her ego to know that (some) men find her fapworthy. I suspect more men abuse themselves while thinking about Heidi Klum than about Rosie O'Donnell. But it's a big world, and Rosie probably has some fans.
You might be so beautiful the the inexperienced boys cannot contain themselves.
I had sex with my bf in the jacuzzi today. It was around 3pm and we were the only ones there. He pulled my my bikini bottoms to the side and I rode him with my arms around his neck. I came so hard he had to cover my mouth. After he came inside me, we snuck out guiltily with his cum running down my leg. What I didn’t realise until we changed and handed back the gowns was that the lady behind the desk had a screen showing video from a camera pointed right at the jacuzzi she could have seen everything. We looked for cameras before we started but missed it. I was so embarrassed and so wet that I begged my bf to fuck my ass once we were back in our room.
Thank you!
I’m told it’s both! ?
It's an intense operation, an ex had it, and so did a friend of mine. It's a psychological and big physical adaptation for the woman so I would share all the info I have with my partner and it would be a small small adaptation for me. Definitely a hard decision but if my partner were willing to put herself through that I would support her 100%. A pain free partner is always going to be a better partner in th end.
Set yourself up for success. Set up a time when you're both rested, fed and have no time constraints. Then tell her you'd like to share some things you're discovering about yourself. Tell her you're worried and anxious because her good opinion of you is precious. Ask her to listen with compassion. Focus on yourself and your own curiosities. This is not the time to ask her to do anything other than listen. Your first priority is to be seen. This is where you make yourself vulnerable, no strings attached. Don't make it about her or your sex life. This is the kinda thing that takes many conversations over time. Lay the foundation by opening up about yourself. You don't need to give a laundry list all at once. Pick one thing and start with that. When you've shared the gist, tell her you're ready to answer any questions and listen to anything she'd like to say. Remind her to be gentle and compassionate with you. This is scary as fuck. But it is the way to build trust and intimacy. If she's ever going to consider trying anything kinky, there must be trust. Her initial resistance speaks of fear and discomfort. The quiz you suggested puts a lot of pressure on her. She knows and loves you. You're her partner. Great sex is a collaboration to create mutual pleasure. There is hope for whatever you're imagining. Happened with us, now happily married for over 30 years and having the best sex of our lives. But we figured out our kinks together. It took bravery and a willingness to be vulnerable. Good luck.
I'm close to his age, my last relationship we had sex once every few months. I did the chores, and I was working full-time. He's being a crybaby
On second thought, I’m ok with that too…
I believe it's just his skin is irritated from the friction of your weight (not calling you heavy because I don't know you personally) and if you shaved or still have air down there. The hair can act like a scrubbing pad to his skin, especially if you were really feelin it? The natural hair can feel & be coarse to his skin. If you shaved, those hairs can be sharp because they are cut on an angle. Also, I'm willing to bet that maybe he is a light/fair skin man? That type of skin irritation is very easy to see on light/fair skin folks. There can be some ways to minimize this, but there are way too many unknown variables.
I have, and standardly, it back fires and don't get to cum at all.
This is a terrible situation, I am so sorry D:
Omg ya, I would be like, oh Mummy dearest can help her little baby boy since he needs it so desperately!
If you didn’t have premature ejaculation issues in the past it’s probably something psychological. You sure you like this broad?
dude's are covered in callouses from all the manly shit they do so can't feel true human connection, trapped in a shell of thick skin making them feel alone in the world. /s
You approach it with divorce papers. This mother has engrained her son to be misogynistic and told you straight up he's gonna cheat and it'll be your fault. Her and her precious son can go fuck themselves. Get out
The trick honestly is to not pull out and just keep fucking her though. Yes, it's pretty much the first thing that came to my mind when I struggled with premature ejaculation and I'm surprised it's not as obvious to other guys. I could keep going and maintain erection as soon as I tried the first time but I've only learnt to not take a crap ton of time to cum a second time fairly recently. The trick was to do hard kegel squeezes to increase sensitivity during the refractory period but that required some training, very much worth it though lol.
I do it and also to help me fall asleep. A nice perk is it’s obviously pleasurable!
I (31F) personally would love some stuff about going none verbal. I can sext amazingly I have such power and skill since discovering my sexual self about 8 months ago after a 7 year relationship. But I really struggle with talking or communicating or generally laying out my feelings and needs, even in the most basic way. I'm unsure if this is all related to autism, I'm currently getting a diagnosis, I mentioned it in my analysis and they understood. But since I was a teen I almost go mute and it's really hard, it feels like shame or something but I don't know how to approach solving it.
This insane and controlling behavior. He does not believe you on a fundamental level. Even if you do this, he might not be satisfied. You'll keep having to “prove” you are gay. Get out of there. This is terrifying.
Sometimes sex can trigger my period. But never mind that, you should call your doctor asap and be checked out by a professional!
Mine is 7 and it’s a hassle at times. Constant adjusting throughout the day.
All of this!! ☝️
Not being an ass but how comfortable are you really if you are asking for advice about her playing with your ass on Reddit?
Yes your trauma most likely has affected you in some way and therapy is needed. It sounds like you were hoping to feel love by having sex but that's not how it typically works. For most people you already have that sensation and sex can enhance it.
Subdom
We met at university
Honestly girl, embrace your vagina. Your clitoris literally has NO bodily function other than to provide you sexual pleasure. Here's a basic idea that you might find helpful. Maybe sometimes sleep naked. When naked, rub your hands over your body or vaginal area to get comfortable with it. When you feel ready, try a clit suction device or vibrator (or both) and remember to relax.
You could buy one online. Or ask a trusted adult to get you one.
r/foundthehondacivic
I love compliments/praise in bed. Personally, I don’t like “good girl”. Makes me think of children or dogs, and then I feel patronized. But a lot of women really like being called good girl in bed, so I would ask her if she likes that or not. Everyone’s different. I’m liking the other suggestions a lot, though, like enthusiastically complimenting her body parts while you touch, kiss, lick, or fuck them. That and telling her how much you love what she’s doing to you while she’s doing it. Make it sound a little breathless, too, and maybe throw in a bit of moaning if she’s into that.
Again, not what malicious means. Malicious and malice describe behaviour intending harm. Just because YOU believe an action to cause harm, does not mean the intent of another agent is malicious. Even if an action is proven to be harmful most of the time, such as not knowing who your parents are, the good will and non-intent to harm of the guardians means it is not malicious. People who do terrible things to people believe they're doing the right thing all the time.
Sounds like a tilted cervix ? if that's the case, there's not a lot you or anyone can do to 'fix' the problem. When you're starting off slow, try to edge deeper as your partner is comfortable, but it'll always be a slow start again if you fall back out ?
You aswell!
It's good the convo came up. You're not compatible in a very important aspect of a relationship. You say he's not even your bf, yet he's thinking about your future and having kids. I'm not sure how careful you are, but you may want to think over this entire relationship.
I'd argue most first time sex is bad sex lol
I'm in my late teens-early 20s and I'm wondering where all that sex drive of my early teens went away. Luckily it'll come back ?
It's so awkward, uncomfortable, sometimes humiliating, and totally worth the effort.
Yes
Add age to that two. Don't believe me, I kiss my Plan B failures every night and love them to bits. My ex husband didn't finish in me but voila, kids are here now.
Yea we are both down to do it. She’s just currently reading a book and we were curious about the percentage of men that wouldn’t do it.
I’m afraid he might have erection problems (just assuming since he’s in his 40s). I would not assume that. I had no problems until my 60s, and that was fixed with a pill. What is limiting is stamina and my refractory period is longer. It’s gone from 30 minutes in my 20s to over an hour now. I’m still ready for multiple rounds, but I’m not in the same cardio shape as I was in my 20s. • How do I handle a situation like that without making him feel embarrassed? Every guy is different. I have had a lifetime of medical issues so I don’t get embarrassed by any breakdowns. It’s like I have an unreliable car, so I work around it. • What are the differences between him and someone younger during sex (that I should be aware about)? I can only speak for myself. I’m completely interested in my partner getting off and having a wonderful experience, which of course is defined by her desires and likes. In my 20s I was less focused on that. In a long sex life I have learned a lot about how to be a better person and a better lover. I spend a lot of time learning from books, videos, and people. Plenty of practice learning how to please my partners. In my 20s I didn’t have the experience yet. Also in my 20s I was pretty clueless about emotions and the issues that go along with them. That’s critical to having a good sex life IMO. • Tips to give him an amazing time and make him feel worshipped? Be enthusiastic. Be genuinely interested in him having a good time. Give him space when he needs it. Open up completely about what turns you on, so that he can give you that in abundance. I think that you can have a wonderful time if you just realize each other’s want and needs and limits. Enjoy the adventure!
You are confusing HSV with ahPV, my friend.
I mean yea we just cuddled but I clearly ruined the moment
It won't be faster because you'll then have to explain to the listener what a praise kink is.
… now imagine saying all that in one go!
Yeah that’s probably not normal unless you’re not especially attracted to your partner (at your age). Give it a while and try some of the suggestions people here have given ya. Stop jerkin off too as you have a partner.
That makes sense actually.
I second this x
Oh that's what this is .
Thank you so much
Your body pillow doesn't count. Go touch some grass and learn some respect. You cave dwelling virgin.
Your body pillow doesn't count. Go touch some grass and learn some respect. You cave dwelling virgin.
It's actually a little funny because women do not realize how easy they have things like this in life. For example, one girl wrote “I just touch his dick”. If we walked up to a girl and just started touching her vagina without any consent. That would not be received well and many of us would call that you know what.
I suggest you don’t do this. It’s okay right now because the rush of being in love and turned on by someone new is great. But eventually you’re gonna want some pleasure too. He’s gonna be confused and annoyed why in a year you want an orgasm too. Terrible terrible idea
You need to understand you partner's psychology, what way can you animate yourself to present an image that you can see him engaging with. Some people are driven by lust, others connection, usually a mixture of both and sometimes fear, anger, etc.. Understand what it is, you can systematically try things in isolation to understand whether he responds. People have sensitivity distributions across the glans, balls, perineum and anus in different proportions. Using the same approach described above you can figure this out.
This is how you communicate the issue to her: “There is something we have to discuss. Sex is very important to me in a relationship and it's something I don't think I can be happy without. At the same time I respect you and the fact that sex isn't as important to you and you don't have as high a libido as I do. I also respect you too much to expect sex from you when you don't feel like it. Being with you has been fun and I've really enjoyed our time together but I think it's time we bring that to and end. We each need to find partners who have more compatible levels of sexual interest and desire. Goodbye”
What a killjoy, sexting is fun for everyone ☹️
I'm telling you now that it won't improve moving forward. If she starts doing it to keep you, it will disappear after marriage. I know you like her a lot. But sexual compatibility is more important to you than it is to her. Relationships are built on managing expectations, if you expect what she doesn't, then it's only going to cause issues in the future.
I don’t know if this is helpful, but I have found myself in the same situation (just with the positions reversed) My wife really wasn’t (isn’t) into the idea of sexting, but I really wanted us to try it. I mentioned it a few times but I eventually dropped it as I think she was uncomfortable with the idea. But, we have been able to start flirting a little bit over text ever since she got a new job a bit further from home(I work from home still she commutes 3 days a week to work now). It’s never the gratuitous all out filth fest I would love, but it’s enough to know that she is thinking about me in a sexual/intimate way, which after all is really the point of it (in my opinion at least). Another positive from this approach is that her texts have become a little more risqué over time. She even sent me a picture (not a particularly revealing snap, but suggestive) Maybe drop the idea as something that he has stigmatised in his head as sexting and just try and drop him a few flirty texts. It could lead to something else if you start small and show how much his replies mean to you.
This sounds, well, like a robot wrote that. Despite the 4 years, are you new to sex?
I’ve had 4, they literally all sucked. Not one of them cared about anything but getting off themselves. Once they did, you are almost invisible. Nope never again. I could stay home and handle myself, why waste the time getting dressed and looking nice to be treated like shit.
Time outside in the midday Sun, especially after winter.
Apparently he would do it again anyway he just told me x
Yes, she showered before we had sex
I have luckily never experienced that sort of thing in queer spaces, but I’ve heard the stories and it breaks my heart. How is reducing me merely to a “resource” for queer people not as dehumanizing as what cis-het people have a long history of doing to all queer people? How is my attraction to all expressions of gender more likely to make me cheat? Really it sounds like a moutain of projection from people who would cheat the moment a hotter dude walked by. We invent so many additional problems for our community.
well hes never actually tried going down on me so hes not turned off by my “smell” – i have never been told by partners before that i needed to change anything. but word to other women, douching is bad dont do that
Wow. That's good
How did he see your ovaries
I ger these when she hasnt washed her pussy before, and i dont wash me dick after the deed.
nothing to write home about Lmaooo “dear mom and dad…”
This guy gaffes…
I was with girl that used a toy a lot and she couldn’t cum without it so while I was in her she hides the toy and we came together! Worked out for us both!
Ovulation is like that for some of us. Many women are like this 3 to 5 days a month. All the need is what causes us to do the things that end up getting us pregnant! It’s how humans keep going. Take your vitamins, rest when you can, and survive the few days.
To me he sounds like a sociopath. He never really cared for OP, he’s just playing mind games. Block his number and forget he ever existed. You deserve better.
if you didn't agree to a game beforehand its not a game, if he admitted to hearing you, its 100% rape, not even any nuance at all.
In terms of not feeling it, I've found this is common with car BJ's if you're sitting next to each other and she's doing it from the side. It just concentrates the contact on parts of you that are less sensitive than if she were facing you.
Let me give you a tip. My first bj felt painful and I didn’t like the teeth. But after a few times, I learned what I like and I told her to do some foreplay first through my clothes and then guided her to use her tongue and go slow and steady. That’s for me though, maybe for you it’d be different. That’s why it’s better to get more experience to know what you like. That being said, if the girl has slept with anyone before, you should take a test for STDs just in case. Until you both are confirmed not infected, maybe use a condom for bjs and sex.
Optimism is warranted because you've only gotten oral from one person ever. Can't overgeneralize. I thought you were comparing solo orgasms to orgasms while having sex with someone. And maybe I was right. Now, if solo orgasms were compared to not getting an orgasm at all during partner sex, partner sex would rate low for satisfaction. I argued that being physically coupled with someone when you achieve orgasm will outweigh a decrease in the intensity of the orgasm, so that the overall satisfaction will be greater from partner sex. So I don't think I was missing your point. It's also possible for you to someday get orgasms with a partner that are as intense as solo orgasms. You could experience that either by masturbating while being penetrated, or by finding a man who is skilled enough at giving oral.
Why do you want to increase it? You're 8 inches already which is way more than average. Why so greedy?
interesting. no abusive and assault history in this case. thx anyway.
Remaining a virgin or feeling the way I do?
Has not helped me. Ugh
Cool for casual. Can be real slippery slope bringing into relationships.
Guys can do all sorts of lovey dovey or dumb shit for all kinds of reasons. Try to read by repeated patterns of affection or non affections.
Do some foreplay first bro. It always rises things up.
This is definitely something I could build on, thanks a lot! I was super anxious when I posted this but reading all the comments is definitely giving me a good insight
My wife wears my shirts, but she'll tie them up similarly to a crop top, and good lord if that doesn't get my engine running ? Funnily enough, that always seems to happen after dinner
Same here. I also prefer real experiences and honestly, the last time I watched porn was more than a year ago as I've 0 interest in it. But it doesn't change the fact that when I watch it my body (completely excluding my mental/emotional state) is way more excited that when I'm with someone
Sooo toxic. Caring for your parents orgasm is the most rewarding thing.
They look very different.
Jeez OP…I am very sorry on your behalf.
he told me all men universally hate going down on women Wrong. So, so, so wrong. He went off on a tangent about how it’s “fucked up” and “beyond the pale” to say I like having sex with others more than him. I explained that I never said I enjoyed sex with them more, however they did go down on me. He does not go down on me. “Wow, great girl. So glad you had so much fun fucking strangers.” (I’ve had more sexual partners than he has). I asked if he was slut shaming me, and he said “yep, I am”. Not gonna lie, this is pretty hard to forgive. The first thing I have to ask is what is your goal here? Do you want to repair your relationship with your bf and improve your sex life? Generally, in relationships (friendships too) you don't use a person's intimate information against them. You are trusting them with it. You don't pull that card, unless the intent is to hurt you. He did and admits it. This is pretty hard to recover from, unless he makes active efforts to make it right. There's nothing wrong with wanting oral, especially if you give it to him, it's not wrong to want reciprocation. Many men are selfish lovers and it's why statistically, Hetero women experience less orgasms. The main problem is value. He has to want to give you pleasure. It doesn't sound like that's a value to him. Unless that's addressed, this will be a reoccurring problem. The fact that he cannot argue civilly, is a major red flag btw.
Nexxxxttttt…..
It might be a “cum play” kink, since you also like the sensation of it on your body, and watching him ejaculate. It’s actually not that uncommon.
I have gone down on more women than I have put my dick in. Because I get off when they get off.
Seriously Just have fun folks
There is a level of vanity where you just have to let it go and have fun. You will not look perfect during sex and that's ok. You will fart, laugh, snort. And make all kinds of funny noises. It's OK. Sex is fun. Have fun enjoy eachother. Make pig noises.
I mean she’s not wrong. It IS her decision. Consent is “unilateral”. That said, she has set her boundary, now it’s up to you to decide if you want to live with it or not. Being pouty, pulling away or closing yourself off emotionally is a shitty way to deal with it. If you don’t think it’s a fair boundary, tell her so, if she’s not willing to relent then call off the wedding. That’s the thing about boundaries. You get to set them too.
Does he do anything else besides cigarettes?
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Seriously, it's gonna sting because of the ph imbalance, but otherwise there's no harm done. But humorously, it happens all the time on https://www.reddit.com/r/angrydragon/ 🙂
The clit and g spot are part of the same structure of stimulation. If you think of it as a whole sexual organ with different parts of sensitivity, perhaps it might help you to understand that there is nothing ‘wrong’ with you. It could be habit and acclimatisation that leads a lot of women to be able to come from clit stimulation alone. Perhaps with concerted practice you can train yourself to glean pleasure from your g spot alone, but ultimately it the same cascade of processes that triggers an orgasm. But even if it isn’t, it is still different routes to get to the same destination. Don’t beat yourself up about it.
Well… if you find him making the attempt and he finally DOES go down on you… be receptive and enthusiastic. By now he's probably got some mental block going on and it might be tricky to get over it.
Well it's already happened and it was extremely uncomfortable
Personally Ive always enjoyed and found it very useful talking about sex before the actual deed takes place. Sometimes that's not possible of course. But in general when chatting online or through text I find it helpful to discuss sex. Figuring out what each other likes and dislikes is pretty useful info and can usually make things more pleasurable for all involved. Start simple with questions about a person's fav positions and move from there towards things such as inquiring about oral, anal, or fav places to cum.
Very sweet of you to take care of her
“Everything in the world is about sex. Sex is about power.” -Oscar Wilde
Her face. Eyes and mouth.
Honestly take the intensity of the feeling you habe during sex. And then multiply by like 5, thats the intensity you will feel when your stoned while having sex. Plus you are sooo much more focused, time almost stops, you feel like its been 1h but it was only 10 minutes. Its definitely a much more intense feeling. I can only recommend trying it and you will understand.
No, I (F34) have more. It’s funny (and maddening) that I stayed with my crappy ex for so long because he convinced me that if I left him no other man would be interested in me. He told me, regardless of age, men want women that are in their 20s. What a load of crap. I have so many options, not just for sex, but relationships as well. As someone else said, the quality of the men I’m attracting now is also higher than it was in my 20s
No grey area. You did not consent. He raped you. Your closest friend doesn't know what they're talking about.
You need a much bigger sample. You can't take conclusions out of one session!
They do soften up after a while, or make sure they trim the strings as short as they can. Also depends how often he's deep enough to mash your cervix…
Or through a topical cream. FTM/NB and that's how I take my testosterone. But yes, working out by itself won't do shit for the rest – to the chagrin of many trans men.
He’s lying to you.
Considering that she was otherwise a very loving and caring person and as far as she could tell we were having sex when I wanted it, I don’t think she thought she was causing me grief.
You need to get checked out by a doctor. You’ve posted about this before. Phimosis can be very serious.
I haven't. I will.
Sorry, english is not my first language, what is “vibe”?
There’s an overwhelming number of guys who aren’t very good at it. When you find the ones who are it’s amazing. The ones who aren’t should up their game because they really don’t know what they’re missing – I can get soaking wet from sexting alone when it’s good.
I am the same way! Thought I was weird for this lol
Now you just making excuses for their wack ass behavior ?
I only started watching and enjoying porn as part of a thing my bf and I do, he used to watch porn before him and I got together, I was uncomfortable with him continuing, he also didn’t feel a need to watch it since we do it every day? but I’m naturally kinky and adventurous so I started watching a bit with him as my idea… and fuck it’s a turn on when we watch together sometimes during foreplay or he will ask me to watch specifically what I want when he’s riding me prone bone.. it’s something we do rarely, but when we do, we look together, and share our fantasies of what we might want to do in the future… we also want to share each other in bed in the future with people… so yum☺️
Cuddle and hump his leg?
I think you'll be fine since you'll be wearing a condom. Although, if you get all horny and end up wanting to have intercourse, I would recommend replacing the condom with a fresh one. The material can get worn down from excessive friction which could make a burst more likely to happen. Have fun!
Sorry to tell you that but they were joking and having some fun at your expenses, possibly because they saw you were nervous about it.
I would check with a doctor, maybe I'd buy O2 finger sensor to check her O2 levels when this happens. But i strongly recommend to go see a doctor with health and breath better stay safe.
Not sure there's much you can do about it. If she agreed to keep it quiet then it's poor show to discuss with everyone but it's her choice to break her promise. You know you can't trust her now and put it in the experience column and move on. If anyone asks, tell them politely that it's none of their business
you cant 'think' someone doesnt have stds (unless youre both eachothers firsts). a lot of stds dont show any symptoms so you both should get tested. also nothing bad can happen if he finishes in your mouth, you might just not like the taste, thats all
Yeah it’s either yes or no when it comes to sex. If he says no, it means no. Just like if you ask to fuck your girl in the ass and she says no, it means no
Shoutout to your friend who’s down to wait in the car while you bang
I wish I could find someone like that. So no. It is not a turn off. Most woman only have high sex drive at the start of a relationship then it goes down but my need stay the same which is not great.
Yeah it sucks when you're stuck in that kind of position 🙁 I am sorry you have to be in that place and that type of relationship it is very toxic and has to feel depressing and lonely. I would move as soon as you can but I know that takes time and money. There isn't much you can really do other then try and sit him down and have a discussion with him about how he treats you and how he acts and how it makes you feel in the relationship. I personally don't see that working at all if he is that much of a man child it will go in one ear and out the other. So yeah try not too look down on yourself it isn't your fault that he is that way and you had a shitty place you where in and had to do what you had to do. I hope everything works out for you and focus on your end goal, you deserve so much better then that guy!
You should dump this idiot asap
Lol. I really hate saying this, but a lot of the bi/pan/queer guys that hit us up individually on mainstream platforms are not my type at all. Nothing to do with being too femme or too masc or anything. I just simply am not into them chemistry-wise. I’m fairly fit and athletic, and they just….aren’t. She’s more flexible on that, but even she admits that she feels she’s selling herself short. And she totally is! She’s a fox! People tell us we’re gorgeous all the time but then the ones we both really, really like are all these str8 dudes. And I’m like “goddammit. Here we go again with the disclaimers and the flakiness once I explain the situation.” A good deal even admit to being hereroflexible and ok with some things, but in no way do they promote that publicly anywhere.
Maybe it makes it a different conversation but sometimes it hurts for me
Nah because it's not some mystical magical soulmate thing. You have to be a good, caring, considerate person in order to forge a good connection with another human being. So yes, it is about “being a man like him”, because you don't wind up with excellent compatibility without plenty of work toward being a good person to be around and caring for others.
Thanks for your input, however you talking in the context of feet or ass or both? If both then which one turns you on more? Getting your ass eaten or your feet worshiped?
If I’m looking for sex, no, but I’d be upfront about that. If I’m looking for a relationship and the person seems worth it, then absolutely yes I’d wait
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With the lack of any other reason, this is just who she is. The honeymoon stage energy is gone and so is her sex drive. It doesn't make her a bad person (although her refusal to communicate does..) but it's not compatible with someone with a higher sex drive Check out r/deadbedrooms for a glimpse into your future If she's not willing to even talk about it, there's no hope here unfortunately
Yes, she nearly broke my penis. I was in agony.It wasn't her first rodeo. She was a hot filly, cavorting, trying to ride her stallion. Go easy there cowgirl.
I made my bf wait 3 months for head and 6 months for sex. We focussed on eachother emotionally first. Now we fuck like rabbits. So yeah, some will and those that don't aren't the one for you
Almost same here, dear. Small B Cup, losing a lot of weight, going to an A anytime soon. I don't like guys looking at my breast as I think they would not like it, because I don't like it. Rarely taking my bra off or sometimes just keep a t shirt on. And every time a guy tries to touch my boobs, I swear I feel the need to run away? but nipple play is amazing, I can't lie.
yes i’m always tryna hit
Probably just anxious. My dick broke for a week after a girl told me she was pregnant once. It broke when I first got sober. Probably one of those things.
Part of getting married is agreeing to meet someone else’s needs. I hate it when I hear about women who stop having sex with their husbands. It’s part of being married. It’s not you, don’t feel rejected. She is being really dumb. Imagine if you stopped talking to her or paying the bills … she would freak out, no? You stopped meeting her needs. Why should she do the same to you with your needs? BTW I’m not married so not experienced with marriage, but as a single woman I even know that part of being a wife means meeting a man’s sexual needs. She’s dumb.
There’s many things that it could be. Lack of enthusiasm, quality, quality, staleness, or it just feeling like a chore. Do your libidos match up? For me the two biggest issues I’ve had is enthusiasm from my partner and our libidos being to far out of sink. But as others have said it’s hard to fix it if he isn’t willing to fully communicate what he is needing from you.
I like playing with my partner’s balls if they’re into it it’s just comforting lol ?
My ex and I would have sex every day for 4 years. Multiple times a day a lot. We used to shoot for records Okay, that definitely is the dream right there lol. Sorry to hear your relationship didn't work out, but I'm glad you found someone kind that you really like. Unfortunate about the lack of sex drive though. I hope you guys figure out what will work best for you.
I think he meant with him prior as was suggested
Guess all those men under 6ft who have wives/girlfriends/FWBs/hookups don't exist then…or is it just the women?
Fake, Fake, Fake….
Yup.. I have anxiety, makes sense
Yeah the slut was just on example. Not necessarily the thing. I have been thinking trying get into sexting with her since we have never done that. It would be a great segway for sure. Just gotta kick the courage into myself.
Yea that's not BDSM and he is not a dom, he's a rapist. BDSM works through the illusion of power. In real BDSM situations, it is the sub who actually controls the situation, since it is the sub who decides what they are ok with and what they need/want within their sub space. The dom has the role of inflicting those conditions and maintaining that sub space. EVERYTHING in BDSM revolves around consent. A true dom won't even lay a finger on a sub without consent. Because violating consent is sexual assault or rape. This is simply a man using BDSM as a guise for his sexual misconduct. A sub is not an object for sexual pleasure – even when they literally want to be objectified. A sub is a human with desires and needs and it is vital that they are respected. Leave this man, and ideally report him for sexual assault too.
He is abusing you in some countries like the UK this would equal a sexual assault or rape. You need to make him know he sticks to the safe word or get our if there before he goes to far and physically or mentally hurts you. Whether your a sub or not you still deserve respect and to have your human rights respected. The lack of respect goes beyond the bedroom and shows a general lack of concern and care for you. I would explain your unhappiness give him one chance then get out-of there if he carries on
Neither? It’s typically just sexual desire.
The tip feels the inside but the lower shaft and pelvic area does really feel much to make out what is one the outside. Honestly, I'm getting laid so might caress the lips playfully but not in the mindset to be judgmental because I am a mess too.
No that's not normal and that's not how bdsm works. I say that as someone whose been in the scene for nearly 20 years. If someone claims to be a Dom and then says crap like that and ignored your safewords, they aren't a Dom, they are an abuser and rapist and you need to get far away from them. Submission is a gift. It is consensual, and that consent can always be revoked at any time for any reason. We have an obligation to take care of our subs, respect their boundaries and needs, and ensure they have a good experience to. Being a Dom, and having someone submit, isn't a free pass to do whatever we want and ignore their needs or limits. Sure we may order our subs to do certain things, and dole out punishment or rewards, and we may engage in extreme acts with them, but its by consent, and that consent can be revoked. Safewords exist for safety reasons. Bdsm can be intense, and push people past limits they didn't expect. It can put people in very vulnerable psychological states. It can unlock old buried trauma. Ignoring their safeword and need to stop or slow down can be traumatic and have lasting consequences in their psyche. This is also a major reason why aftercare is so important.
I was 14, and was raped by my first boyfriend, someone I thought cared about me… So not great. Better yet I was too young to know better so continued to see him for another three years. Still working on it in therapy 20 years later??
I think a decent guy would probably recognize that you might’ve had some kids, and that might’ve caused minor changes. If not, it’s his loss. It sounds like he’s open with his communication with you though. I suspect he’s understanding. I also bet he’s pretty into you. As for the pubic hair…my previous two lovers shaved, and my new girlfriend doesn’t. It’s hot to touch it again. I don’t think he’d spend two months talking with you if stretch marks and pubic hair was a risk in his mind. Hang in there, and good luck!
When somebody calls you freaky just say “God damn right I'm freaky. Can you keep up or nah?”
He said “if you agree”. As said above, that’s all you need to know. Secondly, don’t ask questions like that if you don’t think you’re going to like the answer. There’s no reason to cause yourself doubt or mistrust in him bc YOU’RE asking him hypothetical questions. He has given you no reason to doubt him, don’t cause problems with hypothetical questions.
I have a foot fetish and I love to suck on a woman's toes . And I started one night just kissing up and down woman's legs and when I got to her feet and started sucking her toes she squirted all over the bed. She said she never experienced it before and it was amazing to her. So one night she was giving me a blowjob and she turned and I started sucking her toes and and she started sucking me harder and she came from me sucking on her toes again. So there's a lot of women that really appreciate it and enjoy it
It’s always been wierd to me as I’ve never had a woman keep up with ME. Essentially I guess not everyone is as sexual and horny as some of us are but I definitely tend to struggle alot with women who can’t keep up with me :/ Even if communication is there sometimes I feel like it has to come naturally and not to be forced.
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yes this a good approach… thank you!!
Who doesnt
Drink whiskey not too much and not too little or get a bag ??
He would fuck you more if he’d stop jacking off. I’ll never understand why dudes in relationships, who have guaranteed pussy, would rather get off to watching strangers fuck thru a screen lmao. When I’m dating someone or in a relationship, I hardly ever watch porn/masturbate. This ensures that I’m AlWAYS ready for sex with my girl. Do better gentlemen ??
Try having sex with loud music!! With a subwoofer if possible.
Try having sex with loud music!! With a subwoofer if possible.
Completely normal
She may be overstimulated, it could be she fought the urge to have no touching time after when you guys first started having sex to not insult you or make you run but as she gets more comfortable she could just be doing what comes naturally to her. For some people having an orgasm can be SUPER intense and make their whole body feel electric or on fire and they need space to recoup.
I would just let it grow a little bit. It can still be trimmed, just not shaved close with a razor so it doesn't get stubbly.
oh i am sorry:( I've never seen one without (in real life)
I would talk to a therapist first! Seems like there’s a lot to unpack there (and I didn’t read all of it, way too much srry)
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Good advice coming from the comment section. Definitely going to try some of these because when my s/o puts on his condom it's an awkward silence that comes after because he's concreting on putting it on without ripping it ?
Yes I'm in a seemiler relationship. My girlfriend would act like yours when came time to talk cause she knew the truth would hurt me. She's opened up a lot more recently with the truth. She's has settled with me for the comfortable life. Her ex gave her bigger dick and better sex but was a shit person. I'm trying to be OK with be settled for but I'm not sure I will ever be OK with it and I'm sure the relationship will end. I wouldn't say this if I wasn't going through the same thing but you are being settled for in the sex department. Unfortunately it's probably not ever going to get better. Maybe if she able to express what's not satisfying enough for her maybe the sex life can get better.
Hormone levels fluctuate throughout your life. At your age you will probably be pretty steady for the next few years. I would not over think it.
I initiate it. He wakes up at 5 to an alarm, so now I’m his sweet alarm. Just to make him feel better. Sometimes he cums and I swallow, other times it’s just to wake him up. A good feel early in the day to set your mood! I make coffee first and bring him a cup. The heat from my mouth has a nice effect for waking up.
Then you aren't heterosexual.
Cool story, bro!
You’re just starting to hang out. If here really treats you well, then he should be ok not doing anything you aren’t ready for. Think about it. If he does push things or isn’t ok with your boundaries then he isn’t treating you as well as you think
Maybe porn addict?
Yeah, OP. You made a poor choice in words. Don't listen to these people are who saying it's only a matter of time that your boyfriend will be a soon to be ex. Just drop the subject and the next time you two have sex just be authentic. You claim that you love it so it shouldn't be too hard to boost his ego. Just don't force the issue.
You're not inherently shallow for not being physically attracted to the man…I know Taylor Swift wouldn't find me much to look at. The key, however…is not to string or lead the man along. Don't be flirty with him if you honestly don't see it ever developing, kinder still, will be when it's time to simply tell him you don't 'see' him that way.
Since its tomorrow you dont have much window but if it is planned,from next time try not to eat any junk and focus on lots of fruits and veggies in the last 48 hours
Thanks!
Just be absolutely unswerving in your praise and support of her. When you're down there, maybe make little mmm sounds to let her know. Smile up at her with your eyes. If she asks if she tasted or smelled bad, smile and say it was wonderful. Don't go overboard, just make sure your enjoyment of her is clear.
Well I think you should give her some grace as a person and stop thinking about her much like a gf and more like a human being. You are a man and even though you might not feel it, you have more privileges than us. For us male validation can feel for a few seconds/hours like we own tha privilege that vaporizes shortly afterwards. What for you is your common life, for us its something that others give us. Its very difficult to stop conforming to men cause he want crumbs of your whole meal. Some women might become catty and hate other women, others just give birth to lots of children, some become overly proud of being a virgin, some get it through sex… All of them fucked up, but I would adventure myself and tell you that every single woman in your life, city and country, has done something in order to feel as dignified, heard, represented and appreciated as men do. Its normal wanting to want a woman that doesnt subject her own soul in order to achieve something that will never come to her, but its not realistic. Instead of focusing on how much shes been hurt by men with “their dicks” , have s look around and conversations women have to see how theyve also been hurt, maybe not by dicks, but by family dynamics, labels etc. Separating yourself from sex in the equation, think of her as a child, whos been taken advantage, or an old woman telling her life story, or her as a teenager not knowing better. Remove yourself, in a reality where everything changes, nothing ever is the same, your dick, or any other dick is not relevant. One day all those dicks will decompose into the ground, become dust and grow plants from it and the only thing that matters will be how the soul of your gf was touched during her life. If it was touched with care or with anger, with pain, with happiness. Can you see that pain she felt and hug it? Can you see the anger she has recieved and does it make your anger appear? Does her pain make you think about the timed you hurt women and run from it? Are you angry she makes you go back to those feelings that you ignored? Does the anger stem from you thinking that you could do the same to her or others? Why does her pain bring up your pain but not other partners? What do you see in her that you hate in you? Her lack of boundaries? Do you lack boundaries? I am just asking a lot of things hoping something helped you innthe process.
You worried about it but Do you want to try it anyway? What stopping, feat of Judgement ? Self Judgement? Scared? Go Deeper in the things mentally stopping you!
If that’s what you’re looking for and not getting it, can I respectfully suggest you are simply with the wrong person? Using “men don’t…” lumping all men into the same category??
I DO NOT UNDERSTAND. DUDES DID NOT DO THIS WHEN I WAS YOUNGER. (Sorry for the all caps, but it’s seriously traumatizing to read and we almost need a post sticky for the topic in this forum.)
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I never said it was a problem. His comment was rude and incredibly insensitive. A situation like this requires a bit more tact and understanding. Commenting on his decision to be intimate with someone of her age was childish at best and so was the advice. This is a situation that the OP isn’t taking lightly and genuinely cares about…taking advice like this person left could derail a relationship he values.
+1 on all the lots of foreplay comments. I think that will go a long, long way to making it enjoyable for both of you. Especially if you’re really present for it, you know? Try not to be in your own head and focused on your performance. Try your best to be aware of the moments and find what legitimately turns you on in this woman. What is thrilling you about her right then? Take it all in and relax into it. Notice as much as you can without fretting over how you’re doing as a sexual partner. Easier said than done, I know! But since you’re here asking, I bet you’re ready for the challenge ?
I want to cum too though, and enjoy sex. I don't consider not being able to finish 75% of the time blessed
I can only speak for myself but I don’t think I could ever come back from that. Sorry.
Right it sounds like a straight from porno scenario
And it wasn't until I asked her one day why she didn't desire me like she used to, that she told me how it hurt her when I stopped desiring her. It absolutely broke my heart to hear that, and I made the decision that my mission now was to desire her and make sure that she knew how much I desired her and how irresistible she was to me.
Terrible idea. Yin and Yang works a lot better in the long run. You both have to compromise, sometimes you get your way, sometimes she does
Terrible idea. Yin and Yang works a lot better in the long run. You both have to compromise, sometimes you get your way, sometimes she does
I see this as a double edged sword. It’s what they want now. But is it what they really want. I see this a true test of his commitment to her. The day after it happens is when the truth is revealed. The girls may want it. They may have a sinister agenda. They might even enjoy it. It could destroy him.
Just more sex or playing, nothing wrong with more anytime you need even if it's messy it's fun and if it's needed then that is what is needed
Her needs are obviously not being met already in the relationship if she’s not emotionally available for sec after months of a dry spell it’s intentional. so doing this will even FURTHER be a turn off ??♀️ IF he’s not making her feel validated/prioritized in the relationship she’s going to feel even more disconnected from him and will likely push her further away.
I love missionary with my legs over my partner’s shoulders, it hits my gspot so good and makes me squirt all over him. I also love doggystyle, the depth of penetration drives me crazy.
Yes
Text his mom and let her know what her son did
Sound strange! To me, oral is the best thing a man can have! And it is a blessing when you found a woman who enjoy giving. Not all women know how to give oral.
I mean its an asshole o_o
Ok, that's definitely enough internet for today
Well what did you think you were going to feel sticking a finger up a butt? Gold?
What poop doing in there?
I don't have to read. I lost my virginity at an older age than you did. I know exactly what you're talking about, and I know it better than you do. Clearly you don't know. It is not only about you, it is about general impact of loosing virginity later in life. I still suggest to do some reading, psychological study and people personal stories. Building “self worth” by sex is an oxymoron. Self-worth comes from yourself, not from how other people choose to acknowledge you. The trap you're having is that you believe other people and are getting down on yourself when you should be defying them. Made up woo woo from new age gurus… But still as much as I partly would agree, but only partly, fact remains that no matter what you will think of yourself, if other people won't find you attractive, interesting to build relationship with, you may think whatever you want about yourself, but you won't have sex with them or relationship. Most people would accept this and admit that they are not attractive for others (if it is alright or not is not important now), some will be in denial and keep lying themselves they are. As I posited, “good sex” requires years to develop True, but at some point, you get to age when you physically can't have sex. Not only because you loosing interest due natural process, ed problems but also other issue may happen. That's my point. Now, again you imposing your personal experience as universal, but you already known that. Good sex, true sex whatever… is not only about finding person you fall in love, I encourage you again to dig in reading personal stories where wife's, husbands are bad in sex, don't like this or that… Yet they are in love. And it is not about me wanting more sex, I just speak about silly advices that are here given.
O yeah you on the pilll ?